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SECRETS
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craigslist

Conqueror
An Expert’s Guide to
Getting Laid Using Craigslist

Copyright © 2011 by Rooster Publishing. All rights
reserved. Printed in the United States of America.
No part of this book may be used or reproduced in
any manner whatsoever without written permission
except in case of brief quotations embodied in
critical articles and reviews. For information,
address: Rooster Publishing, 311 South Division
Street, Carson City, Nevada, 89703.

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idnight, more than an hour from home. On a work night. Driving north on the interstate,
a pack of 24 Trojan condoms on the seat next to me. Good God, what the hell was I
doing? Had I completely lost my mind? Yes, I definitely had. And yet nothing could keep
me from where I was going.
My destination: a girl. Of course.
I had never met her, never spoken to her on the phone, didn’t even know her name. In her emails
she called herself “H.” I assumed that was the first letter of her name, whatever it was, but it
didn’t really matter. All that did matter was that she was just about thirty minutes up the road now,
waiting to fuck me. And that was propelling me into the darkness.
I got to the cheap interstate motel she had found for us. I jumped out of the car with my prized box
of condoms, leapt across the hood Dukes-of-Hazard-style and bounded for door 109. A couple of
knocks and then the long wait of about ten seconds before the door opened.
And there she was. Short, blonde, slightly overweight and looking just as scared and excited as I
felt. Not exactly the stuff of centerfolds, but then again, not too shabby either.
“Hi,” she said. “Hi,” I said back, waiting for something to happen. After a long moment of staring
at each other in silence across the cheap motel threshold, hormones kicked in. I walked through the
door, closed and locked it behind me, pushed her against the wall and began kissing her hard as I
started undressing her.
My first Craigslist Conquest had begun …

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SOME IMPORTANT DISCLAIMERS:
There are dangers present on Craigslist (CL), physical, financial, moral and legal. Always be aware.
CL is not moderated. There is nothing stopping dangerous people from luring unsuspecting CL
users to a location where they will be robbed … or worse. CL is an active place for all types of
scammers who will try to steal your money. And even when you are successful in finding a woman
and getting her into bed, every single casual hookup carries with it the dangers of venereal disease,
unwanted pregnancies, an angry boyfriend, husband or ex who finds you with “his” woman, or the
possibility that you just bedded a stalker … or worse. There is also nothing stopping someone from
claiming they are over the age of consent when they really aren’t, which will put you in prison. The
author and publishers of this book take no responsibility for the results of your activities on CL, nor
with any of the people with whom you may interact. Be smart and ALWAYS watch your back.
This book is meant to help nice people find each other to have safe fun. Those who choose to use
any of the information in this book to cause injury, hurt others, ruin lives and break laws will be
hunted down and tortured until they literally beg to be put out of their misery once and for all. So
don’t do it.
This book and all connected projects are in no way affiliated with any business, company or other
business interest mentioned within these pages. We have no intention of infringing on trademarks,
copyrights, patents, business models or any other proprietary materials or ideas.

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Table of contents:
1. Why I wrote this book..................................................................................................6
2. Why Craigslist?.................................................................................................................13
3. What kind of man can score on craigslist?................................................20
4. The tools you’ll need to succeed on craigslist........................................25
5. How to answer or place an ad on craigslist...............................................31
6. The game strategy...........................................................................................................37
7. Building your communications strategy.......................................................47
8. Women and the power of their fantasies......................................................54
9. Writing your ads: creating success from your first word..............61
10. It’s not a conversation. It’s foreplay...............................................................81
11. Answering her post..................................................................................................110
12. The final hurdle and the first meeting!...................................................115
13. Spam, scams and other assorted douchebaggery.................................121
14. Achieving your more complicated fantasies...........................................138
15. The checklist of failure........................................................................................142
16. Important parting thoughts............................................................................145

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Why I Wrote This Book
I know, I know. You’re horny, you’re frustrated, and you want to find a woman. I used to be just
like you. Hell, in most ways I still am. The only difference between you and me is that I’ve spent
18 months exploring how to break the code on how to sleep with dozens and dozens of women on
Craigslist. And I’ve been incredibly successful. More successful than I ever could have imagined.
And I’m about to teach you all of my secrets.
But first, because I understand what you’re looking for, let me tell you this: if you just want to go
straight to getting laid, go directly to Chapters 6-12 and start reading. Then log on to Craigslist and
use what I’ve taught you in those chapters. But then come back here to learn the rest. There’s a lot
of strategy involved in being a complete Craigslist success. And I think I have an intriguing story
that will keep you riveted. But I know you’re eager to start. Chapter Six begins on page 37.
So who am I? And why would you listen to anything I have to say?
Well, up until my mid-30s, I had only slept with a handful of women. Four to be exact. I was
overweight, balding, never considered particularly handsome or smooth and certainly not rich. I
had never been a ladies’ man, nor did I ever expect to be. But I was recently divorced, lonely, horny
and ready to experience all I could. And then I heard a news story about all kinds of unseemly
things happening in the personals section of Craigslist. So I decided to take a look. After all, I was
sad, lonely and had nothing better to do. And what did I find?
Post after post by women looking for a man. Some wanted a quick hookup. Some wanted a longterm relationship. But they were all there, looking for someone. And best of all, the entire personals
section was completely free to use. It was completely free to answer posts, and completely free to
place posts! There was no risk in trying, and hey, I was lonely anyway.
It took me more than a week of answering ads posted by women before I communicated with
my first real woman via email, and it took another three weeks before I met and had sex with my
first Craigslist woman. But after I had accomplished it once, I knew there had to be some kind of
science or art to meeting more. It turns out I was right.

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After 18 months I had met more than150 women in person, and slept with more than 120 of them.
Just so you don’t have to do the math in your head, that averages out to one new conquest every
four or five days for a year and a half. And I wasn’t JUST having sex with them. I was living out all
kinds of long-held sexual fantasies too: all kinds of role-play, experimenting with BDSM (Bondage,
Domination, Sadism and Masochism), semi-public sex, having two or three women, individually,
in a 24-hour period and even engaging in several threesomes with two women at once. Some were
one-night stands, some were passionate relationships that lasted for months. And I met all kinds of
women, some of whom will probably be lifelong friends.
Yes, I was having great, great fun, living every man’s dream. But over that time, I was also reading
the Craigslist posts of other men who didn’t seem to be having quite my levels of success, watching
them posts ads like this:

So horny;) - m4w - 24 (Mesa)
Date: 2011-03-11, 5:30PM MST
Reply To This Post
Got a boner going on and I need to fuck rite Know!
I’m 24 6’4 Hispanic if this sounds like someone you
Would do hit me up. Hurry please lol;)

Once the women of Mesa learned this guy needed to “fuck rite Know” they didn’t come running to
service him? What’s wrong with the women of Mesa?

need pussy fast - m4w - 20 (central phx)
Date: 2011-02-14, 2:39PM MST
Reply To This Post
Looking for female no bi or gay guy ok thanks bye

He needs pussy fast! What woman could possibly resist a sales pitch like that?

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need pussy now - m4w - 38 (Scottsdale)
Date: 2011-03-02, 12:48AM MST
Reply To This Post
i need to fuck someone pussy right now. i can come to you. email me back if ur horney ;)

Look, ladies! He will even COME TO YOU! Why aren’t you responding??? What more does a guy
need to say? Maybe if instead of full-blown sex, he was just asking for a blow job?

Head - m4w - 20 (Red mountain MCC)
Date: 2011-03-16, 10:06AM MST
Reply To This Post
email me and lets get this done white DDF 20 5’9 6 IN
today would be great :D

Still not buying it, ladies? Okay, what if there was more of a narrative behind his need for a blow job?

woke up with a woody - m4w - 20 (28th ave peoria)
Date: 2011-03-11, 8:55AM MST
Reply To This Post
Any lady want to fuck right now
I can host too
Pic for pic and stats
Put your favorite color on subject mine is red
FEMALES ONLY

(Penis picture redacted)
He even included a picture of his penis, which I have spared you here. Still no replies, ladies?
Maybe this one was a bit too young for you. Or you just didn’t like his verbiage. Let’s have an

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older man try it with slightly different wording and a picture of a different penis …

Need my morning wood sucked away......... - m4w - 35 (North
Phoenix)
Date: 2011-03-13, 9:04AM MST
Reply To This Post
Woke up hard and horny and looking for a nice BJ before heading into work. Must be clean and very discrete......put BJ
in the subject line to weed out spam....

(Penis picture redacted)

Still nothing, ladies? Really? If someone doesn’t answer one of these ads soon, these guys are
going to start posting ads like this:

this fucking sucks - m4w - 22 (Phoenix)
Date: 2011-02-04, 8:23PM MST
Reply To This Post
fuck this craigslist sucks it’s nothing but fucking spam not one real woman here

CL doesn’t work - m4w - 30 (Spamville)
Date: 2011-02-23, 7:19PM MST
Reply To This Post
I guess Craigs List sucks ... it’s full of spammers ....

It’s time to stop the madness. There are real women on Craigslist who want to have real sex with

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real men. All you need to do to get them to respond is to know how. That is why I wrote this book,
and I assume that is why you’re reading it.
Who this book is written for
As I observed how other men were approaching women on CL and failing again and again, I knew
someone needed to write a book to help all the horny men on CL actually succeed with all of the
horny women. Since nobody has done that yet, the job fell to me. So this book is for you, horny men.
While Craigslist certainly provides a comfortable online destination for people of all stripes (men,
women, heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, lesbian, transgendered, etc.) I am a heterosexual man
whose experience only involved the search for women. My assumption is that, in reading this book,
you are looking for anything from a variety of one-night stands to a more consistent relationship
with one or more women. If you’re looking for something different, you will still find ideas in this
book to help you in finding partners on CL, although some of what I write here will not apply.
Now, there are a million ways to fail when you’re trying to use the Craigslist personals to meet
women. I have found one way that succeeds, and it succeeds repeatedly in the most amazing ways
with the most beautiful, sexy and intelligent women. My way is easy, but it’s not simple. There are
important rules and strategies. It’s like fishing. Any guy with a fishing pole can show up at a body
of water and start casting. And every once in a while, he may actually catch some kind of fish, even
if it’s the type of fish he didn’t really want. But the experienced fisherman understands the fish; he
knows the different types of fish that he can find at certain spots, he knows when they’re hungry
and when they’re not. He knows what bait will work best for each kind of fish. And he knows how
to catch the maximum amount of fish with the minimum amount of effort. That is what I will show
you how to do in this book. Only instead of fish, we’re looking for women. It’s going to be fun!
This book is not meant to be a how-to for all sections of Craigslist. If you’re looking for help in
using the CL sections that don’t involve dating and sex, you can easily find books that explain that
in bookstores and at sites like Amazon.com.
So what exactly are the CL personals?
In case you haven’t heard, Craigslist (or CL) is a site originally created by Craig Newmark in
1995 for the San Francisco area as an online community bulletin board. Today it has grown into
a worldwide phenomenon in which anyone can connect with people in their area to sell almost
anything, announce a public event or meet likeminded others for any number of reasons. More than
55 million people log on to CL every month. Of course, meeting for casual sexual encounters is the
most popular reason for people to meet through CL. And CL has become the single most-visited
site for casual sexual hookups on the entire internet. I’ll explain why in the next chapter.

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I

took a right turn, pulling into a quiet residential neighborhood, coming to a stop in front of the
third house on the right.

“I’m here,” I texted. “What’s your address?”
“Wait there, coming to you,” came the reply.
She came around from a house on the left. Her hair was a little shorter than in the pictures she sent
me, but it was definitely her. She waived. I waived back as I hit the unlock switch on the car’s center
console. She walked around the car, opened the passenger door, dropped into the seat and closed
the door. “Hi,” she said, leaning in.
I leaned in too, closed my eyes and kissed her slowly, passionately. I felt her hands, one on my
chest, the other in my lap. I reciprocated with one hand gently on the back of her neck, the other
finding its way up her skirt. As my fingers found what they were looking for, she sighed, leaned the
seat back and spread her legs farther apart.
“Hi. It’s nice to meet you,” I whispered.
“Thank you for coming to get me,” she whispered back breathlessly. “My girlfriend has my car
today.” With that she moved my hand, pulled her skirt to the floor, and put my hand back between
legs, which was where most of my consciousness was now focused. Yet she had made a comment
that was quickly forming a question in my mind:
“Uh … your girlfriend?”
“Yeah. I’m a lesbian,” she breathed. “You know that, right? This will only be my second time with
a guy.”
“Oh.”
With that thought burning a path through my brain and my right hand firmly ensconced between

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her legs, I turned the steering wheel hard with my left hand, making a sudden U-turn and heading
back to my place. We could be there in less than twenty minutes if I drove fast enough …

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Why Craigslist?
You’re a busy single man. You’re tired of being alone. And there is an entire world of online dating/
sex sites to explore to find either the woman of your dreams or a woman to take care of your
immediate needs.
So you investigate your typical dating/sex site. You log on, look around and see there are hundreds
of women local to you, most of them rather hot, so you pay your $30-$40 and you join for a month.
Then you start sending messages to women. And then you wait. After a couple of weeks, you’re
hopefully talking to one real woman, maybe even two. The conversations take the usual course all
online dating conversations do: what part of town you live in, where you’re from originally, the
makeup of your family growing up, favorite foods, favorite vacation destinations, prior marriages
and kids, what you do for a living and what you want out of a relationship. Once you’ve spent a
week getting through all of that information, she’s hopefully ready to meet. So you meet for coffee
somewhere. If you’re lucky, at the end of that meeting you get a quick kiss, but you’ll probably
just get a hug. Then a second meeting, a real date, for dinner somewhere and the opportunity to
spend more time and money. And if that goes well, there will be more dates, more time and money
spent, and still no sex. And, if you play your cards right, you may get laid after just four or five
weeks of sending emails, going on dates and selling yourself. But to what kind of buyer? Even if
the site is more devoted to finding sex partners than to traditional dating, the sex is very, very rarely
immediate. And the women tend to be looking for something more long term than a
casual encounter.
Or you could decide to get all dressed up, go to a bar and buy overpriced drinks for the limited
number of women there, each of whom you have little chance of taking home that night.
Either way it’s a lot of time and energy. And if you pursue women the way I used to, with frequent
drinks, dinner and entertainment, that’s a lot of money too.
Or … you could be using Craigslist casual encounters. You get on CL and browse the w4m ads.
You answer any that are recent, seem real and appeal to you. Then you post an ad or two of your
own, turn on some ESPN and wait for responses. As you’re waiting, you continue to monitor the

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latest posts by women. And then, after 45 minutes, you get a nibble either to a post you responded
to or to an ad you posted. The email conversation begins: what are you looking for tonight? Let’s
trade pictures. Okay, we both think we each look acceptable. Will we be doing this at your place or
mine? Should we meet somewhere in public first? Do you have any diseases? What’s your address?
And suddenly, you’re preparing to get laid with a woman you didn’t even know existed earlier that
day. Even if she decides she wants to meet you in a public place, all you’re going to have to do is
buy her a drink, spend 15 minutes having a polite conversation and manage to not come off as a
potential axe murderer. And the whole exercise took only a few hours from the time you signed on
to CL until you were naked with a woman.
The considered purchase versus the impulse buy
Marketers have long understood that people buy different types of products in different ways.
Some purchases require some thought, maybe some research. Others are “impulse buys.” Consider
a woman at a grocery store. In the cereal aisle she picks up a brightly colored box. She reads the
contents, checks the calories, maybe the amount of sugar and the price. She puts that box back on
the shelf and picks up a different brand, repeating the process. Finally she makes her choice, puts it
in the cart and moves on to the next aisle. The next time she’s in this aisle, she may simply buy the
same brand again, or you may see her examining multiple brands before making her choice. This is
a considered purchase for her.
But watch that woman when she gets to the checkout line. She grabs a pack of gum and throws it
on the conveyor belt. No real examination of contents, price or anything else. She grabs it and the
decision is made. This is an impulse buy.
It’s the same way with online dating/sex sites. The traditional sites are set up to make you a
“considered purchase” for her. You answer questions. You fill out compatibility surveys. You
write essay questions about who you are and what you want. You give them more information
than even the IRS would ask you. By the time she writes her first word to you, she knows: your
height, your body type, your eye color, your hair color, your age, your birth date, whether you’ve
ever been married, if you have any kids, whether they’re living with you, what part of town you
live in, your hobbies, your pets, the industry you work within, what you like to do on a date and
a variety of other things you may choose to share about yourself. On some sites she even knows
all of your sexual proclivities and/or your yearly salary. She approaches that site with a long-term
plan: she joins, she carefully fills out everything, and then starts reading the notes she gets from the
thousands (yes, thousands) of men trying to get her attention, with the intention of studying each
one, and responding to the ones that seem like great prospects. She then starts going out on dates
with the expectation of finding the perfect long-term partner.
The very fact that a dating/sex site presents so much information about you to a potential date
creates the assumption that all of this information is important in finding a date and needs to be
taken into account. I mean, honestly, do you really care about her eye color or what she does for
a living? No. But she is paying careful attention to every bit of information she sees on you, and
making judgments with each new factoid.

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So you have already been examined, probed and investigated before she even bothers to
communicate with you. And if you’re almost her perfect match, except you’re an inch shorter than
she’d like, or she’d really like to find someone with a different eye color, she moves on without so
much as a hint that she might have been interested. Most women know they can find someone a
little more perfect if they just keep looking. She owes it to herself to be picky!
But CL is the ONLY effective place online where you can position yourself as her “impulse
purchase.” She finds herself at home and bored, probably a little horny, so she gets on CL to see
who she can meet and have fun with tonight. Yes, there is a pretty good chance she’d rather be in a
completely satisfying long-term relationship right now, but it takes a great deal of time and effort
to get to that point, and she wants to have some fun tonight. It’s time for her to grab an impulse
purchase and put it on the checkout counter!
So now, she has no need to see a full explanation of who you are and what you are all about. You
don’t have to commit yourself to a single deep exposition into your heart and soul that every
woman will read, contemplate and judge. Now, when you’re on CL, you are just the words crafted
in a response to her post, specifically for that woman to see. Or you are the words in your own ad,
created to appeal directly to one kind of woman who will read what you have written and react
with an email telling you she is interested, and interested NOW. With each communication, you
will position yourself as exactly the man she was looking for tonight. She wants to go grab a drink
at that new bar that opened up and then “see what happens from there”? What a coincidence! You
were already planning on going there tonight! She needs someone who can please her orally over
and over all night long? Perfect! That’s your specialty! She wants someone she can tie down and
use however she likes? Wonderful! You can even bring the rope!
Your long-term goals, your career, your history, everything she would focus on if you were a
considered purchase, it’s all irrelevant. Because now you’re an impulse buy. Just be fun, honest and
safe, and you will get laid.
To sum it up:
All other dating sites: atleast 4-5 weeks of work, much talking and cost to finally get to the sex. And
once you do, you’re now dating a woman who believes you’re at least somewhat committed.
CL casual encounters: a few hours of work, maybe the cost of a drink, then casual, no-strings sex.
Additionally, keep in mind that traditional dating/sex sites serve the entire United States, and some
serve the entire world. While you may find hundreds of women near you on a traditional site, none
of the traditional sites are exclusively made up of women in your area, so your search is usually
complicated by figuring out the geography of each woman on the site. Plus, because traditional sites
find little benefit in eliminating profiles that have been inactive for months or years, even when you
do identify the perfect “local” woman, she may never come back to that site to read your messages.
But there are no profiles on CL. Just ads posted every few minutes. And each CL site is provided
exclusively for one and only one city/area. So everyone will be local to you.
Not that traditional paid dating/sex sites don’t have a lot to offer. Your soul mate may not be the

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type of woman who would ever consider trying a casual hookup. I don’t want to portray CL as the
perfect solution for all of your dating needs, because it may not be. If you want to get laid, quickly
and efficiently, you will accomplish that on CL. And if you want to look for your long-term soul
mate on a traditional site while you’re having fun with your casual hookups, that isn’t such a bad
idea. If you’re getting laid regularly with CL hookups, you won’t make the mistake of getting
serious with the wrong woman you meet in more traditional ways just because you need the sex.
When you’re proficient at using CL, it opens up your entire personal life, giving you a wide range
of options that didn’t exist before.
While this book is not about other dating sites, and it isn’t meant to create expertise on other dating
sites, some CL skills acquired through this book may offer insight and be useful if you choose to
explore other dating/sex sites. I have spent much time on most of the major dating/sex sites, and
each has its own rhythm, its own style and its own strategies. In my experience, however, none of
them offers the environment or the efficiency in exploiting opportunities that CL does.

CL etiquette and vocabulary
Like any other community, CL has developed its own culture and language. There is an etiquette to
meeting people on CL casual encounters.
- In replying to a woman’s post, only email once. If she doesn’t respond to your first email, she
won’t respond to the second, third, fourth or fifth.
- Don’t act like a creep, and don’t be a stalker.
- Respect the wishes of the woman posting. She has told you what she’s looking for, if you don’t
meet her minimum requirements, move on to the next post.
- Represent yourself honestly. If she’s going to (hopefully) get naked with you, she’s going to
eventually see what you look like. So don’t lie about any physical attributes and only send
pictures that are really you, taken recently. You don’t have to lie to get laid on CL, and you will
pay the price of embarrassment and frustration if you do.
There is shorthand that you need to know if you’re going to successfully navigate CL personals.
Here are some of the frequently used terms you should be familiar with:
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M4W = man looking for a woman
W4M = woman looking for a man
W4W = woman looking for a woman
T4M = transvestite looking for a man
MW4M = a man and a woman looking for a man
MW4W = a man and a woman looking for a woman
MWF = married white female
MBF = married black female
MHF = married Hispanic female
SWF = single white female
SBF = single black female
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DDF = drug and disease free (usually excludes marijuana)
420 = marijuana
Skiing = using cocaine
Snow = cocaine
BBC = big black cock
BBW = big, beautiful woman (Sometimes this means the woman is fat. Sometimes it only
means the woman THINKS she is fat.)
SSBBW = super-sized big, beautiful woman (This means she is undeniably fat.)
FWB = friends with benefits, a friendship with sex
Generous = the type of man a prostitute is actively looking for
Gurl = a man who wants to play the role of a girl
Hawt = it’s how the younger girls describe a very hot guy, as in “please be hawt”
Host = where the sex will happen, you host or she hosts
HWP = height/weight proportionate, often means “a little overweight, but wears it well”
In/out = incall/outcall, a prostitute who will host or will come to you
Dom = a dominant, someone who takes charge of a “sub” in the bedroom
Domme = a female Dom
Sub = a submissive who is dominated by a Dom or a Domme
LTR = long term relationship
NSA = no strings attached, a sexual hookup without commitments
Roses = money given to a prostitute, as in “I’m looking for 100 roses”
Kisses = money given to a prostitute
SB = sugar baby, a woman who has sex regularly with her “sugar daddy” for money
SD = sugar daddy, a man who pays a woman, his “sugar baby” for regular sex
Str8 = a man who acts straight but wants to have sex with men
CD = cross dresser, a man in a dress and makeup
TV = transvestite, again a man in a dress and makeup
Passable = a CD/TV who can pass for a woman in public
JO = jack off, masturbation
Bottom = man, transsexual or cross dresser who wants only to have a penis in his ass, generally
does not care to fuck anyone with his penis
Top = man, transsexual or cross dresser who wants only to put his penis in another man,

transsexual or cross dresser, generally does not want to be fucked
Vers = versatile, meaning a man who will be a top AND/OR a bottom
No recip = no reciprocation, usually used by people (men) offering to give you oral sex to
completion with nothing needed in return from you
Cuck or cuckold = a man who wants to be denigrated by another man as the other man has sex
with the cuck’s woman

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sat down at the table of the upscale seafood restaurant and waited. Five minutes.
Ten minutes … My cell phone rang. I picked it up.

“Sorry I’m late. I’m right outside. Are you already inside?”

“Yes. I have a booth in the back. Come on in. I look just like the picture I sent you.”
I stepped out of the booth to watch her as she came in. She ambled through the restaurant like she
was headed to the electric chair. She was probably the most awkwardly nervous person I had ever
seen – so nervous that it was hard to register much else about her.
“Hello,” she said, without looking me in the eye, putting out a small hand for a handshake.
“Hello,” I mirrored in my most businesslike tone. “Good to meet you.”
She slid into the booth, still not meeting my eyes.
I had to do something. “You know, you are one cool customer. I can’t even tell if you’re simply
nervous or if you’re the most nervous you’ve ever been in your entire life.” That got a slight smile
out of her. I paused, evaluated and decided to push further. “I am not going to have sex with anyone
who is this nervous. It would hurt my feelings. So can I get you drink? Some dinner? A fabulous
new car?”
A bigger smile. And this time she actually looked into my eyes for a moment. I decided to probe for
a clue as to what she needed. “So tell me, what’s going on?”
Silence. I studied her for a moment, waiting to hear anything. She was pretty. Asian. Mid-twenties.
Slim. Long, dark hair. She looked like she would be great fun in bed … if I was the type of guy who
didn’t mind having sex with a woman who obviously didn’t want to be there.
“You know, if you want to back out, it’s fine. I give you full credit for making it this far. But this is
supposed to be fun for both of us. I’m not here to torture you. Is there anything I can say that will
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Looking up for the second time, she met my gaze and held it. “Oral only.”
“You only want oral? Sure. That’s no problem at all.”
She relaxed a little. “You’ll eat my pussy? Then I’ll suck your cock?”
“Sounds like my kind of party!”
She smiled – genuinely this time – as the personification of nervousness before me transformed into
a real, live girl. “You’re good at eating pussy?”
“Oh yes.”
A bigger smile. “Good. Let’s go.”
I dropped a twenty-dollar bill onto the table, stood up and followed her out of the restaurant …

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What Kind of Man Can Score on CL?
Let’s be completely honest: if you drove a stylish Italian sports car, had the charisma of George
Clooney and the chiseled looks of a Greek god, you’d be too worn out from sleeping with NFL
cheerleaders and supermodels to even consider visiting Craigslist. I know that if I was any of those
things, I never would have bothered, but then this book wouldn’t exist.
So let me put this in bullet form so you won’t skim right past it. To succeed on CL:
- You don’t need to be great looking.
- You don’t need to be in excellent physical shape.
- You don’t need to be well endowed, sexually or any other way.
- You don’t need to be rich.
- You don’t need to have a great resume.
- You don’t need to be experienced in bed.
(Although, if you do fall into any of these categories, that will be very helpful!)
I’m average at best. Some women find me somewhat pleasant to look at. Others have made it clear
that “I’m not their type,” or in other words, I’m completely hideous to them. But that’s okay, at
least I have my Ivy League education and the resulting high-powered career … oh wait … I don’t
have those things either. I live in a pretty average apartment, and drive a below average car, making
it clear that I don’t have much money. And while my job does allow me to travel, I don’t have the
kind of career anyone would ever consider interesting, much less glamorous. Now that I think about
it, you are probably better suited to succeed on Craigslist than I am in every way.
Except for two things:
1. I’m good at testing every part of a system until it’s working perfectly.
2. I’m imaginative.
I’ve already put in all of the work so you don’t have to worry about creating and testing this system.
It worked for me, it’s worked for other men I’ve coached to great CL success, and it will work for
you too. As for being imaginative, use every bit of imagination you have and you will experience
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I know what you’re saying … using your imagination is hard. But it’s easier than getting ripped at
the gym, making a million dollars, or creating some kind of celebrity status for yourself. Do you
think you could manage just a little bit of creativity in order to get laid over and over again with
dozens of women?
I know you can.
There are four qualities you need to succeed on CL:
1. An imagination that will capture a woman’s attention
This is vital, and beginning with Chapter Six I will explain everything you need to know. Before we
get there, just understand this: the women who read CL personals are there to READ. So give them
something intriguing to read, something that stimulates their minds, makes you stand out among
all of the other guys – not simply all the guys on CL, but all the guys in their lives – and begins the
foreplay process from the first sentence. This applies whether you’re responding to a post or writing
your own.
2. Patience
You’re going fishing. And the challenge of fishing is that once you’ve found your spot, selected
your bait and cast your line, the rest is up to the fish. Some days they’re biting like crazy. Some
days it’s not even worth it to get out of the car. But any good fisherman will tell you: patience and
perseverance will eventually get you all the fish you can possibly eat.
3. Thick enough skin to accept rejection gracefully
Everyone is looking for something. You may be looking to get laid with a girl of any age, race or
shape. But at some point you will be trading emails with a woman who is seeking someone exactly
six feet tall, 195 pounds, blue eyes, dominant with an 8-inch cock and working in the healthcare
field. That may describe you perfectly, except that your eyes are brown. Oops, sorry, you’re not
what she’s looking for, and she’s not willing to settle. NEXT!
Accept the rejection with grace and kindness. DO NOT BE AN ASSHOLE OR A STALKER. It’s
bad karma, and you can develop a reputation; women talk amongst themselves. Plus you never
know when her taste in eye color may change. So say, “Thank you for your time. Best of luck in
your search.” Then move on to the next woman. She will appreciate your grace and may even
contact you a few weeks later with another opportunity to meet. It has happened to me more than a
handful of times!
The important thing is that you remember there are always more women waiting for you on CL. So
don’t get depressed. Move on …
4. Flexibility
It’s late at night and you’re tired, but you were hoping to find a woman to come over to your place
and have sex with you before you went to sleep. So you get on CL and, congratulations, you found
her!!! But she reveals after you’ve been emailing back and forth for 45 minutes that she doesn’t
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get laid? Or are you going to throw this fish back? Your answer will determine the extent of your
success on CL. I will promise you this: at least half of the women you will find on CL will offer
some inconvenience you have to deal with if you want to meet them. Usually that means you
must travel to see them when you wanted to host, or you must host when you didn’t want to invite
anyone over to your place. Flexibility is vital to your success.

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stopped for a moment to straighten my collar before I entered the bar. I looked up at the sky and
thought, if my heart wasn’t racing so fast, this would actually be a truly beautiful Sunday.

