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WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?
Domestic violence, or battering, is a pattern of abusive behaviors that some individuals use to control their intimate partners. Domestic Violence is any type of violence, abuse, or threat of violence that one partner in a relationship commits against another. It includes physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse. Domestic violence is a serious problem that has been happening for centuries. In the U.S. each year it affects millions of people, most often women.
Domestic Violence involves a continuum of behaviors. Examples include punches, kicks, slaps, hits, shoves, forcing partner to perform degrading tasks, using degrading remarks, sexual assault, rape, and any other tactics used to establish power and control over a partner. Domestic Violence can occur in any relationship, married or unmarried, homosexual or heterosexual.
The following questions may help you decide whether you are being abused:
Does your partner ever... Hit, kick, shove, or injure you? Use weapons/objects against you or threaten to? Force or coerce you to engage in unwanted sexual acts? Threaten to hurt you or others, have you deported, disclose your sexual orientation or other personal information? Control what you do and who you see in a way that interferes with your work, education or other personal activities?
Steal or destroy your belongings? Constantly criticize you, call you names or put you down? Make you feel afraid? Deny your basic needs such as food, housing, clothing, or medical and physical assistance? If you answered "yes" to any of the above, it may be time to think about your safety.
MYTHS AND FACTS
MYTH: Domestic violence is a "loss of control." FACT: Violent behavior is a choice. Perpetrators use it to control their victims. Domestic violence is about batterers using their control, not losing their control. Their actions are very deliberate.
MYTH: The victim is responsible for the violence because she provokes it. FACT: No one asks to be abused. And no one deserves to be abused regardless of what they say or do.
MYTH: If the victim didn't like it, she would leave. FACT: Victims do not like the abuse. They stay in the relationship for many reasons, including fear. Most do eventually leave.
MYTH: Domestic violence only occurs in a small percentage of relationships. FACT: Estimates report that domestic violence occurs in ¼ to of all intimate relationships. This applies to heterosexual as well as same-sex relationships.
MYTH: Middle and upper class women do not get battered as frequently as poor women. FACT: Domestic violence occurs in all socio-economical levels. Because women with money usually have more access to resources, poorer women tend to utilize community agencies, and are therefore more visible.
MYTH: Batterers are violent in all their relationships FACT: Batterers choose to be violent toward their partners in ways they would never consider treating other people.
MYTH: Alcohol/Drugs cause battering behavior. FACT: Although many abusive partners also abuse alcohol and/or drugs, this is not the underlying cause of the battering. Many batterers use alcohol/drugs as an excuse to explain their violence.
MYTH: Once a battered woman, always a battered woman. FACT: While some battered women have been in more than one abusive relationship, women who receive domestic violence services are the least likely to enter another abusive relationship.
STATISTICS
95% of the victims are female. 95-98% of the perpetrators are male. Every 15 seconds a woman is beaten, raped, or killed. Domestic violence occurs among all racial, ethnic, religious, and socioeconomic groups. Battering is the largest single major cause of injury to women. Everyday, 4 women are murdered at the hands of an intimate partner. About 2 - 4 million American women are battered each year by their partners. Women are at a 75% greater risk of being killed after they leave their partners. About 1/3 of female homicide victims are killed by their partners. Boys who have witnessed abuse of their mothers are twice as likely to abuse their female partners and children as adults.
Children who witness domestic violence are more likely to commit sexual assault crimes. Between 3 and 10 million American children witness domestic violence each year. Children of abused mothers are more likely to attempt suicide, abuse drugs and alcohol, run away from home, and engage in teenage prostitution. In a 1992 study, 63% of imprisoned kids between ages 11 ± 20 were doing time for killing their mother¶s batterer.
Survey Shows Domestic Violence Services Provided in One Day in the U.S.
In the United States on September 15, 2010, three women were murdered by their intimate partners, 36 babies were born to mothers living in domestic violence shelters and 391 survivors started new jobs. Three men committed suicide ± one after murdering his wife, another after a failed attempt to kill his girlfriend, and the third after holding his partner hostage and a standoff with the police. With astonishing numbers such as these, a person can¶t help but wonder² how many domestic violence services are used per day in the United States?
A survey recently released by the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) reveals telling information about the status of domestic violence services in the U.S. NNEDV conducts this study once a year to provide the public with a snapshot of what family violence programs across the U.S. see in their shelters on one particular day. From those programs that participated, the survey shows how many calls local hotlines received, what services programs were able to offer and any needs that went unmet due to a lack of resources.
The study revealed that on September 15, 2010, 91 percent of identified domestic violence programs in the U.S. participated in the 2010 National Census of Domestic Violence Services. During the 24-hour period, domestic violence victim advocates served more than 70,000 adults and children and answered more than 20,000 emergency hotline calls. During the same 24 hours, more than 9,000 requests for services went unmet, largely due to lack of funding.
Though the economy does not cause domestic violence, factors associated with economic uncertainties can increase the severity and frequency of abuse. At the same time, options for survivors to escape can be more limited. More than 80 percent of local domestic violence programs reported an increased demand for their services while nearly the same number reported decreases in funding.
The full results of the National Domestic Violence Counts 2010 are available online at www.nnedv.org/census
UNDERLYING CAUSES
It is no coincidence that an overwhelming majority of the victims of domestic violence and sexual assault are women and children. At the root of these crimes lies a society in which patriarchy determines the worth of human beings. John Gottman and Neil Jacobson, in their 1998 book titled When Men Batter Women report that "battering, and the values supporting it, cannot be understood apart from other aspects of the culture that sanction male superiority." Although laws have changed to protect women and children from abuse, domestic violence is still an epidemic in this country. Traditional gender based roles in our society place men in positions of power over women in most all arenas (family, work, religion, recreation, etc.). Often, through the media and other forms of socialization, we encourage using violence as a means of gaining power and control. We place the most value on those individuals with the most power and control. Because this foundation is set in our society, our belief systems are affected.
