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The Mark - January 2014 Issue

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Celine Allen, SRC president-elect

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Celine Allen and Kyle Kirkegaard were elected President and Vice President of the Students’ Representative Council on Friday, overcoming a competitive �eld of candidates, navigating the dated SRC campaign policies, and engaging 68 percent of the student body. Ms. Allen, serving as the 6th SRC President, and Ms. Kirkegaard, serving as the 5th SRC Vice President, will be the �rst female duo to hold the positions concurrently. “Of course, it means a great deal to me to have been elected... I am very grateful for the opportunity to give back to this community.” said Allen afer learning the election results. Kirkegaard expressed a similar sentiment. “It means a lot to me coming from such a vibrant and diverse

community, I am truly honoured,” she said. While the percentage of the electorate engagement fell from 70 to 68 percent, the 368 total student votes surpassed last years vote total by 71 votes. Receiving support from 69 percent of the votes, Allen won decisively in the �rst round. Te path to victory for Kirkegaard was narrower, but still commanding. Winning in the second round when garnering 51 percent of the  votes. Te similarities between the two go deeper than their decisive victories. In equally eloquent, concise, and conservative campaign speeches, Allen and Kirkegaard outlined comparable visions for next year’ year’ss SRC. Both lobbied for increased student engagement, continued support of currents clubs, and were forthright in their hesitancy to promise big changes.

During Tuesday’s candidate debate and Q&A, Allen alluded to the ambiguous campaign policies when I asked which Vice Presidential candidate she would prefer to work with next year: “I don’t think, with how restrictive our election campaign rules are, I should be using this stage to proclaim any Vice Presidential candidate at this time.” Afer the election, Allen clari �ed her points of issue with the current campaign policies: “Like many other aspects of the current constitution, the campaign policies are a relic of a time when the campus population was much smaller. Te voting process for the SRC are in the midst of being re�ned - Addressing the issues in the campaign policies is the focus of one of the 56 constitutional amendments proposed by current SRC President,

Graham Fischer. Structurally, this year the voting process shifed from manual to automated. “Te new electronic voting system functioned very well overall. Hopefully the Ministerial elections in a couple of months can run as smoothly.” said Andrew Luba, head of the Elections Committee. On the subject of being the �rst female duo to head the SRC, Allen avoided politicizing the point: “While I am excited to work with Kyle, I do hope that the fact that we are the �rst female SRC executive does not mean something signi�cant to Quest. Us both being female has no bearing on how we will run the SRC next year.” Kirkegaard and Allen will assume their positions afer graduation, on April 28th.

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SRC President Graham Fischer’s substantial set of constitutional reforms will �nally be put to a vote in the �rst week of February. Te referendum comes afer a sixweek delay due to a disagreement between Fischer and Quest University Canada President David Helfand over the scheduling of the vote. Fischer presented the 60 page slate of amendments to the public on the 29th of November, the �rst Friday of December block, with intentions of holding a vote in the third week of that block. Helfand’s heavy workload meant that he could not review the document in full in two weeks. Combined with Fischer’s condensed schedule, this resulted in Helfand threatening to send an all-school email imploring students not to vote on any of the amendments. Recounting his initial shock at receiving Fischer’s extensive document, Helfand noted, “I said to him [Fischer], “I c an’ an’tt possibly review these. these.””