Checking my reflection in the bar’s storefront window, I decided I was looking as good as I was
going to that day. I took a deep breath, thinking I shouldn’t be this nervous since I’d already done
this nearly a dozen times, but I couldn’t deny the sound of blood rushing in my ears. “Fuck it,” I
mumbled to reassure myself, “I’m sure if my looks don’t scare her off, something I say will.” With
that calming thought, I reached for the door handle and gave it a pull.
My eyes scanned the inside of the neighborhood bar across the street from my home. It didn’t take
long to find her. Sitting on a barstool at the far end of the mostly-empty bar, there she was, just like
in the pictures she had sent me two hours before. But better. Way, way better. Tight, limber runner’s
body, long dark hair, olive skin, finishing off some kind of martini.
“Walk slowly and deliberately!” my brain screeched at my body, which had been preparing to
sprint to her. An eternity later I was standing next to her, returning her smile, sliding onto the
barstool next to her, trying not to look like a nerd nervously smiling as he slid onto a barstool.
“You made it,” I said through what I hoped she would believe was a confident grin.
“I did,” she smiled back.
“So, can I buy you a drink?”
“Just had one.”
“Oh. Can I buy you another?”
“No, no. I’m good,” she answered, as the day suddenly seemed far less promising.
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Then a moment of dead silence.
Trying to at least get a laugh out of this suddenly lost cause, I asked, “You want to come back to my
place then?”
“Okay,” she said as she slid off the barstool and took my hand, pulling me to the bar’s entrance.
We strolled out of the bar and into what was suddenly a magnificent Sunday afternoon …

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The Tools You’ll Need to Succeed on CL
You’re almost ready to start responding to posts and writing your own. There are just a few tools
you’re going to need first.
1. You’re going to need a good picture of your face. No, make that a great picture of your face.
One that really captures who you are. One that is recent. One that actually looks like you. One that
doesn’t obstruct your face with sunglasses or anything else.
The picture is your chance to show that you’re strong, confident, at least somewhat active and
attractive, and most importantly, NOT creepy. So be sure you’re smiling, and putting your best
foot forward.
Try a picture from a wedding or other formal occasion, where you’re dressed up and looking
your best. Or an action shot that shows some personality. Or a picture with yourself and a pet,
which will illustrate that maybe you’re not a creep, since you like animals. If you have any
pictures that various women (friends and family) have commented on in a positive way, consider
using one of those.
Do not use an old picture that shows you with less weight than you have now, more hair, etc.
There’s nothing worse than a woman deciding you’re her man for the night, then showing up and
deciding you don’t look anything like you did in your picture and walking away. Awkward!
If you don’t have the perfect shot right now, find or create the best you can and use that,
understanding that you’ll be limiting your success until you have just the picture you want. Find a
professional photographer if you must.
And if you’re squeamish about sending a picture of your face to strangers, then you need to
reconsider using CL at all. I believe it is nearly impossible to meet any women on CL without
sending a picture of yourself before your first meeting. Being unwilling to show your face will
tell women you have something scary to hide, and will scare away 99% of what could have been
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2. You’re also going to want to have a shot from farther away that shows more of your body.
You should be fully clothed in this picture (women laugh at men who send shirtless pictures)
but it should show that you have the majority of your limbs, and give a good indication of your
body type. Some women really love skinny guys, some love muscle guys, some love bigger guys
or “teddy bears.” Let the woman see what she needs to see to make her decision. Don’t worry,
whatever your body type is, there is a woman on CL looking for it.
Having said that, some women are going to want to see R-rated shots, X-rated shots and cock
shots. How far you’re willing to go in the pictures you’re sending out to strangers is a very personal
choice. I cannot advocate sending naked or even half-naked pictures to strangers, but by not having
these pictures, you will lose opportunities. It’s your choice to make.
3. You’re going to need at least two different email accounts that you will use only for CL. I
suggest creating new Yahoo Mail and Gmail accounts. At least one of each would be smart, because
many women you encounter will want to have a conversation via Yahoo Chat, but some will want
to use Google Chat. Both Yahoo Mail and Gmail are free and easy to use. Both also have decent
spam recognition, which will become helpful (as you will see in Chapter Thirteen). Both are webbased, so they can be discreetly accessed from any computer that has internet access, which at some
point will come in very handy, especially if you find yourself traveling a lot.
Positives of Yahoo Mail:
- It offers various suffixes (yahoo.com, ymail.com, rocketmail.com) which lets you mix up your
email aliases.
- Easy to use.
- Allows you to easily create multiple folders within your mail account to keep track of the
women you talk to.
- Yahoo IM is the most popular way of chatting among the CL women I’ve met.
Negatives of Yahoo Mail:
- Spam filter isn’t as strong as it could be.
- Yahoo tries to keep YOU from spamming others, so when you send a lot of emails through CL,
you may find yourself spending valuable moments entering in extra codes to prove you’re
not a spammer.
Positives of Gmail:
- Automatically groups all conversations with one person into one email chain, making your
inbox more manageable. This becomes rather valuable when you have multiple conversations
going on.
- Very good spam filter.
- Excellent search function for searching email addresses and even key words.
Negatives of Gmail:
- On sign in, Gmail often requires the use of a CAPTCHA, and usually not an easy one. This is a
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- Limited number of folders available to save old emails.
There are other forms of free webmail, and they all have their own pros and cons, but I have found
that the CL women I have talked with and met all over the country predominantly use Yahoo Mail
and Gmail. And using one of those offers you an immediate commonality.
I suggest naming each account with a certain persona in mind (I’ll explain more in Chapter Seven).
Do not use your real name in naming these accounts, or any other personal information – such as
your birth date or the year you were born – that would allow unscrupulous people to steal your
identity or identify you. Make sure you use these accounts only for CL use, never for work or any
type of financial transactions. I also suggest creating one unique password that will be the same for
all of the email accounts you use for CL. The more accounts you have, the harder it’s going to be to
keep it all straight, especially in the heat of the hunt.
4. You will need to open at least one CL account. CL accounts are completely free. Each CL
account is tied to one email account. I strongly suggest using the same password for these accounts
as you’re using for your email accounts. You don’t need a CL account to answer other people’s
posts, but you will need one to post your own ads. The challenge is that each account is limited to
only 5 posts in a 24-hour period, throughout all of Craigslist. And at times you’re going to want to
post a lot more than five posts a day. So that means you will need …
5. … multiple phone numbers with which you can discreetly receive a text or an automated phone
call. CL started verifying CL accounts in late 2010. This consists of giving CL a phone number
when you register for an account. They let you choose between receiving a text with a secret code
or having a computer call you with an automated voice that will tell you the code. If you have a
landline and a cell phone from which you can verify two accounts, I STRONGLY suggest you
use both. In fact, I suggest you verify as many CL accounts as you can get phone numbers for (I
think four accounts should be ample). I have experimented with services that give your cell phone
additional numbers for “free texting” in trying to register more CL accounts. As far as I can tell, CL
will not verify any of those numbers, but I don’t claim to be a technology expert, I may have been
doing something incorrectly. Feel free to try for yourself.
Keep in mind that the CL software is a little screwy, so a month or two after you verify an account,
you will have to verify it again with the same phone number. This is the most complicated part of
the entire CL process, I promise.
One more note: even if you can only get one phone number, and therefore one CL account, you will
still want multiple email accounts. I’ll explain why in the next chapter.
6. For the sake of your privacy, dedicate one browser on your computer to nothing but playing on
CL. Use this browser to browse CL, and to open your webmail accounts. At some point, someone
(a friend, a family member, a neighbor or a business associate) is going to be using your computer,
just surfing around online, and they’re going to discover something you didn’t really want them to
see in the browser’s history. So download a new browser. I like Firefox. Open it only when you’re
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your computer for a second and gets online without asking you first, you will thank me.
So you have the picture or pictures you’re going to send. You have your multiple email
accounts to be used only for CL contacts. And from this point forward, I will assume you have
at least two CL accounts. If you have more or fewer, it won’t be hard to modify my plan to the
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t had only been a few emails back and forth, and she didn’t seem particularly beautiful, but
certainly not ugly either. Somewhere in her late 40s to mid 50s, I would guess. About 30 pounds
overweight. Needed to do something different with her hair. And her clothing choices were not
all that flattering. But then I wasn’t planning on having sex with her wardrobe, and she certainly
seemed ready and willing to have fun. She said she wanted to try anal for the very first time. Who
was I to turn down that kind of honor?
As I walked up to the coffee shop, she was right there, outside, sitting at a table, reading a
paperback book with a cup of coffee in front of her.
“Hi! You look just like the pictures you sent me!” I said, sitting next to her.
“So do you,” she said putting down her book. “You found it okay?”
“Yeah,” I nodded, “my place is just around the corner from here. I get my coffee here most
mornings.”
“Well, that’s convenient,” she agreed.

And then silence. I could tell she was a little nervous but that she knew what she wanted, so I
decided just to smile at her for a few moments, allowing her to have the floor, to say whatever was
on her mind.
“So …” she started, “how do we do this?”
“Easy,” I smiled, leaning in to kiss her. And she kissed back. She was a very good kisser. I cupped
one of her breasts with my hand, and she kissed back even harder. Good! She was definitely ready.
Pulling back an inch, I whispered, “The only question now is: your place or mine?”
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“Fantastic,” I said following her …

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How to Answer or Place a CL Ad
If you’ve ever placed or answered a personal ad on CL, this will be a review for you. It won’t hurt
my feelings if you skim ahead to the end of this chapter.
Answering an ad on CL has been designed to be easy and take just a few seconds. If you’ve never
been on Craigslist before, here is how it works:
1. Go to www.craigslist.org. You will be directed to a page for a city that is probably not the one
you live in, but you only care about the city you’re in. So go to the column that is the furthest to the
right. At the top of the column, it will say “nearby cl” and will include cities within a few hundred
miles of the city for the page you’re on. Below that you will see links for “us cities,” “us states,”
“canada” and “cl worldwide.” Click through those choices to find your country, your state and your
city.
2. Once you’re on the CL page for your city, you will see groups of links for “community,”
“housing,” “jobs,” “personals,” “for sale,” “discussion forums” and more if you scroll down the
page. You will find the “personals” category prominently displayed at center-left on the page. And
you will be confronted with a decision. There are nine sub-categories under personals:
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strictly platonic
women seeking women
women seeking men
men seeking women
men seeking men
misc romance
casual encounters
missed connections
rants and raves

Let me make this as simple as possible. You can completely ignore six of those categories. I
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interested in the other categories, go explore what each has to offer. But for the purpose of getting
laid, all you need are:
- casual encounters
- women seeking men
- men seeking women
(in that order)
At least 90% of your time should be spent in the casual encounters section. This is where women
post when looking for immediate hookups. And it’s where you will post the vast majority of your
CL ads. (We’ll get to what exactly you’ll be posting there in Chapter Nine.)
3. Click on “casual encounters.” That will take you to a page that offers “casual encounters” as
well as breakdowns of w4m, m4m, m4w, w4w, etc. You may be tempted to click only on w4m, but
I would advise you to look at all casual encounters. Occasionally there are incredible opportunities
to be found in casual encounters categories other than w4m, such as ww4m (two women looking
for a man), and being thorough allows you to make yourself available for every opportunity.
4. Once you click on “casual encounters” on this page, you will finally go to the actual listings.
Most, about 75%, will be anything other than what a fully heterosexual male looking for female
companionship will want to check out. And 90% of the w4m postings are clearly spam (more about
that in Chapter Thirteen). That means that for every 100 postings, maybe two are actually posted by
real women.
5. When you find a w4m ad, click on it.
6. Read the ad, and see what she is asking for. Are you in the age range she’s looking for? Did she
mention your race or body type? Or did she leave it totally open? If you feel you qualify for what
she wants, and if the ad seems real, click on the button that says “Reply To This Post.” You will find
it under the headline of the ad.
7. In the spot where the “Reply To This Post” button was, a CAPTCHA will appear. CAPTCHA is
a way of proving to the site that you’re a human being rather than an automated spam program. It
will display two words, which you are supposed to enter in the box below the words. If you are not
sure what the words are, click the reload button to the right of the words to get a new set of words
to enter.
8. Once you’ve entered the correct words and hit the reply button, the CAPTCHA will be replaced
with a Craigslist-generated email address that is specific to that one CL ad. It will say something
like: [email protected]. You will never see the woman’s email address unless
she responds to your email. This allows everyone who posts an ad to receive emails and to still
remain 100% anonymous.
9. Once you see the Craigslist-generated email address, if you click on it, your primary email
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in your subject line, but I HIGHLY DISCOURAGE doing this. You do NOT want to use your
primary email for CL. EVER. This is why you need to have several web-based accounts devoted
exclusively to your CL adventures. Cut and paste the Craigslist-generated email address into your
appropriate webmail account.
10. In the subject of your email response, write a headline that indicates that you have actually read
the ad, promising her specifically what she says she is looking for.
11. Write the body of your email quickly, more than one or two lines, but not a whole book (more
about this in Chapter Eleven). Then send off your email.
12. Wait. A response from a real woman will usually take 35-45 minutes. If you haven’t heard
anything after 75 minutes, there is little chance you will hear anything at all from the woman who
placed that ad. However, on very rare occasions, a response can take as much as 12 hours.
Placing a CL ad in the casual encounters section features a few more steps, but after you’ve done it
once, it will seem like you’ve been doing it your entire life.
1. Begin on your city’s CL page. Click on “casual encounters” in the personals category.
2. That will take you to a page that offers “casual encounters” as well as breakdowns of w4m,
m4m, m4w, w4w, etc. Click on “casual encounters.”
3. You will now be on the page with the actual casual encounters listings. Look in the uppermost
right-hand corner. You will see the words “help” and “post.” Click on “post.”
4. This will bring you to a page where you have several choices: you can log into your existing
account, apply for a new account or begin writing an ad without having an account. Of course,
if you’re serious about meeting women on CL, you really should have a CL account – more than
one if you can manage it. If you try to post an ad without having an account, you’re going to have
to give CL an active phone number to verify that you’re not a spammer anyway, so go ahead and
create an account. If you already have an account, click on the words “log into your account” in the
uppermost right hand corner.
5. The next page asks for your Email/handle and for your password. You will fill in the email
address associated with this account as well as the password you set up for this account. Then hit
the button that says “Log in.”
6. The next page allows you to decide where you’re going to be posting this ad. There are five
choices, but you only want to choose the last one, which is “sex with no strings attached (nsa).”
(Also on this page, in the upper right hand corner, you will see your email address. If you click on
that, a page will come up that allows you to view all of your previous CL postings. This can come
in handy for reviewing past ads you’ve written.)
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you to declare who you are and what you’re looking for. If you’re a man looking for a woman, click
“a man” in the left hand box, and click “a woman” in the right hand box. Please get this step right.
Getting it wrong will bring you responses that you do not want … guaranteed.
8. In some parts of the country, where there are multiple large communities very close to each
other, you will get a page that asks which of those communities you are in. Click on the appropriate
answer.
9. Now you will come to the page in which you actually write your ad. Write your title, your age,
the neighborhood in which you reside and the actual body of the ad.
10. Once you have the ad fully written, scroll down and you will see where you can upload photos, if
you wish to. Once the ad is just the way you want it, hit enter.
11. On the next page, you will see your ad as it will appear to the women your CL ad is targeting.
Proofread what you have written. Does it sound good? Then hit enter again.
12. Now you’ll have to fill out a CAPTCHA, just to make sure you’re not an automated spammer.
Once you’ve correctly filled out the CAPTCHA and hit enter, your ad will be ready for posting.
13. An email will be sent to the email account attached to your CL account saying your ad will be
posted within 15 minutes. Now all you have to do is wait.
Casual Encounters versus Women Seeking Men/Men Seeking Women
Throughout this book when I talk about “getting laid on CL” I’m mostly talking about the casual
encounters section. That is where 90% of my success has come from, and it’s where most of yours
will come from too.
But the “women seeking men” category offers some use too. Some women, usually newbies to
CL – desperate newbies! – will post ads for immediate sex in the women seeking men category, not
realizing that posting in casual encounters would be a more appropriate place for their ads. So there
is some value to devoting some time to monitoring that category too.
And then, there is the “men seeking women” category. This comes into play on those dark, lonely
nights, when you decide that you may want something a little more long-term than a series of onenight stands. Believe me, it happens to all of us. While there are many women reading all of the
personals sections, there are also quite a few reading the men seeking women ads who think the
casual encounters section is disgusting and won’t read it, and will never meet anyone who posts
there. So the ads in the men seeking women section obviously require a different approach than the
ads you will place in the casual encounters section, and your encounters will be completely different
too. But sometimes this difference is a really comfortable option.
Just keep in mind, if you are absolutely sure you don’t want to end up with a girlfriend – or worse,
end up with a girl who THINKS she is your girlfriend – then NEVER post in the men seeking
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F

rom my office, I heard the elevator doors open and someone step out. It had to be her. At this
time of night, even the cleaning crew wasn’t around anymore. I straightened my tie and I took
the five steps down the hall from my office to the lobby.

There she was, dressed for business, exactly as I told her to be. Fresh out of college, not much over
five feet tall, short brown hair, wearing a very conservative business suit. Very cute, but also a little
nervous … like any aspiring young woman would be who wanted a job with my company. Perfect!
I reached out my hand to shake hers, “A pleasure to meet you, Miss …”
“Johnson,” she finished my sentence as she shook my hand and smiled.
I guided her into the company conference room, a long oak table surrounded by old-fashioned
leather seats. As she slid her fingers along the smoothness of the oak, I offered, “Please, have a
seat.”
As she picked a chair and sunk into it, she started her pitch, “I really need this job, sir. I’ll do
anything it takes to get it.”
I smiled to myself as I took my place in the leather chair next to hers. She was ready to play. This
wasn’t just going to be fun. It was going to be easy. Which was good, since it was the first time I’d
ever tried the office fantasy, and I was a little outside of my comfort zone. “Well, Miss Johnson, we
ARE hiring right now. But we are going to be highly selective in who we choose to fill this particular
position,” I dwelled on the last word. We both grinned at each other, almost breaking the fantasy.
She got herself back into character, “I know, sir. And I’ll do anything it takes.”
“For you to get this job, you’re going to have to prove that you will do whatever it takes to satisfy
my requirements … that you will bend over backwards – at any time – when your boss needs it.
She nodded, “Yes, sir, I understand. Bend over whenever you need it.”

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Yes, she was making this so easy. God bless her. “Correct, Miss Johnson. But more than that, I need
to know that you want this job so much, you’re willing to get down on your knees and beg for it.”
Without waiting a beat, she slid out of her chair and was down on her knees, looking up at me
innocently. I continued, “I need to know that you want this job so badly you can taste it!”
“I want it, sir. I want to taste it,” she smiled up at me leaning into my lap. “ And I’ll prove it.” She
loosened my belt and unzipped my slacks as I sat back in my leather chair …

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The Game Strategy
Welcome to everyone horny enough to come straight here! Let’s get right to it. This is where we
begin to separate the men who will be getting laid from the boys who will just keep placing ads
until they are certain that no real women can ever be found on CL. Let’s start with a few vital
thoughts on your CL strategy:
Success on CL is a numbers game.
Have you ever played roulette at a casino? It’s a hard game to be completely successful at. Thirtyeight slots for the ball to randomly land on, and you have to pick one. Your odds aren’t good. You
know just by looking at the roulette wheel that you will lose far more often than you can win. So
you play and you lose and you lose and you lose. But then you finally win! And you win so big that
it makes up for all of your past losses.
It’s the same way on CL. Only each of your bets is free. And when you hit the right number, what
you win is way more interesting than money.
Make no mistake, you can play on CL for hours, even when you know exactly what you’re
doing, and still not get so much as confirmation that any real woman has ever seen your emails
or read your posts. The purpose of this book is to help you find regular success, but keep in mind:
you’re contacting women you know nothing about. Usually you will be lacking in the most basic
information you need to read the woman you’re communicating with. Since you’re communicating
via the written word, you can’t even see her body language. Everything you’re doing will be a welleducated guess. Just like at the roulette table.
Most guys posting on CL make bet after bet at the CL roulette table and never come close to
winning. So they quit, usually ending their efforts with a frustrated post fuming that there are no
real woman on CL, only spam. But take a closer look and you will find that all of those guys are
communicating in ways that women universally ignore. If you communicate on CL as a typical man
does, you guarantee you can NEVER win.
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Your numbers will vary depending on how good you are at turning a first tentative email response
into a real in-person meeting. I’ve made mistakes in the communications process and you will too. It
sucks, but that’s why the CL personals are open 24/7.
I provide the type of odds you can expect below. There is a wide variation in these numbers, because
your odds will change dramatically as you get more comfortable with CL and my processes for
success. No matter how horny you are, no matter how manly and fearless you think you are, the
first time you meet with a woman for sex after talking with her online for only few hours, you will
feel fear, excitement, discomfort and several other emotions, all at the same time. You will feel it
in every part of your body. These feelings create mistakes, which can make her feel uncomfortable,
and her discomfort is your barrier to success. So remember to breathe deeply, smile, and power
through it. The greatest success is waiting for you on the other side of that wall.
As you’re starting, expect your results to skew toward the higher numbers provided here. With more
experience come better odds:
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For every woman you have sex with, you will have to meet one or two in person.
To meet those one or two women, you will have email conversations with 4-12 real women.
To have those 4-12 conversations, you will need to answer, on average, about 30-100 posts
from REAL women (in other words, the spam posts you answer don’t count, more on that in
Chapter Thirteen). Or you will have to post, on average, about 20-40 of your own ads.

And one more bit of math:
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Typically, a single ad posted on CL will yield you, at best, one email conversation with a real
woman. With the thousands of ads I’ve placed, the very most email conversations the
placement of one ad has generated has been four, and that one instance yielded two immediate
sexual encounters and one good ongoing friend. But don’t expect that to happen often. My
general rule of thumb is, after I’ve posted an ad, if I get one nibble from a real woman, I
consider that ad to have done its job, and I’m ready to move on to my next ad.

That’s a lot of spins of the CL roulette wheel to get one win. Especially if you’re not comfortable
with the process yet. But, like anything else, the odds improve as you get better at the game. Plus,
trying doesn’t cost you a penny! And once you’ve got a brand new female friend standing before
you, naked and ready for anything, suddenly all of those tries are completely worth it.
Answering CL ads versus posting your own
Some men just answer women’s ads. It’s easier than posting your own. Other men go out on a limb
and write their own posts. Others do both.
So what’s the right strategy?
Let me add this piece of information into the equation: some women only read the men’s posts and
never post themselves. Other women write posts and figure they’ll get enough responses that they
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or if you only post your own, you will be missing a group of women who are actively looking for a
man right now.
I strongly suggest posting regularly, then while you’re waiting for replies, go check out the
women’s ads and start answering them. But only the REAL ones. Identify and ignore the spam
(more on that in Chapter Thirteen).
The timing of replying to women’s posts
Here is the timeline a woman typically experiences when posting an ad for a man on CL:
0:00 She posts her ad and receives an email confirmation that her ad will appear online within 15
minutes.
0:10 Her ad appears on CL as a w4m post.
0:11 After 60 seconds, over 40 emails from men have shown up in her inbox.
0:12 Another 60 seconds later and she has over 80 new emails in her inbox. She starts making

her way through them.
0:20 Over 200 emails have flooded her inbox in the past ten minutes. The final one is a

notification from Craigslist that her post has been flagged and removed from the site (I’ll

explain why women’s ads get flagged – and flagged quickly – in Chapter Thirteen).

For the next ten minutes or so, before her post completely disappears from the CL listings,

any man who replies to her post will have his email bounce back as being undeliverable.
She will now attempt to go through her overwhelmingly-packed inbox until she stops on the first
guy who sounds good to her. Once she starts talking to him, she will purge all other emails, even
the unread ones.
What does this mean to your strategy of replying to women’s emails?
1. Know before you start writing, your carefully-crafted email is only one of
200+ she will receive. Yours BETTER stand out somehow, before she even opens it. That means
the subject line of your email needs to really compel her to read what you wrote.
2. If she asked for a picture, you better have something attached, because there are at least 100
other guys who followed her directions. She will most likely delete any email that doesn’t have an
attachment without even reading the subject line. And unless she ASKED for a picture of anything
other than your face (unobscured, without a hat, without sunglasses) do not send pictures of any
other parts of your body.
3. You are playing against the clock. She will most likely read the first 10-20 emails she gets.
Some women may even open the first 40-50. And a small handful will read all of them. But you’re
playing a numbers game. The winning email is most often in the first 20, so be fast.
4. At least 95% of all posts by REAL women will disappear within 15 minutes of when they’re
posted. Most won’t last online as much as 10 minutes. There is a reason for this, which seems to be
a vast mystery for most CL users, and I’ll explain it in Chapter Thirteen. What this means for you
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any more posts from real women. Any post from a woman that is more than 40 minutes old is most
likely spam and not worth your time to even open, much less respond to.
Here’s the good news: having been invited to look through the inboxes of many of the women
I’ve met on CL, I have found that at least half of the emails they get will say nothing but, “Let’s
fuck,” with a picture of a penis. Or “What’s up?” with a picture of a mostly naked guy. Yes, we
men are a witty, witty bunch. Sadly, these responses are completely lost on 99% of women. In fact,
WOMEN HATE ONE-LINE RESPONSES. It makes them think the man sending it is stupid and/or
disrespectful. But that just means a little less competition for you and me.
So instead of competing against 200 other guys, you’re competing against maybe 100. You still
need to be compelling. In the words of a famous sports journalist “have a take and don’t suck.”
IMPORTANT TIP FOR SUCCESS #1
Pull up the casual encounter page, and refresh it very, very frequently. A new set of posts will be
available about every 7-10 minutes. The fresher the woman’s post, the better your odds. So refresh
OFTEN!
IMPORTANT TIP FOR SUCCESS #2
There are prime times when CL women are posting for men. I define a prime time as 4-6 real
women’s posts per hour. Your very best hours of the entire week will be Thursday night from
about 6 p.m. until about 11 p.m. Those same hours Wednesday and Friday are pretty good too.
Conversely, you could spend every moment of your Sunday and Monday nights in most cities
watching CL and not see more than one or two real posts from women for the entire evening.
Most women on CL work during the day. Even those that don’t work during the day seldom have
enough time to post on CL during work hours, although they will sometimes browse men’s postings
throughout the day. Your chances of finding real women posting after 1 a.m. in most cities are
pretty slim too.
I’m not telling you not to reply to women’s posts from 1 a.m. until 6 p.m. You never know when a
real woman will be looking for sex at 3 a.m. on a Monday. If you’re up, go for it. Just don’t allow
yourself to have unrealistic expectations of what you can find at that hour.
Writing your own posts
For every woman I’ve met by answering a CL post, I’ve met at least four more by posting ads.
Posting ads allows you to:
Set the rules of engagement.
You can define exactly the type of woman you want. You can define exactly the kind of experience
you want. You can require that they send you pictures before you send a picture.
Guarantee that what you write will be read, at least by someone.
As I mentioned above, most replies to women’s posts never get read. I believe every man’s post on
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real replies, but at least they do get read.
Harness the power of having your post working for you for several hours.
Unlike posts submitted by women, men’s ads usually don’t get flagged and will stay up for 30
days (see Chapter Thirteen for the explanation). Of course, every few minutes, your post will sink
deeper into the casual encounters listings and into obscurity. You have two to three good hours
during which your post will be read by all women who are looking at men’s posts. After that, the
odds drop that your ad will get further views. Sometimes a woman who is looking for exactly what
you’ve described will do a deep search and reply to an ad that is up to a week old. Those are the
BEST responses you can get! But I have learned that once an ad has been up for three hours, I can
generally stop expecting the ad to work for me.
IMPORTANT TIP FOR SUCCESS #3
A great post looking for women can work any day at any time, however, there are times when your
odds are better for getting an immediate nibble. Again, target Thursday nights from 6 p.m. to 11
p.m. Another good night is Wednesday night. If you don’t get an immediate hit on an ad placed
Wednesday, some women on Thursday nights will search through the previous day’s postings.
On any day, at any hour, observe the number of real women who are posting ads looking for men
over a 30-60 minute period. If you don’t see any REAL women posting (I’ll show you how to
spot the spam in Chapter Thirteen), you probably won’t have enough women looking at the men’s
posts for you to have much hope of any real success at that time. If you observe an unusually large
number of real women posting ads looking for man, that is the perfect time to post your own ad. It
means the fish are biting!
OTHER IMPORTANT TIPS:
The geography of CL success
I have spent a great deal of time traveling around the United States in researching this book. I have
met women in small towns and in big cities. In coastal cities and in the heartland. Given enough
time, patience and skill, Craigslist can work for just about anybody, anywhere.
However, I don’t have infinite time, patience or skill, and I assume you don’t either. So let’s talk a
little about the areas in which CL personals work better than others.
Big cities
Again, this is a numbers game. Theoretically, the bigger the population of a city, the more women
will be checking out CL on a regular basis. The more women checking out CL, the better your
odds. If you’re in a large city, your odds of frequently finding women through CL usually are better.
Small towns with multiple towns nearby
We can’t all live in the big city. But many people, especially in the northeast, live in small towns
that are a short drive from other towns. If you’re up for a drive, don’t overlook these opportunities.
Post your ads looking for women in nearby towns you’d be able/willing to drive to. You will
increase the female population you’re trying to reach, and you’ll increase your odds. Add in the
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somewhat target-rich environment. The one caveat here is that any woman you find will either have
to host or drive all the way to you. She may not be willing to do either.
Well-educated cities
Is there a medium-sized, or larger, university in your area? Are there several? Jackpot! I have found
students, educators and the people who work among them tend to be more sexually open-minded
than the rest of the population. Even if you find yourself in a smaller, more isolated town with a
small population, you will find great opportunities near universities and colleges.
Technologically savvy cities
In areas where more people feel comfortable using the latest technology for every aspect of their
lives, finding sex partners on CL doesn’t seem so out-of-the-ordinary. Make the most of these areas
if you’re anywhere near one.
Liberal-leaning towns
Is your area known as being unusually politically liberal? Opportunity!
Snow-covered areas
There’s something about a very cold night that makes a single woman want a warm body next to her.
Or on top of her, as the case may be. Again, a lack of entertainment opportunities due to bad weather
can mean opportunities for you. Areas that fall into this or any of the above categories can yield
great results.
Areas where the opportunities are fewer:
Isolated towns with populations predominantly over the age of 50
If you’re living in an area like this and looking for sex partners, you’re probably thinking of leaving
anyway. The magic of CL can’t invent a population that doesn’t exist.
Cities known for extreme physical fitness
I assume if you’re reading this book, your body may not be perfect. If you’re living in an area that
demands physical perfection, many CL readers in your area will share that expectation. If you’re
short, chubby and living in Los Angeles, you’re not completely out of luck. You’ll find some women
who aren’t perfect either, who don’t expect perfection and are happy to meet a man who wants them
even though their bodies aren’t perfect. Just know that you’re going to need to work a lot harder, and
experience a lot more rejection than you would in the heartland of the United States.
OTHER POSTING ISSUES TO CONSIDER:
Ghosting posts
So you’ve been posting for three months. You already have more than your share of conquests under
your belt. You post one of your favorite ads, one that has brought you amazing successes in the past.
You giggle to yourself as you wait the 15 minutes for your ad to show up on the casual encounters
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And you wait.
Suddenly it occurs to you that 30 minutes have passed, and other posts that were written AFTER
yours are on the list. And yours isn’t!!! What the hell????
Congratulations! Your ad was ghosted. Your ad will exist, and it will count against your account’s
five postings for the day. It will just be invisible to the women who are looking at and responding
to men’s posts. Your post is a ghost. Think of it as a CL compliment. You’ve been recognized as a
heavy CL user!
Craigslist has implemented a series of processes and algorithms to prevent spam on the site. The
need to register an account with a phone number is one of those processes. The use of
RE-CAPTCHA codes to post or respond to an ad is another process. Less transparent are the
algorithms that seek out ads that may be posted a little too often from IP addresses that are heavy
users of CL. Nobody outside of CL management knows the specifics of what their algorithms
search for, and it changes regularly. However, if you’ve posted previous ads that have been flagged
as spam, and you post regularly from the same IP address, there is a very good chance you will
experience ghosting at some point. It’s somewhat random, it’s completely frustrating, but you can
work around it.
For starters, try not to post any single ad more than once every ten to fourteen days. If you post
multiple times a week, or even multiple times a day, that will mean writing a very wide variety of
different types of posts. Yes, that can be a lot of work, but it’s worth it when you’re finding yourself
a new woman every few days.
At the time of this writing, if you find yourself being ghosted frequently, you can also work around
it by changing your IP address. It’s a small pain in the ass, but only takes a few minutes. Google the
question “How do I change my IP address?” for multiple sources that are far more educated on that
topic than I am. Once you change your IP address, you’ll find your ads won’t be ghosted quite as
often. Once you start getting ghosted, though, be sure to change your IP address regularly.
If that doesn’t fix the problem, stop placing ads with that account for two weeks. I have found that
12-14 days of inactivity will remove close CL examination of your account for awhile.
“Haven’t we fucked before?”
There is nothing more embarrassing than emailing with a woman from CL when she reminds you
that you fucked her just a few months ago. Well, maybe one thing is more embarrassing: giving a
woman the opportunity to waste your time, frustrate you or reject you again and again and again.
Most women go to CL once or twice for a little excitement. But some use CL for the bulk of their
sexual needs. So at some point you will come across a woman you have either communicated with
and didn’t have sex, or you’ll find someone you actually did have sex with. In either case, it’s so
much less embarrassing if you recognize them before they recognize you.
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responding. First check to see if it could be spam (as explained in Chapter Thirteen). Then search
your old emails in all of the email accounts you use for CL to see if you’ve corresponded with that
person in the past. Use that information to your advantage:
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If you met and had a great time and would like to meet again, be sure to acknowledge the
previous meeting. Even if she doesn’t seem to remember you during your email conversation,
she will remember you once you get together for what she believes will be a “first” meeting.
Best to get the past out of the way before you meet.
If you met and you don’t want to see her again, bail out now! If she doesn’t remember your
previous meeting, just don’t respond. You will find women flake out on CL all the time and just
disappear. Turnabout is fair play.
If you had an email conversation with this woman in the past and she disappeared BEFORE
she saw your picture, and she doesn’t seem to remember that conversation, use the intelligence
from that conversation to your advantage. Is there one style of sex she mentioned loving?
Volunteer that as your favorite. Did she mention a favorite restaurant or bar? Act like you don’t
know she’s ever heard of the place, but offer to meet her there, asking if she’d like directions.
Use any other information you can to act as if you’re slightly “psychic,” letting her think you
totally understand her. Are these tactics fair? No. But was it fair for her to engage you in
conversation and then just disappear the last time you talked?
- If she saw your picture and rejected you in the past, let it go. Just leave her hanging. Think of
it as a tiny little bit of revenge. She may even spend at least 30 seconds wondering why you
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W