For example, many batterers believe the following statements to be true:
(a) "Sometimes I have the right to use violence to get my way." (b) "Men are supposed to be the head of the household." (c) "Women should do what they're told."
However, men are not the only ones in our society who use violence. Women and children are becoming more violent as well, oftentimes responding to acts of violence with violence. Many factors, such as alcohol and drug use and poverty, contribute to a growing use of violence. Because these crimes are so complex, our efforts to intervene must be collaborative and thorough. We have to teach men, women, and children alike that abuse is not acceptable in our society and that it will not be tolerated. Reacting immediately to such situations and providing the perpetrator with appropriate consequences is the best way to end the abuse.
The Cycle of Violence includes 3 stages:
The Tension Building Stage The Violent Episode The Absence of Violence Stage
Domestic violence increases in frequency and severity. It is never an isolated incident or a one-time occurrence.
FAIRNESS AND UNFAIRNESS IN DISAGREEMENTS FAIR UNFAIR No fear of violence or verbal abuse. The threat of abuse is always present. The current issue of disagreement is discussed. The current issue gets clouded by bringing up the past problems, blaming relatives, etc. Honest communication of feelings by using Denial of facts and attempts to put partner on assertiveness techniques. the defensive. Speaking one at a time. Constant interruptions, ignoring, or refusing to talk. Agreed on time out when tensions rise. Tensions escalate to explosion point. Respect. Personal insults, name calling. Willingness to say ³I¶m sorry.´ Refusal to admit when wrong and tendency to blame others. Both win by growing in understanding in the The person in control wins over the other. relationship.
PROGRESSION OF ABUSE
Domestic violence usually starts small and becomes more severe and frequent over time. Many times it progresses through the following stages:
1. Pre-battering violence
Hitting or breaking objects, threats of violence, verbal abuse.
2. Beginning level violence Pushing, restraining, blocking doorways, holding down, shaking.
3. Moderate level violence Slapping, punching, kicking, pulling hair, spanking.
4. Severe level violence Choking, beating with objects, use/threat of weapons, sexual abuse.
ABOUT THE PERPETRATORS
There is no typical perpetrator. Batterers come from all socioeconomic, ethnic, religious, age, and employment groups. However, they often share some of the following characteristics: Most (about 95%) are male. Tend to minimize their violence. Great need to control situations/people. Rarely acknowledge emotions or feelings. Often attempt to isolate their victims.
Are not violent all the time. (in many cases)* May be quite charming initially.
*All batterers should be regarded as potentially dangerous
WARNING SIGNS
Many of the signs women are taught to Interpret as caring, attentive, and romantic are actually early warning signs for future abuse. Some examples Include:
INTRUSION: Constantly asks you where you are going, who you are with, etc.
ISOLATION: Insists that you spend all or most of your time together, cutting you off from friends and family.
POSSESSION AND JEALOUSY: Accuses you of flirting/having sexual relationships with others; monitors your clothing/make-up.
NEED FOR CONTROL: Displays extreme anger when things do not go his way; attempts to make all of your decisions.
UNKNOWN PASTS / NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN: Secretive about past relationships; refers to women with negative remarks, etc.
MORE WARNING SIGNS 1. Was or is abused by a parent.
2. Grew up in a home where an adult was abused by another adult.
3. Gets very serious with boyfriends/girlfriends very quickly ± saying ³I love you´ very early in the relationship, wanting to move in together or get engaged after only a few months, or pressuring partner for a serious commitment.
4. Comes on very strong, is extremely charming and an overly smooth talker.
5. Is extremely jealous.
6. Isolates partner from support systems ± wants partner all to themselves, and tries to keep partner from friends, family or outside activities.
7. Attempts to control what partner wears, what she/he does or who she/he sees.
8. Is abusive toward other people, especially mother or sisters if he is a male.
9. Blames others for one¶s own misbehavior or failures.
10. Has unrealistic expectations, like expecting partner to meet all of ones needs and be the perfect partner.
11. Is overly sensitive ± acts µhurt¶ when not getting one¶s way, takes offense when others disagree with an opinion, gets very upset at small inconveniences that are just a normal part of life.
12. Has ever been cruel to animals.
13. Has ever abused children.
14. Has ever hit a boyfriend or girlfriend in the past.
15. Has ever threatened violence, even if it wasn¶t a serious threat.
16. Calls partner names, puts him/her down or curses at him/her.
17. Is extremely moody, and switches quickly from being very nice to exploding in anger.
18. If a male, believes women are inferior to men and should obey them.
19. Is intimidating, for example using threatening body language, punching walls or breaking objects.
20. Holds partner against his/her will to keep him/her from walking away or leaving the room.
I KNOW SOMEONE WHO IS BEING ABUSED What to do...
Do not confront the abuser. When speaking to the victim, assure her that she is not the cause of the violence. Be prepared for her to minimize or deny the abuse. Help her identify her own strengths and possible resources. If she is living with her abuser and chooses to leave, discuss a safety plan if there is advanced time. Tell her about Turning Point.
DATING VIOLENCE
WHAT IS DATING VIOLENCE?
Dating Violence consists of verbal, emotional, psychological, physical, and/or sexual abuse of one person by another in a dating relationship. It includes...
Degrading remarks and jokes. Threats. Punches, kicks, and slaps. Restraining, choking, and suffocating. Sexual abuse.
Be cautious of guys who seem intrusive, controlling, possessive, and/or fall in love too fast. Remember, jealousy is not a sign of love. Cruelty to animals is often a warning sign for dating violence.
JAMES AND KIM
In the first few weeks of the relationship, James was so romantic. He sat with Kim at lunch everyday and even surprised her with flowers on their one month anniversary.
Over time, however, James began to try to make more of Kim s decisions for her. He convinced her to stop hanging out with her best friend of five years because he thought she wasn't a good friend for Kim. At first, Kim thought James was looking out for her, but gradually she realized he was becoming more and more controlling of her.
Kim tried to walk away from James one night after he had accused her of going out with one of his friends. James grabbed her by the arms so forcefully that she had bruises the next day.