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ments as they stood in December. “Some amendment doesn’t bene�t me, it bene�ts I couldn’t stop him from holding the vote [of the clauses] had already been amended students in the future. So I recognize David but I would send out the all-student email.” and there were only two that I had substan- [Helfand]’s charge that it’s a double-edged Fischer initially believed that Hel- tial issues with. In both cases, we discussed sword, but I think it’s for the best. b est.” fand took issue with the autonomy clause, wording that would �x the problems I had Any student can introduce an otherwise known as Amendment Five, Arti- with them,” said Helfand. amendment to the Constitution, and both cle One in the document. He presented this Helfand also noted several of the Helfand and Fischer off er er advice on how to as the reason for the delay a public meeting amendments that he believed were unwise, best go about it. Helfand encouraged stuheld on 9th December 2013. “It turns out including the clauses that solidify funding dents to submit amendments to the Dean that afer meeting with him [Helfand] in for Te Mark and the Emergency First Re- of Students an entire block and block break January that he really just wanted more time sponse Team, adding, “It’s a good idea that before attempting to run a referendum. to read the whole package himself,” he said. we have a student newspaper, but it’s a terriFischer emphasized the imporHelfand’s responsibilities as Presi- ble idea to have a dollar amount in the con- tance of long-term thinking, adding, “One dent of the University forced his �rm reac- stitution for any organization. Constitutions of the toughest challenges is to try and make tion. “I told Graham that my responsibility should be procedural.” positive change and some people won’t is to protect the insurance and legal status Fischer stood by his decision to ce- agree with that change…but always keep of the University and the way that they [the ment funding for the aforementioned insti- those students in the future in mind. Tat’s amendments] are worded is unacceptable. tutions, emphasizing in regards to Te Mark what I’ve tried to do.” do.” I can’t just write any changes on the �y – I that, “I think there is an inherent value in a need to speak to stakeholders �rst,” he said. s aid. media organization on campus… My goal is  More coverage of the Constitu Constitutional tional Amendto provide the basic funding necessary that ments will follow online next block Te two Presidents sat down for a lengthy meeting in early January to hash would allow a media organization to surout issues Helfand had with the amend-  vive on campu campuss well past past my time here. here. Tis THE MARK [email protected]/52A5 <[email protected]*2B C/D5E(E/)  9*8323 9,*2*76 #56789:;6<;4=6>?  !()* "+(,* - &(./ 01*23 $>@: #56789   "4/55(6,)7  "4/55(6 ,)7 !/)5*86* .A6<68< #56789  94*5/ 0:)*;6/)  !97: B<5 4CD7C9> #56789  <(4/(3 '/(6 #56789;B7;DB9E> =)(, >4//5

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While a strong culture of enthusiasts in British Columbia treat cannabis as a socially acceptable substance much like alcohol, recreational use of the drug remains illegal province wide and cannabis possession is a criminal off ence. ence. BC drug policy aims to protect citizens from using unsafe substances, but the present disparity between policy and popular culture may be detrimental to safe drug use, especially at Quest where experimentation is common. Teoretically, an outright ban on drugs discourages usage and therefore limits people’s exposure to the negative e ff ects ects of some substances. But in reality this approach is wedged by many British Columbians’ willingness to experiment nonetheless, and many people feel marijuana is a positive thing in their lives and rationalize their usage even though it’s illegal. Whether or not the province should prevent BC residents from using drugs, the stigma associated with using marijuana and other drugs limits exposure to correct procedures, facts, and safety awareness because people avoid openly associating with illegal activity. Tird year Quest student Lian Zeitz says that the diff erence erence between marijuana policy and culture creates a space where people don’t receive guidance and support, especially in the socially liberal university environment. “Sharing secrets and going against the system is a really good way to bond,” says Zeitz. “Since creating

connections with people is part of university and drugs are an unacceptable avenue for this which is not discussed, these activities will not necessarily happen correctly and safely. Legality would provide the opportunity for discussion and for this secrecy to be confronted.” Te recent legalization of cannabis in Colorado will be an indicator as to whether liberal drug policy can counteract this lack of safety awareness by harmonizing cannabis culture and government policy. In September 2013, Te Colorado Enforcement of Revenue published a Marijuana Enforcement Division outlining rules to govern businesses, cultivating, and selling retail marijuana regarding factors like product safety, marketing, and preventing sales to minors. Colorado’s actions have prompted other states to reconsider their drug policy. Former medical marijuana opponent New York Governor Andrew Cuomo’s 2014 Agenda pledges to “launch a Medical Marijuana Program to Research the Feasibility of Medical Marijuana in New York State,” which will help guide future drug policy. British Columbia’s Sensible BC Campaign also attempted to change cannabis policy last year by collecting 200,000 signatures across the province, just short of the 300,000 needed for a referendum to decriminalize marijuana in BC. Sensible BC board member Dana Larson feels that the misalignment of cannabis policy and culture in BC is not conducive to the safety of both users and society as a whole. “Prohibition

December block saw the construction of Quest’s own recording studio, a substantial step forward for the University’s creative community. Michael Powell and Aaron Feicht, two third-year students who worked on the project as an Independent Study, have almost completed the studio with just a few �nal touches needed prior to its opening during February block. Te studio, which is located on the 3rd �oor of Red Tusk, was funded by the SRC and the Arts Council, who provided $6,100 and $3,000 respectively. Te Red Tusk room was only designated to become a recording studio over the summer. Powell and Feicht found out about the plan in September and seized upon the opportunity. From that point on, they worked with their advisors and the funding organizations to make the creating of the recording studio an independent study. Feicht commented on the process of working with their advisors, Colin Bates and Jeff  Warren,  Warren, saying