e decided to arrange our first meeting at her favorite bar. She met me outside the front
door with a warm hug and a kiss on the cheek. She was beautiful. Petite with short dark
hair and eyes that sparkled with excitement. She told me in an email that she was fifteen
years older than me, but she certainly didn’t look it. She took my hand and led me into the bar.
Inside there was live music and a packed house rocking to the beat. We hadn’t even had time to
find a couple of seats before she decided the place was too crowded, and we should continue the
evening back at my place. As if I was going to turn that offer down.
After 25 minutes of pleasant conversation in the car, we were in my living room, sitting on my couch
with a bottle of wine. I had felt early in our email conversation there was some deeply held secret
she had been wanting to share. I was pretty sure that whatever mysteriousness she needed to get off
of her chest was about to happen, so I let her guide the conversation. And after complimenting my
home, the furniture and the wine, she finally got to it.
“So I have always had this fantasy,” she started tentatively. “Please don’t judge me.”
“Of course not,” I smiled as I took her hand in mine. “You’re totally safe here.”
“Good. Thank you. So … I’ve only told this to one other person, but he thought it was sick and
wouldn’t have anything to do with it.”
The hackles on the back of my neck went up just a little bit. What could be THAT bad? The
realization that this woman might have a fantasy too sick and twisted for me to help her
with suddenly dawned on me. This would either be an amazingly fun night, or a complete
disappointment. I swallowed hard and said, “I understand. Go on.”
“Well … I’ve always had this date rape fantasy. I’m out on a date with a guy – someone like you
– and we go back to his place, and we’re kissing, and that’s where I want it to stop. But his hands
start roaming. I push him away, but he won’t take no for an answer. The more I protest, the more
aggressive he gets. Soon, he’s got me down on the floor, on top of me, with my clothes mostly torn
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With a confident smile (and a very quiet sigh of relief) I took the wine glass from her hand and
placed it on the coffee table. “Your safe word tonight is ‘orange.’ Okay?” I asked, as I took her in
my arms.
“Orange, got it!” she said enthusiastically, as we started kissing. I began running my hands down
her back, down to her butt. She murmured “nuh uh,” into my mouth. As my hands made their way
up to her chest, she stopped kissing me and began pushing me away. “No. Just kissing tonight.
Nothing else,” she said with conviction.
I smiled and nodded, put my arms back around her, and we began kissing again. Moments later, my
hands were back on her chest. Now she was angry. “NO! No means No, fucker!”
With that I stood up, grabbed a fist of her hair, pulled her head up to my mouth and said
menacingly, “Enough teasing, bitch. I will take what I want.” The hand with her hair pulled her
quickly to the floor as the other hand yanked her jeans and panties down around her ankles …

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Building Your Communications Strategy
Anything you do that requires persuasion requires a good strategy. The more you want to persuade
someone to do something, the better your strategy needs to be. This is what this chapter is all about.
So let’s create your strategy to persuade women who don’t know you – who may not even find you
all that attractive at first glance – to want to have sex with you.
Step 1: List your strengths
I’m sure you’ve already run this drill on yourself for the sake of traditional dating. Maybe you have
a nice smile. Maybe you’re kind to animals. Maybe you’re a hard worker and a good provider.
Maybe you’re the life of the party. Maybe you have awesome taste in music. Maybe you have
encyclopedic knowledge of the Dr. Who series. It could be anything.
Every one of your strengths, and even some of your perceived weaknesses, will be attractive to
some woman on CL at some point. A strength can be:
- Physical
Being tall, having a nice smile, having a great body, being skinny, being a “teddy bear,” having
muscles, being strong enough to lift a woman, etc.
- Sexual
Having a long penis, having a thick penis, having an especially small penis (some women want
that), having great stamina, having great oral abilities, being able to produce a great deal of
ejaculation, etc.
- Mental
Being especially smart, the ability to make a woman laugh regularly, being especially dominant in
bed, being especially submissive in bed, etc.
- Emotional
Possessing great kindness, great empathy or great maturity, having a deep love of animals, etc.

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- Financial
Having a nice car, having a nice home, having a nice pool, having drinks or drugs available, etc.
- Chronological
Being especially young (at least 18 please) or especially old.
- Trivial
You have 12 toes, you were spelling bee champion in 7th grade, you were born in a different state
than the one you live in now, etc.
Every one of these strengths, and the hundreds you can come up with on your own, is a starting
point for attracting a woman on CL.
Important Point:
Do NOT start writing an ad that says you want a woman and simply lists your strengths. You will
be ignored. Possibly even mocked. The fact is that ALL of us guys are pretty similar. We all have a
similar variety of strengths we can list, we’re all horny all the time and we’re all open to having sex
at the drop of a hat. And you are competing with literally hundreds of guys just like you, regardless
of the strengths you just listed.
In other words, if the best thing you can think of to say to a woman who wants to have sex now
is, “I want to fuck,” or “I haven’t had sex in a week. Help!” don’t waste your time unless you’re
incredibly attractive, and I mean so attractive that you’re fighting women off so you can get to the
computer to place your CL ad. Women already know that if you’re a man, you want to fuck them.
And don’t try to be something for every woman in a single post
The natural urge you will feel is to try to write in ways that will appeal to the greatest number of
women on CL. That way the odds seem to be in your favor. So you find yourself trying to stay in
the middle of the road in a way that will offer something for everyone, and maybe a few women
will actually be interested.
Fight that urge. You will be ignored.
The fact is that the vast majority of men on CL are writing posts to “everybody.” Another related
fact is that the vast majority of men on CL also believe there aren’t any real women on CL. Keep
this in mind at all times: you’re not looking to fuck ALL women on CL tonight. Let’s start with
getting ONE into your bed and go from there.
So now the question is this: what do you need to say to that ONE woman you will be sleeping with
tonight to get her to come over and have sex with a man she’s never met?
Remember back in Chapter Three when I said that all you really need to bring to the table in this
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Step 2: Create a persona around one of your current strengths
Let’s marry one of your strengths to some creativity. In doing this, we are going to create a persona
for you, something that is, at least on paper, more interesting than you generally allow yourself to
be in the real world in polite conversation.
We’ll start with something trivial. Let’s say, for example, that you’re originally from a state other
than the one you’re living in now. Maybe you’re from South Dakota and living anywhere else now.
Irrelevant, right? Completely one-dimensional? No reason to even bring it up? Don’t be so sure.
Your home state (or neighborhood, city, or country) can be a special connection to a woman who is
also originally from your home state, or any of the states surrounding your home state, or just really
likes guys from there. Consider the idea of creating a persona with these values:
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Originally from South Dakota (if that’s where you’re really from).
Always thought women from the Dakotas were the most down-to-earth, sexiest, most beautiful
women in the world.
You miss home.
You miss the women back home.
The state you’re in now is very nice, but it would be heaven if you had the type of woman from
back home here with you now.
And since the (fill in the name of some event that takes place back home) happens right about
now, let’s get together and celebrate as if we were back home.

And then the cherry on top? Create an email address that reflects this persona. Like
[email protected] or [email protected]. Now after she sees your email
address she’ll know you’re truly serious about the Dakotas, and that you’re not just another guy on
CL playing some angle to get laid. (Wink!)
Is every woman on CL from the Dakotas? No, of course not (unless you’re living in the Dakotas,
but I think you get what I mean). But you’re only looking for ONE woman at a time. And if there is
one woman reading your post who is originally from back home, there is a natural connection there
that she is far more likely to respond to than “I’m horny! Somebody come fuck me!” And what if
there are no women in your area that are from back home, or interested in a man from your home
state? Well, that’s why CL lets you post five times per account every day. And if you have two or
three accounts, that’s a lot of chances to find lots of different types of women every day.
Let’s try another persona, one far more challenging, a sexual one that starts as a big negative. Let’s
say you’re a really good, normal guy, but you have erectile dysfunction. Okay, how would you
play that?
Answer: some women really like a challenge. Take your negative and make it into a challenge for
the hottest women out there.
- You think you’re hot? If you’re a girl, 99% of guys automatically get hard for you. That
doesn’t mean anything. There’s no challenge.
- But if you can get a guy with ED to get hard for you, then you know you’re really hot.
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Top that off with the email address: [email protected]
Now, you’re not going to get a reply every time you post this ad, but no ad gets a reply every time.
But somewhere, there is a girl who will eventually respond, just to stroke her own ego. And you
can be sure that she will be hot.
If you can create an interesting reason for a woman to consider having sex with you because you
have erectile dysfunction, just imagine what you can come up with if you start with a positive:
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I’m a good listener. Guys never listen to you, but I do. Not just in conversation, but sexually
too. My email address: [email protected]
Have you ever been with a man that is over 6’3”? Imagine the possibilities! My email address:
[email protected]
I have a pool! Have you ever done it in a pool? It’s a beautiful day, come sunbathe with me by
the pool and we’ll see what happens! My email address: [email protected].

I hope you’re getting the idea that you need to isolate something that makes you different on CL at
that moment, even if it’s seemingly trivial or one-dimensional. There are lots of good listeners out
there, but in a universe of men saying, “I need a BJ now,” the man on CL who says he is a good
listener is king! Or the fact that you have a pool and you want to share it? Again, having a pool
doesn’t really make you “special” except for the fact that very few guys on CL are pushing that as a
selling point. So the moment a woman goes to CL looking for sex in a pool, suddenly you become
very, very special.
So of all the strengths you possess, which will be the most popular with CL women?
If I could construct the “perfect” man on CL from scratch, someone who would get laid several
times a day by CL women, he would look like this. Keep in mind, I don’t have most of these
qualities myself:
The perfect CL man
- He can host, because he lives alone in a place that is safe and clean. Extra points if he has a
secluded (and clean!) pool and/or hot tub.
- He’s tall: over six feet tall
- He’s fit. He works out at the gym daily, loves the outdoors and considers himself active.
- He is somewhere between “hot” and “hawt.”
- He’s definitely single. It would be even better if he’s never been married and doesn’t have kids.
- He’s smart.
- He’s funny.
- He doesn’t smoke cigarettes, but he doesn’t mind a woman who does.
- He doesn’t do any drugs, yet he is cool with women who smoke pot, and even better if he has
plenty to share.
- His penis is at least 8 to 10 inches long. And thick!
- He has a Harley and an extra helmet.
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create around one of them will bring you success.
Step 3: Reinvent yourself to explore new fantasies
No matter how awesome you are with all of your current strengths, with every new post you write,
and with every woman’s post you respond to, you get a chance to re-envision yourself and reinvent
who you are. Give yourself the opportunity to make yourself into someone new in at least a few of
your communications with women.
Up until now, like most guys, you’ve probably always been perceived as a regular guy among most
women. Nice, perhaps, but nothing too far out of the ordinary. So let me ask you this: if you could
be anything you wanted sexually to any woman, what would it be? Would it be something different
than what you’ve been to the girls you’ve dated in the past?
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You could be the asshole, the bad boy that tells women they’re whores, pushes them down,
fucks them in the ass and then pees on them.
You could be the expert pussy-licker, the one that has a special skill that all the women crave
and seek out. Then when they’re done with you, they share you with their friends.
You could be the kind, caring gentleman that takes out a woman he’s never met before for a
special one-of-a-kind romantic night on the town.
You could be the submissive man, the one that allows a woman to tie him up and do anything
she’s ever fantasized about to a helpless man.

You can be any one of those, or a million other personas. Or even better … you can be all of them!
Use your imagination. Create different personas, and give each its own email address. Now you
can address one woman as “whore” and another as “Ma’am” both in the same night. You can be
“Daddy” to a “bad little girl” at the same time you’re “apologizing to mom for walking in on her
while she was playing with herself.” You can be the guy who takes women out on wonderful dates
on Wednesday, and the guy who goes to a woman’s house and uses her as the cheap tramp she’s
always wanted to be on Thursday. Be whomever you feel comfortable being, whomever you think
you can actually be.
Now all you need to do is match each of your personas with the fantasies of the CL women in
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did some light cleaning as I waited for her to show up. All I’d seen of her were pictures of her
body, and they were pretty awesome. Beautiful, near-perfect breasts, just the perfect size to be
cupped in my hands, a slim, toned body and long, wonderful legs. I could hardly wait. For some
reason I was feeling hornier than usual. Maybe it was the unusually cold weather. Although she
contacted me based on an email promising a night of oral pleasure – for her – I was considering
trying to push her against the wall and just start having my way with her the moment she walked in.
My phone rang. It was her. “I think I’m here. Can you come out and meet me?” Sure. Meeting her
at her car wasn’t really in my script, but flexibility is important when arranging a casual encounter.
I threw on a jacket and stepped through the snow.
As I approached the car, the first thing I noticed was she wasn’t getting out and the dome light
wasn’t on in her car. The second thing I noticed was the shadow of what looked like a ball cap on
her head. Okay, not all that sexy, but who am I to judge her fashion choices?
The driver’s side window rolled down and I leaned in. “Hi! Glad you made it.” Her face was pretty,
but there was something that wasn’t quite right. I couldn’t put my finger on it though.
“Me too,” she smiled back.
“C’mon. It’s cold out here. Let’s get inside,” I advised. She rolled up the window, pulled the key out
of the ignition and opened the door. Yep, nice body I thought. Short, a good eight inches shorter
than me. Nice. But that ball cap would have to go.
As we walked through my well-lit entryway, it occurred to me, this girl has really short hair. Really,
really short. We walked into the kitchen, where I offered her a glass of wine. She nodded, so I began
opening a bottle of red. And then I stopped as she removed the ball cap.
She was bald. Completely bald. Bald as a bowling ball. Geez was she bald.
She looked at me, examining me carefully, looking for some kind of reaction. Hmm … great body,
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handed her a glass. She took it with one hand. The other hand went around the back of my neck as
she pulled my lips to hers for a long, hot, passionate kiss. Wow, great kisser. Hot. I wanted her now.
I took the wine glass from her hand, placed it on the kitchen counter, then put a hand on her chest,
pushing her back. I squeezed her body between mine and the kitchen wall. She put her lips up to
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A Brief Discussion of Women and
the Power of Their Fantasies
Men are all pretty similar. We all want sex. And pretty much all it takes to get us in the mood is
looking at an attractive half-naked woman. Elaborate fantasies are nice, but pretty much all of us
guys just want to fuck. To prove it, would you click on a headline that said:
ANY MAN PLEASE FUCK ME NOW! – w4m – 23 (An area around the corner from you)
Would you click on it? Of course you would! How could you not? And what if the text of the post
went on to say:
I’m horny now. Need a man – any man – deep inside of me NOW. Take my mouth, my pussy,
my ass, or all three. Don’t care about age, height, weight or anything else. Just get here
quickly!!! First real email gets me!!!
My guess is, if you’re a man, you’d break your keyboard trying to be the first to respond. But that’s
what makes you different from a woman. A woman never would respond to an ad like that. Want
to prove me wrong? Go ahead. Go to CL right now and post a m4w ad simply saying you’re horny
and want sex, right now, indiscriminately from any woman. Go ahead, I’ll wait.
So … how did that work for you? Other than the spam, did you get a single note from a real
woman? No, of course you didn’t. But did you notice all of the ads that are up on your local CL
casual encounters board right now from men saying almost exactly what I just dared you to post?
Hmmmm … all of those men will go to bed alone and frustrated tonight because they don’t have
any understanding of what women will respond to in a post.
THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT SENTENCE IN THIS BOOK:
The better you are at wrapping a woman in her fantasy in EVERY way you communicate with her,
the more success you will have on CL.
Just to be sure you speed-readers got it, I’m going to repeat it.

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THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT SENTENCE IN THIS BOOK:
The better you are at wrapping a woman in her fantasy in EVERY way you communicate with her,
the more success you will have on CL.
Think about this concept for a moment, please. What does it mean?
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Very, very few women on CL are fantasizing about immediate and anonymous sex. And those
few who are can find someone who is far better looking, richer and smarter than you or me.
For women, fantasy is the beginning of foreplay. And as you already know, give a woman
enough really good foreplay and she will give you anything you want.
So begin the night’s foreplay with your very first written words. Reinforce her fantasy with
every new sentence (I’ll explain how to do this in Chapter Nine).
In the email conversation that follows, find the pace that makes her most comfortable,
(it will be slower than yours), and walk her through her fantasy. This could take as little
as 45 minutes or as long as a few days of emails and text messages going back and forth. But
the average I have found is about 2 hours (more on this in Chapter Ten).
Advance the fantasy a little farther with each new email, giving her a new reason to shiver,
reinforcing again and again that she must have you.
When you finally meet, make sure you’re continuing her fantasy, approaching her and treating
her exactly as you promised in the fantasy you’ve been weaving around her (learn more in
Chapter Twelve).

But before we get into how you’re supposed to wrap a woman in her fantasies from your first
written word, we must discuss different types of women, and the fantasies they are typically
looking for on CL. There is no ONE fantasy that will cover all the women who are on CL. Different
types of women have different emotional needs. Those emotional needs relate DIRECTLY to their
sexual needs.
Below is a list of the types of women I have found on CL. This is not a universal overview of all
women everywhere. Admittedly, there are many types of women whose emotional makeup would
never allow them to use CL to find a man. But this book is not about how to get laid with all
women. That is WAY too much work. This book is about how to sign on to CL and find a woman
who wants to have sex with you now.
The types of CL women and their emotional needs
There are several types of women on CL. Some women you meet will fall into multiple categories,
but that’s a good thing. It means there are multiple ways to approach those women that will lead to
success. The one thing all of these types of women have in common is they are smart. Very smart.
Razor-sharp smart. Most are well-educated. Most are book smart. And those who aren’t book smart
have a great deal of common sense. But they’re all in need. Once you identify the type of woman,
you will understand her need. And once you understand her need, you know what you must say to
get her interested.
The Boss
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is about responsibility. She is always in control and always knows what everyone around her
should be doing. Nobody in her life has the balls to tell her to sit down and relax, taking control
away from her. Any man in her social circle who she would find for traditional dating would never
have the nerve to even try. After all, in our enlightened society, women are SUPPOSED to have
all the control they want. She’s spent years making the most of her smarts, her education and her
perseverance. But … deep down inside … she is tired of always being in control. She wants to lose
control, just for a little while. She wants someone to understand her intimately enough to take her
back to a space and time when it was okay for a man to be a real man, a man in complete control,
and it was a positive for a woman to be treated like a real woman.
Because she knows exactly what she wants, once you show her you can provide it, she is in 100%.
She is educated, smart, accomplished and usually in her late 20s to late 30s. Show her a good time
and you can have her as often as she is able to make time for you.
The Fantasy Fulfiller
This is sometimes a subset of the Boss, but not always. She is in enough control of her sexuality
that she is taking matters into her own hands. She has always had a fantasy. One fantasy. Usually
it’s a really dirty one. Dirtier than anything she could tell any past boyfriends/husbands. Or her
fantasy is a reaction to what her current spouse isn’t giving her: not hung enough, not dominant
enough, not enough stamina, her significant other is a woman and she needs to feel a real cock, etc.
Yes, this woman is often in a committed relationship, and her time with you will have to be a secret.
But you offered her a fantasy online that was exactly the one she has always fantasized about, and
she just HAD to try it. Like the Boss, once you’ve shown the Fantasy Fulfiller that you can provide
the experience she wants, she’ll be right over. She is educated, smart, accomplished and usually
in her mid-to-late 30s, but can be anywhere from her late 20s well into her 50s. She will show up
expecting this to be a one-time experience, but if you’re VERY good at giving her what she wants,
there may be a repeat performance. In the case that this woman is in a committed relationship with
a woman, there is the chance of turning a future encounter into a threesome … if you’re very, very
smart about it (more in Chapter Fourteen on this).
The Fantasy Fulfiller Couple
This is one I have never personally taken part in, although I have received more than a few
invitations, and you probably will too. We all have our own tastes, and this may appeal to you.
There are many traditional male/female couples out there looking to invite an additional man into
their playtime for various reasons and to play various roles. This can include anything from having
sex with the woman so the man can hear about it later, or having sex while he listens in on the
phone to engaging in a full sexual experience with both of them. Every couple looking to swing has
its own fantasies, and if theirs is complimentary to yours, there will be a lot of fun to be had. Don’t
worry about how to approach this opportunity. It will approach you if the couple finds the fantasy
you describe in one of your posts to be intriguing. And because there is generally a man at the other
end of the conversation, once the pictures are exchanged and everyone approves, closing the deal
should be quick and easy.
The Explorer
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generally younger, in college or in her mid 20s, but she could be a late bloomer into her 30s.
Second, she doesn’t have a single fantasy she wants to fulfill. She wants to go to the buffet and
experience as many small tastes as she can before she finds someone to settle down with someday.
All she wants to do right now is to learn and enjoy as much as she can. While she certainly has
her limits, she will respond to you if you offer her something that sounds like fun that she hasn’t
encountered before. In fact, this will be one of your quicker hookups. Generally, you’ll only meet
this woman once or twice before she absorbs the experience and moves on.
The Neglected Woman
This is the saddest type of woman on CL, but the one who feels she needs your attention the most,
and the one who will be the most appreciative afterward. She is in a relationship, but her spouse
has turned her into a roommate. Maybe they never have sex anymore. Maybe it’s once a month and
always in the missionary position. Maybe he never considers her satisfaction. For whatever reason,
she has lost her sense of sexuality and desperately wants to recapture it, even if that means it’s with
a stranger she just met on the internet. This is one of the most predominant groups on CL. She is
likely to be a BBW, her time will be limited and you MUST host. But this is one of the easiest deals
to close. And after you meet once, she will be happy to repeat the experience again and again, and
there is a high likelihood of making a good friend in the process.
WARNING: I’m not going to get into the morality of bedding an attached woman. You’re a
big boy, and you need to make your own choices. All I can say for this one is, you will be doing
something that could get you into trouble, possibly even killed by an enraged spouse. The good
news is that she will most likely take the secret of your encounters to the grave. And if her spouse is
really neglectful, he may not care that she’s sleeping with someone else. Still, be very careful.
The Recently Single Woman
This is the Neglected Woman in the twelve to eighteen months after she finally decides to leave
her spouse. Emotionally she knows she is not in any shape to have a relationship. But still she has
physical needs, which she can now satisfy without feeling the guilt of cheating on her husband/
boyfriend. Her fantasies are very much the same as the Neglected Woman, and she can be
approached sexually in very much the same way. The only difference is her emotional state. Expect
to be held at arm’s length emotionally, making a long-term friendship rather unlikely. However, she
will often be up for more than a single encounter.
The Bored Woman
She isn’t in need of anything. She is just browsing. This is the hardest deal to close and the hardest
group to define. She is smart (as she will sometimes tell you) and cynical (as you will quickly see
for yourself). She’s not there to get laid as much as she’s there to amuse herself. Women from this
group rarely write their own posts, and when they do they make it clear they know they won’t find
what they’re looking for on CL. But the fact is, she is bored and deep down she really is lonely.
She’s a tough nut to crack, but if you prove that you’re smart enough, quick enough and cynical
enough to keep up with her, she will consent to a non-sexual meeting. What you do from there is up
to you. Warning: it’s not going to be easy and it’s not going to be fast. But it could be interesting …
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The Dater
There are some women who choose to cut through the BS of meeting guys in the traditional ways;
going out on dates and getting to know them. They have a hard time conforming to the niceties
of polite society. But they know they want a steady sexual partner – almost a boyfriend, with the
sexual regularity but without the drama and emotional baggage – and they find him through CL
casual encounters. You’ll find that she is almost always highly educated and smart, but also a bit
outside the mainstream in a number of ways. She can be any age and can range from incredibly
attractive to a little below average in the looks department. Whether she spends most of her time
riding Harleys or smoking pot or spitting, belching and cursing like a sailor, you will find this
may not be a woman you would want meeting your parents, your coworkers, your friends or your
neighbors, but then again, you just might. She will hang around and have sex with you every night
if you let her.
The Crazy Dater
This is a subset of the Dater. She takes the idea of living outside the boundaries of polite society
to a whole new level. She isn’t just odd … she’s absolutely freaking nuts. She goes from CL guy
to CL guy, pretty much spending all of her time with one, until he finally tells her to get the hell
out. Be careful, she can sometimes be hard to spot. Trust your gut. If you meet someone that seems
great but raises that odd feeling in the pit of your stomach, you’ve probably just met the Crazy
Dater. But on the bright side, it is true that the crazy ones are BY FAR the best in bed.
The Wannabe
She could come off as any of the above, and you will feel that she is completely sincere in wanting
to meet. And she is. She’s just … petrified, no matter how confident her words seem. She will
disappear mid-email conversation or promise to come meet you, but never will. Nothing you can
say or do will change her decision to leave you hanging. I will get more into this type of woman in
Chapter Fourteen. I bring her up now because you will run into her occasionally on CL. Don’t take
it personally when she promises to show up but doesn’t. She wants to, she’s just scared.
WHAT CAN YOU DO WITH THESE PSYCHOLOGICAL SKETCHES?
Now that you know whom you’re potentially talking to, you can strategize ideas to communicate
with them. And since you know what each group is thinking, you can make them want to come
to you, a complete stranger, and fulfill your fantasies as you fulfill theirs. In the next chapter I’ll
explain which types of women’s fantasies are appropriate for each type of woman.
But first, since we’re talking about the types of women that are out there, I want to discuss
something that is probably on your mind that I haven’t yet touched on:
What do CL women look like?
The expectation is that women looking for casual encounters online are all trolls. After all, an
attractive woman doesn’t have to go online to find a man for sex. If you believe that, you will
be surprised …
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them you would probably think were truly physically unattractive. And most were somewhere in
between. But you may be more selective than I am. Or you may be less selective.
Either way, every time you look for women on CL, you have the opportunity to make new choices
in the women you will meet or won’t meet. You need to consider these types of women and ask
yourself who you want to meet and whom you want to avoid. After all if you’re not sure what you
want, you’ll never know when you find it. If all you want is anything with a pussy, feel free to skip
the rest of this chapter.
White, Hispanic, Asian and Black women
Let’s set aside political correctness for a moment. Are there any races you’re really into? Are
there any you’re just not into? It’s something important to consider. You don’t have to share
your answers with anyone, just know what you’re into and what you’re not. In every city I have
studied, the racial makeup of the town is very much reflected in the women on CL. So if you’re
living in a city that is predominantly white, that’s mostly what you’re going to find on CL. If you
want to find someone more exotic, post ads specifically describing who you’re looking for. If that
doesn’t work, consider spending time in another city where the racial makeup is a little more to
your sexual preferences.
BBWs
There are a lot of big, beautiful women in the general American population. So you know there is
no shortage of them on CL. The question is: how big does a woman have to be to be a BBW? I’ve
run into women who were a hot size 8 who considered themselves BBWs. And I’ve run into size
26s and higher who put themselves into that same category. So the question you should ask yourself
is whether you care about body size. If you do, start studying the different dress sizes. Know how a
size 12 is different than a size 16, and how that’s different than a size 20. Where on the spectrum do
you decide a woman is too fat for you? Or do you care?
You will find some men on CL looking specifically for BBWs. Some have a fetish. Others just
believe that BBWs are more desperate than fit women. I’m not sure that those men are correct. If
you want to increase your odds of success, be open to BBWs.
Older women
There aren’t that many women on CL over the age of 50, but you will occasionally find them if
you’re looking hard enough. Of course, if you’re 18 years old, a woman in her 30s seems pretty
old too. So consider the age group you’re looking for. A man looking for a much older woman is
offering something special to the lucky older woman. You will find women – “cougars” – who are
interested in that on CL. If you’re not interested in women much older than you, be sure to indicate
exactly the ages that interest you.
Younger women
There are not many older guys who will turn down a chance to fuck a much younger woman (at least
18 years old, please, let’s keep it legal). The challenge is finding a young woman who wants an older
man. You can find them if you use the right fantasies to attract them. Understand that if a younger
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should have been at my desk taking care of long-overdue paperwork. Instead, I was headed to
one of the wealthier neighborhoods in the area, just outside the city. But I didn’t really have
that much choice. She said she had been a bad girl. She said she needed a strong man to come
punish her. Who was I to deny her the discipline she needed, even if it was 10:30 on an otherwise
busy Wednesday morning?
I drove slowly among the old willows and the expansive lawns. I found the address and parked
in front of the house. Quite a respectful neighborhood, what the hell was I doing here? I popped
the trunk and took out my bag of toys. I closed the trunk and walked up the long walkway past the
striking landscaping. I knocked on the thick front door and waited. After a few moments, the door
was opened by an older woman in a bathrobe. Mid-50s, curvy body, not overly fat but certainly not
skinny either, a hairstyle that probably would have been a little more comfortable in 1972. In other
words: someone’s mom. But right now she was about to become the subject of my discipline for the
next couple of hours.
“Have you been a bad girl who needs to be punished?” I asked.
“Oh yes. So, so bad,” she smiled back.
I reached down and untied her robe, revealing a full set of breasts and a freshly shaved pussy.
“Very nice,” I said as much to myself as to her. “Thank you,” she replied, turning and heading into
her house. We walked past pictures of children, family times, and a variety of what I assumed were
keepsakes collected over decades. Leading me into a large, comfortable living room, she stopped
and turned. “So where do you want your bad girl?”
I walked behind her and pulled off her robe, placing it over the arm of an overstuffed chair. “Down
on your hands and knees,” I said sternly. I watched her go to her hands and knees, sticking her
naked butt up in the air for me. I reached into my bag for my paddle …