James apologized for scaring and hurting Kim and said he'd never do it again. Kim believed James and the relationship continued. But James did do it again. In fact, he began to be more forceful, pushing and even hitting her on occasions.
With time and the support of a good friend, Kim saw how violent James had become and she left the relationship. It wasn't easy. But Kim did eventually get away.
STATISTICS
1 in 3 teens experience violence in their dating relationship. 95% of the victims are female. 95% of the perpetrators are male. Dating violence occurs among all races, religions, classes, etc.
STRESSING THE POSITIVE
Closure is sad for us all, but it is also very exciting. When one door closes, another opens to new experiences, new opportunities, and new possibilities.
As a woman empowered by awareness of her rights and with her boundaries in place, you are no longer vulnerable to needy, controlling relationships.
You can practice letting go of the old identity of being an abuse victim. It is a thing of the past, and now you can move on.
The temptation is always present to step back into the habits of the past. Remember that one step back and two steps forward are to be expected. Do not be angry at yourself when you step back, but dare to wait expectantly for a sense of direction from within yourself to take the next steps forward.
Confront, don¶t avoid, temptation. Know yourself and recognize that the temptation of old habits is always an assault on your real identity.
The path to freedom from the past is motivation, forgiveness and LOVE OF YOURSELF, clearly defined goals, decisions made, actions taken, and EMPOWERMENT.
FINDING SAFETY AND SUPPORT
IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE
Domestic violence is a serious problem that has been happening for centuries. In the U.S. each year it affects millions of people, most often women. Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of employment or educational level, race or ethnic background, religion, marital status, physical ability, age, or sexual orientation.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT
If you are being abused by your partner, you may feel confused, afraid, angry and/or trapped. All of these emotions are normal responses to abuse. You may also blame yourself for what is happening. But no matter what others might say, you are never responsible for your partner's abusive actions. Batterers choose to be abusive. Na one deserves to be battered.
IDENTIFYING SUPPORT
Developing a support network can be very helpful to you as you plan for safety. There are many places to turn for assistance.
COMMUNITY SUPPORT: Friends, family, women's and community groups, churches, and service providers (such as legal, health, counseling centers) can provide a variety of resources, support, and assistance.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICES: In many communities there are organizations that provide free and confidential help to individuals who are being battered. Turning Point provides these services.
LEGAL OPTIONS
CRIMINAL CHARGES: If you or other loved ones have been physically injured, threatened, raped, harassed or stalked, you can report these crimes to the police. Criminal charges may lead to your abuser being arrested and possibly imprisoned.
RESTRAINING/PROTECTIVE ORDERS: Even if you don't want to press criminal charges, you can file for a civil court order that directs your partner to stay away from you. In many states restraining/ protective orders can also evict your partner from your home, grant support or child custody, or ban him/her from having weapons.
PLANNING FOR SAFETY
Without help, domestic violence often continues to get more severe over time. It can sometimes become deadly. To increase your safety:
Tell others you trust such as friends, family, neighbors and co-workers, what is happening and talk about ways they might be able to help. Memorize emergency numbers for the local police (such as 911), support persons and crisis hotlines. Identify escape routes and places to go if you need to flee from an unsafe situation quickly. Talk with your children about what they should do if a violent incident occurs or if theare afraid. Put together an emergency bag with money/ checkbooks, extra car keys, medicine, and important papers such as birth certificates, social security cards, immigration documents, and medical cards. Keep it somewhere safe and accessible, such as with a trusted friend. Trust your instincts. If you think you are in immediate danger, you probably are. Get to a safe place as soon as you can.
BARRIERS TO LEAVING
Many victims find it difficult to leave their batterers despite continued and often severe abuse. Some barriers include:
financial dependence religious/family pressures fear of being alone fear of increased violence loyalty to the marriage denial internalization of the abuser's words ("I deserve the abuse") love
shame the belief that it will get better
EMOTIONAL ABUSE CHECKLIST
Do you have to get permission to socialize with your friends? Are you accused of cheating on him when you leave the house to do errands, etc.? Are you afraid to talk about certain topics unless he's in a good mood? Does he have control over the money and monitor your spending? Does he tell you no one else would ever want you? Does he threaten to harm himself if you leave him? Does he go through your purse or open your mail? Does he make disparaging remarks about the way you look or dress? Does he use things against you that you've confided to him in the past? Does he sabotage your efforts to be involved in pleasant social or family events? Does he compare you negatively to other women? Are you nervous about being on the phone when he is around? Is it okay to return home later than scheduled without being fearful? Does it feel more like you have a dad than a partner? Does he give you the 'silent treatment' when you want to talk or work things out? Does he try to turn the children against you? Do you feel manipulated by his kindness or gifts? Do you feel obligated to be sexual with your partner?
Are your activities and interests looked upon as unimportant and trivial? Does he sabotage your schedule and outside commitments?
IS HE REALLY GOING TO CHANGE THIS TIME? Here's How You'll Know...
Positive signs include the following:
He has stopped being violent or threatening to you or others. He acknowledges that his abusive behavior is wrong. He understands that he does not have the right to control and dominate you. You don't feel afraid when you are with him. He does not coerce or force you into having sex when you don't want to. You can express anger toward him without feeling intimidated. He does not make you feel responsible for his anger or frustration. He respects your opinion even if he doesn't agree with it. He respects your right to say "no." You can negotiate without being humiliated and belittled by him. You don't have to ask permission to go out, go to school, get a job, or take other independent actions. He listens to you and respects what you have to say.
He recognizes that he is not "cured" and that changing his behavior, attitudes, and beliefs is a lifelong process. He no longer does (fill in the blank with any behavior that used to precede his violence, manipulation, or emotional abuse).
Signs of manipulation include the following:
He tries to invoke sympathy from you or your family and friends. He is overly charming, reminds you of all the good time you've had together. He tries to buy you back with romantic gifts, dinners, flowers, etc. He tries to seduce you when you're vulnerable. He uses veiled threats - to take the kids away, to cut off financial support, to quit attending a batterer's program. His promises to change do not match his behavior.