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in general has a negative eff ect ect on safety,” he says. “When the average person doesn’t Te Mark reporter Jon Farmer caught up with see marijuana as a [�nable off ence] ence] but the Quest alumna Kirsty Graham in mid-Januthe  �nal nal weeks before her  �  �rst rst trip to police do, you get disrespect for law enforce- ary in the � ment, which makes it a lot harder for police the Democratic Republic of the Congo as a  post-graduate  post-gradua te researc researcher her.. to enforce the law against other crimes.” A Quest student that wishes to What are you doing now?  remain anonymous says this unfortunate I’m doing my PhD at the School of Psycholmisalignment of perspectives also demotes ogy and Neuroscience at the University of safety on campus. “For instance, I have a St Andrews. My supervisor is Prof Richard Byrne, and my topic is ‘Gestural communidependency on pot,” the student says. “But cation of wild bonobos’ bonob os’. this is not necessarily something I would be comfortable discussing with anyone af- What was your Question?  My Question at Quest changed quite a lot, �liated with the administration because it’s illegal. Tis creates silence rather than open- starting as ‘What is cognition?’ and I think eventually moving onto ‘How can studying ness.” animal cognition and behaviour help to inAt the University of Victoria, stu- form conservation policy?’ I just kept adddents show their dissatisfaction with cur- ing words! rent cannabis policy with a weekly public demonstration. Fifh year UVic student How did you end up in this program?    I ended up at St Andrews afer working Harold Hejazi attends the 420 club demon- with bonobos as a �eld assistant for the Max strations regularly. “We meet every Wednes- Planck Institute. Megan actually put me in day at 4:20pm on campus,” campus,” he says. s ays. “We sup- touch with Dick, my supervisor, and we port the aims of the Sensible BC campaign. corresponded while I was in the �eld in the However, our cause is only supported by a DRC. My combined �eld experience with my Keystone project and �eld assistant posmall number of students.” sition meant that I was able to move straight Even so, creating a culture that into a PhD without a Masters. talks about drugs is the only way to convince policy makers that we need safety awareness Do you miss anything about Quest?  which doesn’t condemn usage. “In a way, Most of all, I miss jam sessions. And I really miss my roommates. Quest can de�nitely senior students have the duty to guide in- feel like a bubble, but I think something you coming students on how to act safely with don’t appreciate until you leave is that you drugs,” says Zeitz. “ Trough mentorship can approach absolutely anyone and have an and camaraderie, these issues could be tack- insightful conversation. I’m �nding that intellectual community at St Andrews too, but led.” elsewhere I sometimes forget that not everyone is equally stoked to talk about French existentialism and quantum physics and Central African politics and rock climbing. Treasure it!

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“Tey were great with letting us do our thing and trusting us.” As academic grounding for the credit, Powell and Feicht said they had to study engineering and architecture as well as learn more about the computer programs that powered the recording process. Powell says he was happy to have the project taken seriously and to receive credit for the process. proc ess. “Aaron “Aaron and I are much more competent at the actual process of recording. Tat will be valuable to teach other people and work with other people.” When the studio officially opens in February, Powell and Feicht will allow students to sign up to record during speci�c work-study hours. Powell or Feicht, or possibly other work-study employees who have been trained in using the studio, will help get students set up and then return a fer a few hours to make sure everything is in order and locked up. Powell said that this was not the original plan, and that they “imagined it being much more accessible than the school is saying it that should be.” However, he

was understanding, noting that the school planned on running classes using the studio in the future, and wanted the equipment to be safe and the studio in good condition. One potential class that would use the space is a songwriting class taught by Jeff  Warren  Warren proposed for next year. Additionally, the new Quest radio could potentially use the recording studio for their programs, though discussions are still ongoing as to how that would work. Powell and Feicht also expressed interest in doing workshops related to the diff erent erent aspects of recording, speci�cally learning how to use the professional-level programs like Apple Apple’s ’s Logic Pro. Te two students are excited about the possibilities the recording studio brings to Quest musicians and artists. “Wee know a bunch of other peo“W ple who are eager to get in here and get their sound out. We can actually get a good sound and get cool original music coming from Quest,” said Powell. Feicht added, “It’s nice that we actually have space for pe ople to create the best that they can.”