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Writing Your Ads:
Creating Success From Your First Word
Everything we’ve discussed up until now has focused on the science of success on CL. With
enough observation and experimentation it’s not too hard to map out and quantify what leads to
success and what doesn’t. You now know where to post, when to post and who will be reading your
posts. You also know what NOT to post. And I’ve given you some ideas of strengths to consider
when you’re writing a post or answering a woman’s ad. It’s all science so far, learned through
careful experimentation. But science only takes us so far.
There is also some art involved in foreplay and seduction. This is where the creativity really comes
in. Now let’s nwrite the words that will bring the women into your bed.
Everything that happens on CL occurs through the written word, so the importance of the words
you choose and the ideas they convey will be at the core of your success. For this chapter, I want to
focus on writing your ads. There is a lot to learn from this one aspect of CL that you will find useful
in replying to women’s posts, managing the conversation that results from successful contact and
the in-person meeting that follows.
Writing a successful post
Picture a woman in your mind. Just one. The woman you are going to fuck tonight. You don’t know
her yet, and she doesn’t know you. But within the next two hours she is going to log on to CL and
read your post. And you are going to say something that so completely captures her imagination
that she must reply.
But who is she, this woman you will be meeting tonight? In the previous chapter I gave you a list of
types of women I have found in various cities using CL. Let’s go through each type of woman and
discuss what you might write to each one.
The Boss
Have you ever wanted to see a successful, accomplished woman naked, on her knees, kneeling
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taking control from her. So do it. From your very first word. I found success running ads like this:

It’s time for you to get your spankings - m4w - 38
Date: 2010-01-10, 10:38PM PST
Reply To This Post
You’ve been such a bad girl, haven’t you? You’ve been letting your responsibilities go, and now you’re having trouble
getting back on track. You’ve been looking at dirty posts on Craigslist, getting all wet and playing with yourself when
you should be doing something more productive.
Well, it’s time for you to finally get what you’ve been needing for too long. You know you deserve it. You know you
need it. So here’s what you are going to do: you will message me telling me what a bad girl you’ve been and tell me
that you’re ready for whatever a strong man has in store for you today. You will come to me, and I will I bend you over
my knee, I will yank down your panties, and I will spank your ass until it’s all nice and red. First with my hand, then
with a paddle. Then, if you’ve been really bad, we will determine whether you require further discipline.
I don’t care about your age, race or body shape. Just make sure the subject line of your email says, “Please spank me, Sir.”

With that post I have generated a great deal of response from very smart, very strong, very
accomplished women. Why? Because it promises exactly what they don’t get in their lives right
now:
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Someone who will take control so they don’t have to plan everything.
Someone who has the power to identify when they need discipline and administer it.
Someone who can take them back to a time when they had no control (as a child) but at the
same time, they felt safe and protected.
Someone who is forceful enough to “put them in their place.”

But that’s not all this post does. It also:
- Focuses completely on the female reader. The word “you” and variations of it such as “your”
appear 27 times in just three paragraphs.
- It doesn’t focus on me at all. Did I say anything about what I want? Did I mention that I was
horny? Did I mention I need to get laid? No, I didn’t do ANY of those things. Because
nobody cares that I’m horny. It’s not news and it doesn’t make me seem endearing,
interesting or attractive.
- Offers a step-by-step explanation of what the reader will experience. Where will this happen?
My place. How will she be spanked? She will be over my knee, first with my hand then with a
paddle. I am building a fantasy storyline in her mind.
- Stands out from most of the other posts around it. Even the few where a guy wants to spank
someone. Most of those posts say something like, “Is there anyone around here who wants a
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storyline, no greater psychological game at play. No foreplay.
Opens the door to any woman reading. You may choose to be more discriminating. My
philosophy has always been “cast the net wide.” You will trade pictures before meeting
anyway, and if either of you are turned off, the meeting won’t happen. So I have never seen a
reason to say something like, “please no BBWs.” But you may choose a different path. Just
keep in mind before you exclude an entire group of women that there may be a few women
who would put themselves in your excluded category who you might find extremely attractive.
Promises that I will host. That means I own my own place and that I don’t have a wife that I’m
hiding from. A woman who responds may ask me to come to her, which I certainly will, but
being able to host puts me miles ahead of many, many men on CL.
Creates two ways to differentiate real responses from spam. More on this in Chapter Thirteen.

Now, a post offering spankings will not appeal to every woman. It won’t even appeal to every
woman in the Boss category. Not every woman who wants to lose some control wants corporal
punishment. But you only need one tonight. And this post has worked for me many times.
One more note about this post: do you remember in Chapter Seven when I discussed creating a
persona? Have I done it here with this ad? Can you imagine more about this persona than what is
stated here? It sounds like he is experienced, doesn’t it? It sounds like he is knowledgeable enough
and smart enough to be in control of any situation. Do you get the feeling that if you looked in his
bed stand, he’d have handcuffs in there? And maybe a length of rope under the bed? Do you get
the feeling that maybe he’s successful in business because he’s confident enough to take as much
control in the boardroom as he does in the bedroom? In three short paragraphs, I have created a
three-dimensional character for the reader to think about. I’m not just a random guy saying, “let me
come over and spank you, because I really like spanking women, then let me fuck you because I’m
horny as hell.”
This ad – and each ad I will show you – presents a persona. You will see some personas repeated
in these ads. Some personas will only show up once. For this to work – from placing the ad, to
the email exchange, through the complete sexual experience – each persona has had to reflect one
aspect of my personality. Your personality and your fantasies may support an entirely different cast
of personas. The fact is that we are all capable of having many different personas within us, and
there is great satisfaction to be discovered in letting them all come out and play.
The ads I’m showing you are only meant to be a starting point for your adventures on CL. If you
feel you can support one of the personas presented here, feel free to use some or part of any of
these ads as your own. They are all presented here as successful case studies for you to learn from,
adapt to your own personality and hopefully improve on. Please don’t deny yourself the thrill of
creating your own personas, writing ads for each of them, and letting each one experience a life it
never has. It will be a much more exciting and satisfying experience for you than just copying my
words and getting laid.
Here’s another one that has served me well with women in the Boss category:

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You are desperately in need of a Dom tonight - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-01-28, 10:50PM PST
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Simple: You contact me, you will come to my home where you do exactly as you are ordered. You get stripped naked
and you spend all night taking my hard cock in every hole. Throughout the night you will be filled with cum repeatedly.
This is for now. If you are obedient, this can become a regular thing. If you’ve never been used as a sub before, I will
go slow and train you. If you are experienced, I will go a lot faster and harder on you.
This is vital: any age and body type is completely welcome, BBWs, average to thin, older women and younger women,
as long as you are obedient.
Put “Please use me tonight” in the subject so I know you’re for real.

Let’s go through exactly what makes this post successful.
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First, it says I’m a Dom. That’s a promise of BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism and
Masochism) action. For a woman who has fantasized not just about losing control, but of
becoming a “sub” for a “Dom,” this is an offer she has to consider.
However, for anyone who has ever watched BDSM porn, it can get a little rough. So there is
a promise of “going slow” if “you’ve never been used as a sub before.” This opens the door to
the woman who has only fantasized about BDSM but isn’t sure she can handle it.
Again, it promises that once she shows up, she will no longer have to think. I will take full
control. She just has to exist and experience.
I’m still focused on her. I didn’t say, “I’m a Dom who needs a sub,” or “I’m horny and I need
to fuck a sub tonight.” Throughout the entire post I use the word “you” and variations of the
word fifteen times.
I give the reader a mental picture for her to fantasize about. No, it’s not a fantasy every woman
will share, but again, I’m only looking for one at a time.
This time I include a promise of sexual prowess. We will go “all night.” Make this or similar
promises only if you think there is a good likelihood you will be able to fulfill them.
Again I open this up to all women, and then I ask them to differentiate themselves from the spam.

Ask yourself this question: if you know that there is a type of woman who very much would
love someone to take control from her, but only in a SAFE, SANE manner, how else would you
approach her? I think there are a variety of ways. Think about it. Consider writing an erotic story
to draw her in, then stopping in the middle and asking if she wants to hear more. Watch some softcore porn in which a woman gives up power to a strong man and write out what happens, focusing
on the woman’s point of view. Ask any strong female friends you may have about their fantasies,
and write those out. There are countless ways to create your perfect post for the Boss.

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The Fantasy Fulfiller
Remember back in Chapter Seven when I had you list your strengths? I am sure that you have at
least one strength that you can use to fulfill the fantasy of at least one woman you will find on CL.
For example, there’s the fantasy of having sex outside. Do you have a pool? There are women who
have never had that opportunity, and on a beautiful summer day would love to give it a try. While I
have never been able to offer that fantasy, I have been able to offer this one:

Do you have an outdoor fantasy? So do I! - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-05-09, 1:19PM PST
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I’ve always wanted to have sex outdoors. Always. So I woke up today and, behold, it’s a fabulous day. Incredibly
fabulous. Perhaps the greatest day this city has ever experienced. So I started thinking, why waste such amazing
weather with another day not fulfilling this fantasy? Not gonna do it.
I have just the place. Zero chance of getting caught, or even being seen, but just public enough to be really interesting.
Now all I need is the girl.
I’m average height, HWP, single, educated, clean, well-groomed, sweet-smelling, DDF and a nice guy with a fantasy to
fulfill.
If this sounds at all interesting to you, let me know by sending me a note titled “Ah, the great outdoors” so I know
you’re not spam.

So what did I do with this post?
- I communicated a fantasy that you don’t see often on CL, but one that many women have on
their list of things they’d like to do some day.
- I made it simple for her to fulfill. I already have the place. All she needs to do is get in touch
with me. I cannot stress this enough: this ad would never work if I put the responsibility on her
for finding the right place to do this.
- I made it clear that it’s safe. “Zero chance of getting caught, or even being seen.” While some
women may really get off on a higher risk of getting caught, I know that I don’t want that
for myself, so I didn’t make it part of the fantasy. This was a personal preference, yours
could be different. But another preference of mine when I wrote this ad was that I wanted a
woman who is somewhat sexually adventurous, but not into taking stupid risks. The fantasy
spoke directly to that preference.
- I described myself in a positive and truthful way. I didn’t say I was hot, but I did list my
positive physical attributes. Don’t overlook “well-groomed and sweet-smelling” as attractors
for women. No matter who you are, with a small effort you can be both of those things.
- Notice that I ran this ad in the early afternoon on a beautiful weekend day. I was targeting
women who were at home in the afternoon, bored, horny, looking outside and wishing
they had something fun to do out there.I did violate my rule on writing for “you.” While
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this ad, I didn’t know how many women had this fantasy, I just knew I did. I soon found out
that many women did, especially on really beautiful days. If I were to run this again, I might
rewrite it around the woman’s experience. Having said that, since this ad allowed me to
fulfill this fantasy, I didn’t run it long enough to experiment with it. If you choose to run an ad
like this, you might want to consider writing it from the woman’s point of view.
Again, I ask the woman to prove that she isn’t spam.

Let’s try another fantasy. This one is rougher than the outdoor fantasy. For the Boss we discussed
offering her the fantasy of becoming a submissive. At first glance, this next one is the same fantasy,
but in the mind of the woman, there is a world of difference between the submissive fantasy and
what I will offer below:

You dirty, worthless whore - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-03-11, 1:25AM PST
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Down on your knees, you fucking whore. Do the one thing you’re best at. Take every inch of my hard cock in every
one of your holes. You’ve been waiting for a man to come and treat you as the whore you are all night, and now I’m
finally here. I don’t even care about your age or your body type, as long as you’re a woman ready to be treated like the
whore you know you are. So stop wasting my time, bitch. The subject of your email needs to say, “I’m your whore” if
you’re going to get any attention tonight. And be ready to get your tight little ass over here quickly.
Women ONLY. I’m going to need all three holes tonight.

How is this different than the submissive fantasy for the Boss?
- I treated the Boss with some respect. I told her exactly what I was going to do to her, giving
her the full storyline. In this case, I’m just saying “I’m going to treat you like a worthless
whore, and fuck you in every way.”
- I never called the Boss any names. She is not a whore, a slut or a bitch. While the Boss wants
to give away control, she usually doesn’t want to be degraded. Many in the Fantasy Fulfiller
group do have a fantasy of being degraded.
So while your role remains similar in this fantasy for the Fantasy Fulfiller as it is for the fantasies
for the Boss, the role of the woman changes dramatically in this one, at least in the mind of the
woman.
What else did I do with this ad?
- I wrapped her in the fantasy from the first word. I am talking to her as if she is already in the
room with me, naked and on her knees. I know from the experience of women I’ve met from
running this ad that if she already has this fantasy, she will start getting wet once she reads this
headline. She will then read the body of the ad and get wetter and wetter.

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I’ve opened this up to all women. I will see a picture before we arrange a place to meet, so I
will be able to back out soon enough if I’m really not attracted to her.
I’ve subtly created scarcity and urgency. The fact is, at the time of night I’m running this, she
probably doesn’t believe she’s going to find too many men online that interest her. I have
reminded her that if she doesn’t respond, she’s probably not going to get this fantasy
anywhere else. Now, that probably isn’t technically true, since she could post her own ad
saying “treat me like a whore” and get 100 responses in minutes, even at 2:00 a.m. But still, my
bet is she’s not thinking that clearly at this time of night.
And I have demanded “Women ONLY.” Why? As you get later into the night, you will find
more and more non-women (gay men, cross dressers, transgendered, etc.) responding to
your posts. This is simply because as it gets late, many CLers go to sleep, and there are
fewer posts appearing for anyone still up to respond to. If you make it very clear, “Women
ONLY” you will preempt most non-women from contacting you. When I state that I “need all
THREE holes” I have found I pretty much eliminate all responses from non-women.

What other fantasies can you think of that the Fantasy Fulfiller will jump at the chance to try? Sex
on your desk in your office or in a boardroom? Role playing the bad employee having a meeting
with the boss? Maybe you have a variety of sex toys that she’s never had the nerve to buy and bring
home, but you have them and they’re totally ready for her? Maybe you have a physical trait or
ability that she has always wanted to check out, but never had the opportunity? The possibilities are
only as limited as your imagination. Whatever you choose, she will see you as head and shoulders
above all of the other guys on CL who are just saying they’re horny and need to get laid.
The Fantasy Fulfiller Couple
Here’s the bad news on this one: I’ve never looked for or wanted a M/F couple to play with, so I
don’t have any experience on how to find them. But here’s the good news: if you want to find an
M/F couple, they post on CL constantly throughout the day and night in most big cities, especially
in cities that make good vacation destinations (if you’re not seeing any posts in your area, plan a
trip for a weekend to your nearest big city). If you want to find them, you will. And on occasion,
they will answer one of your posts targeting women.
The Explorer
Any post that attracts the Fantasy Fulfiller will also interest the Explorer. The only difference
between the two groups is that this one is looking for a variety of interesting, new sexual
experiences instead of one in particular. And this one tends to skew younger. For that reason, I have
found this to be a very effective ad:

Daddy’s home - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-01-02, 4:18PM EST
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Oh, princess, I know you’ve been reading those dirty CL posts again. Have you been having dirty thoughts? Tingling
down there in your private parts? I know it’s fun to play on the computer, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay to play with

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yourself as you read dirty, dirty things online. What a bad little girl you’ve been today. You know that when you’re
good you get rewarded in all kinds of ways, but we’ve been over this again and again and again. I’m afraid this time
you’re going to need to be punished. Pull down your panties and bend over my knee, princess.
If you have something to say for yourself before I start spanking your little ass, send me a note with the words, “I’m
sorry, Daddy” in the subject line.

The first thing you’ll probably notice is there are some parallels between this fantasy and others we
have just covered. Power exchange and spankings to be specific. Part of this comes down to my
personal tastes and strengths. I happen to be very good at administering spankings. But beyond that,
power exchange is a societal taboo, and that makes it hot, exciting and different to many kinds of
women, the Explorer included.
Plus, since the Explorer tends to skew younger, if you’re an older man, there is a natural role play
fantasy there for a horny woman in her 20s looking for something she’s never tried before. If you
are an older man who really enjoys younger women, the Daddy/daughter, Uncle/niece, Professor/
student and other similar role plays are all great ways to attract younger women who usually
wouldn’t be interested.
What else did I do with this ad?
- I described how she is feeling as she goes through the CL ads. Describing her as “tingling
down there” makes me look like I know a lot more than I really do. Note, I only said
“tingling,” I didn’t overdo it by saying she was wetter than she has ever been in her life. It
doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that if a woman is going through the CL
personals, she is probably beginning to get turned on, at least a little. If she was
intrigued enough by my headline to click on it and read my ad, then there is an even
greater chance she is feeling a little tingly down there. But “knowing” this intimate
bit of information makes it seem like “Daddy” understands her body almost as well as
she understands herself.
- I have called her on the “fact” that she is touching herself. Whether she actually is or she isn’t
at that moment is irrelevant. We live in a society that looks down on masturbation, and telling
her to stop at a moment when she is feeling horny reinforces me as an authority who has some
right to tell her what to do. This is a template that will serve me well after she contacts me and I
tell her how Daddy wants her dressed and what she needs to do to see Daddy.
- I haven’t just threatened to spank her. I have offered her both punishment and reward. How
she responds to me will determine where this fantasy goes. Some who reply will very much
want to be Daddy’s dirty little slut, and Daddy is happy to accommodate them. But an equal
number would rather be Daddy’s little angel, doing all she can to make Daddy proud of her
rather than being punished. Be flexible enough in your scenarios to accommodate the
preferences of the woman answering your post.
- Again, I have asked her to differentiate herself from the spam this ad will accumulate.
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don’t feel the need to waste your time analyzing multiple ads that will work for this category. Just
think of interesting scenarios that some women haven’t had the opportunity to try, but would want
to. For ideas, look at women’s porn, racier romance novels, women’s magazines like Cosmo and
others offered at grocery store checkout lines, fantasies of close female friends or even the lyrics of
some pop songs. Again, endless possibilities.
The Neglected Woman/The Recently Single Woman
I am putting these two groups together, because both have the same need and respond to the same
fantasies. Unlike the previous groups, your best bet is NOT getting too deep into any kind of role
play. And power exchange is going to generally be way over the top for this group. What they really
need is tender loving care. So how do you approach them? Here is one of my all-time favorite and
most successful ads:

Here’s why you need my tongue between your legs tonight m4w - 35
Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM PST
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You will never meet a man who takes as much joy in giving oral as I do. I love it at several levels. First, I love the
power of being completely responsible for a woman’s complete satisfaction, especially women who have never had
a very good experience with receiving oral in the past. And I love when I’ve made a woman cum hard, and she’s
expecting me to mount her and fuck her, but instead I very lightly continue to use my tongue on her, and feeling
her go from, “no, it’s okay, I just came,” to “oh my god, I’m going to cum again!” Second, I LOVE the feeling of
accomplishment of what I can do to a woman using nothing by my tongue, my lips and a finger or two. I don’t believe
that every man can be an expert at pleasing a woman orally, so every time I do, I get quite a rush of pleasure. Third,
I take great pride in the compliments I’ve received in my talents. It’s not like you can just go down there and lick the
same way on every woman every time and get satisfactory results. You have to listen closely with all of your senses
to do it right. Your tongue and lips almost need to become an extension of the woman you’re with, you need to lose
yourself in her pleasure and go where she needs you to go rather than following any prior moves that may have worked
for someone else. Fourth, I just enjoy the act itself. The feel, the taste, everything.
If you’re interested, send me a note with the words “Eat me” in the subject line ...

Do you see what I did with this ad?
I have offered an incredibly valuable service to just about any woman, an experience in which
they will be orally pleased, and completely satisfied. Does that alone make me unique? Of course
not. In every CL city, there is at least one posting an hour from a man saying, “I want to eat some
pussy,” “Let me lick your clit,” or some other completely non-sensitive way of conveying what
I’ve managed to say here. What makes this ad special isn’t so much the offer as the sensitivity with
which it has been phrased. Let me show you what I mean using ads I’ve found at random from men
that probably weren’t finding much success. I do NOT suggest trying the following approaches:

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looking to give nsa oral sex to a very hairy women - m4w –
(anywere)
Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM CST
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I like it hairy I want to eat a pussy with a big hairy bush the more hair to better I don’t mind if it a little strong smelling
to no strings no questions any size women I don’t care must be std free and have your own place

looking to eat pussy - m4w – 21 (Philly)
Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM EST
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I’m a 22yo virgin looking to eat clean pussy for the first time if u wana help me loose my virginity, write me back

I LOVE TO EAT PUSSY - m4w – 50 (Little Rock)
Date: 2010-01-07, 6:55PM CST
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I LOVE TO EAT PUSSY
ITS AS SIMPLE AS THAT
WE MEET I EAT YOUR PUSSY
UNTIL YOU HAD A FEW ORGASMS
OR UNTIL U HAVE HAD ENOUGH
THEN WE PART WAYS,
NO RECIPROCAL NEEDED !!! UNLESS YOU WANT

Putting aside the misspellings and grammar issues, what did these three men say that was different
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with dozens of women thanks to that ad. How many women would you think these other three ads
scored in total? I’m thinking zero.
So what made my ad special? From a man’s perspective, if a woman wrote, “Let me suck your
cock,” you’d be totally down with that. That’s exactly the type of ad you’ve been waiting for. Total
simplicity. So a man writing, “Let me eat your pussy,” seems like a pretty great offer too, if you’re
thinking like a man.
But think about it from the woman’s perspective. Her pussy is delicate, and you are a strange
man. If a woman really wants to have her pussy devoured and conquered in a manly way, you’re
probably better off hitting her with a role play idea in which you devour her entire body.
A woman who just wants a very nice oral experience, followed by equally fulfilling intercourse,
needs something more subtle and sensitive. If you’re good at giving oral to a woman, you know
that you get the best results from most women by being careful and sensitive and paying attention
to their every movement. So let your words be every bit as sensitive as your tongue. Let’s go
through the post I’ve gotten such success with and break down what I did right:
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The headline, “Here’s why you need my tongue between your legs tonight,” is all about the
woman and her needs. It doesn’t say anything about what I want. It’s about what she NEEDS.
I don’t use the word “pussy” at all in this post. Not in the headline, nor in the body. I’m a lot
more subtle than that. I used a far more classy way of explaining the act. And if I’m subtle and
respectful on paper, she can only assume I’ll be the same in person when I’m in the act
of satisfying her.
I don’t use the word “eat” in this post either, until the final line. And when I do use the word,
it’s making fun of an idiom that has nothing to do with the act of oral sex. Eat is such a
strong word for such a soft set of actions. The fact is that, when performing oral, you’re not
really eating anything. You’re not using your teeth or chewing. You are kissing, you are licking,
you are teasing, but you are certainly not eating. She definitely knows the difference. With my
word choices, I show her that I know the difference too.
I have demonstrated knowledge of oral sex that most women have come to expect that
most men won’t have. Women know that most men just use oral sex to get the woman ready
for intercourse. Many men don’t worry about bringing a woman all the way to orgasm even
once orally. And very rare is the man who brings about a woman’s orgasm orally, and then goes
for a second, third or fourth round before getting to the sexual acts that he will find more
physically satisfying.
I obliquely mention compliments from past lovers, establishing my experience and my
expertise. I do not go over the top with it though. I keep it subtle. To do otherwise would be
bragging and sound untrue.
I ascribe my own joy to her satisfaction. I make the entire fantasy about her total and complete
happiness. I don’t even mention having intercourse with her, although I do fully intend to fuck
any woman I meet on CL. The few times I’ve had a woman ask me to just come over and do as
I promised in this ad, without them returning favors of any kind, I have declined, telling them
I’m a very generous lover and I only play with lovers who are equally generous. It gives me the
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women who offer me similar satisfaction.
- And again, I end with the request that they differentiate themselves from the spam this post will
be receiving.
Here’s another ad I’ve used that works quite well for me with the Neglected Woman and the
Recently Single Woman. At first glance, this may sound like I’m breaking one of my cardinal rules
about trying to be everything for every woman, but after you read it, I’ll explain how this is far
more targeted than it seems:

I make fantasies come true - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-01-11, 11:02AM PST
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You know that secret fantasy you’ve had in the back of your mind for years? Oh, you know, the one you haven’t wanted
to trust anyone with? Maybe it was just SO unlike you. Maybe it was a little too dirty. Maybe you just didn’t want to be
judged. Maybe you’ve been in a relationship and didn’t know how to ask.
Well, if you’re willing to take a chance, today is your day!!!
Just whisper in my ear. I’m not here to judge. Just to help you find joy in that idea you’ve always wanted to play with.
Is it role play? Awesome.
Finding a secluded semi-public place to get dirty? No problem.
Want to be with someone who will make your pleasure his singular goal for the evening? You got it.
Just want to spend the day with someone who will treat you like a lady and pay complete attention to everything you’re
thinking and feeling? Consider it done.
Just send me a message titled “I have a fantasy” and the rest of the day is yours!
Don’t just sit there at your computer, wondering what today could have been ...

If you read between the lines, what am I actually offering here?
I’m offering the reader someone who will listen to whatever she wants. That is all. Do you know
what every single woman who has responded to this ad had in common? They were starved
for companionship. Starved to be taken out to dinner and to be listened to and engaged in real
conversation. Starved to be taken home and treated like a princess, to feel taken care of, to feel loved.
Between careers and paying bills and raising children, I believe that the pressure imposed by
today’s society on long-term relationships has made having a satisfying sex life very, very hard.
And some couples find it impossible even to find the energy – much less the excitement – to keep
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extremely sexual beings, even more than men, it begins to explain why so many married women
are unhappy and why so many are divorcing.
All the Neglected Woman and the Recently Single Woman wants is to be treated the way they had
been promised they would when they began their long-term relationships: with care, with respect
and with passion. Knowing that, what ideas can you come up with that will talk directly to these
women, making it clear you understand their needs, and you’re ready to give them everything they
have been needing?
Here is one more ad that has had awesome results for me:

It’s one of those nights where if I was married … - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-01-01, 11:26PM PST
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... I would turn to my wife and say, “Hey, wife, let’s have some fun tonight!”
But I’m not. Married, that is. And if you’re reading this, you’re probably not either. And if you are married, you’re
probably feeling even more alone than I am.
Anyway, it’s getting kind of late, and if I knew what was good for me, I would be thinking about going to bed. Not
looking for trouble here in CL.
Yet ... here I am. And here you are too. Hmmmm ... interesting ...
I’m a normal guy. Pillar of the community, salt of the earth and all of that. I just have a knack for needing something
when everyone else in the world is on their way to bed.
If you’re with me so far, send me a note with the words, “I’m with you” in the subject line. Maybe we can figure out a
way to push away the loneliness before the night is completely over.