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
You need and deserve at least a few people in your life with which you have healthy relationships, people whom:
You like, respect, and trust, and who like, respect and trust you.
Make you feel good about yourself.
Listen to you without sharing personal information about you with others.
You can tell anything.
Allow you to talk freely and express your feelings and emotions without judging you, criticizing you, teasing you, or putting you down.
Give you good advice when you want and ask for it, and who will work with you to figure out what to do next in difficult situations.
Allow you the space to change, grow, make decisions, and make mistakes.
Accept you as you.
COUPLES COUNSELING WON'T STOP THE VIOLENCE
Your partner may try to get you to go to couples counseling, telling you that you and he need to work on this together. He may encourage you to go to pastoral counseling with him. If he has done this, then he is refusing to take full responsibility for his abusive behavior. He may be manipulating you into staying with him by taking this approach. His abusive behavior is not likely to stop unless he acknowledges that you are in no way responsible and that he has a problem that he needs to seek help for regardless of whether you stay with him or not.
Remember: Old habits die hard. Your partner's abusive behavior is rooted in a desire to control your relationship, and that pattern isn't going to change overnight. You may be so hopeful for change that you want to believe him, even if things don't feel very different. Trust your instincts. If you don't feel safe, then chances are, you're not.
MY ABUSER HAS A GUN
If you have a current Protection From Abuse Order (PFA) from a court against your abuser, or if your abuser has been convicted of a felony or domestic violence misdemeanor, then Federal law states that it is illegal for your abuser to buy or have a gun in their possession.
YOU MUST ASK THE JUDGE to specifically write in your order that the abuser cannot buy or have a gun while the order is in effect and to require that your abuser to give any guns to the police, or require the police to go to the abuser's house and get them. The guns then go to either the county sheriff or court clerk of stolen property. The district attorney in the county where the gun(s) was taken away can then file to have them destroyed.
If you have any questions or concerns, please contact the domestic violence agency in your area immediately.
Financial Support for Victims: If you have been a victim of family violence, you may be able to receive a waiver of the deposit to help you establish electric and/or telephone service. In order to qualify, you must be able to establish that you have been a victim of family violence and have a letter filled out by one of the following: family violence center staff, treating medical personnel, law enforcement personnel, Office of the Attorney General, the local County or District Attorney's office, or your local legal aid office. Once the letter has been filled
out, you must send the letter to the electric and/or telephone company you are applying for service with. See the application form from the Texas Council on Family Violence.
For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224
ACCEPTANCE Sometimes you may feel as thought you are stuck ± you can¶t do the things that you want to with you life because of memories, symptoms, thoughts, feelings, and life circumstances that are either a direct or indirect result of the abuse. You may feel as though you are losing your whole life to the abuse. The following are acceptance statements that you can keep to help you through difficult times. I accept the abuse as part of my life story. My journey in working to get over the effects of this abuse has made me strong. Now I am in charge of my life. I am going to do whatever I need to do to make my life the way I want it to be. The things that happened to me were terrible and should never have happened to me. But they did. Now it is time to get my life back ± to be the kind of person I want to be and do the things I want to do. The abuse happened a long time ago. I am no longer being abused. I am no longer being abused. I am in charge of my life and I am doing the things I want to do. The abuse was then. This is now. I am doing good work in getting over the effects of the abuse. I am ready to move on with my life.
BLAME Women/Men who have been abused often blame themselves for the bad things that have happened to them í things that are never their fault. In addition, others may have blamed you for being abused. In our society, women/men are often blamed and made to feel guilty for the bad things that have happened to them. This lowers your selfesteem and can get in the way of your healing and recovery. The following are some of the situations in which women feel they are to blame for the abuse. It was my fault because I was wearing that dress or those shoes, and because I put on makeup. It was my fault because I didn¶t keep quiet enough. It was my fault because I cried too much.
BILL OF RIGHTS
· You have the right to be you. · You have the right to put yourself first. · You have the right to be safe. · You have the right to love and be loved. · You have the right to be treated with respect. · You have the right to be human - NOT PERFECT. · You have the right to be angry and protest if you are treated unfairly or abusively by anyone. · You have the right to your own privacy. · You have the right to your own opinions, to express them, and to be taken seriously. · You have the right to earn and control your own money. · You have the right to ask questions about anything that affects your life. · You have the right to make decisions that affect you. · You have the right to grow and change (and that includes changing your mind).
· You have the right to say NO. · You have the right to make mistakes. · You have the right NOT to be responsible for other adults¶ problems. · You have the right not to be liked by everyone. · YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CONTROL YOUR OWN LIFE AND TO CHANGE IT IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH IT AS IT IS.
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Warning Signs of Unsafe Teen Relationships
Are you in an unhealthy or abusive teen dating relationship? If you're not sure, consider these characteristics of a healthy, an unhealthy and an abusive relationship.Understanding and being aware of the characteristics of an unsafe partnership can be the first step to preventing teen dating violence. The Family Place Be Project empowers teens to learn how to build healthy, strong relationships and to connect with other teens to get the support they need to Be Safe, Be Kind, Be Courageous, Be More. Visit theBe Project website for more resources and information on how to get involved!
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The mission of New Beginning Center is to foster an environment of safety, support and respect for families affected by domestic violence. We do so through crisis intervention, counseling, shelter, education, advocacy, and diverse community partnerships. The vision of New Beginning Center is to promote social change that will lead to the elimination of domestic violence. Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Battering happens when one person believes they are entitled to control another. Assault, battering and domestic violence are crimes. Battering escalates. It often begins with behaviors like threats, name-calling, violence in the presence of the other (such as punching a fist through a wall), and/or damage to objects or pets. It may escalate to restraining, pushing, slapping,
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Domestic violence, or battering, is a pattern of abusive behaviors that some individuals use to control their intimate partners. Domestic Violence is any type of violence, abuse, or threat of violence that one partner in a relationship commits against another. It includes physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse. Domestic violence is a serious problem that has been happening for centuries. In the U.S. each year it affects millions of people, most often women.
