Same Day Lay Guide

 

 

SAME DAY LAY GUIDE

   

“How to get same day lays from daygame” By SIMON SPENCER 

 

Table of Content Chapter 1 : What is a same day lay ( SDL) ? Chapter 2:  Daygame Chapter 3:  Daygame myths Chapter 4:  How to approach (mindset) Chapter 5:  Body language and fashion Chapter 6:  Creating sexual attraction Chapter 7:  Building rapport and comfort Chapter 8:  Instant date Chapter 9:  Kino and sexual escalatio escalation n Chapter 10: Boyfriend objections Chapter 11:  Logistics and sex Chapter 12:  Last minute resistance (LMR)

 

Chapter 1 : What is a same day lay ( SDL) ?

A ‘same day lay’ is when a man sleeps with a girl that he has met earlier on the very same day. Most often this happens after a man has met a girl during the daytime, spoken to her for a while and taken her for an instant date, such as a coffee or to a nearby pub or bar. On the instant date, comfort has  been established, established, as well as a fun, fflirtatious lirtatious vibe vibe that can facilitate some form of escalation and/or a venue change. Same Day Lays are not very common, and require meeting a girl that you have good, natural chemistry with, combined with beneficial logistics. It is absolutely vital to have good logistics planned in order to secure an SDL. A girl is a lot less likely to agree to come back to your place if you have to travel to the other side of town on various modes of public transportation! If you are near to your house, flat or hotel room, you can use that as a good excuse to go back – something like, “I just need to quickly get my jacket /charge the phone /feed my dog. Come in for 5 minutes and make yourself a drink”. It has to feel to the girl as thought “it just happened” and is therefore important to remove the responsibility from the girl, much like when overcoming last minute resistance or an anti-slut defence. In summary, there must be good chemistry between yourself and the girl, you must establish comfort – usually via an instant date, you must have good logistics set to go and you must lead the interaction whilst removing responsibility from the girl.

 

Chapter 2:  Daygame

You're about to get inside the head of a day game pua, day game pick up artist, or whatever fancy name you want to label it. Alright, let's cut right through the B.S. If you're just going to bars and clubs to meet and pick up women, then you're missing out on the majority of women that are single, available, and yours for the taking. Surveys show that only 8% of the female population actually dated men that they met in bars and clubs. 92% of them, the whopping majority I believe, actually wanted to meet men in normal, day to day, locations such as coffeee shops, book stores, gyms, classrooms, beaches, malls, coffe and anywhere under the sun.  Need I say much? much? I can tell you from first hand experience that it is a lot easier to meet and pick up women during the day (AKA Daygame). It's like shooting fish in a barrel with a rocket launcher. Okay maybe that's a little bit extreme but it's the closest analogy I can think of. Don't get me wrong though. It can be very difficult for most men who don't know what in the world they're doing. These men often go home frustrated  because they they don't know how how daygame daygame works. For them, them, it's a hard, gruesome, rejection filled, day-to-day reality. It doesn't have to be that way. It's really easy if you know exactly what to do, how to do it and when to do it... Here's an important lesson I learned in my daygame pua  journey:  Not Mastering Your Environment Environment Can Re Really ally Hurt You

 

Daygame is completely different from meeting women in bar and clubs. During the night time, you're competing with tons of sleazy cheesy guys (wow that rhymes), gallons of seductive  booze, an army army of her ffriends, riends, blasting music, and 99 other things that you should really be prepared for. It's also a social environment, environment, so It's acceptable to run around the place with the pure intent to meet as many women as you want. This will be an ideal environment environment for pick up artists just as long as you have the skill and ability to engage the whole group, compete with other men, be larger than life, and have a lot of energy. It's a great place to practice but that's not the end all be all of  pick up. There's another level. A better place to meet women. An easier way to pick up lots of women and it's called daygame. During the day, there are no distractions, loud music, or drunk  men running around with the word "Sleep with me tonight" stamped on their foreheads. At the same time, it's a totally different social situation. On top of that, women are in a different "head space" during the daytime. This is both a good thing and a bad thing. It's good because if you understand female psychology and situational attraction triggers, then you can easily swoop in and meet any woman during the daytime without fear or rejection.... and they will enjoy every single minute of the interaction. On the flip side, if don't tailor your approach to work for daygame, then women will ignore you, tune you out, and  brush you off off as qui quickly ckly as they can... can... which reall really y sucks like no other.

 

So it's really important that you master the subtle difference  between daygame daygame and night night game. For example: There are three types of situations you can encounter when  picking up women women durin during g the day day.. Women could be sitting down, standing up, or walking on the opposite side of the road. You need a different approach for each and every situation. There are women that you will see over and over again. Like women in gyms, at work, girl next door, and etc. There are also women that you will see only once and never again. These are women walking down the street, shopping, jogging in the park, hanging out at the beach. You need to know the subtle changes in your mentality and approach in order to make these approaches work. It's not that hard if you know exactly what to do.