What have I done with this ad?
- I’ve just described the reader’s situation, but attributed it to myself. Who better to understand
her loneliness than a clearly sensitive man declaring to the world how lonely he is?
- I’ve made it clear that I’m not married. That means that if she can find a way to get to me, I will
likely be able to offer a safe place for us to share in our loneliness.
- I have delicately asked the question, “What are you doing on CL casual encounters at this time
of night if you’re not looking for trouble?” Of course she’s looking for trouble, even if she only
believes she is bored and entertaining herself. Eventually she WILL answer an ad. It might as
well be mine.
- Notice: I NEVER SAID ANYTHING ABOUT SEX. I didn’t say I’m horny. I didn’t say I was
looking to get laid. This group IS looking for sex, but they’re not willing to say it out loud.

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What they want is “companionship.” But show them a few hours of that and they can’t wait to
get you into bed.

The Bored Woman
You know two paragraphs ago when I said, “Of course she’s looking for trouble, even if she only
believes she is bored and entertaining herself”? Well that doesn’t apply to this group. She is literally
in it for her own entertainment and nothing more. And that means laughs, not sex. And if there ever
is sex, she’ll make you work for it over several weeks, not several hours. If you’re looking for the
quick score, there’s nothing you can write to this woman to make it happen quickly. However, if
you’d like her to reply, I recommend humor. Something like the following will get you noticed, and
replied to, but if it actually gets you laid, you’re a better man than I am.
You know how celebrities tend to die in threes? Here’s an ad I roll out on occasions when that
happens. Of course, I change the names to include the newly dead celebrities:

Gary Coleman: dead. Dennis Hopper: dead. - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-06-02, 8:40PM EST
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Me: horny. Let’s not allow there to be any more tragedy this sad, sad week. I’ll host. I’ve got the wine. You show up
with a smile.
Message me now ...

So what does this ad do?
- It says, “Hey, I’m entertaining. And I’m as timely as today’s headlines!”
- It says my sense of humor is borderline inappropriate, and therefore interesting.
- Because I’ve got wine it says I’m at least a little sophisticated and at least somewhat interested
in stocking something that women tend to be more interested in than beer.
Because I can only run this when at least two high-profile celebrities have recently passed away, I
have only run this a few times. It never fails to get responses. Just not ones from women looking
for sex. I include this ad because it does get responses and can prove to even the most frustrated
male poster that real women DO exist on CL.
Here is another funny one that often gets responses, and has occasionally even led to a sexual
encounter. The women who respond to this one too, are really just looking to be entertained, not
meet in person or have sex. Converting them into sexual partners requires deeper investments in
time than any of the previous ads I’ve shown you. However, if you really like smart, funny women
who don’t easily go to bed with a stranger, this is a good one:

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Good news. :) Bad news. :( - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-03-12, 3:12PM EST
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Bad news: the other day I was really, really horny.
Good news: I got on Craigslist and put up an ad!
Bad news: it wasn’t easy for me to write anything as interesting, charming and funny as I actually am in person.
Good news: I came up with something halfway decent! And I got a LOT of responses!!!
Bad news: all the responses were spam. Most were from someone named “Madison.”
Good news: it’s another beautiful evening in Boston, the most fun city in the world ... or at least the most fun part of
New England ...
Bad news: I’m still really, really horny.
Good news: hopefully you are too, and you’re looking for a kind, creative, experienced man who knows how to satisfy
a woman!
Bad news: there’s a high probability I’ll get a dozen emails from “Madison” responding to this post.
Good news: if you answer this ad with the words “Madison is a complete bitch” in the subject line, I’ll know at least
one of my responses is actually real this time!

What does this ad do?
- It pokes fun at the one thing that everyone on CL has to deal with: spam. It’s a shared
experience that many people complain about. Instead of making another complaint, this
is written in a way that is fun and engaging.
- I repeat that “I’m really, really horny” twice. Because it’s done in a humorous format, women
think I’m making fun of all of the other guys who are posting on CL saying seriously, “I’m
horny,” adding to the sense that I’m entertaining.
- It offers a story that, evidently, women are interested in. Every woman who has responded to
this ad has begun by asking whether I ever got a real response on CL. I believe the women who
have responded to this ad see someone fun who is not a player, because I’m making it clear I’ve
been looking but that I have only gotten spam so far. And that is attractive enough for them to
want to talk, even if they were only reading for entertainment.
Here is one last ad that almost always gets responses from very, very hot women. Sadly, it’s never
resulted in a sexual conquest for me. After much thought, I have come to realize the following ad
creates a fantasy in the reader’s mind that includes a man attractive enough to be a presidential

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candidate. I do not physically qualify, and once a woman sees my picture, the fantasy ends and they
lose interest. I include this ad because if you happen to look at all presidential, this will get you
laid, quickly and by very hot women:

So I’m thinking of running for President of the United States m4w - 37
Date: 2010-04-18, 2:21PM CST
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I’m educated, smart, a problem solver, and I’m damn good at speaking in public. I’m only missing one thing: a
salacious secret. Something sexually based. Something that will sell newspapers and lead on all the cable news shows.
Now, I’m not married, so it’s got to be better than JUST having a mistress. This has to be REALLY interesting. I’m
open to ideas. I’m thinking it needs to be really dirty.
Of course, being a future President, it wouldn’t look right for me to come up with something that dirty myself. And
I hate to ask my advisors for ideas on something so personal. So I look forward to hearing your ideas. But no guys,
please. I’m not running for Pope. Just President.
Thank you. Good night. And God bless America.

So what does this ad do?
- It makes it clear, I am smart and funny, and it implies that I am fun, interesting, successful and
hopefully attractive enough to look good in a televised debate.
- It says I’m single and available.
- It doesn’t demand sex. It doesn’t even put forward a sexual fantasy. Instead, it asks the woman
to submit her fantasy, asking her to make it “really dirty.” This ad even gives the reader a fun
story line that explains why I can’t volunteer a dirty sexual fantasy myself.
Can you think of other ways to be funny, cool and charming, distancing yourself from the horny
and crude ads that most men are posting? For more ideas watch a romantic comedy, read an issue of
Cosmo or go to a bookstore and pick up one of the latest novels for women about relationships. I’ll
warn you, it’s a lot of work, the payoff takes a lot longer and what you’ll end up with is closer to a
girlfriend than a casual encounter. But if you want the Bored Woman, you know what you need
to do now.
The Dater
Up until now, I have tried to coach the guy who is average in every way. In fact, back in Chapter
Three I specifically said:
To succeed on CL:
- You don’t need to be great looking.

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You don’t need to be in excellent physical shape.
You don’t need to be well endowed, sexually or any other way.
You don’t need to be rich.
You don’t need to have a great resume.
You don’t need to be experienced in bed.

I hope I have shown you at this point how an average guy can get laid on CL without being special
in any of these departments. However, if you want to get the attention of the Dater, you will need to
be special in at least one or more of these ways. I don’t like saying that, but I have to be honest with
you. If you are unable to offer any of these attributes, focus on any of the other types of women I
have mentioned.
The Dater is going to find a guy to have sex with regularly. He will become her “boyfriend.” I put
boyfriend in quotation marks, because it will be an odd relationship in which there isn’t the kind
of knowledge of each other or deep caring that would be the center of a traditional relationship. In
fact, in this relationship, neither person truly cares enough to really get to know much about the
other. You can’t even call it friends with benefits, because friends are usually curious about each
other’s background, likes, dislikes, passions, etc. No, this is really just two people spending lots of
time fucking and eating meals together because, well, you’re probably fucking before and after the
meal, so it’s silly not to eat together.
The Dater is really just looking for good sex over and over and over. So if you’re better than most
guys at some aspect of sex, and you’re able to communicate that in a way that appeals to her, you
will have her attention. If you can talk the talk through an email conversation, she will usually be
willing to meet within a few hours of your first contact. And if you can show that you walk the
walk in your first physical encounter, you will find that you can have her as often as you want.
One of the ads that works very, very well with this group is the first ad I showed you for the
Neglected Woman/Recently Single Woman titled, “Here’s why you need my tongue between your
legs tonight.” It makes perfect sense why that ad works for the Dater: as long as she’s going to be
spending lots of time with a guy and having lots of sex with him, he might as well be very good at
giving oral. It’s simple math.
Here’s another one that works very well with this group:

Here’s the thing ... it’s my thing ... it’s extra-wide - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-01-11, 9:21PM PST
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And right now it’s extra hard too. Looking for a woman who will really appreciate some girth, some hardness and some
all-around fun tonight. Completely open to age and body type. But you MUST be a woman to play.

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So if you’re a WOMAN and serious about feeling yourself being stretched out tonight, send me an email with the
words “Girth is good” in the subject line.

What have I done with this ad?
- It’s pretty simple. I have offered the reader an extra-wide penis. It may not be something every
woman craves, but it’s not a bad thing to have either. Some women will be very interested, and
not just the ones in the Dater category.
- But I have NOT shown a picture of my penis. Women find that gross. Now, some will ask for
proof before they are willing to meet, in which case, a penis picture needs to be forthcoming.
But the difference between sending a picture when asked and putting it in your post is the
difference between taking off your pants for a woman who has told you she wants to have sex
with you and flashing random women on the street.
- I have been lighthearted and discreet in my word choices. Do the words “penis,” “cock” or
“dick” ever appear in this ad? No. I used the word “thing.”
- I opened it up to all women and asked them to differentiate themselves from the spam.
- And I repeated that you must be a woman. Why did I do that? Well, I have discovered that men
with larger or thicker … things … are often sought out by other men on CL. Even if you’re
placing your ad as a m4w entry, gay men will often contact you just to see if they have
a chance. Stating clearly and repeatedly that you’re only looking for women usually eliminates
awkward questions.
So what out-of-the-ordinary thing do you have to offer the Dater? It doesn’t have to be purely about
sexual ability, as long at it adds to her sexual experience in some way. It could be physical (you’re
very tall or very strong), financial (she can come hang out in a beautiful home and have sex on the
hood of your beautiful Italian sports car), or any other asset you have that would put you ahead of
other guys in the minds of the women in this group.
The Wannabe
The Wannabe will never meet anyone from CL. There are certainly ads that will get her attention
and that will have her emailing all night with you. You may even get her to promise to come right
on over. But she never will. I will get more into the Wannabe in Chapter Thirteen.

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M

y phone made a familiar chime. I smiled knowing exactly who was trying to get my
attention. I took my eyes off of the empty interstate, picked up the phone and read the
text:

Master, when will you be here? I am so wet.
My car’s GPS system said I was just minutes away. I punched a few words into my phone:
Your Master is nearly there, slut. Are you prepared to follow all of the orders you have been given?
A moment and another chime:
Yes, sir. Please hurry. Your slut needs you.
Both the GPS and the directions she had emailed me indicated I had made it to my destination. I
found a visitor’s space in front of the upscale apartment complex, parked the car, and popped open
the trunk. As I grabbed my bag, I punched a few more words into the keypad:
Your Master is here, slut. Do I need you to remind you what to do?
I closed the trunk and fished through my bag as I walked toward where I thought apartment 212
should be. The phone chimed again:
No sir. Your slut is ready to obey.
Standing in front of unit 212, blindfold in one hand, handcuffs in the other, I took a deep breath.
I reached for the doorknob and opened the unlocked front door. Stepping into the darkened
apartment, I locked the door behind me and took another deep breath to calm myself. As my eyes
adjusted to the darkness, over in the living room I saw the light of a candle reflecting on her skin
just a few feet away. Naked, on her knees, with her back to the door, exactly as her Master had
ordered. As I placed the blindfold around her face and tied it at the back of her head, I said, “Very
nice, slut.”

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“Thank you, Master.”
I got down on my knees behind her and gently closed one handcuff around her right wrist, then
one around her left. Fully bound, she leaned against me, melting her body into mine. With my lips
against her right ear, I whispered, “Are you ready for your Master to use you in every way now,
slut?”
“Oh yes, Master,” she whispered back.
I stood and slipped off my pants, throwing them onto the couch. Now in front of her, I gave her my
next order, “Open your mouth, slut,” and I stepped closer …

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It’s Not A Conversation. It’s Foreplay.
The first time you get a response to one of your posts from a real woman, it’s really exciting. Hell,
the 100th time you get a response from a real woman it’s pretty exciting too. But don’t let that
excitement cause you to trip over your own dick. You’ve made it to first base. Congratulations! But
don’t get cocky. There’s still a long way to go. She has decided you’re interesting enough to risk
sending one email. Whether or not there’s a second, a third or even a meeting is all about how you
play it from here.
I can’t coach you to be successful in every single email conversation you have. When I’m at my
best I only convert about 60% of my conversations into meetings. But when I started, that number
was closer to 10%. Practice definitely sharpens your abilities. Here are the rules of engagement I
have learned in converting a real response into a meeting:
1. This is foreplay.
She came to CL for a reason. Whether she consciously admits it or not, that reason is at least
partially sexual. She may not want sex immediately, but she wouldn’t be on casual encounters if
she wasn’t looking for a sexual encounter within the next week or two. You have piqued her interest
enough to send you an email, and that means she is sexually interested. Let the email foreplay
begin. The better at it you are, the quicker you’ll get her into your bed.
So what does it mean to use your email conversation for foreplay? Let me answer that question
with a metaphor:
Have you ever tried coaxing a squirrel out of a tree with a nut? You know the squirrel wants that
nut, but its fear keeps it from coming up to you and taking it from your hand. So the squirrel
sits there and observes you. If you are very calm, very quiet, very patient and move very slowly,
eventually, that squirrel may just come a little closer and try to get that nut from you. But any
sudden movements or loud expressions, and you’ll never see the squirrel again.
Coaxing a woman on CL into a meeting isn’t much different. You know she wants it, but she’s a
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will actually come out and take your nut.
In other words, email foreplay means taking your time. It means being more mindful of her
concerns than your physical needs. It means engaging her senses. It means being playful. It means
moving her from intrigued, possibly feeling a little tingly down there, to getting her absolutely
sopping wet using nothing but your words.
2. Don’t be a victim of premature invitation.
When you’re in bed with a woman, when is the best time to end foreplay and move into
intercourse? Do you wait until she’s wet? Do you wait until she has an orgasm? Do you wait until
you’ve been doing it for an hour? My answer would be: the best time for foreplay to end is when
the woman is begging you to stop and please, please, please just fuck her right now.
Email foreplay is no different. Making the formal request, telling her she needs to meet you now,
getting her address or getting her to agree to come over to your place right now requires much
patience. Regardless of how long you’ve been talking, regardless of how horny you are, you are
a stranger to her, and her default position on meeting is going to be “no.” The only thing that will
change her “no” to an “I’ll be right over” is getting her so hot, so horny, wanting you so much that
her need overwhelms her reasoning and she starts making decisions with parts of her body other
than her brain.
3. Remain in character.
You chose a persona for the CL ad you placed. She has replied to THAT persona. Do not disappoint
her. When you get her email, you will see the CL email address in the email. The address will
include your post’s unique identification number. The address will look similar to this:
[email protected]. The identification number in that sequence is:
2207511290.
You can go back to the CL site and check your account to see the posts you’ve sent out from that
account. Before you reply to her, take a moment to go back and read the post she is replying to. If
you have multiple posts running, as you should, you want to be certain that you are replying as the
persona she wrote to.
4. End every email with a question.
It is remarkably easy for a woman to stop an email conversation at any point. All she has to do
is walk away from her computer and the conversation ends. You’re hard as a rock and waiting to
fuck her, while she’s in the kitchen cleaning out her refrigerator. Or maybe she’s begun another
conversation with someone she finds more interesting. Or maybe she’s gone to sleep for the night.
Or maybe she had an embolism and died. Either way, you’re horny and waiting to get her next
message when, to her, you’re a long-forgotten memory.
How do you discourage her from walking away? Ask questions with every email, ones that are
hard not to answer. It shows an interest in her, and more importantly, it doesn’t make her have to
think too hard about what to say next to keep the conversation going. You do the work, just let her
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Your questions will not only keep the conversation going, you will use them to further the foreplay
to get her into your bed. Let me show you how a couple of typical conversations have gone from ad
placement to successful sexual conquest:
I’m going to start with one that is a little complicated, so I can illustrate several concepts with one
story. In this case, it was a Thursday night, the best night for finding success on CL. I began the
evening horny, feeling fortunate that it happened to be the best night of the week for fishing on CL.
I created several ads. I was really hoping for a Fantasy Fulfiller on this night, because I was feeling
lazy. I wanted to get a woman hot and bothered, have her come over after a minimum of email
foreplay.
On this evening, only one of my ads received a real response. Here’s the ad:

Here’s what you will experience tonight - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-03-11, 8:21PM PST
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There’s a knock at your door. You open it and see a handsome man, in his mid 30s. He grabs you around the
waist, pulls you into the room, and whispers in your ear, “Have you been a bad little girl looking for some sexy
fun on Craigslist? Good.”
He draws you closer and kisses you hard on the lips. He kisses down your cheek to your neck. He explores your
neck with his lips until he finds that one spot that makes you gasp ... at the back of the neck along the hairline.
Once he finds that spot, he kisses down your chest. Once his mouth finds those sweet nipples, you start to moan.
A hand finds its way down to your hot wetness, giving you a taste of what you’ll be experiencing down there once
his mouth arrives.
And so he begins kissing down, down, down, until he finds himself at your most private of parts. Tongue and lips
and fingers explore and you begin to breathe heavier and heavier. For -- how long? Minutes? Hours? Days? -- an
amount of time that has you going out of your mind, his expert tongue drives you crazy. But just as a climax is
about to finally occur ... he stops! He puts you down on your knees, unzips his zipper and says, “I’m going to use
that mouth of yours now.” Suddenly your mouth and throat are full of his hard, thick seven-inch manhood. In and
out. In and out. Your universe becomes nothing but his big, hard cock. As he comes closer and closer to gagging
you, your hands instinctively rise to protect you from his thrusting member. Strong hands quickly grab your
wrists, lifting them above your head, making it clear that, for now at least, you will be using only your mouth,
your lips and your tongue to please him.
Finally he removes himself from your mouth and pushes you forward onto your hands and knees. He circles
behind you, and SLAP! spanks you hard. SLAP! SLAP! SLAP! SLAP! Until you feel your ass getting a little red.
With each successive slap, you feel your little ass getting redder, and still he continues. SLAP! SLAP! SLAP!
SLAP! SLAP! SLAP!
And then, thankfully, the spankings stop. You feel a shift in his weight, as you feel pressure against your tight
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Do you want to know what happens next?

At this point, I’ve taught you enough that you can analyze what I was doing throughout this ad
without my having to explain it. But I will point out, this ad is all about her experience and her
needs, not mine. It’s literate and spell checked. And instead of just telling an entire story then
asking if she’s interested, I stop the narrative in the middle, so if she was interested enough to read
all the way through, she’s probably going to want to know how it continues.
Sure enough, an hour after the ad appeared on CL, I received this email reply:
SUBJECT: Here’s what you will experience tonight – m4w
** CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY --- AVOID SCAMS BY DEALING LOCALLY
** Avoid:  wiring money, cross-border deals, work-at-home
** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping
** More Info:  http://www.craigslist.org/about/scams.html
I am dripping wet!!  What next???
Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile
-----------------------------------------------------------------this message was remailed to you via: [email protected]
------------------------------------------------------------------

Okay, dripping wet! That’s a very promising start. And the question, “What next???” had contextual
relevance and proved to me that this was probably not spam. Fortunately, I had already written
multiple components to this story months before for a previous CL conquest. I saved every word
of that story to use again later. So I waited about 20 minutes so it wouldn’t look like the next part
of my story had been previously written, cut and pasted from an existing document, even though it
had been.
My email reply to her:
SUBJECT: Re: Here’s what you will experience tonight – m4w
Very well, I will continue...
He pauses for a moment. His breath seems to catch in his throat just a little and you can somehow feel him become
even more excited. You feel him stand up, walk away for a moment and walk back. With a sudden move, your
world goes completely dark as you realize you’ve been blindfolded. 
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your right. Your face hits the floor as your ass automatically rises into the air, and with a CLICK, CLICK, you
know that your hands have just been shackled behind your back. He is so excited that you can almost hear his heart
thumping in his chest.
He moves his body closer behind you, and you begin to feel pressure on your ass. He grabs your hips firmly and
pushes into you. Slowly you feel him entering your tightest hole, one excruciating inch at a time. Once he’s all the
way in, you feel him jerk back, then plunge right in again. And now he is pounding your ass, as if it was created for
the sole purpose of pleasing his hard cock. In and out, in and out. Occasionally, he pulls all the way out, plunges
deep into your wet and wanting pussy, then pulls back out and returns right to your ass.
After what seems like an eternity of ass pounding, he stops, still evidently not done. He lifts you roughly by the
shoulders. You stand just long enough to walk to the coffee table, where he pushes you back down onto its hard
wooden surface, face down on the wood, butt back up in the air.
He grabs a length of rope and starts attaching your feet to the table. He un-cuffs your hands just long enough to tie
them behind your back, and wind the rope under the table and around the table legs. Within minutes you are his
exquisite coffee table art, as magnificent and as unmoving as any piece he could buy at a museum. With you unable
to move, covered in rope from neck to toe, he pauses to survey his work. Then he advances. You expect him to
move back around to your backside, but instead you find him in front of you.
If I still have your attention, let me know how much you’re enjoying my little story...

A best-case response to my email would have been an X-rated photo of her enjoying my story with
a plea to please let her come over. That has been a frequent outcome in the past. But in this case I
waited. And waited. And there was no response at all.
How do you react to that? Do you send another email to that woman? Do you ask her what
happened? Do you whine about all the work you put into the previous email and the fact that
she couldn’t even bother to say thanks? No! You forget about it and place a new ad. I hoped that
someday I would have another bite at that apple, and I wouldn’t poison it by making myself look
like an ass tonight. Fortunately, I didn’t have to wait too long before my next bite at this particular
apple came along.
In this case, since I had just found the second part of the story that I sent in my last email, I decided
to re-purpose it for a new ad. Here’s the ad I placed:

Tonight you will get exactly what you’ve been needing - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-03-11, 10:48PM PST
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With you on all fours, blindfolded, he slips behind you. He grabs your arms, first your left, then your right. Your face
hits the floor as your ass automatically rises into the air, and with a CLICK, CLICK, you know that your hands have
just been shackled behind your back. He is so excited that you can almost hear his heart thumping in his chest.
He moves his body closer behind you, and you begin to feel pressure on your ass. He grabs your hips firmly and pushes

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into you. Slowly you feel him entering your tightest hole, one excruciating inch at a time. “Take it, slut,” you hear him
say. Once he’s all the way in, you feel him jerk back, then plunge right in again. And now he is pounding your ass, as if
it was created for the sole purpose of pleasing his hard cock. In and out, in and out. Occasionally, he pulls all the way
out, plunges deep into your wet and wanting pussy, then pulls back out and returns right to your ass.
After what seems like an eternity of ass pounding, he stops, still evidently not done. He lifts you roughly by the
shoulders. You stand just long enough to walk to the coffee table, where he pushes you back down onto its hard wooden
surface, face down on the wood, butt back up in the air.
He grabs a length of rope and starts attaching your feet to the table. He un-cuffs your hands just long enough to tie them
behind your back, and wind the rope under the table and around the table legs. Within minutes you are his exquisite
coffee table art, as magnificent and as unmoving as any piece he could buy at a museum. With you unable to move,
covered in rope from neck to toe, he pauses to survey his work. Then he advances. You expect him to move back
around to your backside, but instead you find him in front of you.
If you’re prepared to experience what happens next, respond with a subject line that says, “I’m ready, Sir.” As long as
you’re female, serious and obedient, I’m open to any age, race and body type.

This time I didn’t have to wait very long to get a reply. About ten minutes after my post appeared, I
got an email from a familiar address … the same woman I had been emailing with just a couple of
hours before:
SUBJECT: “I am ready, sir”
** CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY --- AVOID SCAMS BY DEALING LOCALLY
** Avoid:  wiring money, cross-border deals, work-at-home
** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping
** More Info:  http://www.craigslist.org/about/scams.html
Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile
-----------------------------------------------------------------this message was remailed to you via: [email protected]
------------------------------------------------------------------

Well, well, well … the game was back on! No, she didn’t say anything in the body of her response
to me, but she didn’t need to. “I am ready, sir” was enough. Our email exchange continued:
ME: Are you ready to be used like my little slut? To have your body used in every way?
HER: it is what I have fantasized about!  Wet just thinking about it!
ME: Then I am prepared to fulfill your fantasy, using you in every way for hours.
Describe yourself, slut.

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out the fantasy I started in the ad I placed. And in this second email, I am giving her my first order.
HER: 39 110 pounds 5”2. And fit body
ME: Okay, slut. Here is what I’m going to do to you: you will be waiting for me, naked, on your knees, with your

back to the door and the door unlocked. I will come in, blindfold you, bind your hands behind your back and I will
begin to fulfill your fantasy. Do you have any further questions?

I have now given her my second order, telling her how she will be waiting for me. Now, this is a
risky order, because no matter how much she wants this fantasy, waiting naked, with her back to
the door while a stranger walks in is a little much for many women. So I ask her, “Do you have any
further questions?” This allows her to volunteer that she may not be comfortable with my order
and to ask if she can modify it. If she asks, then I will allow it. If she just says she’s excited, then I
know she’s ready to follow that order.
HER: Can hardly wait
ME: If you are ready to obey, you don’t have to wait. Do you have any further questions, slut?
HER: Any pictures for me?
She asks for my picture. This is a good sign. If she was just playing a game with me, and not
willing to meet, she would never ask for my picture, and then never really agree to a meeting. But
she did ask! Now, I just have to make sure that she doesn’t find me too unattractive.
ME: This is me, slut. Do not let the kind smile fool you ... (I attached a picture)
I don’t just send her a picture, but I also add the line, “Do not let the kind smile fool you.” This
does two things. First, it draws attention to my kind smile. It makes it clear that I really am a nice
person, that this is just a game, she’s not in any real danger. Second, if she looks at the picture and
she thinks I seem too kind to play this role, I’m preempting that idea by telling her, “I might look
like a nice guy, but trust me, I can be very, very dominant and maybe even a little dangerous.”
HER: What do you plan on doing to me once I am tied up?
She doesn’t comment on my picture. She accepts it and goes right into asking exactly what I’m
planning on doing to her. Another great sign!
ME: I will use your body as I please. Your mouth, your pussy and your ass will all be mine.

No pain, no blood, no urine, no excrement, of course. Do you have any further questions, slut?

HER: my pussy is throbbing
With that statement, she has just said “yes” to everything.

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ME: You are not to touch it, slut, no matter how it tingles or throbs. It is mine now. Do you understand, slut?
Now I am giving her my third order. This not only keeps the fantasy going, of a strong man
ordering her around, but it also discourages her from giving herself an orgasm and then deciding
she doesn’t want to play anymore.
HER: Will it be only me or others?
 

ME: You will have my full, undivided attention, slut.
At this point she asks about exclusivity. It’s a fair question to ask, but when I haven’t even seen
her picture yet, much less met her in person, it’s not a question I’m going to take all that seriously.
I don’t promise her that she is the only person I will ever have sex with again. I am vague, but she
hears what she wants to hear. If she is very, very good in bed and she can make herself completely
available to me, she has the chance to become the only one I am sleeping with very quickly.
HER: I am very horny!
ME: I am sure you are, slut. What are you wearing right now?
HER: a t shirt and panties
ME: Take them off now, slut. I want your body naked when you speak to me. Do you understand, slut?
HER: Yes sir. They’re off.
She has been given her fourth order, and presumably, she is following this one too.
ME: Very good, slut. What part of town are you in?
HER: just north of downtown
ME: Very good, slut. I’m not far from there. Do you have any more questions before I come and use your body in
every way?

HER: No sir
ME: Very good, slut. Then it is time for you to give me your address, and your body’s use will begin.
It has taken more than an hour for me to finally begin arranging the meeting. If I would have asked
for her address any sooner, she would have stopped returning my emails, and this encounter would
never have happened.
HER: um, you’re not some kind of serial killer?
This is the vital question! If she didn’t ask it, I would know that she isn’t really serious about meeting.

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ME: No. I’m going to come over and spend all night using your body. The only threat I pose to you is extreme
soreness down below tomorrow.

HER: Call me. (She included her phone number in this final email.)
So what happened in this conversation?
- 29 emails went back and forth over 100 minutes in response to my second ad. That is about
half the number of emails and two-thirds the amount of time you can usually expect. However
first contact occurred nearly two and a half hours before I placed the second ad. So the foreplay
process had gone on all evening. Even when we weren’t talking, my fantasy had gotten into her
mind, and it was driving her crazy.
- From the beginning, I’m not pushing for a meeting. Instead, I’m making it clear that I’m ready
to fulfill HER fantasy. This is still for her, not for me.
- I never step out of character. I am the bad boy who keeps calling her slut in every message.
There is only one email in which I don’t call her “slut.” That is when she asks me if I am a
serial killer. That is an important question, and I will explain fully in Chapter Twelve why I
stop playing and answer that ONE question seriously.
- With each email, I reinforce her fantasy or reveal a little more of what will happen to her. With
each response you can probably tell that she is getting more and more excited. I am using the
principles of foreplay to drive her crazy until she feels she must throw all caution to the wind
and invite me over.
- I did not ask her for a picture. Many women, although they are about to have sex with a
stranger, are freaked out about sending a picture. They feel it endangers their privacy. So, since
it’s late, and I don’t want to create a barrier to meeting, I asked her to describe herself. Most
horny guys would be extremely satisfied with that description.
- Notice that nearly every one of my emails ends with a question. The only ones that don’t are
direct responses to her questions. Each of my questions leads to her next communication, even
if she doesn’t exactly answer my question each time.
- Before I ask for her address, I ask her if she has any questions for me or if she understands what
I’m going to do to her, and I ask the question five times. This allows her to voice any barriers
she may have instead of internalizing them. Any barrier she voices I can probably talk around.
Any barrier she doesn’t voice I am unable to do anything about and will remain an impediment
to a meeting.
- Repeatedly asking her if she has any questions also creates the understanding that I do care
about her fears and her feelings. Even though I’m “going to use her as my slut” she knows I’m
working hard to make sure all of her questions are answered, and trying to create a safe place
for her to be physically and emotionally vulnerable.
Once she sent me her phone number, I called her. In her voice I could hear the battle between fear
and excitement, but excitement was on the verge of winning the battle. All I needed to do now was
not step on my own dick.
ME: Are you ready to have your body used, slut?
HER: I think so, sir.