Domestic Violence involves a continuum of behaviors. Examples include punches, kicks, slaps, hits, shoves, forcing partner to perform degrading tasks, using degrading remarks, sexual assault, rape, and any other tactics used to establish power and control over a partner. Domestic Violence can occur in any relationship, married or unmarried, homosexual or heterosexual.
The following questions may help you decide whether you are being abused:
Does your partner ever... Hit, kick, shove, or injure you? Use weapons/objects against you or threaten to? Force or coerce you to engage in unwanted sexual acts? Threaten to hurt you or others, have you deported, disclose your sexual orientation or other personal information? Control what you do and who you see in a way that interferes with your work, education or other personal activities?
Steal or destroy your belongings? Constantly criticize you, call you names or put you down? Make you feel afraid? Deny your basic needs such as food, housing, clothing, or medical and physical assistance? If you answered "yes" to any of the above, it may be time to think about your safety.
MYTHS AND FACTS
MYTH: Domestic violence is a "loss of control." FACT: Violent behavior is a choice. Perpetrators use it to control their victims. Domestic violence is about batterers using their control, not losing their control. Their actions are very deliberate.
MYTH: The victim is responsible for the violence because she provokes it. FACT: No one asks to be abused. And no one deserves to be abused regardless of what they say or do.
MYTH: If the victim didn't like it, she would leave. FACT: Victims do not like the abuse. They stay in the relationship for many reasons, including fear. Most do eventually leave.
MYTH: Domestic violence only occurs in a small percentage of relationships. FACT: Estimates report that domestic violence occurs in ¼ to of all intimate relationships. This applies to heterosexual as well as same-sex relationships.
MYTH: Middle and upper class women do not get battered as frequently as poor women. FACT: Domestic violence occurs in all socio-economical levels. Because women with money usually have more access to resources, poorer women tend to utilize community agencies, and are therefore more visible.
MYTH: Batterers are violent in all their relationships FACT: Batterers choose to be violent toward their partners in ways they would never consider treating other people.
MYTH: Alcohol/Drugs cause battering behavior. FACT: Although many abusive partners also abuse alcohol and/or drugs, this is not the underlying cause of the battering. Many batterers use alcohol/drugs as an excuse to explain their violence.
MYTH: Once a battered woman, always a battered woman. FACT: While some battered women have been in more than one abusive relationship, women who receive domestic violence services are the least likely to enter another abusive relationship.
STATISTICS
95% of the victims are female. 95-98% of the perpetrators are male. Every 15 seconds a woman is beaten, raped, or killed. Domestic violence occurs among all racial, ethnic, religious, and socioeconomic groups. Battering is the largest single major cause of injury to women. Everyday, 4 women are murdered at the hands of an intimate partner. About 2 - 4 million American women are battered each year by their partners. Women are at a 75% greater risk of being killed after they leave their partners. About 1/3 of female homicide victims are killed by their partners. Boys who have witnessed abuse of their mothers are twice as likely to abuse their female partners and children as adults.
Children who witness domestic violence are more likely to commit sexual assault crimes. Between 3 and 10 million American children witness domestic violence each year. Children of abused mothers are more likely to attempt suicide, abuse drugs and alcohol, run away from home, and engage in teenage prostitution. In a 1992 study, 63% of imprisoned kids between ages 11 ± 20 were doing time for killing their mother¶s batterer.
Survey Shows Domestic Violence Services Provided in One Day in the U.S.
In the United States on September 15, 2010, three women were murdered by their intimate partners, 36 babies were born to mothers living in domestic violence shelters and 391 survivors started new jobs. Three men committed suicide ± one after murdering his wife, another after a failed attempt to kill his girlfriend, and the third after holding his partner hostage and a standoff with the police. With astonishing numbers such as these, a person can¶t help but wonder² how many domestic violence services are used per day in the United States?
A survey recently released by the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) reveals telling information about the status of domestic violence services in the U.S. NNEDV conducts this study once a year to provide the public with a snapshot of what family violence programs across the U.S. see in their shelters on one particular day. From those programs that participated, the survey shows how many calls local hotlines received, what services programs were able to offer and any needs that went unmet due to a lack of resources.
The study revealed that on September 15, 2010, 91 percent of identified domestic violence programs in the U.S. participated in the 2010 National Census of Domestic Violence Services. During the 24-hour period, domestic violence victim advocates served more than 70,000 adults and children and answered more than 20,000 emergency hotline calls. During the same 24 hours, more than 9,000 requests for services went unmet, largely due to lack of funding.
Though the economy does not cause domestic violence, factors associated with economic uncertainties can increase the severity and frequency of abuse. At the same time, options for survivors to escape can be more limited. More than 80 percent of local domestic violence programs reported an increased demand for their services while nearly the same number reported decreases in funding.
The full results of the National Domestic Violence Counts 2010 are available online at www.nnedv.org/census
UNDERLYING CAUSES
It is no coincidence that an overwhelming majority of the victims of domestic violence and sexual assault are women and children. At the root of these crimes lies a society in which patriarchy determines the worth of human beings. John Gottman and Neil Jacobson, in their 1998 book titled When Men Batter Women report that "battering, and the values supporting it, cannot be understood apart from other aspects of the culture that sanction male superiority." Although laws have changed to protect women and children from abuse, domestic violence is still an epidemic in this country. Traditional gender based roles in our society place men in positions of power over women in most all arenas (family, work, religion, recreation, etc.). Often, through the media and other forms of socialization, we encourage using violence as a means of gaining power and control. We place the most value on those individuals with the most power and control. Because this foundation is set in our society, our belief systems are affected.
For example, many batterers believe the following statements to be true:
(a) "Sometimes I have the right to use violence to get my way." (b) "Men are supposed to be the head of the household." (c) "Women should do what they're told."