 

Chapter 3:  Daygame myths

Myth Number 1: A Master Of Day Game Can Pick Up Any Girl Off The Street and Take Her Home Having impractical expectations of the final results is your #1 enemy when you start practising day game. Feeling like you'll never measure up is a major peril if you happen to be focusing too much on what the day game pickup "professionals" can do... and it is going to screw up your game at any level. Most of the time with day game you're just going to be getting a number and a date. And if you're really skilful and the logistics are right, you'll get an insta-date. And the fact is, most of the stories you hear about the gurus are exaggerated, if not wholly fictional. You are definitely not going to know what success is when you have it if you think success means consistently getting more than this. This is not to suggest that  picking girls girls up off the the street for spon spontaneous, taneous, casual casual encounters is inconceivable! In fact, it happens relatively often... but it usually depends equally as much (if not more) on the female and her logistics as it does on your competency. Myth Number 2: Day Game Is Just For Guys With Advanced Skills There is a perception that day game is in some manner "complex" material and the beginners should just stick to gaming the clubs. Day game is no harder than club game -- it is merely a different skill. There are factors you must consider  which you don't have to worry about in a club, but then again the club has it's own set of problems. For example, in a club you know she's come there with the intention of meeting  people and you never have to wond wonder er if it's a "goo "good d time" to open a woman. However, you'll likely be coping with a lot of

 

other men who are curious about her as well... which is not often the case during the daytime. If you can walk up to a girl and hold a conversation, you're already running day game. To get consistent success all you need now is the knowledge and skills. Myth Number Nu mber 3: Wh What at W Works orks IIn n The Cl Club ub Will W Work ork On The Street I have a friend who kills in the club. This guy has incredible skills and amazing energy, and when we are out he hardly ever  goes home without a hot chick. His recipe is being absolutely direct. He turns up the heat without delay and the girls... who are there to hook up with someone in any case... go for it on every occasion. Just a few days ago a close friend and I were having lunch in the neighbourhood when he noticed an adorable girl sitting alone on a park bench nearby. So he approached her. Told her precisely the same tales and featured the exact same routines which happen to have gotten him success with girls tons of times. And got the old heave-ho. But why? He believed that the techniques which work on women who are looking to hook up will work on a girl who is not. The worst part, he may have been successful if he'd played it another way. Females are always on the lookout for an adventure. You need to simply frame it in a different way and lead with a different energy in day game. Myth Number 4: Because The Girl Is Always Going Some  place -- Logistics Logistics Are Always Bad Most guys think of "daytime pua" and visualize a rather busy street with a large number of people rushing from one place to another. When everyone is in a hurry, the chances of pulling a

 

girl away for a date (or more) seem pretty minimal. Once more... part of the problem here has to do with expectations. With successful day game, all you're doing very often is getting contact information and possibly setting up a future date. More than this anything is achievable... nevertheless you have got to be looking out for situations where a woman is not "heading" somewhere. To illustrate, it's possible she's on a lunch break. That's 30 minutes right there. Or perhaps she's at work (be very careful with this one, though. You want to be respectful of her situation... please don't attempt to lock her into dialogue if she's obviously occupied, or she will believe that you are a creep. And she will most likely be right.) You'll discover how to spot the girls who have some time on their hands with a little observation and practice... Myth Number Nu mber 5: Girls Are Always Busy And Don't Want To To Be Annoyed Of course, even if a girl is sitting by herself on the bus with a  book... she's reading. reading. If she's she's got an iPod, the w woman oman is listening to some music. If she has her laptop with her, she'll  probably be be on Twitter Twitter or doi doing ng something for work. She She'll 'll always be doing something to keep busy. So what? Imagine for a second you're texting a buddy when a beautiful woman suddenly comes up to you and starts a conversation. She's interesting to talk to, friendly, and everything in her body language informs you that she likes you. After a few minutes, she offers you her number and proposes you get together in the near future. The last thing you're going to do is tell her, "Sorry, I'm busy." How would you feel if that situation really took place? Fairly incredible, right? Well it is the exact same way for girls. Even if you're not in a bar, girls still love to be approached! You may run into the occasional girl with a bad

 

attitude who will blow you off. However, much of the time, if you remember to keep a confident, playful energy and don't undermine the interaction with too many presumptions, the women you meet will be pretty happy you made the effort to meet them.

 

Chapter 4:  How to approach ( MINDSET )

There are countless opportunities to meet women in daytime scenarios – coffee shops, shopping centres, parks, book shops  – and men miss miss out on all of them. them. That’ That’ss because most most of you are under the impression that approaching a woman outside of  a nightclub or bar environment is creepy or intrusive. Wrong! Just follow these four rules for daytime interaction, and you might be able to stop relying on noisy clubs and drunken atmospheres to get results with women 1. Don’t hover When you see a girl you like, don’t orbit her space like a lost Soviet satellite – this will creep her out. It conveys a lack of

confidence and a sense that you’re a lurker who spends his days looking for lone women. You need to make the moment feel completely spontaneous. Give her the impression that you’ve never done anything like this before – this adds a more exciting and playful feel to the interaction. 2. Add Add a false time constraint Always tell the girl that you ‘only have five minutes’ before you have to go back to work or meet your friends. (This does

not have and, to beagain, true.) adds It takes the feeling pressure both her and moment to the ofoff spontaneity. Herthe  beauty or her her energy energy distracted distracted you from your your plans – but but only temporarily, not in an ‘I’m going to be obsessed with you’ way. 3. Keep the compliment clean but detailed Direct and sexually overt compliments are way too much for the daytime. Replace them with clean but confidently executed flattery such as, ‘You look like a modern-day Audrey Hepburn’ or ‘I love your style, it’s really elegant’ . The more

 

 personal and tailored to her your compliments compliments are, are, the better. better. These work a lot better in daylight than they would in a latenight bar when everyone knows the main aim is getting laid. 4. Use the line ‘This is so random’

This is the first thing you should say to her, and the last thing you say to her before getting her number or arranging a date. It will make her think that something about her is compelling enough for you to do something out of the ordinary. It all adds to the excitement of the moment, which means she’s more likely to agree to your suggested next move. Remember, women love to have a cool story to share with their friends about how they met a guy. Meeting a guy in a store or a café when they were least expecting it will always  be far better better than a story that that involves a nightclub or a noisy  bar..  bar Beautiful women are always the fantasies of men, not only those handsome men but even those average looking men. Figuring out how to approach beautiful women is something most men avoid due to fear of rejection. Contrary to what most men think that beautiful gorgeous women are just for nice looking men, the good news is that you can win a  beautiful woman's woman's heart rregardless egardless of your your looks, age, age, or bank  account size if you know how to approach beautiful women. Here are some tips on how to approach beautiful women to achieve dating success: Do the first move. Don't get intimidated intimidated that she's too  beautiful for for you; most m men en avoid ap approaching proaching beautiful women because they believe that approaching beautiful women is like answering hard puzzles or solving complicated mathematical equations. Men think that beautiful women are usually chased day and night by men for dates and decided not