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ME: Do you have any questions for your Master before he comes to take what is his?
HER: You’re not going to kill me are you?
ME: No. All I want from you is sex. You have my picture, you have my email address and you have my phone
number now. Would you like any more personal information? You can send it all to a friend before I get there.

HER: No, it’s okay.
With that she finally gave me her address and directions to her home. I reminded her that when
I got there I wanted her naked, on her knees with her back to the unlocked front door, which she
agreed to. Less than 30 minutes later, our sexual encounter was underway.
After she answered that second ad, the conversion from email exchange to meeting was about as
easy as a conversion can be. But I’m sure you can see that with every new email there was the
chance for me to make a mistake that would end the conversation and eliminate any chance of
meeting. That is why I urge you to:
- Choose every word and every thought expressed through your email conversation carefully.
The great thing about email is that your conversation doesn’t happen in real time, as it does in

a phone conversation. You can write what you want to say, then take a moment to re-read and
re-think what you wrote before hitting send.
- Use every bit of intuition to try to figure out what she needs to feel comfortable. If you don’t
convert your conversation into a meeting it will be for one reason: she felt uncomfortable with
you, which is only fair, since you’re a complete stranger. If you can’t make her fantasy
overcome her fear, you will lose every time.
- Therefore, always keep the conversation about her needs, her fantasy and her experience.
- Don’t veer into conversation that could eliminate you from contention. If the topic of sports
somehow comes up, be non-committal until you know her sports allegiances. You don’t have to
agree with her passions, but do not disagree either. If she makes a quick political
comment that you vehemently disagree with, keep it to yourself. You’re not trying to
score debating points, you’re trying to score. So shut your pie hole unless you are saying
something that will make her feel more comfortable with you.
- Don’t put any pressure on her to do anything. Remember, you are selling this as being for HER,
not for YOU. Don’t act desperate. Once you’re desperate, it’s about you, not her. Plus
desperation will only make her uncomfortable and eliminate any chance of her choosing
to meet you.
- Keep in mind that if she says no, there are other women on CL looking for sex too. Nobody can
convert every conversation.
- And even if you don’t meet tonight, you have planted a fantasy in her mind. A fantasy can be
very, very powerful. Allow her to drift away if she must, so that she can feel comfortable
contacting you tomorrow, next week or next month about living out her fantasy.
Now here is another conversation that I was able to convert to a successful meeting using a
different persona. Actually, it was a lot more than a successful meeting. It was the beginning of
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contact to first meeting, but I was looking for a considerably different kind of woman at this point.
In this case, I really wanted to find someone who would be more of a girlfriend than an immediate
conquest. You’ll remember this ad from the last chapter:

Good news. :) Bad news. :( - m4w - 35
Date: 2010-03-11, 3:12PM EST
Reply To This Post
Bad news: the other day I was really, really horny.
Good news: I got on Craigslist and put up an ad!
Bad news: it wasn’t easy for me to write anything as interesting, charming and funny as I actually am in person.
Good news: I came up with something halfway decent! And I got a LOT of responses!!!
Bad news: all the responses were spam. Most were from someone named “Madison.”
Good news: it’s another beautiful evening in Boston, the most fun city in the world ... or at least the most fun part of
New England ...
Bad news: I’m still really, really horny.
Good news: hopefully you are too, and you’re looking for a kind, creative, experienced man who knows how to satisfy
a woman!
Bad news: there’s a high probability I’ll get a dozen emails from “Madison” responding to this post.
Good news: if you answer this ad with the words “Madison is a complete bitch” in the subject line, I’ll know at least
one of my responses is actually real this time!

I ran this ad on a Thursday afternoon while I was still at work. An hour later I got a response:
SUBJECT: CL
** CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY --- AVOID SCAMS BY DEALING LOCALLY
** Avoid:  wiring money, cross-border deals, work-at-home
** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping
** More Info:  http://www.craigslist.org/about/scams.html
Well that’s a lot of good and bad news for one day.  You must be exhausted.
-----------------------------------------------------------------this message was remailed to you via: [email protected]
------------------------------------------------------------------

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Now, she didn’t respond with the words I asked for in my post, “Madison is a complete bitch.”
My first thought on seeing the subject line was that this email was spam, but I read the text of her
email anyway and I found it did speak directly to what I had written in my ad. Not only that, but she
responded with a similar type of humor, so I decided she was probably a real woman. I responded back.
As you read through this conversation, note that I don’t push her for a meeting. And I don’t push for
sex talk either. She originates all of that. None of my personas push for a meeting, simply because
pushing for a meeting is the number one way to ensure that there will be no meeting. Instead, I get
the woman so wet through conversation that it’s the woman who begs for the meeting. You will see
that this is a long conversation that took place over five days, but she needed every moment of that
to really prepare mentally for meeting a stranger.
I want to bring in this conversation for your consideration specifically because this is the type of
conversation you can expect when you don’t describe one specific fantasy and immerse the reader
in it in such a way that she feels she needs it now. Keep this idea in mind with every ad you write
and post: some personas will work best for the quick hit, getting laid within a few hours of posting.
Others will require several days of communication.
In this example, instead of describing a fantasy, I made this about a persona. In the ad, my persona
is kind, understanding and funny. I continue that persona through the entire conversation with the
understanding that this persona isn’t meant to get me laid within a few hours:
ME: You’re telling me...
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I LOVE getting any response at all. On a strictly philosophical level, I suppose it
proves my own existence. But then again, if a dozen people who don’t really exist respond to my ad, does that
mean that I don’t exist either? Hmmmmm ...
Well now I’ve gone and done it. I’m tired AND I may not even exist. Nice! I wonder if this means I don’t have to
file my tax returns this year...

HER: Hmm. Pretty sure the IRS wants you to do that.  On the other hand, if you don’t exist how would they ever
find you?

So, tell me about you. Even though you apparently don’t exist I’m still really intrigued…

ME: A little more about me? Well, that’s a pretty general question. 
Okay, I’ll start from the beginning.
(Deep breath ...)
It’s a dark, stormy night. An extremely pregnant woman in a log cabin gasps in pain as her water breaks. A doctor
is called, and eventually she is on her back breathing, pushing, sweating and screaming in the beautiful miracle we
call childbirth. After just 18 short hours of labor (mom would later say it’s the kind of pain you really don’t mind ...
but then mom always was, clinically, out of her freaking mind) a baby comes into this world. Already wearing his
signature beard and wearing his festive stovepipe hat, the 16th President of the United States is born. 
Yes, that’s right. I am Abraham Lincoln. Honest Abe. Ol’ Stovepipe. 

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I could tell you all about me, but if you just Google me (on that newfangled Intraweb thingy), I’m sure you’ll get
all the basics. And if you’d like a picture, may I suggest my likeness on the penny? I’ve always been partial to
my profile.
So, do you like older men? Like 200 years older? I mean, I realize we may not listen to the same music or read the
same blogs or react the same way when an airplane passes overhead (I jump and yell “ACCCKKK!!! Iron bird!!!”
What do you do?) but still, I’m thinking we can get past all that ...
Anyhoo... where was I? Oh yeah! Can you be more specific in what you’d like to know?

HER: Okay, the basics.. favorite food, song, movie, book?..  And the fun stuff… favorite sex position, favorite
song to fuck to, and... a general description?  I’ll answer all the same if you’re interested.

It’s her third email to me, and she slips in some sex questions at the end. She hasn’t said she wants
me, or that she is ready to meet, but she is already slowly opening the door to sex talk, asking about
my favorite sex position and my favorite song to fuck to. Notice that instead of jumping on her sex
questions, which is really what she is most interested in, I will answer her questions in the order
she asked them, showing that I have patience. Again, this is foreplay, so patience is key. When I do
answer her questions, I keep the answers clinical, speaking in general, rather than saying “here is
how I will fuck you.”
ME: Oh ... THOSE basics ... okay then.
Favorite food: Anything that doesn’t eat me first. And if it’s a tie, I still may be interested.
Favorite book: “Team of Rivals: the Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln” by Doris Kearns Goodwin. For obvious
reasons. (I’m a media whore.)
Favorite movie: The Godfather II
Favorite song: that changes from day to day, but for now, let’s say anything by Dean Martin.
Favorite sex position: doggie. Without question. It’s the one position that offers me the best leverage. From behind,
it’s easy to go slow, go fast, go hard, go soft, or change it up as needed. And having a woman’s hips in my hands
allows me to take control and show you a great time.
Favorite song to fuck to: this is actually a great question, and I have an original answer. I prefer no music at all. It
only distracts me. I either start singing along, or I decide I hate THAT particular song and that is all I can think of.
Either way, I want to be concentrating on you, not on the music.
As for general description, what part of the penny were you not able to look at? (I

myself, not one of Abe Lincoln.)

attached a picture of

At this point I send her a picture because I can sense this is going to take a while to get the foreplay
to the point where she will be ready to meet, which is fine. But I want her to see my picture quickly,
before I invest too much more time into this process. If she finds me hideous, she will bail out at
this point, and I can move on to someone who will be interested in meeting me.
HER: I like those answers.  Want to know mine?  Too bad, you get them anyway. 

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Food..  Eggplant parm
Book: Breaking Dawn (Yes, I am aware this makes me a complete dork)
Movie: Blow
Song: Elsewhere by Sarah McLachlan (I’m such a chick sometimes)
 
Sexual position.. Doggy.  You’re right it really does have the most to offer.  Grab my hips? Definitely.
Song to fuck to: There is always the classic “In The Air Tonight” ala Risky Business... but we have no trains here
and I just don’t think it’s the same without the train.  So, I think my fav would have to be slow like honey by fiona
apple.  Of course cutting the music all together and just fucking our brains out is always a nice option.
 
My description: 5’3, 155lbs not “skinny” but not really over weight either.  Great cleavage,  legs that look hot in a
skirt and heels.  Long brown hair, blue eyes.
 
More questions from me:
Married or Single?
What times are you available to meet.
Any vices? Do you drink? Smoke?

At this point, after six emails going back and forth, she said a few magic words, “I like those
answers,” which really means, “I think I like you.” Plus I’ve sent her my picture, so evidently she
doesn’t find me too hideous to consider meeting.
Notice that she then mirrors my answers, talking about favorite food, book, movie and song before
getting to the sex stuff. I also want to point out that she is purposely agreeing with my favorite
position. I would eventually find out after we had been seeing each other for a while that doggie
style wasn’t at all her favorite position, but she was agreeing with my favorite sexual position to
make herself seem more compatible with me. Remember: honesty is important, but compatibility
is more important. If you hate doggie style, don’t claim you love it. But if you like it and your
potential partner says she loves it first, then you should say that you love it equally.
After describing herself, she asks when I would be available to meet. SHE JUST OPENED THE
DOOR TO MEETING! She only opened it a crack, but it’s there now. My patience is paying off.
From here on, all I have to do is let her lead the conversation, and as long as I don’t make a stupid
mistake or get all pushy, she will eventually be mine.
ME: Great answers! Especially the doggie part.
More answers from me:
I am recently divorced. Not sure yet where I’ll be in my life 6 months from now or a year from now or 5 years
from now, and I don’t want to cause additional misery in this world by actually dating someone who wants (and
deserves) to know where a relationship is going. That’s why I posted in casual encounters. All I know is that the
loneliness can crush the soul. And if maybe there’s someone else out there looking to make the loneliness go away
for a while ...
I need to work tonight, but I can meet you tomorrow for lunch if you’d like. Or if I can get out early (doubt it)
maybe even tonight ...
Vices, hmmmm. Smoking, no. Drinking, maybe the occasional beer every so often, if I’m in a mood. How about you?

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Notice, I make it clear I don’t know where my life is going but I want someone to make the
loneliness fade. In this persona, I don’t want to portray myself as a man looking to use a woman for
his own sexual gratification. I’m just in the middle of a complicated life, and looking to make the
loneliness hurt a little less.
This is how Day 1 of our communication ends. There was no “good night” and no explanation
that she was going to sleep. This is pretty standard in these CL conversations, at least before a first
meeting. These conversations frequently occur outside of real time, so that there is rarely anyone
saying, “good night” or “good morning.” I believe that is because, at this point in the process, she
considers me more of a fantasy than a real person, and fantasies don’t break to go to sleep, they
carry on through the night.
This means that conversations that take more than a few hours will have long breaks when one
or both participants are asleep, at work, spending time with family, etc. Often these breaks are an
excuse for a conversation to end permanently, but in this case, while I was excited to hear her reply,
I was confident that I would hear from her the next day. She had matched my style of humor, joke
for joke, in all of her previous emails. She seemed to really be engaged in the conversation, so I
knew that I’d be hearing from her again. The next afternoon, I did.
Day 2 of our conversation begins …
HER: Honest answers are great. :)  So I’m recently separated, still married though. I hope that doesn’t freak you
out. He’s not living here anymore. I have kids so I generally only have time to meet during the day on weekdays
when they’re in school.  Occasionally I can get away on the weekends but it’s more difficult and takes more
planning.  My vices … yeah I’ve got a few.  Shoes. LOL  Wine, especially red.  Tequila, but only when it’s mixed
up in a really good Mexican martini with extra olives. And I’m 420 friendly.
 
So how about you. No questions of your own?
 
I wish I could have met you today for lunch.  I had already made plans with a few friends for today. Rain check?

Notice how she asks, “No questions of your own?” She almost busts me here. She has been asking
me questions in every email. I’ve been answering them but not showing quite as much interest
because I haven’t been asking HER questions. But then, women always tend to ask a lot more
questions than men. Still she needed an answer as to why I hadn’t been asking her questions. I
offered her what I hoped was a decent one.
ME: Of course, I’ll give you a rain check! And I completely understand your situation, and I’m happy to work
around it. I can manage to slip out for an afternoon here and there when I need to.

As for your vices, the shoes, wine, martinis and 420 don’t scare me at all. Haven’t really had the opportunity for
420 since college, but maybe it’s something worth revisiting at some point with the right person ...
I actually do have a LOT of questions for you, but honestly, it will be a lot more fun for me if I can get most of
them answered in person. I’ve always been more of a discoverer than an asker ...
But let me ask you this: what part of town do you work in?

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HER: Explain this “work” thing to me?  As in a *job*?? LOL  I do not work.  I used be a city planner ... but then
I decided I should be a stay at home mom and have done that for about 5 years.  The kids are all in school now so
I’ve been more of a housewife lately ... I don’t have to do the mom part till about 3pm.   Someday, hopefully not
to far in the future I would love to do personal chef type work.  My real passion is food. My best friend calls me a
food and shoe whore. LOL
So what do you do for work?
ME: I’m an accountant. I work outside the loop. Big, formal office and all that.
So, since you’re a food and shoe whore, what is your favorite restaurant in town and what is your favorite type
of shoe?

I have just brought up the “big, formal office” I work in. Some women have an office fantasy. I’m
not going to push it, but if she has the fantasy, once she knows I can offer her a big, formal office,
there could be some fun. I will find out later in our email conversation that she does have the office
fantasy, and that planting this seed here helped pave the way to a meeting.
Furthermore, I am now recovering from the fact that I haven’t asked her many real questions yet.
So I reach back to her passions, food and shoes, to ask her about the things she loves the most. She
immediately responds with a compliment …
HER: Well now those are GOOD questions. Restaurant.  Hmm. Man. Do I really have to pick just one?  Really?
I’m not sure I can do that.  Shoe question is easy.  Black stiletto peep toe pumps.  I have at least ten pairs. And saw
another pair I must have today.  But the restaurant.  No, can’t do it. Too many to choose from. See, Food WHORE.

Oh one more question from me.  While the image of Honest Abe just got me all kinds of hot and wet... what do you
really look like

ME: Oh, you didn’t get the picture I sent you last night? It was in the email that said “What part of the penny

were you not able to look at?” And here I was feeling all self confident because you’d seen my picture and liked it
enough to keep flirting ...
Ok, here it is again.  (I

attached the same picture again.)

HER: Okay so I’ve seen your pic.  Still flirting ;)  Here’s mine.  Definitly not my favorite pic of me, and it’s
from a few years ago, my hair is different now.. But you get the general idea. (And she attaches a rather hot
picture of herself.)
ME: I’m still flirting too! Actually you are very beautiful. Way out of my league. But I think I can rise to
the occasion.

I took a small risk here. Most women LOVE to be flattered about how they look. And this woman
totally deserved flattery. But the hotter a woman is, the more she hears the flattery from men and
the less she believes it is sincere. If you are talking to a woman who declares herself to be “hot” or
“hawt” DO NOT compliment her on her looks before having sex. Compliment her on her brains,
her ideas, her personality, her cleanliness, or anything else other than her looks. The fact that a
hot woman is talking to you about the possibility of meeting for sex means she already sees you
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ones who hit on her all the time, the ones who always tell her how beautiful she is. But she isn’t
talking to any of them. She is talking to YOU. So do NOT be like all of the OTHER guys, the ones
who never get her in bed, no matter how hard they try. I have made this mistake myself. But if the
woman sounds like she’s down-to-earth, an ex-wife, a mom, and she’s never mentioned that she is
hot, then by all means, tell her that she is! She probably needs to hear it!
HER: Well damn, now I’m blushing.  Did we discuss ages?  I can’t remember.  I’m 28.  you?
She’s blushing! I gambled and won!
ME: Blush away! Really, you got a real physical reaction out of me when I saw your picture and was like, “This
is who I’m fantasizing about??? Awesome!”
I’m 35 years old.

HER: 35 is perfect. :)  So you work in a big formal office huh?  I have serious fantasy’s of working in an office
like that ... just so I can wear my shoes and great clothes.. LOL  Need  part time assistant?? LOL

Well, well, well … the office fantasy emerges. I just became even more attractive to her. Since
she’s opening that door, offering to be my part-time assistant, I’m going to push the fantasy a little
further. Notice, I’m not going to put HER in the role of the assistant – she will do that herself. I
leave the fantasy open to having a random “naughty part-time assistant.” She can put herself deeper
into that role if she so chooses.
ME: Oh, the things I could do with a part-time assistant ...
You see, we have this conference room, with this really nice view of downtown. And a 20-foot-long oak
conference table, with antique leather seats surrounding it. I would love to bring a naughty part-time assistant
in there some time, discipline her for not working hard enough, then allow her to make up for her mistakes by
bending over the conference table, while I get behind her and ... um ... take care of business.

HER: Scary.  Thats pretty much exactly what I had in mind.
ME: Weird. And you haven’t even seen our conference room yet! But I have a feeling you will ...
Again, I’m acting kind of innocent. Of course I knew she had exactly that in mind. Nothing weird
about it. She said she had an office fantasy, so I described the prototypical office fantasy. But in
portraying this typical fantasy as one of my deeper, secret fantasies I have made her feel like there’s
something else we share sexually. Her response is short, but telling …
HER: Mmmmm.. Hopefully I will.  So, how tall are you?
ME: Somewhere between 5’8” and 5’9”. How about you?
HER: Just under 5’3.  But I’m always in heels, unless I’m in bed and even then sometimes ;)
She just opened the door to a little more sex talk: heels in bed. I’m happy to go there …

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ME: Yes, I love any woman willing to wear heels to bed. I do so enjoy getting hit in the side of the head by a
high heel!

Of course, if I’m getting hit in the side of the head by a high-heel, that means I have her on her
back with her legs up by my head. I’m not explicitly talking about fucking her. I’m just letting her
imagine the idea of her being on her back with her legs up around my head. You will see the results
with the first words in her second paragraph in her response:
HER: LOL  Heels in bed only work in doggie style at the edge of the bed.  I know this.  ;)  Once you’re ready to

move on to other things that require both in the bed, it’s time for shoes (and any remaining clothes like the dress
you had pulled down at the top and up at the bottom) to come off.
 
I really want to meet you ... I just can’t figure out when.  I was going to see if you wanted to have lunch next week
and then my kids came home from school totally stoked that it’s now spring break.  *groan*  I hope you’ll be
willing to keep emailing while I figure out when I can come see you and that conference room.

DING! DING! DING! We have a winner! She wants to meet me! But she hopes I can wait for her.
Who is pushing for a meeting now? Not me! Now I just have to be patient enough to wait eight
days until her kids’ spring break is over. Of course, now that she’s said she wants to meet, I can be
a little more sexually overt with her. And if I continue with this email foreplay, I bet I can get her to
find a way to get to me long before spring break is over …
ME: You think I’m going to stop pestering a woman as sexy as you who wants to meet me? Are you out of your
mind? Yeah, I’m not going anywhere.

So some ideas on when and where after spring break ...
I can do lunch just about any workday.
With a little planning, I can take an afternoon off.
If we have a night when we can stay out late, I can bring you up to the office so we have it all to ourselves. Same
goes for most Saturdays and some Sundays.
But I really, really want to meet you too, whenever you can. And until then, I think you’re pretty cool just to talk
to here.

HER: Okay... that sounds awesome.  I love the idea of your offices at night.  I gotta get going for now.  I’m
supposed to be getting ready to go to dinner with one of my girlfriends.  Talk to you soon.  :)

I have agreed to everything she wants. Yes, we’ll meet. Yes, I’ll wait for you. Yes, we can do lunch
or dinner and you can see my office. And I’ve even subtly suggested meeting “whenever you can,”
meaning maybe even before spring break is over.
ME: Talk to you soon. And be a good girl out there ...
I wasn’t expecting to hear from her again that day. But when I woke up the next morning, I found a
new email from her.

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Day 3 of our conversation begins:
HER: So I’m back from dinner with my girlfriend.  2 shakers of martinis later I’m home and hoping your up
and online. 

ME: CRAP! Sorry I missed you! I bet you’re a lot of fun with a couple shakers of Mexican martinis in you. So
sad I missed it. I had just gone to bed, probably only 20 minutes before you wrote this ...

HER: Good morning :)  Oh wait, it’s afternoon now huh?  My night was drama free but fun.  The girlfriend I

went to dinner with is my next door neighbor.  She never gets out but her man was going to a bachelor party last
night and she didn’t want to sit at home alone worrying about him drinking. 
I’ve got the rest of today to chat online with you.  Are you here to keep me company?

So I have an assignment for you... In great detail, describe walking into a hotel room with me … start with closing
the door and pulling my back up against your chest.  I’m wearing a short dress with no panties underneath and sexy
black heels or knee high stiletto boots… your choice ;)
 
How wet can you get me in an email?
P.S.  I *am* a lot of fun with a couple of shakers of martinis in me. ;)

I usually would have spent the whole day engaging in conversation with her, but this was a very
hectic Saturday for me, and I was only able to be in front of my computer for about 40 minutes for
the entire day. I felt terrible about it, because she has just invited me to engage in the most intimate
possible sex talk with her. She is asking me to literally describe everything I will do to her the
moment we are alone. This is a very important moment, and there is a good chance to screw up all
of the work I’ve done up to this point if I’m not thoughtful in describing exactly what will happen
to her. So I need time to think and to write it all out.
ME: That is my kind of assignment. One question: how dominant do you like your men? In real life I’ll be
watching your body for feedback. On here I need just a little help. Tell me and you will be rewarded ...

This is an important question. Every woman has her unique wants, needs and limits. If you can
guess correctly every time, you will have great success in describing a fantasy for a woman you’re
talking to. But I had come too far to guess and be wrong. So I politely asked for a little help, and
promised her a reward for her help. And she told me everything I needed to know …
HER: I’m not into pain at all, a little spanking is okay, but not excessive.. I mark easily LOL. As far as dominant

I definitly like men to take the lead and fuck ME.. does that make sense? I *love* receiving oral (from men and
women actually.. have we discussed that yet?) I love 69 but generally prefer being on top and comfortable with the
person.  But yes, I want you to pull my dress up push me down on to the bed on my knees and fuck me senseless
until I am crawling away from you. Oh and I do love having my wrists held down above my head so long as your
doing something really yummy to me at the same time. ;) Too much info?

Yes, she just opened the door to being with other women. But I’m not going to push it, or even
mention it. Why? Because, if there is the chance for a threesome in the future with her and one of
her girlfriends (there would be several!) this is not the time to get into it. This foreplay is still all

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about her. If I begin to make this about her arranging a threesome, the conversation will turn into
me and what I want. While that would be a fun conversation, I need to keep my eye on the ball: just
get the meeting with her. Once she is completely comfortable with me, there will be time to fulfill
other fantasies.
ME: You know, the more I read from you, the more I smile. I will be returning the favor tomorrow.
HER: Tomorrow?  Well damn.  I wanted to get hot and wet tonight...
I spent the entire night thinking of what I was going to write her and the next morning writing it.
This was a defining moment between her and me. You will see I included as much about her as
I could glean from everything she had already told me about herself. This couldn’t be a generic
description of sex. It needed to be thoughtful, sincere, realistic, passionate and hot. So I needed
some time to make it just perfect. I hated to make her wait, but I had to make a judgment between
making it fast and making it perfect. I usually advocate for speed. In this case, however, I have set
her expectations so that she’s not expecting to read the fantasy until the next day, and it gives me
time to make it perfect.
Day 4 of the conversation begins:
ME: Sorry you’ve had to wait for this, but sometimes anticipation is half the fun. And hopefully this will have
been completely worth the wait. So …
 
After an awesome hour or two of drinks, food and conversation at one of the upscale restaurants around here, you
lean over to me and whisper my three favorite words, “I’m sooooo wet.” I’ve already paid the check, so without a
word, I take your hand, we rise from the table and head for my car.
 
Within moments we’re back at my place.
 
The door closes behind us, and with a final CLICK we’re both finally alone. You feel me right behind you, hot
breath on the back of your neck as two warm lips come down to meet that sensitive skin at your hairline. Two
strong hands cup your breasts as I pull your body into mine.
 
My tongue explores your neck as one hands drifts slowly down your body. Your belly, your abdomen, your thigh,
then right back up, proving you’re really not wearing any panties. As eager fingertips begin lightly exploring, you
hear my breath coming harder and you can feel my pulse quickening. You hear the words, “I want you, baby.”
 
At that, you find yourself simultaneously spun around and pinned to the wall.  Your hands are above your head,
with one of mine holding both of them in place. The other hand slowly drifts teasingly up and down your body.
One beautiful breast makes its way out of your dress and quickly into my mouth. First it’s just the nipple being
flicked at by my tongue, but soon most of your breast is receiving the attention it so desperately needs. Your eyes
close and you begin to breathe harder.
 
You feel my mouth moving up your breast, back to your neck. Now lips and tongue are examining every inch of
your beautiful neck, chin and lips. The strong hand that had been holding your hands in place releases them, as it
slides down one of your arms to your back where it begins unfastening the irritating fasteners holding your dress
in place.
And in a moment your dress is down by your high heels. You lean hard against the wall as my mouth follows the
path of your dress. Down your breasts, down your belly, down your abdomen, to your secret wetness. Warm kisses

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turn into slow, delicate circles that respond as you move your hips. And all time stops as I take you on a journey
to our own personal heaven without moving from that spot. Your hands find purchase around my head, helping to
guide the work of the lips and tongue.
Soon you begin to feel the tingle that crosses your toes and stands the fine hairs on your arms up on end. It grows,
rolling through your body with deepening intensity. And the slow delicate circles continue as the tingle becomes a
living entity within you, multiplying your pleasure with every millisecond of its existence, until …
 
The earth begins to shake around you. If not for strong hands supporting you against that wall, surely you would
be plummeting into a chasm of warmth and pleasure even faster than you already are. And finally, the tingle that
turned into a living entity can grow no more, and explodes within you, setting every cell of your body aflame, and
stopping time throughout the universe. You detect heavy breathing and moans and screaming, and you reach out
trying to locate the source of the noise before realizing it’s coming from you.
 
There are lifetimes of happiness and pleasure and warmth that pass without the acknowledgement of anyone
anywhere, because time for everyone else has stopped. You keep your eyes closed, savoring the feeling as strong
arms gather you up and lead you somewhere. You recognize the soft feeling of bedding and pillows around your
mostly naked body. Those strong arms are followed by the feel of warm skin against yours, my body very close
and getting closer.
 
So where do we go from there? I could write it out here. But I’d rather show you in person …

 

HER: Mmmmmmm.  You just got me really wet.  I really can’t wait to meet you now. 
And yes, the anticipation has been almost torture... Very very good torture.  I liked the bit about pinning my arms
above my head up against the wall... Very nice.  Oh and not to worry about annoying fasteners on my dress.. the
one I’m planning to wear when I meet you has none.. you just untie the bow in the back and it’ll come right off. ;)

Yes, this is definitely foreplay, and she is getting wetter and wetter. I don’t think I’m going to have
to wait until spring break is over to meet her at this point.
Note, by the way, I could have gone on to make the story MUCH longer, but instead I interrupt the
story saying I want to show her in person. It’s a very subtle way of cutting her off from hearing
more. It tells her there’s a lot more to say, but she’ll need to be there in person for me to divulge
much more.
ME: You see? That is the kind of thoughtfulness I love in a woman. Just pull one string and the dress is
off? Awesome! 