However, men are not the only ones in our society who use violence. Women and children are becoming more violent as well, oftentimes responding to acts of violence with violence. Many factors, such as alcohol and drug use and poverty, contribute to a growing use of violence. Because these crimes are so complex, our efforts to intervene must be collaborative and thorough. We have to teach men, women, and children alike that abuse is not acceptable in our society and that it will not be tolerated. Reacting immediately to such situations and providing the perpetrator with appropriate consequences is the best way to end the abuse.
The Cycle of Violence includes 3 stages:
The Tension Building Stage The Violent Episode The Absence of Violence Stage
Domestic violence increases in frequency and severity. It is never an isolated incident or a one-time occurrence.
FAIRNESS AND UNFAIRNESS IN DISAGREEMENTS FAIR UNFAIR No fear of violence or verbal abuse. The threat of abuse is always present. The current issue of disagreement is discussed. The current issue gets clouded by bringing up the past problems, blaming relatives, etc. Honest communication of feelings by using Denial of facts and attempts to put partner on assertiveness techniques. the defensive. Speaking one at a time. Constant interruptions, ignoring, or refusing to talk. Agreed on time out when tensions rise. Tensions escalate to explosion point. Respect. Personal insults, name calling. Willingness to say ³I¶m sorry.´ Refusal to admit when wrong and tendency to blame others. Both win by growing in understanding in the The person in control wins over the other. relationship.
PROGRESSION OF ABUSE
Domestic violence usually starts small and becomes more severe and frequent over time. Many times it progresses through the following stages:
1. Pre-battering violence
Hitting or breaking objects, threats of violence, verbal abuse.
2. Beginning level violence Pushing, restraining, blocking doorways, holding down, shaking.
3. Moderate level violence Slapping, punching, kicking, pulling hair, spanking.
4. Severe level violence Choking, beating with objects, use/threat of weapons, sexual abuse.
ABOUT THE PERPETRATORS
There is no typical perpetrator. Batterers come from all socioeconomic, ethnic, religious, age, and employment groups. However, they often share some of the following characteristics: Most (about 95%) are male. Tend to minimize their violence. Great need to control situations/people. Rarely acknowledge emotions or feelings. Often attempt to isolate their victims.
Are not violent all the time. (in many cases)* May be quite charming initially.
*All batterers should be regarded as potentially dangerous
WARNING SIGNS
Many of the signs women are taught to Interpret as caring, attentive, and romantic are actually early warning signs for future abuse. Some examples Include:
INTRUSION: Constantly asks you where you are going, who you are with, etc.
ISOLATION: Insists that you spend all or most of your time together, cutting you off from friends and family.
POSSESSION AND JEALOUSY: Accuses you of flirting/having sexual relationships with others; monitors your clothing/make-up.
NEED FOR CONTROL: Displays extreme anger when things do not go his way; attempts to make all of your decisions.
UNKNOWN PASTS / NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN: Secretive about past relationships; refers to women with negative remarks, etc.
MORE WARNING SIGNS 1. Was or is abused by a parent.
2. Grew up in a home where an adult was abused by another adult.
3. Gets very serious with boyfriends/girlfriends very quickly ± saying ³I love you´ very early in the relationship, wanting to move in together or get engaged after only a few months, or pressuring partner for a serious commitment.
4. Comes on very strong, is extremely charming and an overly smooth talker.
5. Is extremely jealous.
6. Isolates partner from support systems ± wants partner all to themselves, and tries to keep partner from friends, family or outside activities.
7. Attempts to control what partner wears, what she/he does or who she/he sees.
8. Is abusive toward other people, especially mother or sisters if he is a male.
9. Blames others for one¶s own misbehavior or failures.
10. Has unrealistic expectations, like expecting partner to meet all of ones needs and be the perfect partner.
11. Is overly sensitive ± acts µhurt¶ when not getting one¶s way, takes offense when others disagree with an opinion, gets very upset at small inconveniences that are just a normal part of life.
12. Has ever been cruel to animals.
13. Has ever abused children.
14. Has ever hit a boyfriend or girlfriend in the past.
15. Has ever threatened violence, even if it wasn¶t a serious threat.
16. Calls partner names, puts him/her down or curses at him/her.
17. Is extremely moody, and switches quickly from being very nice to exploding in anger.
18. If a male, believes women are inferior to men and should obey them.
19. Is intimidating, for example using threatening body language, punching walls or breaking objects.
20. Holds partner against his/her will to keep him/her from walking away or leaving the room.
I KNOW SOMEONE WHO IS BEING ABUSED What to do...
Do not confront the abuser. When speaking to the victim, assure her that she is not the cause of the violence. Be prepared for her to minimize or deny the abuse. Help her identify her own strengths and possible resources. If she is living with her abuser and chooses to leave, discuss a safety plan if there is advanced time. Tell her about Turning Point.
DATING VIOLENCE
WHAT IS DATING VIOLENCE?
Dating Violence consists of verbal, emotional, psychological, physical, and/or sexual abuse of one person by another in a dating relationship. It includes...
Degrading remarks and jokes. Threats. Punches, kicks, and slaps. Restraining, choking, and suffocating. Sexual abuse.
Be cautious of guys who seem intrusive, controlling, possessive, and/or fall in love too fast. Remember, jealousy is not a sign of love. Cruelty to animals is often a warning sign for dating violence.
JAMES AND KIM
In the first few weeks of the relationship, James was so romantic. He sat with Kim at lunch everyday and even surprised her with flowers on their one month anniversary.
Over time, however, James began to try to make more of Kim s decisions for her. He convinced her to stop hanging out with her best friend of five years because he thought she wasn't a good friend for Kim. At first, Kim thought James was looking out for her, but gradually she realized he was becoming more and more controlling of her.
Kim tried to walk away from James one night after he had accused her of going out with one of his friends. James grabbed her by the arms so forcefully that she had bruises the next day.
James apologized for scaring and hurting Kim and said he'd never do it again. Kim believed James and the relationship continued. But James did do it again. In fact, he began to be more forceful, pushing and even hitting her on occasions.