neighbor) notes “ongoing problems with teenagers that hang out under the bridge” and chides both the Mayor and Squamish Council for inaction. A subsequent Squamish Chief article posted on the publication’s website January 22nd reported that the municipality had issued a stop-work order to the builders, who are led by Stuntwood skate shop owner Mike Quesnel. Te bridge has long been known in the neighborhood as a place for drug and other illicit activity, and in the summers there have been frequent complaints of loud, bon�re centered parties in the location where the skate ramp now stands. True or not, skate parks are in many communities known as centers for “sketch “sketchy” y” activity where drugs, cussing, and �ghts are believed to be the norm. But a rebuttal letter written by

Quest alumni Oliver Snow, who led the charge for Pemberton’s �rst skate park and is now a Squamish local, cautions to jumping to quick conclusions. Not all skateboarders are drug-addled partiers, and Snow says that aspect of the sport and surrounding culture is in decline. What skaters need are more spots to skate, and in this case, the municipality is getting one for free. Says Snow, “the Sea-to-Sky used to be home to one of the most iconic spots in the world of skateboarding (in an abandoned shack on the shores of Britannia Beach) but it’s gone…this could be the next ic onic spot.” Quesnel has vowed to plow forward through the red tape, but the opposing camps remain divided on the issue of the ramp – consider contacting a district representative to voice your opinion.

What’s your favourite part about your current program?  It’s kind of the dream job – reading cool articles, conducting �eld research, writing about things that interest me, having coff ee ee with my academic idols, attending seminars and discussion groups across departments. I’m really excited to go back to Wamba and itching to get some data to work with! How does the work you’re doing now compare to your time at Quest? Quest was pretty self-directed, but this takes it to the next level. I’m setting all my own deadlines and deciding how to structure my working days. Imagine doing your Keystone project for 3 years. Is there anything you wish that you had learned more of during your time at Quest?  So at Quest, you don’t really learn how to say ‘No’ when you’re too busy. You keep on trucking like a superhuman. I’m not sure if it’s something that can be taught, but I can picture a lot of Quest students in the same situation aferwards, working out how much is possible without burning out. Do you have any advice for students considering a PhD?  Take time to �nd a great supervisor. Tis is the person you’re going to be working with for the next several years of your life, so it’s important not just to share research interests, but to actually get along. My supervisor is wonderful and supportive, and I could tell that from the weekly emails he sent me for the entire year leading up to my PhD. And for me, that’s more important than the program.  If you could tell your � your  �rst rst year Quest self one thing: what would it be?  “Remember that time you told Erica you wanted to work with gorillas in Rwanda? Well guess what…” CORRECTION: Te print version of “Basketball Nationals Coming In March” states that the Quest Kermodes qualify for nationals because of their position in the league. Tey actually qualify because they are hosting the event. Tey are currently ranked 9th in the nation.

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1(4# 2(""!*# G$II"#M MJNCK Over the past few months, students have encountered an abundance of house mice making themselves at home, in the residence buildings. While cute and fuzzy to some, the critters are damaging the facilities, posing a health risk to students and breeding at shocking rates. Te problem isn’t new at Quest, but just how dire is its current state? I tracked down victims of these these encounters, and grilled Jason Wright, Quest’s Maintenance Manager, to �nd out. Wright explains the concern, “the young are born about 19 days afer breeding, and a female can have as many as 8 litters per year of 5-6 young. If its lef unchecked, it could be come quite a problem.” For one student who wishes to remain nameless, it has already become ‘quite a problem’. “In October/November, October/Novemb er, I found a nest in my [car’s] trunk,” she stated. “[I found one] again ([in] the last few weeks). I’ve had to put mouse poison in my car... [It was] very frustrating frustrating and gross. I also don’t leave food/anything in the car, so I don’t know why it happens so much.” Wright points out how skilled the critters are at what they do. “As it gets cold out, the mice want to migrate inside. Tey can �t in an area that is one quarter of their body size; any small crevice, pipe, under dry wall, or propped open doors.” doors.” And this is certainly true. On Jan-