 

to ask her any more for the fear of rejection and too much competition. When the truth is, most beautiful women, stay single because men are intimidated by them and there are not enough guys who have the courage to ask them out or make the first move. It rarely happens that women do the first move especially if she's a beautiful gorgeous woman. Men should know how to approach beautiful women first. Be natural and friendly. Don't look too amazed and stutter when you talk, this is very important in learning how to approach beautiful women. Gorgeous beautiful women are not different from other women or from other people so treat her like a normal person. Being friendly with her will have the same effect as with most people, if you treat her with kindness and friendliness, they will respond on the same manner. Initiate a conversation that will interest her. Most beautiful women think that men are interested because they are just amazingly beautiful so avoid mentioning about her appearance. Initiate a conversation that will interest her. It could be about a movie or music she likes or a hobby that you  both have. Don't Don't be arrog arrogant, ant, act natu naturally rally and politely politely making her feel safe and respected. Smile and maintain eye contact during conversations and it will never show that you were having a hard time figuring out how to approach  beautiful women women like he herr. Take things slowly. Do not rush things, remember that you were a stranger to her and you are on the "getting to know each other" stage. Do not stalk her or call her everyday that she feels annoyed and disturbed after establishing a good conversation with her. Yes she is an astonishingly attractive gorgeous woman, but still you have to keep your cool and act slowly but surely. Let her take her time to know you more and take your time to show your good intentions.

 

How to approach beautiful women could be a real challenge  but if you really really,, really want to meet that gor gorgeous geous woman woman of your dreams and have her forever, it should not just be a dream. You could make it a reality if you learn the right way how to approach beautiful women.

 

Chapter 5:  Body language and fashion

Body Language is the first language of women. They know how to speak and interpret it better than their native tongue. This makes body language something you need to understand as well. Learning to Communicate with Body Language I’m sure your mother has told you to “stand up straight” more times than you can count. Well, I’m gonna tell you the same thing. So let’s go over some ways to stand up as tall as  possible. Using a Wall

Find an empty wall you can stand against. Put your heels against the wall. Now make sure your rear-end, the top few inches of the back of your shoulders, and the back of your head are also touching the wall. This is the straightest posture you are capable of. Continue to stand against the wall, and close your eyes. Starting from your heels, pay individual attention to every joint involved in maintaining this posture. Move from your heels, to your knees, to your hips, on up to your neck, just pay attention to how they feel in this position.  Now step away from from the wall, wall, and hold those those joints in the same position. Close your eyes and think about each joint separately once again, comparing them against how they felt when you were on the wall. Do you notice any joints which feel more awkward in this position? If you do, this may mean you have a muscular imbalance which is pulling more strongly on one side of your joint. This is common if you have a job which requires long durations of sitting. If it feels like an imbalance

 

does exist, and you think it may make it more difficult to hold a straight posture, an exercise and stretching regimen can help. You should focus on strengthening the weaker muscle, and loosening the stronger muscle’s natural pull on your joint. Working on your Walk 

A man’s walk says a lot. With the right walk, you can have every woman looking at you. It’s in a woman’s nature to turn her head if she senses an “alpha male” from her peripheral vision. In some cases, a strong walk can work like an opener, you just need to say “hi” when she makes eye contact with you. So let’s examine how an alpha male walks. One of the most important indicators of an alpha male is his head position. Beta males are used to slouching, and this causes their head to migrate forward so that the back of their neck has a significant angle. Your head’s center of mass should be directly over your shoulders, not slightly in front of them. You should also be looking straight ahead so that the your nose is pointing parallel to the ground. With this knowledge, let’s go over an exercise to adjust your natural head position while walking. The Balloon Technique Exercise

 Now find a hallway hallway or a place place you can practice practice walking. walking. Stand on one side of the walkway, and begin walking towards the other side. As you do, imagine a string attached to the centre of your sternum at the approximate height of where your heart is. Attached to that string is a balloon full of helium  pulling straight straight up. Allow it to pull your your chest up and and out as you walk. This will help straighten your spine. Once you reach the opposite end, turn around and begin walking back. This time as you walk, imagine an additional balloon attached

 

to the top of your head. This balloon will help straighten your neck. Practice this exercise as often as possible, it will help you create a habit of good walking posture, and will ensure a  proper head head position. Overall Body Language

Your overall body language should portray one message, Confidence. Confidence means opening up your stance, and relaxing any muscles which aren’t necessary for standing. By doing this, you are accomplishing two things in her mind. First, you are showing comfort in your life, going back to the “better life” concept. Second, you are showing that you have your physical guard down. You are in essence showing her that you do not fear an attack from another male. This comes from our primate instincts. If we feel at all threatened by another male competing for status, we will leave our muscles tense so that we can react to an attack more quickly. Being loose portrays a confidence in ones ability to fend off attack, and is very attractive to females. Keep this idea in mind when around women and use it to adapt a natural standing posture which exudes these qualities. MEN’S FASHION

It's not about knowing everything about fashion or following the latest trends. That's what most people think of when they think of fashion. Sure, knowing the latest trends shows that you keep up with current events and following the latest trends shows that you have access to some financial resources (it's expensive following the latest trends). But that's a lot of effort for relatively little return. This short dating manual excerpt will help you dress well to date women you want.