With time and the support of a good friend, Kim saw how violent James had become and she left the relationship. It wasn't easy. But Kim did eventually get away.
STATISTICS
1 in 3 teens experience violence in their dating relationship. 95% of the victims are female. 95% of the perpetrators are male. Dating violence occurs among all races, religions, classes, etc.
STRESSING THE POSITIVE
Closure is sad for us all, but it is also very exciting. When one door closes, another opens to new experiences, new opportunities, and new possibilities.
As a woman empowered by awareness of her rights and with her boundaries in place, you are no longer vulnerable to needy, controlling relationships.
You can practice letting go of the old identity of being an abuse victim. It is a thing of the past, and now you can move on.
The temptation is always present to step back into the habits of the past. Remember that one step back and two steps forward are to be expected. Do not be angry at yourself when you step back, but dare to wait expectantly for a sense of direction from within yourself to take the next steps forward.
Confront, don¶t avoid, temptation. Know yourself and recognize that the temptation of old habits is always an assault on your real identity.
The path to freedom from the past is motivation, forgiveness and LOVE OF YOURSELF, clearly defined goals, decisions made, actions taken, and EMPOWERMENT.
FINDING SAFETY AND SUPPORT
IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE
Domestic violence is a serious problem that has been happening for centuries. In the U.S. each year it affects millions of people, most often women. Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of employment or educational level, race or ethnic background, religion, marital status, physical ability, age, or sexual orientation.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT
If you are being abused by your partner, you may feel confused, afraid, angry and/or trapped. All of these emotions are normal responses to abuse. You may also blame yourself for what is happening. But no matter what others might say, you are never responsible for your partner's abusive actions. Batterers choose to be abusive. Na one deserves to be battered.
IDENTIFYING SUPPORT
Developing a support network can be very helpful to you as you plan for safety. There are many places to turn for assistance.
COMMUNITY SUPPORT: Friends, family, women's and community groups, churches, and service providers (such as legal, health, counseling centers) can provide a variety of resources, support, and assistance.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICES: In many communities there are organizations that provide free and confidential help to individuals who are being battered. Turning Point provides these services.
LEGAL OPTIONS
CRIMINAL CHARGES: If you or other loved ones have been physically injured, threatened, raped, harassed or stalked, you can report these crimes to the police. Criminal charges may lead to your abuser being arrested and possibly imprisoned.
RESTRAINING/PROTECTIVE ORDERS: Even if you don't want to press criminal charges, you can file for a civil court order that directs your partner to stay away from you. In many states restraining/ protective orders can also evict your partner from your home, grant support or child custody, or ban him/her from having weapons.
PLANNING FOR SAFETY
Without help, domestic violence often continues to get more severe over time. It can sometimes become deadly. To increase your safety:
Tell others you trust such as friends, family, neighbors and co-workers, what is happening and talk about ways they might be able to help. Memorize emergency numbers for the local police (such as 911), support persons and crisis hotlines. Identify escape routes and places to go if you need to flee from an unsafe situation quickly. Talk with your children about what they should do if a violent incident occurs or if theare afraid. Put together an emergency bag with money/ checkbooks, extra car keys, medicine, and important papers such as birth certificates, social security cards, immigration documents, and medical cards. Keep it somewhere safe and accessible, such as with a trusted friend. Trust your instincts. If you think you are in immediate danger, you probably are. Get to a safe place as soon as you can.
BARRIERS TO LEAVING
Many victims find it difficult to leave their batterers despite continued and often severe abuse. Some barriers include:
financial dependence religious/family pressures fear of being alone fear of increased violence loyalty to the marriage denial internalization of the abuser's words ("I deserve the abuse") love
shame the belief that it will get better
EMOTIONAL ABUSE CHECKLIST
Do you have to get permission to socialize with your friends? Are you accused of cheating on him when you leave the house to do errands, etc.? Are you afraid to talk about certain topics unless he's in a good mood? Does he have control over the money and monitor your spending? Does he tell you no one else would ever want you? Does he threaten to harm himself if you leave him? Does he go through your purse or open your mail? Does he make disparaging remarks about the way you look or dress? Does he use things against you that you've confided to him in the past? Does he sabotage your efforts to be involved in pleasant social or family events? Does he compare you negatively to other women? Are you nervous about being on the phone when he is around? Is it okay to return home later than scheduled without being fearful? Does it feel more like you have a dad than a partner? Does he give you the 'silent treatment' when you want to talk or work things out? Does he try to turn the children against you? Do you feel manipulated by his kindness or gifts? Do you feel obligated to be sexual with your partner?
Are your activities and interests looked upon as unimportant and trivial? Does he sabotage your schedule and outside commitments?
IS HE REALLY GOING TO CHANGE THIS TIME? Here's How You'll Know...
Positive signs include the following:
He has stopped being violent or threatening to you or others. He acknowledges that his abusive behavior is wrong. He understands that he does not have the right to control and dominate you. You don't feel afraid when you are with him. He does not coerce or force you into having sex when you don't want to. You can express anger toward him without feeling intimidated. He does not make you feel responsible for his anger or frustration. He respects your opinion even if he doesn't agree with it. He respects your right to say "no." You can negotiate without being humiliated and belittled by him. You don't have to ask permission to go out, go to school, get a job, or take other independent actions. He listens to you and respects what you have to say.
He recognizes that he is not "cured" and that changing his behavior, attitudes, and beliefs is a lifelong process. He no longer does (fill in the blank with any behavior that used to precede his violence, manipulation, or emotional abuse).
Signs of manipulation include the following:
He tries to invoke sympathy from you or your family and friends. He is overly charming, reminds you of all the good time you've had together. He tries to buy you back with romantic gifts, dinners, flowers, etc. He tries to seduce you when you're vulnerable. He uses veiled threats - to take the kids away, to cut off financial support, to quit attending a batterer's program. His promises to change do not match his behavior.
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
You need and deserve at least a few people in your life with which you have healthy relationships, people whom:
You like, respect, and trust, and who like, respect and trust you.
Make you feel good about yourself.