Men’s Basketball Head Coach, commented, “the atmosphere that can generated in a smaller gym – its better to have 600 people in a 650 seat capacity rather 600 people in a 1500 seat capacity – its kind of what we sold them on so they were excited about that and they waived [the seat requirement] so we could be the hosts.” Fourth-year student-athlete, Jose Colorado, voiced some concerns about how the additional seating might aff ect ect the atmosphere at future home games. “What will we do with all those bleachers afer nationals? [Te gym] is going to be nowhere near packed during home games.” Shook, on the other hand, noted that “right now on campus, anytime we want to have more than 100 people, we don’t have anywhere to go […] Tis may be the one place that we could actually hold the number of people we need to for bigger events.” In addition to future concerns, there have been some current issues with the disruption of intramurals as well as pouary 6th the maintenance team �xed my condo’s broken washing machine, and extracted a so apy apy,, sopping wet sucker from its drainage pipe. An unveri unveri�ed rumour suggests that this has already happened se veral times this year. But possibly most shocking, is the abundance of mice witnessed in North and South Villages, and their indiscriminate travels. “We had mice upon our return from Christmas break, break,”” states Mackenzie Seagram. “I caught two on North �rst,” she notes, proudly. “I’m on the third �oor of south  village, and so it’ it’ss weird that the mouse [we had] made it all the way up from the �rst �oor,” remarks Gina Markle. “Te mice don’t care about �rst �oor, second �oor. If they’re in the building, they will make their way through the infrastructure,” Wright states. Roommates Ilias Benamirouche and Christian Crawford have also experienced the fallout. Te pests chewed up their toilet paper rolls and le f droppings in their suit. “W “Wee submitted formal requests requests [for maintenance to �x the problem] (and laughed at the mouse that had drowned itself in the toilet,” Crawford explained. Maintenance came and set traps for the boys, but only the drowned casualty was collected. On January 8th, one trespasser had the audacity to crawl into bed with student, Caleah Dean. “I was just just sitting in bed watching a movie when I heard

tential safety hazards presented by the remodel. For example, fourth-year student, Day-Dreamers, ers, Jacob Smith, was playing intramural basket- Dear Globetrotters, Daredevils, and Day-Dream ball when he “went up for a lay up and land- To showcase the diversity of experiences Quest students ed in a pile of scrap metal.” are delving into while abroad, Te Mark is happy is to Shook commented that the sched- introduce our newest column, Te View From Here. If re abroad, abroad, or soon to be, and and would like to contribcontribuling of the upgrades have been carefully  you’re ute to our most adventurous column, contact us at thethought out, with the initial upgrades being [email protected] done during the winter break, and the �nal upgrades during block break, when traffic in 9O"C '9<>9# the facility is lower, “I don’t think [the upgrade] has been as disruptive. Tere were In the few minutes I have, I can let you some stuff   on the baseline but […] we’re in on something profound that I have learned in cleaning it up and that was a matter of �ndmy time abroad from Quest. I learned that if you ing the time to do that.” don’t apply what you learn, you will hardly learn Despite these slight disruptions it at all. I have found this to be where academia there is much excitement in the community fails at teaching, and where the real world sucabout the upcoming nationals and the gym ceeds. upgrades. “I’m excited for when they put In Guadalajara, it wasn’t just the Spanthe new bleachers in. Being able to watch ish lessons that taught me the Spanish I now the game from all sides of the court makes know. It was going out with my teachers and for a really cool setting,” said second-year friends at night for some cervezas to put it all student-athlete Denzel Laguerta. “Te new into practice. In Ladakh, it was the fact that I was hoops and the new �ooring make the [Kersurrounded by one of the oldest and richest culmode Kave] one of the better facilities in the tures in human history that gave me the chance league.” to really switch from being a photographer to an something scratching next to my bed, she ethnographer. remembers. “I looked over and saw movemoveSeeing the beautiful, elusive Antarctic ment out of the corner of my eye---it was Snow Petrel dart over my head as I sipped on a the mouse running right across my bed, glass of scotch and looked out from the hot tub to over me,” she remembers. the moonlit mountains that surrounded the AkSo what is being done to procure ademik Ioff e, to later hear from one of the worlds the mice from extending their stay? “We top ornithologists that they have the largest olfachave a preventative pest control program tory lobes relative to brain size of any animal-in place, where a contractor comes in why? Because they they hunt in complete darkbi-weekly and updates his traps,” Wright ness during the antarctic winter and rely mostly informs me. “Its not pretty,” he admits, de- on their nose. brie�ng me on the rather gruesome proceTis is the kind of thing that will stick dure. “but you’re trying to get rid of a ver- with me forever. But I would actually say that the min in your living area. Tat’s why they try most useful knowledge I have acquired has come to keep it low key,” he explains. But is this from the application of working on this Aqualow-key system enough? ponic Urban farm here in Austin, Texas. Where Certainly not, according to our even the folks who work in biotech companies anonymous car owner with mice in her and occasionally come down to help with water trunk. “I was told that the school school would chemistry issues-- they even say that what they be taking care of it via exterminators before know now, they hardly knew during their underwinter break, but seeing as it’s happened grad and it was only until found an application again, I guess that didn’t work.” did they actually “learned” the material. And on that note, I have to get back to Wright concludes that this battle, is a slow work! See you all in March! one. “If the the available food sources outoutweigh the traps, the traps will be less successful.” He continues continues,, “students “students can mit- #$+.,1#$igate their own circumstance by keeping P)71 "Q their suits as tidy as possible and keeping set up a website, donatetoquest.com, where the food away away from [the mice].” Another donations can be made by credit card only. key component, he notes, is not propping Te website is expected to raise a total of open doors. Wright does not believe the $100,000 from approximately 600 donors. issue has gotten out of hand, but adds, “let “Wee currently have $23,535 from “W us know [if you encounter a mouse], so we the website, but that’s not the number I’m can do something. If it goes unchecked and looking at. I’m looking at the number of we don’t know about it, we can’t do any- contributors because that’s a key sales pitch. thing about it.” Future donors want to know how invested