 

It's about what looks good on you, and more importantly what makes you look good. Most importantly, it's about what it communicates about you. The way you dress should communicate something about your lifestyle. The following are some general guidelines that work for a large majority of men. For some men there may be certain social stereotypes they may be targeting (e.g.: for wannabe Japanese girls, dressing like a Japanese pop star would score you major  points) but making making a list of al alll these niches would would be unproductive. 1. Wear clothes that fit Clothes that fit are essential when it comes to being able to attract women. A person wearing loose clothes shows that they may not be comfortable with their figure (either they think they're too slim or too fat). A person wearing tight clothing shows that they are comfortable with themselves and can imply comfort with sexuality. This is important for  building attraction attraction in women. women. As mentioned iin n the beginning, beginning, it's what your clothes communicate about you that really matters. As such, wearing a form fitting $10 plain shirt can look much better than an oversized $200 shirt. If you can afford it, I recommend that you also tailor your clothes that don't fit EXA EXACTL CTLY Y. If they fit exactly already already,, that's ok. But otherwise, tailoring can help clothes fit you  better,, which then helps you attract  better attract women and and date women. women. 2. Each accessory should communicate a story This is a good way to get conversations started and continued. By wearing interesting items of clothing, you give women who want to talk with you an excuse to start a conversation. By having a story behind the item of clothing instead of it just

 

 being a "cool "cool item", it gives you you great conversation conversation m material aterial for talking with women you want to date. For example, in my hotel room last night with two cute Asian girls, one girl asked me about my belt. I told her it was a gift from a third girl who knew I was lacking a belt. This shows that I know other girls, and that other girls I know hold me in high regard (enough to give me gifts). This significantly helps in attracting women. 3. Calibrate to situation and audience In order to figure out how to get what you want in terms of dating women, you first have to understand what it is that you want. If you're trying to date Asian girls who are conservative, you want to wear something that they will find attractive. If you're going for Goth punk rockers, you want to wear something they will find attractive. Also you have to consider the situation. Wearing dress shirts with big G-chains while trying to meet women in the library, you stand out in a bad way as they may think you are just there to meet women. Wearing pyjamas to a high end nightclub shows lack of social calibration and you probably won't even be able to get in to meet the women inside, so much harder for you to date these women. 4. It's all in the details If it looks like it took a lot of effort to make, it's considered good (keeping taste in mind, of course). When it comes to dating women, details matter. Women notice details on clothing more than men, and additionally, they try to interpret those details. Wearing a piece of clothing with fancy complicated designs (hopefully in good taste) implies higher financial position, all else being equal. A fancy design on a shirt is not a "necessity" for a shirt since the main goal is to

 

cover you and keep you warm. So the fancy design is considered an extra, and it implies that if you're able to obtain extras then you must be well off enough that you're not worried about getting the necessities. This is a major reason why women wear high heels. High heels are not very productive; they make it hard to walk and have bad balance compared to more productive shoes. Yet this is a major reason that women will wear them since it implies higher social status (that they don't need to any laborious tasks and lead a luxurious life). You should keep in mind this concept not only when learning to attract women but also in all social situations. Be aware of what you indirectly communicate by what you do, dress, and say. 5. How to dress on a budget My dating manual understands that you may not want to spend a lot of money. These tips reflect that same principle of my dating manual. Even if you're well off financially, I  believe that saving saving money money when possible is a good thing. It is better to have 2 good outfits you wear often than 50 outfits that look bad and you wear rarely. So instead of getting dozens of average shirts and average jeans, I recommend you get a few outfits that are great instead. You don't really need a  pair of jeans for for each da day y of the week week.. You You can wear the same  pair of pants pants more than once once before washing. washing. Shirts are a bit harder to wear more than once in a row, but you can just alternate shirts.  Next is using "core "core dressing". H Have ave one or two two items that are "core" to your outfit. For example, a jacket or a blazer. Next you dress around that. You can wear different jeans, different shirts, etc. but the item that people associate you with, the core item, is still there. This allows you to cut down on the amount of outfits you buy while still looking good.

 

I hope these fashion tips serve you well. I occasionally get compliments on my clothing, and I didn't spend a lot of time reading GQ or men's magazines trying to copy fashion. I just followed these basic tips to find out what looks good on me. I also don't spend much on my fashion. The current outfit I'm wearing as I'm typing this which got a compliment last night, I got for under $30 CDN ( the belt was a gift).

 

Chapter 6:  Creating sexual attraction

Learning how to create attraction in a woman is something that most men seem to struggle with. And to create that kind of attraction in a really beautiful woman seems to intimidate and confuse most guys as well. If you feel this way, take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. In fact, you are amongst the majority of men out there. So, what can you do to create attraction in a woman? You have to first understand HOW attraction is created. As men, we are very visual and so we assume that women must  be this way as well. well. However However,, most studies show show that is not true. Also, most men will assume that a woman wants the "perfect" guy and if the man tries to be that kind of guy, then he will get the girl. Again, that is not the case. You see, there are natural "triggers" that create attraction in a woman. Any woman will tell you that there are men that they KNOW they should not be attracted to and yet, they still are. Why is this? There are many factors, but one of them is body language. A man that can project confidence with his body language will have more success with women than a man that shows no confidence in his body language. But, confidence is NOT enough. Your body language also has to project that you have VALUE. The more value that you have, the more desirable that you are. And having value does not mean that you have to have a Porsche and a fat bank account. There are many men that do