In fact, if you wear that dress, we may need to find a restaurant that doesn’t have a problem with me bending you
over the table and having my way with you right there ... which, by the way, is another of my major fantasies …

HER: Being bent over a table in a restaurant.. Yeah.  One of my major fantasies as well.  I’m really loving the
fact that we seem to have like fantasies.  Tell me another...?

Now she is pushing for me to tell her a whole new story, spending hours writing to get her wetter
and wetter. But I’m not going to do that. Watch how I give in just a little to her request, then bounce
the question right back to her …
ME: Oh, I have SO many ... it’s hard to choose one.

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We already discussed my conference room table and the fantasy I’ve had about having to discipline an assistant,
but that is one I think about a LOT.
Then there’s the one that takes place in a hot tub, even though I don’t have one, or even a pool, that we could use.
Then there’s the cop/hooker fantasy. That has always been a dirty, fun one that I like to revisit every now and again.
There are a lot more, but I’d like to hear some of yours ...

HER: hmmm... I’ve always had a big fantasy of working in an office and having a wild affair with my boss.  It’s

hot that we both think about that one a lot. 
 
I love water sex… hot tubs, pools, in the lake, in the ocean, in a big bathtub...  Did I mention that I love water sex?
 
I love lots of touching and kissing during sex... in other words, really passionate sex.  Feeling strong hands
smooth down from the small of my back and wrap around my hips and pulling me back while I’m on my knees
in front of you...
 
I’ve had the intense pleasure of living out most of my 3some and 4some fantasies.  I love having both a man and
woman to suck and fuck me.  There is just nothing better than having a girl spread out in front of me while I’m
on my knees getting fucked doggie style.  And vice versa.  The feel of a woman’s soft hair spread out over my
thighs while her mouth gets pushed into my pussy each time the guy behind her thrusts into her is amazing... to
watch and feel.
 
Those are a few... ;)

Okay, that is her second reference to being with a woman … something very good is brewing here.
I do love being with two women at once. You probably do too, even if you haven’t had a chance
to try it yet. The key here is to embrace the two-girl scenario without dwelling on it. Just say it’s
exciting and move on. This way you’ve made it clear you’re interested without making this all
about her bringing in a friend.
ME: Wow. Okay, you totally got me hard with the mental picture of me fucking you from behind while your face
is deep in the pussy of another woman.

And yes, I am a big fan of the water too. To be surrounded by cool water, except for the one part of me that is
surrounded by your inner heat. Yes. Absolutely.
I’m also a HUGE fan of kissing. I would be happy to just make out for hours and hours ... if I didn’t get so hard
when that happens ...

HER: Oh man.. You just had me right there at making out.  I *love* kissing.  I too could make out for hours..

sometimes I honestly wish I could go back to high school when that’s all I did.  LOL Well, not really.. the amazing
sex after the making out I don’t think I could live without.  But you get my point. 
 
I was hoping that little mental image would get you hard.  You got me insanely wet and I just figured I should
return the favor for you. 
 
So... tell me about what you have done and what you want to try...

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bring alive for me. She’s trying to measure just how much experience I have. If was in in a more
dominant persona, I would make it clear that there’s not much I hadn’t tried, and that I was able
to fulfill any of her fantasies because I’ve done it all. In this case though, I’m in a persona who
is a nice guy, a respectful guy. He’s certainly not a virgin, but he’s not exactly the guy who has
tried everything under the sun. Because she seems proud of her experience with threesomes and
foursomes, I would be the less-experienced part of this couple and allow her to enjoy leading the
way in fulfilling my fantasies …
ME: Yes, you absolutely, positively returned the favor. I had to take a little, um, private time, thanks to that
mental image. And it was AWESOME.

So, things I’ve done ... not much. All pretty conservative with conservative girls. If I went into everything I haven’t
tried, I’d seem like the most boring lover in the world, but that’s because when we get close, I don’t like to push
anyone beyond their comfort zone, unless they SPECIFICALLY ask for that.
As for what I want to try ... right now, just kissing you, holding you, touching you, then putting you on your hands
and knees and fucking you hard for a while is really what I’m looking for. Once we get that out of the way, I am
open to just about anything you would like ...
Going out for a while ... but I’ll be back online late tonight ...

Do you see what I did there?
1. I made it clear that I’m not going to push her out of her comfort zone, because I’m a nice guy.
2. I was clear that despite her talk of threesomes, I wanted her alone, satisfying her, more than I
wanted anything exotic.
3. Once I got to have her alone, I was then open to ANYTHING.
In other words I want her, but I also have additional fantasies that she can help me fulfill.
HER: So, are you this outgoing in person, or shy?  I hate to admit, but I am so much more shy in person than I
am online.  It doesn’t take much to loosen me up and break me out of my shell, though.  Think you’re up to that
challenge?  I hope so.. I have a feeling you and I have the potential to have a lot of fun together.
 
See ya later tonight.  I need to get out and run some errands myself.

ME: Well, I’m certainly not shy in person, but I wouldn’t say that I’m the MOST outgoing person in the world.
But I KNOW I can break you out of your shell. And yes, I think that we are going to have a ball even before the
first article of clothing hits the floor. 
I’m going to be here for about another 45 minutes. Then I’m going to a party downtown. Want to join me?

Now, I’ve offered her a very informal last-minute meeting. I wasn’t expecting her to say yes, but
we were still a week out before spring break ended for her kids. I wanted her to consider finding a
free hour here or there to meet as soon as possible.
Several hours later, she replied to my last-minute invitation.
HER: I wish I could have.  I was actually killing a bottle of red wine with my neighbor when you sent this. LOL

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I’ve got a great red wine buzz... and I swear, *nothing* gets me horny quite they way red wine does.  I bet you
wish I was with you right now, huh? So do I.
 
Did you have a good time at the party tonight? 
 
I think you’re right...we’re definitly going to have a ball together …

No, she is not going to be able to hold out the entire week. I just need to keep the foreplay coming.
An hour later, I was back at home in front of my computer, and I brought home some foreplay ideas
to get her even hotter …
ME: Well, I’m home. It was a pretty good party. I realized as I was walking in that I was in a party where I knew

exactly one person. So I walked around, thought, huh, there’s a great place to sit and have a drink ... there’s a good
place to make out ... there’s a private-ish bathroom for ... whatever. But since I was alone, and not in much of a
mood to make new friends tonight (just takes too much energy at 10:00 on a school night). So I came home. And
now here I am, wearing boxers, typing at my computer.
And yes, if you couldn’t guess, I DEFINITELY wish you were with me. We would have kept the night going until
sunrise. Especially in that private-ish bathroom …

HER: I wish I could have gone to the party with you.. we’d  have made good use of make out corners and
private-ish bathrooms. ;) 
 
Wearing just boxers, huh?  Very nice.  I’m not in much more.. a cami top and a thong.

btw.. all I can think about is you coming up behind me, moving my hair off my shoulder, sliding the strap of my
shirt off my shoulder and kissing me down my neck to my shoulder.

She keeps reinforcing the fact that the foreplay is working.
ME: Okay, so, I am a HUGE fan of the thong. REALLY BIG FAN!!!! Just sayin’. Hmmm. Now that is all I can
think of too ...

HER: Well at least we’re both distracted now.
ME: Yeah, I’ve completely given up on figuring out this spreadsheet. Now I’m listening to Marvin Gaye and kind
of, um, considering what I’d do if I had a personal assistant here wearing nothing but high heels. ...

HER: I’ve got my mp3 going to “me and mrs. jones”...so apparently we’re on the same page... again. I would help
you with that if I could... actually i might be able to... give me  a second.

ME: I’ll give you all the time you need ...
HER: ;) (x-rated photo of her attached, evidently taken moments ago)
ME: God bless you, baby, It IS helping! If you’d like to see how much, I’d be happy to share ...
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picture she sent me, it would have been selfish for me not to reciprocate. And it was the natural next
step in this foreplay dance. I knew she wanted to see it, and, judging by the picture she sent, she
couldn’t hold out much longer.
HER: Well, fair is fair.. I shared with you.  Did you notice how *wet* I was in that pic? 
ME: Um, yeah. I’ve been studying your picture rather intently. I will show you exactly what you’ve done for me
... this will take a minute ...

HER: I’m waiting as patiently as I possibly can… but damn, I want to see what I get to play with so hurry. ;)
Again, she is giving me permission to send a penis picture. This would have been inappropriate
before this point. But now, after four days of foreplay, she not only wants to see it, she wants me to
hurry. And notice in sending it, I’m making it clear this is not something I do regularly. She needs
to know how special she is to be receiving this picture.
ME: Okay ... not the greatest picture I’ve ever taken, but then, it’s the first time I’ve taken a picture of my own
cock ... please be kind ... (penis picture attached)
HER: Oh the things I would like to do with that.  Yum.  I want you to fuck me. That’s what that pic did for me.
Okay, she is now 100% ready to meet. Everything before this was just her warming up to me. But
this is the moment where she begins to drop all other commitments so that she can see me as soon
as possible.
ME: Well, great then, because that is EXACTLY what I want to do to you right now. No, need to, actually.
I just want you to come in, let me kiss you for a few minutes until I am really ready to just explode, then get down
on your hands and knees and I will take things from there ... I’m afraid our first time would be like 60 seconds at
this point, but give me five minutes to recover and I will give you a proper fucking. Like until we’re both sore.
Really, I’ll call into work sick in the morning if we’re not both sore by 7 am ...

In case you missed it, that was a formal invitation for her to come over right now. No pressure, just
an invitation. To sweeten the deal, I slip in the detail that I can go multiple times a night. That is a
detail I’d been purposely holding back until the right moment. This is the right moment.
HER: That’s my kind of sex... a good hard fast mind blowing orgasm to get that “God I need you right fucking
now” part out of the way.. and then hours and hours of long amazing sex.  I’m happy to hear that you can keep
going after the first orgasm.. I love making a man cum more than once, because I’m going to cum dozens of
times…

ME: Yes, I have always felt that once is maintenance, but three or four times is entertainment. No question, there
is a time and place for the one-timers, but those are few and far between. Like picking up fast food for dinner. 

My ideal session begins before 9 pm, because we’re going to need that time. The first time for me can go anywhere
from 1 minute to 45 minutes, depending on the amount of teasing I’ve had to undergo. Then it’s makeout time,

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which invariably leads to (me giving) oral sex. After that, it’s back to some hard fucking, but this time it can be
more relaxed, because I don’t just HAVE to get the cum out of me, so we can experiment. I LOVE going off-bed
as much as possible. Floor, living room, kitchen, garage, bathroom, closet, it doesn’t matter to me, but I want to
be somewhere that is just a little different than usual. And that session can go anywhere from 30 to 90 minutes,
with occasional water breaks (hydration is a must ...). Then comes the light touching and talking and kissing and
holding and dozing off for an hour or so. Then right back to it. And the BEST way is to call in sick the next day,
just holding each other and continuing the fun ...

Notice that now I’m pushing just a little bit. I’m trying to take the foreplay to yet another level
describing in detail what I’d do to her if she came over right NOW. But that is a bit of an overreach,
so she takes a step back.
HER: Okay... so if I were to cook dinner for you, what would you have me make you?
ME: I’d love anything you would take the time to cook for me. Now, if you’re asking what I LOVE ... steaks and
potatoes and a green vegetable always says, “Welcome home important person!” And that always puts me right in
the mood ... as if I wouldn’t already be in the mood with you.
But having said all that, if you were to cook me dinner, the moment we were all alone, I would come over to you
and start kissing your neck, up to your chin, down to your shoulder, and then all thought of dinner would be over.
Really, I can go without food for days if sex is involved.

Notice that I saw her pull back, so I’ve pulled back a little myself, going from talk of fucking all
over the house to talk of kissing her neck, chin and shoulders. And that brings her back to wanting
me now.
HER: My idea of fucking heaven … I’m so turned on right now.. I wish I could walk into your house and be
fucked senseless.
 

ME: How far do you live from my neighborhood? Because I am REALLY turned on right now too. I mean, if

you were here, forget the niceties, you wouldn’t make it past the entry way before you were down on your hands
and knees.

HER: I would so be there right now if I had someone to watch the kids.  I don’t think I could find someone now at
1am.. god but if I could

Now we’ve both made it completely clear: we should be together NOW having sex. We have
passed a new milestone in our foreplay. It’s no longer a question of if we’ll have sex, it’s not even a
question of waiting until spring break is over. The only question now is: when can she get away for
a couple of hours?
Having said that, a little extra teasing will only make her work that much harder to get free for a
few hours …
ME: And here I am all alone in this big house ... just as horny as hell ... But I totally understand. Just know that if
you could ... I would be happy to stay up all night just filling you with me.

HER: If I can get someone to watch the kids tomorrow night, could you make time?

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JACKPOT! Never underestimate the power of email foreplay.
ME: YES! DEFINITELY!
HER: Good. Let me try. If the chemistry in person is as strong as it is just through email and pictures (and you
know it’s going to be)... I have a feeling we’re going to need a bed close by.

ME: I can make that happen. Hell, the tough part for me would be NOT making it happen.
HER: I can’t wait. But right now I’ve got to get to bed
ME: Night, baby. I need some sleep too. Dream about lips on your neck, chin, lips, shoulders, breasts, belly and
so on and so on ...

HER: I definitly will... So long as you promise to dream of how good your cock is going to look sliding into my
mouth and my pussy.

ME: Oh yes. Already there … see you tomorrow.
This ended our fourth day of talking. By 6 pm of Day 5 she was at my place.
I am sure you can see the evolution of this conversation, and how I brought it there. I allowed her
to dictate the speed of the conversation, the amount and depth of the sex talk and I even got her
to change her mind from waiting until her kids’ spring break was over to meeting me six days
earlier than she originally planned. When we finally did meet, she walked into my home, kissed me
passionately, walked over to my sofa, took off her dress and bent over. The prior four days of email
foreplay had worked exactly as they were supposed to.
Always keep in mind, every woman you meet on CL has the power to make an encounter happen or
not happen. No amount of bullying, whining or “talking her into it” will change that.
THE CONQUEROR’S EMAIL RULE: There is one way and ONLY one way to make a meeting
happen. She has to talk herself into it. The only part you can play in helping her talk herself into it
is using email foreplay to get her so excited that she has to throw all caution to the wind and meet a
strange man for sex. Become very good at email foreplay and the meeting will happen.

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he email read, “I’m just 10 minutes away, Daddy. Your dirty girl is so so wet.” I replied
back, “Drive safely, princess. Daddy wants you here in one piece. And don’t touch yourself
as you’re driving. I know you want to, but your pussy belongs to Daddy, and only he gets to
touch it.”
I looked around the hotel room one more time. Enough lights were on that you could easily see the
whole room, but with two flicks of a light switch, the room would go to seductively dark. Bottled
water and soft drinks were cooling in the mini-fridge. The maids had made up the room earlier in
the day, so everything was clean and fresh. My suitcase was even closed and stowed in the closet.
Her next email showed up in my inbox. “I’m here, Daddy.” I replied back, “Room 302, princess.”
I checked myself in the mirror one more time. Tie looked good. Shirt looked good. Slacks looked
good. Yes, I looked like a Daddy, albeit a slightly nervous one. Deep breath, in through the nose,
out through the mouth. Then another. I looked in the mirror again and all I saw was a calm, cool
Daddy. Perfect.
The knock came at the door and I opened it with the relief of a man who was never completely sure
that he’d have company that night. She was short, early 20s, dark hair, in a too-short mini-skirt,
smiling from ear to ear. “Hi, Daddy.”
“Hello, princess,” I smiled as I guided her into the room and locked it behind me. I leaned in for a
kiss, and she put her arms around me and kissed me passionately. I could feel her getting hotter and
hotter, knowing that if the kissing continued, she’d probably bail on the Daddy/daughter fantasy
and just rape me. I pulled away.
“Have you been a good girl for Daddy today?”
She stood there looking guilty, eyes wide with a smirk on her face. “Um … how do you define good?”
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Looking down, “Yes, Daddy.”
“You know what that means, right, princess?”
“You’re going to have to spank me?”
“That’s right, princess,” I said sitting down in the middle of the executive suite couch. “Now bend
over my knee.”
“Yes, Daddy,” she said, raising her mini-skirt as she lay over my knee. I pulled off her panties and
caressed her soft bottom. Then I raised my hand as she braced herself …

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Answering Her Post
We’ve covered a lot of concepts in the past two chapters. All of those concepts are relevant to how
you should answer an ad placed by a woman on CL. And, if you paid attention to how to use a
conversation as foreplay, you now know how to handle the conversation that may result from you
answering a woman’s ad, and how to turn that into a meeting.
There are a few things, though, that I would like to discuss that make a woman’s post unique:
1. When a woman responds to your ad, she is probably able or willing to meet you, eventually, but
there is no guarantee that she will ever meet anyone from CL. However, when a woman posts her
own ad, she is looking for somebody to have sex with right now. If she isn’t looking for someone to
have sex with immediately, she will usually explain her timeline in her post.
2. When you’re posting an ad, you’re very much playing the odds, trying to guess the fantasies of
the female reader that you wish to have responding to your post. But when a (real) woman posts
an ad, she is usually looking for something very specific. She will explain the type of sex she is
looking for and the type of man: body type, age, sexual prowess and any other specifications she
wants. There is very little guessing here. Either you are her type or you’re not, and either you can
fulfill her sexual needs/wants of the moment or you can’t.
3. By the time a woman has placed an ad, she has already talked herself into the idea of meeting
a strange man for sex, so you don’t have to do that for her. That means that if you respond to her
ad and she responds back, the amount of email foreplay needed to set up the meeting will be about
half of what it would take if she was responding to your ad. The amount of work needed to make a
meeting happen could be as little as fifteen emails back and forth over a 30-minute period.
4. When you post your ad, that post will usually remain on CL for 30 days, although, every few
minutes it will be buried a little deeper into the listings until it’s so deep that it won’t ever be seen
again after a couple of days. And in the time your ad is accessible, if you get two responses from
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As we discussed back in Chapter Six, when a real woman posts an ad, that ad won’t stay up for
more than a few minutes before getting flagged. And in the minutes it is still up, she will be deluged
with responses, sometimes more than 200.
So what does all of this mean? It means that when you find an ad placed by a real woman, if her
sexual needs describe something that you are perfect for fulfilling, and you are within her age
range, body type, etc., then you have just found an excellent prospect!
On the other hand, you do have two challenges to deal with: fierce competition and a very short
amount of time to get your response in. For those reasons I embrace three approaches that come
into play in answering any woman’s post:
APPROACH 1: No matter how perfect I believe I am to give her the experience she talks about
in her ad, I understand before I start writing that the odds of her even reading what I’ve written are
very, very slim. I would estimate that every response you send to a woman’s ad on CL has about a
15% chance of even being opened. If you remind yourself of that with every note you send off, you
won’t be too disappointed when you get no response.
APPROACH 2: I try to respect any requests she makes in her ad. If she says “no pic, no reply”
then I send a (face) picture. If she wants my age, height, weight, etc., then I send all of that too.
There are too many guys who will send her everything she asks for to not be willing to play by her
rules. If I don’t wish to send her what she asks for, then I don’t respond at all. Why waste my time?
APPROACH 3: Have a few compelling responses on paper before you start reading through
women’s posts. You will find that about three or four thoughtful standard responses will adequately
answer about 80% of the real posts you see from women. You should have one that makes you
sound funny, one that makes you sound caring, one that makes you sound interested in what
they’re looking for, and maybe one for each potential fantasy you’d like to fulfill. Each pre-written
response should include your age, your height, your body shape or weight and a few compelling
things about you that relate to what is requested in the post you’re responding to.
This way, instead of wasting valuable moments writing a paragraph or two about yourself, you
can quickly cut-and-paste an already written response into an email. Be sure to tailor it to what she
actually wrote in her post, to show you’re not cutting and pasting the same thing to every woman
on CL, even though you are. Be sure to say SOMETHING that proves you actually read what she
said in her post. With a little – JUST A LITTLE – customization of several standard responses, you
will be saving valuable time and getting your email in, so that hopefully, yours is one of the first she
receives. If yours is one of the last she receives, no matter how perfect it is, it probably won’t ever
be opened.
Of course, if she describes a specific fantasy, answer as the persona that is perfectly suited to carry
out that fantasy for her. Make it abundantly clear that you have great expertise with exactly the
experience she is describing, and you could make it both exciting and safe for her.

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Once she messages you back, you’re in the foreplay email phase. Just do as I outlined in Chapter
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bviously, she was scared. “I’m sure I sound nervous,” she quivered through the phone line,
but I really need to do this. I just never have.”

“I understand,” I replied slowly and calmly, “but meeting someone on Craigslist is no different
than meeting them in a bar or at a party. You’ve learned more about me this evening from our email
conversation than you would have learned at a noisy bar, right?”
“No, that’s not what I mean. I mean, I’ve never done this before. Sucked a cock. Taken one in my
butt. I’ve only had regular sex.”
I paused, confused. “But … didn’t you say you were married for a few years?”
“Yes,” she said, as if that explained everything.
“Okay,” I replied, deciding not to try to dissect anyone’s past relationships. “My place is ready for
you. How long until you’re here?”
“I’m pulling up now.”
“Good,” I said, feeling myself getting harder, “I’ll see you in a moment.”
“Okay. Um … you will tie me up right? I’m not sure I’ll be able to go through with this if you don’t
force me.”
“Yes, you will be blindfolded and bound.”
I heard her take a deep breath. “Okay. Good. Coming up now.”
A moment later there was a knock at the door. I opened it to a very pretty, tall, athletic woman with
long brown hair down to her waist, wearing a little black cocktail dress. Perfect! Without a word, I
took her by the hand and led her into my home. I felt the cold sweat from her hand in the palm
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“I want you to stand right here,” I ordered, in the middle of my living room, which she did. “Now,
take a nice deep breath … and let it out through your mouth,” which, again, she did. Feeling her
relax just a little, I walked around behind her, moved her hair to the side and started kissing the
back of her neck, which made her relax even more as she leaned into me and moaned just a little.
She was ready to begin.
I grabbed the fabric from the coffee table and wrapped it around her head. Completely blindfolded,
I slipped her cocktail dress off of her body to discover she had followed my orders not to wear a
bra or panties. Her breasts were absolutely perfect on her slim body, and her pussy was perfectly
trimmed. I took the handcuffs from the table and secured her wrists behind her back.
“So you say you have never sucked a cock before?”
“No, sir.”
“Ever?”
“No, sir.”
I put my hands on her hips and guided her to the couch. I carefully sat her down and then slipped
off my slacks and boxers. I climbed onto the couch so that my feet were standing to either side of
her hips, and my groin was at the level of her face. She was about to get a taste of something she
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The Final Hurdle and the First Meeting!
So, you’ve gotten through initial contact and you’ve been engaged in email foreplay for anywhere
from 45 minutes to several days. She is so ready to meet you that you can taste it. And now comes
her single most important question in the entire process:
“You’re not an axe murderer are you?”
Answer this vital question in the right way, and you WILL get laid tonight. Up until now, she has
been fighting an internal battle between sexual gratification and fear. On one hand, she wants to
fulfill her fantasy with you. On the other, she has read all of the stories about women being killed
after being lured somewhere by someone she met on CL. So in one simple question, she lays all of
her fears before you.
“Are you going to kill me?”
It’s a seemingly innocent question, asked in a somewhat joking manner. I understand why. She likes
you enough to come fuck you, so she doesn’t want to insult you by asking you in a serious way if
you’re a murderer. However:
Nearly every single woman I’ve ever met on CL has asked me that question, or a variation of it just
before we met for sex. So understand that this is your final hurdle. And it’s the easiest one to get
past. You MUST answer her question sincerely, with complete respect and seriousness, no matter
how much she made the question seem like a joke. Here is how I successfully answer that question
every time it comes up:
“I want to (fuck you/fulfill your fantasy/do whatever we’ve been discussing) tonight. I promise
you will be completely safe with me. If I cause any harm to you at all, it will just be a little
soreness in your private parts tomorrow from the overuse they receive tonight. And even that
won’t be intentional.”
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Facebook page and encourage her to forward it to a friend, so someone knows who she is spending
the next few hours with.
With that, she will either be in the car on her way to you, or she will give you her address and be
waiting for you at her place.
First impressions
Even though you’re meeting her in person, the foreplay continues. It just changes from email
foreplay to more traditional in-person foreplay. But the persona and the storyline you have
established don’t change. So consider “costuming” for the meeting. What would this persona
you’ve assumed wear at a first meeting with a woman? A three-piece suit? Jeans and a t-shirt?
Dockers and a nice shirt? Spandex unitard and a cape? Overalls and wrestling mask? Up until now
your words have painted a fantasy around her. Now you actually need to create it in real life.
That is why I recommend having the appropriate clothes (and props!) in your closet to create the
right look for any persona you wish to use. The personas you choose to assume, and how they
dress, are highly personal decisions. You should only be using personas that you can convincingly
pull off in person. The important thing to point out about wardrobe and props is that you need to
think these things out in advance, because you’ve run out of time to go shopping when it’s 1:00
a.m. and a woman is on her way over to your place. At the very minimum, don’t even start this
process without having condoms and lube on hand.
Don’t overlook the things that women on CL most frequently demand in their posts: be clean,
have good hygiene and smell good. A simple shower with some nice soap and shampoo, regular
brushing, flossing and dental appointments, the use of deodorant and a nice shave should take care
of just about everything you need in this department. Oh, don’t forget to pop a mint or two just
before meeting!
The environment sets the mood.
If she’s coming to your place, of course, you want to make sure you have set the mood to match the
fantasy you have created for her. Keep in mind, you don’t want to turn on every single light in the
house, but keep enough light on for her to see that there aren’t any threatening people lingering in
the corners, enough to see that you’re not hiding anything that could endanger her. Do not ask her
to step into a very dark room on her first visit, unless the fantasy you have constructed is all about
her being in dark rooms where anything or anybody could be. Unless her fantasy is an “uncertain”
environment, let her see that you have created a safe place for the two of you to spend a few
hours together.
And by all means, before you start placing ads and answering posts on CL, make sure your home is
presentable. You don’t need it to be spotless, but at least make it woman-friendly: clean bathroom,
no laundry on the living room or bedroom floors, all garbage in the trash can where it belongs.
Also consider all of the senses, not just sight. Soft music or white noise can be very relaxing to a
woman showing up at your home for the first time. You can engage the sense of smell by using
different types of air filters and air fresheners. You don’t want your home to smell like a hospital
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vanilla, lilacs or fresh-baked cookies can be a subtle way of creating a relaxing environment. And
don’t underestimate the feel of a warm breeze on naked skin. When the weather is right – and if you
live in an appropriate neighborhood – open windows capturing the breeze can also be stimulating
for both of you.
Always have a couple bottles of wine on hand at all times. One red, one white. You may not even
enjoy wine. But if she shows up nervous, offering her wine not only gives her something that will
help her relax, it shows that you understand what most women like, and you have been actively
planning ahead to make her experience with you perfect. Having a variety of cold soft drinks on
hand, including but not limited to diet ones, is also a memorable and thoughtful touch.
If you’re going to her place, you still have a role in preparing the environment. If you have been
leading the foreplay, you can dictate what she will be wearing (if anything at all) when you
get there, any kind of music that should be playing, and how light or dark you want her place
to be when you get there. Take the opportunity to actively guide what she is wearing and how
she prepares her place for your arrival. Even if you don’t care what her place looks like, you will
heighten the experience for her if you guide her in how you want her place to be when you get there.
And now you’re in the same room …
Hours – maybe days – have gone into setting up this moment. No matter how many times you’ve
done this, you’re going to be nervous. So:
CONQUEROR’S RULE OF MEETING: Stop, take a deep breath, then focus on moving slowly
and talking deliberately.
It’s not an original idea, but it works. People who are nervous tend to talk just a little faster than
people who are cool, calm and collected. So concentrate on being more deliberate in your words,
and slowing your speech pattern down just a little. It will give you an extra moment to think before
you speak, and you will feel more in control of the situation. Slowing down your speech pattern
will calm her down too, which is vital. Her nervousness is the only thing now standing between you
and a several hours of sex.
So now that you’ve taken a breath, smile and slowly walk toward her. If she doesn’t step back,
take her in your arms and kiss her. If she does step back, simply say whatever it would make sense
for your persona to say at this moment. In some cases, that would be, “Are you ready to feel your
Master’s hard cock in every one of your holes, slut?” In other cases that would be, “Hi! It’s so nice
to finally meet you.”
Understand that it’s hard to predict how nervous the woman you’re about to meet will be. Take two
women, both with the same fantasy, both with the same needs, both living in the same town, one
will be ready to plunge into her fantasy the moment you walk in the door, while the other needs
10-20 minutes of talking and a glass of wine to feel comfortable with you. Be sensitive enough to
read her body language and understand what she needs. Arms crossed against her chest, inability
to make eye contact, not speaking or speaking very quietly are just a few indicators that she needs
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enough to reach out and touch her. If she doesn’t push you away, slowly start getting closer.
I have found that when I meet a woman who is overcome with nervousness, I suggest relaxation
exercises. We both stand up. I tell her, “Let’s both take a deep cleansing breath through the nose,
and then let it out through the mouth.” Then I say, “Let’s do it again,” but this time I have my hand
on her upper stomach to “monitor” her breathing. As I tell her to take a third and fourth breath,
keeping one hand on her stomach, I move around behind her and start kissing the back of her neck.
Never underestimate really sensual kisses on the back of a woman’s neck as a way of opening her
up to anything else you want to do. Of course, all of this is done in the guise of helping her relax.
Nothing sexual at all about it!
At this point, as you kiss the back of her neck, she should be allowing herself to melt into you,
breathing a little faster, perhaps moaning a little and maybe even beginning to grind herself against
you. Congratulations! She is becoming putty in your hands! You have created the persona and the
fantasy she has been wanting for so long. You wrote words that appealed to her and made her want
to start a conversation, then you used email foreplay to get her completely stimulated before she
agreed to meet. Now she’s here, in front of you. Even if she was nervous before, now she feels
comfortable enough for you to start undressing her, and if you keep touching her and kissing her
just right, she will give you anything you want all night. I just hope you brought enough condoms …
Of course, every once in a while, you will meet a woman that shrugs off any kisses, pushes you
away every time you try to get close and refuses offers to try to relax. This usually results from the
combination of finding a girl who isn’t particularly experienced, strong or even very smart, and not
spending enough time performing email foreplay to make sure she even has it within her to get into
the mood. She was just horny and said, “come on over,” which usually sounds like a terrific offer. But
she did it without really thinking it through, and in this case, every part of her body is telling you she
regrets setting this meeting up. Unless you have the very special skills to be calm enough, smooth
enough and reassuring enough to make her nervousness disappear simply by talking and smiling,
it’s time to offer to leave. This will give her the chance to “put up or shut up” and it will give you the
opportunity to find out whether you’ve got a willing participant or it’s time to cut bait, go home, get
on CL and find someone who is actually willing. Shit happens, but no matter what happens:
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER PUT YOURSELF IN A POSTION IN WHICH YOU COULD
LATER BE ACCUSED OF RAPE, SEXUAL ASSAULT OR ANY OTHER KIND OF
UNWANTED ADVANCES. Keep this in mind at ALL times! Even if you’re acting out a rape
scene, try to make sure you have it in writing in her emails that “rape” is what she wants, and then
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woke up angry and frustrated. The night before I had found a beautiful woman who wanted
to come to me and be dominated. Perfect! But somehow I had messed it up. After an hour of
conversation, she stopped responding and the meeting never happened. Ten hours later I was
still horny and still trying to piece together what I had done wrong.
Before taking a shower, getting ready for the day and putting the previous night behind me, I
decided to check my email. I was shocked to find an email from her, sent just moments before:
I need to be punished because I picked someone else who was a dud. . . any chance you can play
now, Sir?