+!-($* !- OK#0 "CJCMFJN0  An anonymous anonymous student student gives us their perspective on dating at Quest just in time for Valentine’s Day. I’ve talked to my grandparents a lot about dating, relationships and all those other things that generations are supposed to talk about. One thing that they don’t understand understand is the way our generation dates; speaking with them I realize I don’t understand it either. It strikes me that our generation does relationships in two ways; on the one hand we don’t and just fuck around; on the other, we jump into serious things faster than people used to. Te �rst option, fucking around, is a luxury of birth control. Te availability of contraceptives and the social acce ptability of premarital sex have liberated us to pursue sex for recreation’s sake and that

leads assumptions and expectations that everyone is game. Don’t Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. It’s just my intention to point out that this changed the way young people do relationships. We can have the same fun without the consequences that inspired so many of my aunts and uncles’ marriages. Te second option, serious relationships, are what my grandparents refer to as ‘going steady’. Until I spoke with them I didn’t realize that the way we date isn’t the way it’s it’s have always been done. Tey’ve described these years to me as the time when young people are supposed to be ‘playing the �eld’. Tey don’t mean have lots of sex with everyone, they mean getting to know people. I’m not sure when it changed but it seems that somewhere in the years between their adolescence and mine it became less common for young people to go on casual dates with a variety of people. people. I wish that hadn’t changed. Tere are too many attractive,

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intelligent and good people around here that I want to get to know. Not that I want to sleep with all of them, although if it felt right I wouldn’t be against it, it’s more that I want it to be ok for me to show aff ection ection or interest without the assumption that we’re we’ re going to either fuck fuck or be a serious couple. I want to make friendships that leave that door open, I want to ask diff ererent people to dinner and have it be cool. Maybe other people already date like this, but from my experience it isn’t the majority. majority. Or this could be my own misconception and something I need to work on personally. But I’ve seen the same approach in other people and other relationships and I think most of us could use a change. I’m going to start asking people out to dinner or over for tea and a movie. I’m going to start dating like my parents and my grandparents did, well dressed and casually,, without the expectation of sex. casually I think it will be healthier. What do you think?

the faculty, parents, staff  and  and students are in the future of Quest University,” says Helfand. Te search for potential donors will begin in May, according to Helfand, and will last into the next academic year. Few public foundations exist in Canada, so the focus will be directed on smaller, family foundations. “Tey are more informal,” said Helfand. “Tey only donate when they �nd connections [to Quest].” Finding donors for the endowment fund can be hard because they must understand that the money will not be spent this �scal year, but rather over a longer period of time. Some of Quest’s current donors (including organizations that donate up to $250,000 each year) only donate money to be spent this year. Tis money cannot be used to build the endowment. “Money can be restricted. We ofen have to negotiate with donors to make those restrictions as broad as possible,” said Helfand.

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