 

not have a high income or even have a LOW income that do extremely well with women. Learn how to use your body language to project YOUR value and you will increase the level of attraction that women feel for YOU. For most guys, being able to create attraction with women is like learning a foreign language. The ability to create attraction with women is not something that a man is born with. This is a skill that you have to develop over time and for  most guys this will include lots of trail and error. Actually, usually more error than anything else. But, if you want to be able to make a woman want you, then you have to know how to create sexual attraction with her. Otherwise, you are doomed to be seen as just a friend and maybe even less. This is not what you want to happen. You want to be able to get the girl, make her fall for you, and know that you are the kind of guy that is successful with women. Will this really happen for YOU? There is no way to know this for sure, but here are a couple of  tips to help you out. 1. Be assertive with a woman. Now, being assertive is NOT the same as dominating a woman. If you try and dominate a woman, I would have to question you as a man, and this will  just repel most most stable women away from you you anyway anyway. 2. Have fun with women. A lot of men seem to forget that dating women is supposed to be fun and they lose this part of themselves when they are out on a date with a woman. You

 

don't want to lose the fun perspective as this is a characteristic that will drive her wild. 3. Become the kind of guy that naturally attracts women. Most guys seem to think that either you are born with attraction skills or not. However, you have to learn how to create attraction with women, if you want to be successful when it comes to your dating and sex life. You don't have to struggle with w women omen any longer longer.. Y You ou can learn how to attract a woman, make her feel that desire for you, and get the girl almost every time. However, you don't want to make the many mistakes that men make with women. This is not how you are going to attract beautiful women.

 

Chapter 7:  Building rapport and comfort

The sense that you and a woman have connected on a meaningful level is one of the key factors that make a woman comfortable sleeping with you. You can instantly lower her anti-slut defences simply by making her feels that you appreciate her for the way she really is, not the way she looks. Building rapport needs to be natural because women can detect so fast whether someone is present in the moment. The minute you lose focus in what she is doing and saying right in front of you, she is likely to notice. This fact creates the very first truth of generating rapport with women. Building rapport is simply putting a woman at the center of your attention and being present with her. Most aspiring PUAs mistakenly kill a real game by getting struck in their head worrying about the next move. Be aware that if a woman senses your ulterior motive, she will eject. You can build rapport in other ways; however, theses will be less useful unless you are present down mentally and emotionally. Mirroring can be an effective way to practice. You can obviously see whether a couple is in rapport as they adopt mirror-image postures. If he put his hand in his pocket, so does her. They hold a glass with hands on the same side of table. To rapidly develop rapport with her, you simply copy her posture, arm position, and so on. You may find that, as you practice more and more, this quickly becomes your nature. Great! You are enhancing your game to the next level. Remember to always kino! In fact, as

 

you are in rapport, when you start touching her, she will touch you back. Revealing your vulnerability is another powerful way to quickly build rapport. However, many PUAs practice it the wrong way. They make themselves vulnerable while displaying low value by sharing how they behave in a lowvalue way. "I remember what it feels like when my exgirlfriend dumped me, back then I thought I would never meet another girl." This is a really huge mistake. You may argue that you show your vulnerability here, but you are also saying that you are the kind of men who get dumped and have a hard time dealing with it. You are displaying low value behaviour. You can also easily build rapport with a woman via future projections. What you need need to do is just sharing sharing a fantasy fantasy about anything exciting: how great is your trip, where you go on an adventure, and so on. You need to be extravagant and have fun with it. Women have strong emotions that we do. To make her feel as if a wonderful future with you really happened, you only need to get her to imagine. How easy is it? Note that you don't have to worry about future-projecting marriage. You only need to be light and fun, and then it will  be a blast. She will not hold you to it. Practice these techniques regularly and keep watching couples who are in rapport when you go out. Then, do it over and over  again. You will finally see good results.

 

Chapter 8:  Instant dates

Getting phone numbers from women during the day is a great skill to have, what's even better is the skill to immediate i mmediately ly and effortlessly instant date them to a café or coffee shop then and there, as this does a number of things, firstly: 1. Establishes more rapport with the girl and creates a more emotional connection as opposed to just getting her phone number and running off. 2. Creates more comfort with her, she'll start feeling safe, comfortable and protected while around you and this helps especially when the times comes for the bedroom. 3. Solidifies the second date venue and reduces flakiness. Usually you'll make a plan to meet a girl at a later time and  place however however not all girls turn turn up unfortunately unfortunately and and this is called being flaky. If you effortlessly instant-dated her, made her feel comfortable around you, created more of an emotional connection then the second date venue will be as solid as ever. The key to getting instant dates from women is to always look  relaxed when leading the interaction to sit down with you or to join you for a coffee, because if you look even slightly  bothered or or nervous about about asking th then en she'll sense it and and  become weary weary.. Some of my favourite instant date lines: 1. "I'm just waiting for a friend now he should be another 10 minutes, so would you like to join me for a quick coffee while I'm waiting" (Note put emphasis on the word "quick" and make it seem that you're waiting for your friend and ideally not just trying to get a date with her) 2. "You seem pretty cool what are doing in the next 5 minutes? Well I've got a function to get to but I want to tell

 

you this funny story that happiness the other day, lets grab a quick coffee" Instant-dating women is actually a good skill to have however  remember that you must look relaxed when leading the interaction and push it as far as you can. If she says she cant  join you push push a little more aass most girls give out "token" resistance like "I've got somewhere to go" even when they don't, they say this as it's the only objection they know to put up at this point (even if they like you). So just say "just join me and have a quick chat for 5 minutes and then you can go to XYZ).