Listen to you without sharing personal information about you with others.
You can tell anything.
Allow you to talk freely and express your feelings and emotions without judging you, criticizing you, teasing you, or putting you down.
Give you good advice when you want and ask for it, and who will work with you to figure out what to do next in difficult situations.
Allow you the space to change, grow, make decisions, and make mistakes.
Accept you as you.
COUPLES COUNSELING WON'T STOP THE VIOLENCE
Your partner may try to get you to go to couples counseling, telling you that you and he need to work on this together. He may encourage you to go to pastoral counseling with him. If he has done this, then he is refusing to take full responsibility for his abusive behavior. He may be manipulating you into staying with him by taking this approach. His abusive behavior is not likely to stop unless he acknowledges that you are in no way responsible and that he has a problem that he needs to seek help for regardless of whether you stay with him or not.
Remember: Old habits die hard. Your partner's abusive behavior is rooted in a desire to control your relationship, and that pattern isn't going to change overnight. You may be so hopeful for change that you want to believe him, even if things don't feel very different. Trust your instincts. If you don't feel safe, then chances are, you're not.
MY ABUSER HAS A GUN
If you have a current Protection From Abuse Order (PFA) from a court against your abuser, or if your abuser has been convicted of a felony or domestic violence misdemeanor, then Federal law states that it is illegal for your abuser to buy or have a gun in their possession.
YOU MUST ASK THE JUDGE to specifically write in your order that the abuser cannot buy or have a gun while the order is in effect and to require that your abuser to give any guns to the police, or require the police to go to the abuser's house and get them. The guns then go to either the county sheriff or court clerk of stolen property. The district attorney in the county where the gun(s) was taken away can then file to have them destroyed.
If you have any questions or concerns, please contact the domestic violence agency in your area immediately.
Financial Support for Victims: If you have been a victim of family violence, you may be able to receive a waiver of the deposit to help you establish electric and/or telephone service. In order to qualify, you must be able to establish that you have been a victim of family violence and have a letter filled out by one of the following: family violence center staff, treating medical personnel, law enforcement personnel, Office of the Attorney General, the local County or District Attorney's office, or your local legal aid office. Once the letter has been filled
out, you must send the letter to the electric and/or telephone company you are applying for service with. See the application form from the Texas Council on Family Violence.
For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224
ACCEPTANCE Sometimes you may feel as thought you are stuck ± you can¶t do the things that you want to with you life because of memories, symptoms, thoughts, feelings, and life circumstances that are either a direct or indirect result of the abuse. You may feel as though you are losing your whole life to the abuse. The following are acceptance statements that you can keep to help you through difficult times. I accept the abuse as part of my life story. My journey in working to get over the effects of this abuse has made me strong. Now I am in charge of my life. I am going to do whatever I need to do to make my life the way I want it to be. The things that happened to me were terrible and should never have happened to me. But they did. Now it is time to get my life back ± to be the kind of person I want to be and do the things I want to do. The abuse happened a long time ago. I am no longer being abused. I am no longer being abused. I am in charge of my life and I am doing the things I want to do. The abuse was then. This is now. I am doing good work in getting over the effects of the abuse. I am ready to move on with my life.
BLAME Women/Men who have been abused often blame themselves for the bad things that have happened to them í things that are never their fault. In addition, others may have blamed you for being abused. In our society, women/men are often blamed and made to feel guilty for the bad things that have happened to them. This lowers your selfesteem and can get in the way of your healing and recovery. The following are some of the situations in which women feel they are to blame for the abuse. It was my fault because I was wearing that dress or those shoes, and because I put on makeup. It was my fault because I didn¶t keep quiet enough. It was my fault because I cried too much.
BILL OF RIGHTS
· You have the right to be you. · You have the right to put yourself first. · You have the right to be safe. · You have the right to love and be loved. · You have the right to be treated with respect. · You have the right to be human - NOT PERFECT. · You have the right to be angry and protest if you are treated unfairly or abusively by anyone. · You have the right to your own privacy. · You have the right to your own opinions, to express them, and to be taken seriously. · You have the right to earn and control your own money. · You have the right to ask questions about anything that affects your life. · You have the right to make decisions that affect you. · You have the right to grow and change (and that includes changing your mind).
· You have the right to say NO. · You have the right to make mistakes. · You have the right NOT to be responsible for other adults¶ problems. · You have the right not to be liked by everyone. · YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CONTROL YOUR OWN LIFE AND TO CHANGE IT IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH IT AS IT IS.
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Our hearts go out to the victims of the Grand Prairie roller rink tragedy and their families. Family violence can take many forms, from senseless mass killings to bruises that no one but the victim sees or feels. The Family Place Executive Director Paige Flink discusses the desperate need for resources to give safety to the increasing number of family violence victims in our community. Read the full Dallas Morning News story here. If you are suffering in your home, please reach out to one of our counselors and let us help you find a way to break the silence and begin a safe, healthy life for you and your children.
Warning Signs of Unsafe Teen Relationships
Are you in an unhealthy or abusive teen dating relationship? If you're not sure, consider these characteristics of a healthy, an unhealthy and an abusive relationship.Understanding and being aware of the characteristics of an unsafe partnership can be the first step to preventing teen dating violence. The Family Place Be Project empowers teens to learn how to build healthy, strong relationships and to connect with other teens to get the support they need to Be Safe, Be Kind, Be Courageous, Be More. Visit theBe Project website for more resources and information on how to get involved!
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The mission of New Beginning Center is to foster an environment of safety, support and respect for families affected by domestic violence. We do so through crisis intervention, counseling, shelter, education, advocacy, and diverse community partnerships. The vision of New Beginning Center is to promote social change that will lead to the elimination of domestic violence. Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Battering happens when one person believes they are entitled to control another. Assault, battering and domestic violence are crimes. Battering escalates. It often begins with behaviors like threats, name-calling, violence in the presence of the other (such as punching a fist through a wall), and/or damage to objects or pets. It may escalate to restraining, pushing, slapping,
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