 

Chapter 9:  Kino and sexual escalatio escalation n

Kino, (Kino Escalation) simply refers to physical touch  between a man man and a woman, woman, and is a deriv derivative ative of the wo word rd ‘kinesthesia’. In order to successfully complete a seduction (i.e., sex), physical contact between a man and woman will obviously have to occur. The concept behind Kino Escalation is that, by gradually and progressively increasing both the amount and type of physical contact with the girl, the more comfortable and receptive she will be about participating in more intimate acts further down the line. The time frame for these physical progressions can vary greatly. They may take  place over a few hours (o (orr even min minutes), utes), such as in a b bar ar or club, they as may over a period of several days or weeksor(such ontake datesplace or Day 2’s). Whilst gradually building up the level of physical touch  between yourself yourself and a girl girl is not always necessary necessary in order order to achieve sex, it is a more socially intelligent and calibrated way of going about things. This is because it limits or helps to  break down the potentially potentially awkward barrier barrier of a more more forward  physical gesture, gesture, such as go going ing in for the kiss or putting your your arm around the girl in the cinema. Imagine you have been on a date or two with a girl. You haven’t made any physical contact with her – no hugging, kissing, hand holding, and there has  been minimal minimal ‘accidental’ ‘accidental’ touch, such as as knees or leg legss touching while sat down, as you have been sat opposite her at the table. If you are to suddenly go for the kiss, it will feel clumsy and awkward, as the leap from absolutely nothing (no touching), to a full-on act (kissing, for example), is too large. You want to avoid the ‘romantic’ Front Door Kiss Scene, often depicted in the movies. In reality, if no physical  progression has been mad madee througho throughout ut a date for example, an obvious tension or pressure – usually quite awkward – can be

 

felt by both you and the girl. However, if throughout a date you have been progressively and slowly developing Kino by holding hands, sitting close to each other or other such  physical gestures/acts, gestures/acts, the jum jump p from that to kissing is a small, natural progression, free of the awkward social tension associated with the Front Door Kiss Scene. To avoid any awkwardness and to create naturally progressive Kino, it is best to initiate physical contact as soon as possible. A good way to do this in a club, for example, is to open  physically – via hugging a girl, taking her by the hand hand or by dancing with her (holding her hips, grinding etc…). On dates or Day 2’s, some good ways to build touch and comfort are to give a quick hug and kiss on the cheek (French style) when greeting her, sitting next toto each other in the pub coffee house – which allows legs touch naturally, andor makes  physical playfulness playfulness such as pushing or hitting hitting easier – aand nd hand holding. As always, it is important important not to be physically aggressive or inappropriate when initiating Kino, and if she indicates to you at any time that she is uncomfortable (through either her body language or verbally), you must back off immediately. Conversely, over escalating with Kino can actually lead to flaking or losing the girl. While you want to remove awkward tension from your interactions, escalating Kino too much and too quickly can kill sexual tension. Some of the tension you and the girl will feel will be excitement about what will happen next. By over escalating or by escalating too quickly, you release all the sexual tension and pressure, which decreases the level of excitement. It’s like being told how a movie you really wanted to see ends before you’ve had a chance to watch it. Similarly, a ‘too much, too fast’ approach to Kino on dates (or more specifically, on first dates), can make the girl feel slutty and rushed, and will either lead to

 

strong LMR (Last Minute Resistance) or her flaking on a second date. RULES OF KINO A crucial skill in any social interaction is knowing the proper way to touch - or kino - a woman as a part of the act of seduction. We all want to be touched from the moment we emerge from the womb. When a baby comes into the world, the only thing that quiets him is when he is handed over to his mother and he gets his first taste of being held. To really understand kino and what it can do for you requires a lot of self-examination. Seriously, how much kino do you get from the people who are close to you? What are your attitudes and boundaries in regards to kino? All too often, men feel uncomfortable touching others. There's some taboo associated with being "too physical" with other  people, and many many guys are are hesitant to do so. so. But learning to be more comfortable with physical interaction is key to succeeding, succeeding, because it is through this interaction that we are able to kindle the notion of intimacy between two  people. Start to pay attention to how you touch people you're comfortable with - your friends and family. Grab someone's arm gently when you want to make an important statement. If someone is sad, or tired, or stressed, rub their upper back in light circles and give their shoulder a squeeze. Deep down, everyone is starving for real human contact, and you will rarely - if ever - have someone ask you to stop touching them as long as you have built up a certain level of rapport and comfort with them.

 

Once you get comfortable with your tactile communication, you will want to start initiating touching with the women you are attracted to. When meeting a girl for the first time, start up the kino as soon as possible. Make a few jokes, charm her with your irresistible wit, and touch her upper arm gently. Most of all: PAY ATTENTION to how she responds! If you are getting green lights - like her smiling, touching you  back, playing playing with her ha hair ir,, tilting her head head - then escal escalate ate the kino SLOWLY by removing your hand, waiting for another high point in the conversation and then touch her at the waist. If you are getting red lights - like she gives the "what do you think you're doing?" look, backs away, or breaks eye contact then back off and take it easy for a while. Even if her backing off upsets you, don't let her know it! Be cool, and show her that you aren't trying to move too fast. Go from light touches on the hands and wrists, to holding hands. Put your hand on her knee when she's sitting next to you. High-five her when she says something fun or interesting. Give her a hug. Brush her hair out of her face with your hand. Rub her shoulders. The more you touch, the stronger your bond with the woman will become. Remember - you don't have to be "Mr. Smooth" to make this work. Escalating kino is a process. It's about gradual escalation towards being intimate with a woman, so don't be afraid to trip up or take a chance every once in a while. Of all the tools a man has at his disposal, kino is by far one of the most powerful. Just remember, all you need to do is slowly ease from light touching, to heavy kino to escalate the intimacy. Turn hugs into cuddles, cuddles into kisses, etc.

 

Touching, more than talking, is able to communicate so much about what we're thinking and feeling. Before you know it, you'll start to see the woman of your desires change her emotions towards you, simply because you knew the right way to touch her!

 

Chapter 10: Boyfriend objections

Let's face it. The most beautiful attractive girls already have  boyfriends.  boyfriend s. Finding out th that at the girl you you're 're interested interested in is already in a relationship does not mean you should stop  pursuing her her. Hey Hey,, I'm not trying trying to be evil h here. ere. What What I'm saying is that, it's totally harmless to flirt with someone who already has a boyfriend. They're not married are they? Let me explain why it's okay to seduce girls with boyfriends. There is no such thing as a perfect boyfriend (well maybe you can try and be an exemption) and most girls, usually the ones in an early relationship would feel that their guys are not meeting their standards and expectations (which is normal, by the way). If you're lucky, the girl might be just waiting to be whacked on the right spot to detach herself from her current relationship. Take note this: most girls in a rocky relationship only stay with their boyfriends because they still haven't found someone to replace them. So fire-up that confidence level and go ahead and approach that girls you've been eyeing across the room (make sure she's not with her boyfriend of course).  Now let's say this girl girl really likes her her boyfriend boyfriend and is not actually finding a way out of a relationship. This one's tougher   but definitely definitely worth the try try. The tr trick ick is, make he herr talk about what she likes about her boyfriend. Do not counter her stories,  just listen attentively attentively and be agreeable. B By y letting her tal talk k about her "wonderful" relationship, you're starting to make her  feel good and this could build a better rapport between the two of you. Make her feel comfortable. Chances are, say, during a fight with her boyfriend, she will seek your company and pour  her heart out to you, and this is your opening to be more flirtatious with her.

 

Bear in mind though that it's always better to date and flirt with single girls. If you're luckier, you can score a very  beautiful attractive attractive single girl all to you yourself. rself.

 

Chapter 11:  Logistics and sex

I bet if I polled every guy in the country, 80% of them would want to know how they could have sex with women fast. Its the nature of the beast, that men are very prone to want to get a women in bed without even knowing them. For the most  part as guys, we just don't care care about forming forming a relatio relationship, nship, courting a girl for dinner or a night on the town, we just simply want to get laid. Some say this is wrong, others say women are looking for the same thing, but the bottom line is if you want to have sex with a girl quickly, you need to follow a few general steps. The first thing you need to do is find a women that is willing to have sex on the first night. Most women will tell you that they would never do such a thing, but you would be surprised to know that most of these women HAVE actually had sex with a guy on the first date. The best places to find a girl like this is a place where the alcohol is flowing freely. When women drink, just like guys, they get loose and lose a lot of rational and thinking. Now, you obviously should not try and get laid by a women that is passed out drunk, but if a woman is capable enough of walking, talking, and drinking, she is capable enough of deciding whether or not she wants to have sex. So you have found a women that wants to go home and have sex with you. Good, but the battle doesn't stop there. Once you get the girl back to your place, there should be no hesitation of what you both want. Get her in your bed as quick  as you can, and let it roll from there. If she doesn't want to  jump right into into it, then fine, ju just st accept that your not going going to get laid tonight and try again another night. The key to learning how to have sex with women fast is to find the type

 

of women that is into that sort of thing, then capitalize on it by letting her know you are too.

 Now if I sound cocky and probably ev even en a bit cha chauvinistic, uvinistic, my apologies. Because that's what this topic is all about! Most guys think that it is very difficult to get a girl to have sex with them, and then there are a few who think they can have sex with any girl on the planet. The fact is that both these 'types' are totally disillusioned about the fairer sex. Those who think girls are difficult to get are underestimating themselves and putting an almost sacred tag on girls. Girls, after all, are human and they have their needs too. Those who think girls are easy are plain stupid. The middle path is what works here. The fact is that no girl is too difficult or too easy. It just depends on what you are and how you approach them. Did you know that if you approach a girl, she makes up her mind in about 15 seconds whether she will ever have sex with you? Yes, that's exactly what it takes. 15 seconds. They don't look at just your body or your clothes or the way you talk but they look at the whole 'you'. They look at you as a person. The thing that goes in their minds is-"Will I be able to tell my friends about this adventure with pride?" True, for girls it is more about feeling good about a particular experience and then being able to tell their friends about it. If they feel good about you, they will be more forthcoming when you propose them to have a night with you. So, work on your personality, and then on your approach. If you are only looking at how to get a girl to have sex with you, this is all that you will need. Also, be yourself, don't imitate others illogically. Every man is defined by his own style and that's what women like.

 

Chapter 12: Last minute resistance (LMR)

All guys will experience LMR at some point – often with many different girls. Last girls. Last Minute Resistance is where a girl will prevent a man from escalating beyond a certain point in the bedroom. Often bedroom. Often these moments of LMR occur when things are heating up towards sex, such as when you attempt to remove clothes, or attempt any sexual moves beyond kissing. This resistance can occur for several reasons; she feels things are moving too quickly, she is nervous, she doesn’t want to feel slutty by giving it up too easily, etc.. Ideally you want to limit LMR occurring in the first  place. You  place.  You can do this through building and developing comfort with the girl prior to heading home to seal the deal. The more comfortable and relaxed a girl feels around you, the more open and receptive she will be towards physical escalation. In the likely event that you are to encounter LMR at some point, it is critical that you do not continue to try and escalate using force or pressure. In these situations, back off a little, do something else – watch videos, look at pictures, reescalate slightly, back off again… Gradually build the escalation up nice and slowly. Kissing, massages and other small escalations will arouse her to the point of no resistance. Remember, when resistance arises – be cool! Stay nonreactive and under no circumstances make the girl feel  pressured. Trying  pressured.  Trying to bulldoze your way through LMR will likely not end well. Each time you back off, ramp things up  just a little further further each time, time, and repeat. The girl will become become more comfortable with the subtle escalations, things will feel slower and less rushed and she’ll feel more relaxed and turned on. Eventually you’ll hear those wonderful five words… “Do you have a condom?”

 

HOW TO HANDLE LMR  When dating women, you'll eventually run into resistance when it comes to getting physical with them. Mind you - this doesn't happen with every woman, but it happens enough that you need to be aware of it. When resistance occurs, most guys take it as a form of rejection and give up! They won't even put up a fight, they'll  just go along with with the resistan resistance ce and let it win. win. What they don't know is that resistance can be overcome - and you can do it without being a jerk or forcing the girl to do something she doesn't want to do. Typically, there are 2 causes of this type of resistance. The first cause is LOGICAL. This is typically the easiest type of resistance to overcome. Logical resistance is where women think up objections to the two of you getting together. These objections sometimes include: 1. Are we moving too fast? I don't want him to think I'm easy. 2. I don't want to get pregnant or catch a disease. 3. What will my friends think if I hook up with this guy? 4. How do I know he's not just trying to use me? 5. I really like this guy and I don't want to screw it up by sleeping with him too soon. And on, and on, and on. The second cause is EMOTIONAL EMOTIONAL.. This resistance stems from feelings that suddenly flare up. She might feel afraid, or insecure, or nervous, and give into these feelings, and come up with some type of excuse to do so. Obviously, guys have a hard time with the emotional objections because they are usually oblivious to what the girl is feeling to begin with! So what is there to do? How do we deal with that?

 

At some point, we started moving too fast. This caused her to close off, get skittish, or shut down completely. All resistance, whether it be logical or emotional, stems from a lack of 2 critical things: 1.) TRUST 2.) COMFORT When a woman trusts you and is completely comfortable with you, you will never experience any resistance from her. EVER. It is only when these things are lacking that resistance rears it's ugly head. So in order to prevent resistance from occurring, you really have to focus on getting the girl you're with to trust you and feel comfortable with you. When you do meet with resistance, it's important to work on developing more trust and comfort with the girl. So how does one create trust and comfort? Well, the two go hand in hand. If you can create one, the other  will follow. The first way you can do this is to be relaxed and have fun when you're with the girl. Cracking jokes, laughing, and having a good time will relax her and make her feel comfortable around you. Refrain from judging her and other people too harshly. Lack of trust and comfort usually stems from being judged and criticized. You need to let her know that she can make mistakes around you, and you won't punish her for them. Make her feel safe. Let her know you're there for her when she needs you, and that you care for her. This goes a long way towards building trust and comfort. And should she offer resistance to you, don't get angry or upset! Instead, acknowledge acknowledge it, agree with it, and talk about it. Allow her to voice what's scaring her and help her work through it.

 

Over time she'll get comfortable enough with the situation, and that resistance will become a thing of the past.

 

Chapter 13:  Conclusion

This is an advice guide for guys who want to know how to  pull girls. Do you find it hard to get and kee keep p a woman's attention? Have you bailed-out of encounters because you can't take another rejection? Is the thought of approaching a  beautiful girl girl out of the question question for you you?? Unfortunat Unfortunately ely many times a guy will find himself attracted to a girl that shows little or no interest in him. This can be disheartening especially if it happens more than once. All of us have come into contact with a guy that isn't attractive, rich or famous yet he consistently gets gorgeous girls. How does he do it? Whether he realizes it or not this guy is tuned into how women think! If you want to know how to date beautiful women you must also know how they think. Why? - When you understand how a woman thinks you will understand that her thoughts and actions are based on her emotions. In order to consistently get beautiful women you must know that the way a woman feels is more important than how she thinks because women act on their emotions. Using this knowledge you will know how to pull girls consistently regardless of their looks or social standing and regardless of your own. A woman will act on her feelings more than she will act on her logical decision making thoughts. When you create positive feelings in a woman and feelings of attraction she will always act on them! Learning how to pull girls using this approach can be hard to do alone. alone . W Women omen and men are wired di differently fferently.. W Would ould you yo u expect a frog to know a scorpion? An example of how girls react to men can be seen with the typical alpha male. If you display these characteristic females will be much more interested in you. Never appear too

 

desperate or nervous. Showing a lot of interest can be a turnoff to a woman! Now this may sound strange to you at first after all when a woman wants a man she has to practically hit him over the head before he realizes it! So men think they must do the same (metaphorically speaking). Even though men are mostly unconscious of a woman's intentions women know the intentions of men when they meet them. You need to do very little except talk genuinely to her for her to know that you're interested. Build up some self confidence. you can start on this by having a relaxed "I'll see what happens approach when talking to women. Having confidence in yourself will not only allow you to approach beautiful without fear and trepidation but it will also mean you can handle possible rejection and learn from it instead of beating yourself up. Take the view that you're going to have a chat with her, see what happens and have no expectations.  Now that you know women women act on their eemotions motions it is ver very y important that you get in touch with how she is feeling quickly. The good news is, though, that you can deliberately get her into certain emotional places with specific proven techniques. There There is a scientific way that outlines how to pull girls using emotional/psychological techniques. Spend the necessary time to learn how to pull girls and then  practise what what you've learned. learned. Rome was n not ot built in a d day! ay! The key to getting more dates is to give women what they want. You do this by developing an understanding of how they think and what motivates them into action i.e. their feelings. The science behind the knowledge of how to pull girls lies in understanding how the think and especially how they feel. However, you get out of life what you put into it and this is no exception. Put in the work and you will see amazing results.

 

You will know what women want and you will be able to give it to them.

Final words from SIMON SPENCER 

Thank you for taking the time to read this ebook. I hope you enjoyed it and learnt something. Now it’s time to take action and put this information into action. Remember, the game is  played in the field . Lets get out out of the house house and start approaching. I wish you all the success in the world and more hot girls in your life everyday. If you wish to contact me for coaching, to attend my live events and or other enquiries then please visit my website www.authenticmensclub.com Or email me at [email protected] Copyright © 2015 by Simon Spencer. All rights reserved.