Well, well, well. Not only did I have my answer to last night’s mystery, but now she was back,
requesting my attention. And now I had the best possible motivation for punishing her: rejection!
This was going to be great fun. Of course, I would have to miss a morning of work. Before I could
write her back, another note came from her address:
Please, Sir. Call in sick and let me come over to be properly punished.

With a smile, I responded:
You have my address and my cell number from last night. Text me when you get here.
Your punishment awaits, slut.

Instead of preparing for my workday, I prepared my living room and bedroom for her arrival.
Blindfold, restraints, handcuffs, ball gag, rope, paddle, I even brought out the seldom-used whip
and nipple clamps. Oh, she was going to pay for last night’s betrayal. Once the stage was fully set
for her arrival, I took a quick shower, brushed my teeth and vacuumed the carpet, after all, she was
going to spend a lot of time with her face in the carpet.
Finally, I heard my phone chime signaling an incoming text.
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Good. I texted back:
You will come to my front door, slut. You will knock once and turn your back. You will hear the door open behind
you. You will be blindfolded. You will be led into my home, and your discipline will begin.

I stood at the door, looking through the peephole. Within moments she was in my line of sight. Short
blonde hair, thin, wearing a tight tank top covering small breasts and a pair of jogging shorts.
She looked scared, but I watched her take a breath, knock on my door and turn her back. I waited
a beat and opened the door. I could sense her fear peaking as she felt me behind her. I quickly
blindfolded her and grabbed her around the waist as I half carried her, half dragged her into my
living room.
“Don’t hurt me! People know where I am,” she pleaded in a shaky, throaty voice.
“I don’t care, slut.” And with that her hands were cuffed behind her back and her shorts and
panties were on the floor. With a SLAP I spanked first the left side of her well-toned ass, then the
right. Then I pulled the front of her tank top over her head and behind her neck, exposing her small
pink nipples. “We’re going to have some fun now, slut.”
She trembled as I allowed those words to hang in the air. I carefully placed a nipple clamp around
her right nipple. She bit her lip and whined a little, but didn’t yell out in pain. I carefully placed the
other clamp on her left nipple. Again, she accepted the nipple torture.
Impressed with her control, I pushed her roughly down toward the couch, so that her face was
buried in a sofa cushion, her knees on the floor and her ass up in the air. “So, slut,” I asked, “how
did the man you chose last night use you?”
“He didn’t, Sir. He just wanted to have gentle, boring sex.”
“I see. That’s too bad. Did he use your tight little ass last night for his own pleasure, slut?”
“No, Sir. He didn’t.”
“Good,” I said, as I maneuvered myself behind her. “Let’s start off by correcting his mistake …”

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SPAM, Scams and Other Assorted Douchebaggery
In a non-descript one-story building just outside of Minsk, the capital of Belarus in eastern Europe,
row after row of men sit at long fiberboard tables in a large, windowless, cigarette-smoke-filled
room, under cheap fluorescent lighting. In front of each man is a bottom-of-the-line PC connected
to the internet. The internet hookup is state-of-the-art.
Each man has a variety of webmail accounts open on his screen: Hotmail, Yahoo, Google and AOL.
All free accounts, of course, that allow unlimited anonymous registration from a single IP address.
But the most important window for each man is the Craigslist page of his assigned city, opened
to casual encounters. Each man has two jobs. The first job is placing as many w4m ads as he can
through each 12- hour shift. The second job, and nearly as important, is to flag every seemingly real
w4m ad that appears on CL – any that was not placed by a fellow spammer.
Some of the men in the room speak a little English. Most don’t. But they don’t really need to. Each
man is provided with a list of headlines and another list of paragraphs to mix-and-match with the
headlines. On occasion, one of the men at the tables will come up with an idea for a new ad, write
it in his native language, run it through Google Translate and place the results in an ad on CL. At
other times, before flagging a w4m ad, a man will copy the real ad onto his document of accepted
ads, and use those words for his own ad on a CL page for another city at another time. Sure, the ads
they place don’t always make perfect sense, but many men in America are stupid and lazy. These
fake ads don’t have to make that much sense to get replies. Hundreds of replies. To every single ad
they place, in every single city.
It’s not just easy. It’s lucrative. Every man who answers one of their bogus ads will get an
automated reply. Usually the reply is from a “woman” who is completely turned on by whatever
the man sent, even if he sent a blank email. She really wants to meet him. All he has to do is go to
a site. Make a profile! Or verify that he’s not a stalker or something simply by entering in his credit
card number. No matter what the “woman’s” offer is, the man is going to be charged $30-$45 a
month for something. So even if only one of every 100 men is gullible enough to actually join a site
or give a credit card number for verification, the men in the non-descript building sitting at the long
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And that doesn’t even take into account the amount of money made by the multiple semi-automated
emails that hit every post written by a man.
It’s been said time and time again that you’ll never go broke underestimating a horny American
male. Ah yes, business is good.
***
It’s so sad. You will hear from longtime users of CL casual encounters in every city that spammers
have destroyed the category. Probably 90% of all w4m listings are spam, and if you’re a real
woman trying to post, your ads don’t stay up very long because the spammers flag you. Just in the
18 months that I was experimenting on CL, I noticed a huge increase in the amount of spam I was
dealing with.
It can be incredibly frustrating. Every day on CL casual encounters, in every city, there is at least
one man who posts an ad saying that CL is nothing but spam. This chapter is dedicated to all of
those guys who just throw up their hands and give up. There’s no need to. Not when so much of the
spam is so pathetically fake, so certainly not written by a real woman, much of it not even written
by someone who speaks English.
Once you know what you’re looking for, most of the spam is laughably easy to spot. Here are the
rules to consider when evaluating whether you’re looking at the words of a real woman or spam.
The Conqueror’s 20 Rules of Spam
I put these rules into three groups. There are general rules about spam that are just good sense.
There are rules to consider when you’re looking at w4m posts, trying to decide if they’re spam. And
I have rules for deciding if a response to your ad is spam.

Four General Rules:
Rule of Spam #1: No real woman on CL will ever send you to another site. EVER! Not to look at
her pictures, not to verify yourself, not to join another dating site. Real women come to CL to find
someone quickly. If they supply you with any link to anything other than a Facebook page or a
MySpace page, it is definitely spam.
Rule of Spam #2: There is no such thing as a LEGITIMATE verification site to which YOU have
to give your credit card number. There are sites through which she can check you out for prior
arrests and similar problems, but for that SHE would have to pay for a subscription, not you. She
would need your name and either your address or your social security number, not your credit card
number. (And of course, don’t give anyone your credit card number or your social security number!)
Rule of Spam #3: If a woman claims she has a profile on another site, there is no reason for her to
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handle on the original site on which she’s set up her profile. This is just a way that dating sites try to
recruit new (paying) members. Furthermore, if any woman EVER mentions her “profile” in an ad,
that is simply a spammer cutting and pasting text written by a real woman on another dating site.
Don’t waste your time.
Rule of Spam #4: Any time you notice anything that seems out of place, that makes you ask, “Why
did the woman write that?” it’s probably spam.

Ten rules for detecting spam posts:
Rule of Spam #5: Real women only use characters that are found on the standard computer
keyboard. If someone is cutting and pasting paragraphs from other documents to be posted on CL,
apostrophes, quotation marks and other punctuation can show up as all kinds of weird symbols
once the ad is published. One variation of this is posts featuring the “anti-apostrophe.” Some
spammers have realized that CL has problems with apostrophes when they are cut and pasted from
a document, so if you see a post that skips the apostrophes altogether like, “I m horny” or “Id like
to meet someone” … well that’s spam.
Rule of Spam #6: Real women put a little thought into their posts. A lot more than some men do.
Therefore their headlines will ALWAYS have something to do with what they write in the body
of their ads. Most spam posts can’t manage that one simple accomplishment. This is actually the
easiest way to spot the most laughable of the spam.
Rule of Spam #7: Real women looking for sex usually have a pretty good idea of what they’re
looking for. They will offer some explanation of why they’re looking and who they’re looking for.
Very few real women will ever run an ad with less than three sentences. And for those very, very
few that do, those sentences will make some sense. If all you get out of a casual encouters post is a
woman’s favorite type of music and the fact that she likes cooking, that is spam.
Rule of Spam #8: Real women don’t include their names in a post. If you see a woman mentioning
her name in a post, there is a 95% chance you’re either looking at spam, or an ad placed by
someone who wants your money.
Rule of Spam #9: Real women don’t write their posts in one language, run it through an online
translator and post the hilarious results. When you see a post that uses phrasing that no real woman
living in North America in the 21st Century would use, that is definitely spam.
Rule of Spam #10: Real women who post on CL fill out all of the identifying information after
the headline. That means if it’s a real post, you will see the woman’s age and the name of her
neighborhood/city next to the title of the ad before you even click on it. A real woman will want
you to know her age, so you’ll know if you’re too old or too young for her. Spammers don’t want
any man to rule himself out, so they often don’t include an age near the title. When you see an ad
that doesn’t have either an age or the name of a neighborhood/city next to the title, you know there
is only a slight chance you are looking at a real ad.

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Rule of Spam #11: Real women who post on CL know how old they are. When an ad says a
woman is one age next to the title, but in the text or the headline of the ad, she indicates her age is
something different, that is definitely spam.
Rule of Spam #12: Real women who post on CL know where they live. A real woman on CL
usually won’t refer to where she lives as generically as “I love living in this area.” If she mentions
what part of town she’s in, it will be a part of town that actually exists. If she says she’s in
Evanston, do a Google search on Evanston (hint: if you’re not living in Indiana, that is spam!) You
will find w4m ads from the same non-parts-of-your-town showing up again and again.
Rule of Spam #13: Real women who post on CL know what day, month and season this is. When
a woman mentions wanting to find a valentine, unless it’s February, that is spam. When a woman
mentions that the holiday season makes her horny, if it’s not the holiday season, that is spam. If the
woman says her long weekend starts tomorrow and it’s only Tuesday, that is spam. If the woman
complains about how cold it is, if it’s not cold out, that is spam.
Rule of Spam #14: Real women do not post their IM addresses in CL posts. Usually, when a
“woman” posts her IM address she is just trying to lead you to a cam site where she or other
women will perform on camera. For a small fee, of course.

Six rules for detecting spam replies to your posts:
Rule of Spam #15: A real woman will reference what you talked about in your post. If you wrote
something fantasy based, she will either continue your fantasy, or at least tell you how hot it is. If
you used humor, she will either joke with you or will tell you how funny you are. In neither case
will she just launch into a paragraph about her that is totally disconnected from anything you wrote.
Rule of Spam #16: Real women will have email addresses that make sense in some way. It will
not feature a long stream of random numbers or letters. Their email addresses are not misspelled
versions of the names on their account. A real woman will usually reference her city, her state, sex,
her name or some kind of hobby. If the name that comes up with her email address is Jane Smith,
but the email address itself is [email protected] that is definitely spam.
Rule of Spam #17: A real woman will not send you an email from one address, then have your
response automatically go to a different address. Anytime you’re sending an email to a reply you’ve
received, make sure the address that you see on your response matches the address of the incoming
email. If it doesn’t, you’re replying to spam.
Rule of Spam #18: If you received any photos, check their titles. Real women will have titles
such as “photo1.jpg” or “me.jpg” or “smile.jpg” or “boobs.jpg.” If the title of a photo is a string of
seemingly random letters and numbers, such as 2uETl4YU5H6BSH8BPmrJqAxx.jpg, you may be
looking at spam.
Rule of Spam #19: If you’re running multiple ads at the same time, you will find the same spam
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addresses. If you’re not sure if a message is spam, look through the other responses you’ve received
lately. If you’re seeing similar names coming again and again, they’re all spam.
Rule of Spam #20: Real women don’t include complicated numerical codes in their replies.
Sometimes these codes are written in white type so they are invisible until you highlight the entire
email. If you see any numerical codes in an email reply, you’re looking at spam.
Got all of those rules? Good. Now let’s put some of them to work. Take a look at this ad. Tell me
what indicates that it’s not written by a real woman?

Named like the Story of O - w4m (Chicago)
Date: 2011-02-07, 1:23AM EST
Reply To This Post
I like to spend my time writing poems on the beach, or going to parties with friends. I am a very social person and i
love to dance. I like to take long walks on the beach, and play solitaire at night on my lap top.

Start with the title. The Story of O is a classic BDSM story. So where is the explanation of the
BDSM needs of this woman in the text of the ad? It’s not there. It’s almost as if the title was written
separately from the text of the ad … well that’s odd! Add the fact that the “woman” who placed the
ad didn’t bother to put her age in. SPAM!
Here’s a similar one …

I wanna F**K all night - w4m (West Palm Beach)
Date: 2011-02-07, 1:13AM EST
Reply To This Post
i workout when i can. I go to school and trying to get a degree. I work part time in an accounting office. trying to meet
new people.

Let’s start again with the headline. For starters, there is nothing on Craigslist keeping an ad writer
from using the word “fuck.” So I don’t understand why the writer is using the F and the K without
including UC in the middle. That doesn’t make sense. And then the body text of the ad doesn’t have
anything to do with the headline. Why does she want to f**k all night? What kind of man does
she want for this? Why tonight? If I want to f**k her, does it matter that she works part time in an
accounting office???

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Again, no age posted. SPAM! Next …

looking for a fling - w4m (downtown)
Date: 2011-02-06, 11:18AM EST
Reply To This Post
Guys, if ya want to chat to me then you can add my YM, on nada3415

Okay, let’s start again with the headline. I could see “looking for a fling” fitting with the body text.
However, look at the neighborhood: downtown. Sometimes a real woman will be posting from
downtown, but usually, “downtown” is a good generic neighborhood for any spammer to use, since
every town has a downtown. And again, no age is posted. But the real giveaway is the mention of
“her” Yahoo Messenger handle. Go ahead, use it now. She’ll talk to you for two minutes then ask if
you’d like to see her perform on camera. For a small fee. Do you have a credit card? SPAM!

I need a cuddler - w4m (downtown)
Date: 2011-03-03, 12:34AM EST
Reply To This Post
It might sound kind of wierd but I’ve always kind of wanted a hunk to blow his load on my feet.

Again, we have an ad being posted from “downtown” with no age provided. Now, there are plenty
of guys out there who are happy to cuddle, and I’m sure it’s not hard to find a guy willing to
blow his load on a woman’s feet either. But I question how cuddling leads to blowing a load on
someone’s feet. Obviously, this is a headline that was written for one purpose and text that was
written for another. And someone who was working too fast to pay attention, or probably couldn’t
even understand English in the first place, was in charge of this operation. Major SPAM!

Keep me warm tonight ;) - w4m (Evanston)
Date: 2011-02-08, 2:01AM EST
Reply To This Post
Whippings to my rear end i quite enjoy. I like when my ass turns red, can you handle that?

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Who talks like this? “Whippings to my rear end”? Really? Add in the fact that this ad did not run in
Indiana, which is the only state in which you’ll find a city or an area called Evanston. Oh, and again
the headline doesn’t match the subject of the text, and no age is provided. SPAM!!!
Here is one of my favorites:

Want some - w4m (west)
Date: 2011-02-08, 9:14PM EST
Reply To This Post
Now im a twenty-four, Latino babe, residing in the midst of the town. I have only just gone to live in this particular city
however not able to go to a good bar or maybe lounge. The reasons why don

Have you ever seen anyone work harder to not mention where they live? It’s almost as if this post
was written somewhere far from any place where anyone speaks English to be run generically in
any city. And no, I didn’t edit the end of this post. This is exactly as it ran. If you look very closely,
you will find that MANY w4m posts end where an apostrophe should be. Again, no real woman
looking for a man would have written this. I’d call it spam, but its not even smart enough to be
spam.
What’s that? You want to see an example that is even worse? Okay …

Come over! - w4m (your place)
Date: 2011-02-08, 11:05PM EST
Reply To This Post
My mummy and I moved to this fresh state after my mom have broken down from my pops. I just had gotten entrance
in freshman and i also am all of shy to make fresh good friends in my institution. Although from the time that I moved
to this particular state my sex-life had a pause. I am bitch while having intercourse, naughty and even outrageous,
despite the fact that laid-back when it comes to creating new buddies. So I want somebody that wants a great and fuck
adventures, really a true sexy bang friend. If you believe you are sizzling and untamed then mail me or even contact
me. Nate!

Um … you figure it out. This wasn’t written by a real woman. I’m not even sure this was written by
an Earthling.

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I enjoy sexy fun - w4m (Fort Worth)
Date: 2011-02-09, 2:37PM EST
Reply To This Post
I have constantly had this strange dream that none of them of my previous boyfriends were ready to indulge in.
Actually they have been not even sufficiently strong that helped me to meet my desire. My wish is to play out a rape. I
wish to connect with a stud who’s got a large man member and is particularly ready to play the role of the person who
rapes whilst I am going to get raped. You may handle me as you may like and i will never even hassle as this is one
dream which has continually turned me on. Message me your details along with a photograph.

I’m including this example because I’m certain it got a lot of responses. The rape fantasy is one
many men will happily volunteer for. And I’m sure every last one of the guys who answered this
ad was disappointed to get a reply that invited them to join a site or verify themselves with a credit
card. I also include it because this sentence makes me laugh every time I read it: “I wish to connect
with a stud who’s got a large man member and is particularly ready to play the role of the person
who rapes whilst I am going to get raped.”

interested in d/s - w4m (Orange County)
Date: 2011-02-09, 2:37PM EST
Reply To This Post
Love is with the air-Huh! I need this to can come lower, down to my own bedroom. I am wild bitch wanting to get
shagged as well as tamed by some sort of great, attractive dude. P.S. I am normally influenced with the height and width
of the penis. Take a look at when you can suit me or you cannot. I’d seriously like to exchange a few pictures prior to
actually reaching your bed. Certainly no false pictures pls. I enjoy make hand jobs and also blow jobs too. If you think
you could be my personal intercourse partner, drop me personally a good e-mail along with a few your current naked
chest photos.

I bring this ad up for one word: shagged. Unless you’re hoping to meet up with Austin Powers,
when you see the word “shagged,” you’re reading something that was not written in North
America. Evidently, this is one of those ads written in a different language and run through a
translation program. A really bad one. And here’s the sentence that is the cherry on top of the whole
crap sundae: “I enjoy make hand jobs and also blow jobs too.”
Here’s one that pretty much violates every rule of spam:

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****unfulfilled**** - w4m (downtown)
Date: 2011-02-12, 1:55AM EST
Reply To This Post
I am 18 and right out of secondary school. I have a luscious pussy which has by no means been carressed (besides by
myself). I am ready now to reduce my virginity and also for a bit of big person to make really like to me again and
again. I’m white and have no preferences as of now. I don

If you’re going to spend a great deal of time replying to posts written like this, you deserve to be
frustrated and angry. Since you now know what to look for, I’m confident you won’t be falling for
these types of shenanigans.
Recognizing incoming email spam
Every time you place one ad on CL, you can expect to get up to six spam emails within 45 minutes
of your post appearing online. Over the course of 24 hours, you can expect a total of 10-15 spam
emails to your CL post. So if you post five ads in a day, you can expect to receive at least 50 spam
emails pretty quickly. Fortunately 80% of it is pretty transparent. Most spam emails are written
long before you placed your ad. They are usually written to be as generic as possible, so if you’re
not running generic ads that say “I’m horny. Let’s fuck,” you will find that most of these spam
messages don’t make much sense as responses to your posts.
There are specific names that will show up in your inbox again and again no matter what part of
North America you’re in. Many times you will see the same first name again and again with a
different last name each time. And sometimes you’ll see a last name repeating with different first
names. These names do tend to change over time, but these are the names that are almost always
spam as of the writing of this book:
Nicole Lewis
Maggie Roberts
Diana Richardson
April Parker
Alex (Anything) asking in the subject line for you to send your photos
Maddison or Maddie
(Anything) Babicke
(Anything) Rascoe
(Anything) Rutledge
::MELISSA::
:-:SARA:-:
Brittany
Brandy Hennersen

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Kate Macneill
(Anything from) @juicybang.com
There are specific words to look out for too:
lad, chap, shag, advert, keen, pub and the term, “I’m a desirable lady.”
At the time of this publication, there are four main types of spam emails that will show up in
your inbox:
1. Emails that contain nothing having to do with what you wrote
2. Emails that contain a few random words
3. Emails that simply contain the title of your post, your age or the area you’re from followed by a
question mark, as if seeking clarification of something you put in your post
4. Emails that are blank but include a .html or .doc attachment
How do you deal with all that spam?
1. Don’t run ads that are so generic that a spammer could write you a convincing reply without
reading your ad.
2. Ask for real responses to include something in their subject line that will identify them as being
real. This will make it easy to identify 99% of the spam that shows up in your inbox. Keep in
mind that some very smart spammers will occasionally read your ad and write whatever you’re
looking for in the title of their spam email.
3. Question every part on every email you receive, including the email address and the names of
any attachments.
4. If you’re not sure you’ve received spam, you can always answer it with a question, such as:
what was it exactly that excited you about my ad? If you get an answer that makes sense,
you’ve found a real person
5. Even if you end up having a “conversation” with a spammer, as long as you don’t pull out your
credit card or give any personal information, all you’ve done is waste a little time.
Prostitutes
Sometimes on CL you will come across a woman who is real, but not just looking for some nostrings fun. She wants/needs money and she knows you’re horny enough to give it to her. Now, I’m
not here to judge what you do with your time, your money or your penis. I will tell you that if you
follow my steps you’ll find enough real women on CL that there will never be a reason to
pay a prostitute.
If prostitutes are your thing, I wish you the best in avoiding diseases and the repercussions for
breaking whatever the individual laws of your state and county happen to be. For everyone else
who doesn’t want to break the law, here are the key phrases in her communications to indicate she’s
a working girl:
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“Looking for generous men”
Use of the dollar sign ($) anywhere in her post
She mentions “roses,” or even better: ro$e$
“Need a SD” or “Need a sugar daddy”

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“Make me your SB” or “Make me your sugar baby”
“If you give me what I need, I’ll give you what you need.”
“Be willing to compensate”
“Need help with a bill”
“Need to go shopping”
“Recently lost my job”
“I only charge for my time. Not for any sexual favors that may or may not be rendered.”
“In/out” or “Incalls/outcalls”
If she includes a phone number in any manner, she’s probably selling her services.
If she spells out the digits of her phone number and hides them in the text, she’s a hooker.
If she includes a phone number and says “no texts, no blocked numbers” she is definitely
selling her services.
If she mentions that she can bring in a second woman if you’d like, they are probably both
prostitutes. The more “friends” she has available for you to choose from, the more you’ll know
they’re all prostitutes.

Whoa, it’s a dude …
Sometimes, especially later at night or with more extreme fantasies, even though you clearly posted
as an m4w, you will get an email from a real person … just not a person who is a woman. Maybe
it’s a guy. Maybe it’s a tranny. Maybe it’s a transgendered person. Either way you’re not talking to
a woman in the traditional sense. At that point, you have a very personal choice to make. As I’ve
said, I’m not here to judge. What you do at 3 a.m. when you’re incredibly horny is your own business.
But if you choose to respond in a negative way to this person who answered your ad, I would ask
for your own sake that you respond kindly. At this point no harm has really been done, has it?
Someone you weren’t interested in sexually took a chance. Don’t be offended and don’t get angry.
The last thing you need in the middle of the night is a fight with an angry, horny gay guy who has
your email address. Starting a fight is not in your best interest.
Your best choices are:
1. Ignore him.
2. Thank him for his interest and wish him well on his search. After all, he’s just as horny as you
are at this time of night. You just don’t happen to share his sexual tastes. Be nice and move on.
You will also sometimes see a w4m ad showing a picture of a slim woman in a cocktail dress, and
she will talk about how she wants to make you cum using nothing but her tongue and lips. Odds are
that’s not actually a woman. It could be a cross dresser or a tranny.
Beware of posts from “women” that offer only oral. While some women very much want only to
give oral and will place ads saying that, keep in mind that some ads offering oral are from men.
Furthermore, an “ass pussy” is not a pussy, and is not offered by anyone who actually has a pussy.
Also, if a “woman” offers to set up a “glory hole” that is probably a man. In case you’re not
familiar with the concept, a glory hole is a false wall with a hole in it at just the right height for
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the hole. There will be someone on the other side happy to suck it. Of course, if there was someone
available who I wanted sucking my penis, she wouldn’t need a false wall with a hole in it to get me
to take off my pants.
Seriously, if you only want women touching you, don’t mess with glory holes.
Yes, she’s real. A real time waster.
I touched on this at the end of Chapter Eight with The Wannabe. She will reply to any ad that
attracts her attention. She will play the email foreplay game with you for hours, or even days. She
will send you picture after picture, which at some point you may realize are not really of her. As the
game begins to come to an end, she’ll even agree to come on over … but she never actually will.
And then she’ll stop answering your emails. She is the classic tease in every sense of the word. She
will use you for your entertainment value, leaving you with nothing.
What do you do about time wasters like this? Keep her email address. The more you post on CL,
the more likely you are to run into her again. It might be several months before you meet her again,
but you probably will. And the next time you see her email address show up in your inbox, it’s
your turn to have fun with her, if you’d like. Choose whatever twisted game you’d like to play, it
doesn’t matter. You know she’s never going to meet anyone, so choose a way to fuck with her mind
and go for it. My personal favorite is going back and reading everything she wrote in our prior
conversation, then freaking her out by predicting everything she has to say, because her story won’t
differ that much from conversation to conversation.
The Freaker
This is a sub-set of the time waster, only she’s not a Wannabe. She wants you. She wants the
fantasy you’ve offered her so desperately that you can smell how badly she needs it from her first
email. In fact, you will never email with a woman who wants you more than this one does. Only
she freaks out before she completely commits to a meeting. Not only does she end the conversation,
she deletes her email account so that, without warning, your emails to her are suddenly bouncing
back, notifying you that you’re sending to an account that doesn’t exist.
What happened???
She freaked out. But it’s not your fault. She is the Neglected Woman-in-training. She knows she
needs the sexual attention, but she’s not quite ready to go all the way in cheating on her spouse. She
typically has more years invested in her relationship, 20-35 years, and multiple children. Her need
to meet you suddenly clashed with her conscience, and she deleted her email account, erased her
surfing history and promised herself never to think about doing this ever again. And she probably
never will. There’s nothing you can do about it. Move on.
Hey! You got called out!
So you ran an ad that was just a bit … controversial. Maybe you called the reader a slut and a
whore. Maybe you said you wanted to fuck her in the ass, then pee on her. Or maybe your general
tone was a little offensive for some people. Hey, it happens.

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Sometimes the offended party will send you an angry email. Sometimes they’ll post an ad about
your ad calling you all kinds of names. Sometimes they’ll just keep opening your post and hitting
the upper right hand button to flag your post until it is removed from the list of active posts.
What can you do about these busybodies? Nothing. Ignore them completely, and just keep placing
your ads. It doesn’t matter that one or two cranks doesn’t like you or what you wrote. You’re not on
CL to make friends with everyone, especially not with the frustrated men who can’t find any real
women and get mad when they see someone placing ads they don’t understand.
Now, I didn’t always take my own advice on this one. Let me show you how I made a mistake
that could have gotten out of hand. I placed an ad in which I called the reader a slut, a whore and a
bitch. And that night I met a woman who wanted to be used exactly as I described in my ad, and I
spent the entire night fulfilling every promise I made to her. The next morning, when she finally had
to leave, she asked if she could come back the next night. Who was I to say no?
An hour after she left, I booted up my computer and found this email waiting for me:
From: Glenn S <[email protected]>
To: [email protected]
Sent: Sat, July 24, 2010 1:03:21 AM
Subject:
** CRAIGSLIST ADVISORY --- AVOID SCAMS BY DEALING LOCALLY
** Avoid: wiring money, cross-border deals, work-at-home
** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping
** More Info: http://www.craigslist.org/about/scams.html
thats a real mature ad, dude.  get real!!
this message was remailed to you via: [email protected]

I thought about simply ignoring this guy’s frustration, but high on some really hot sex, I decided to
have a little fun with him:
To: [email protected]
Sent: Sat, July 24, 2010 10:48:43 AM
Subject: Re:
Hmmm ... I just saw your note. Maybe you have a good point, Glenn. Maybe I do need to re-evaluate my life. Turn
over a new leaf. Perhaps I’ve been completely misguided in everything I’ve ever done. Maybe I need to start being
more respectful to women ... as you put it so well, I need to get mature ... to get real ... You know, I really would
be taking your advice to heart right now ... if my ad hadn’t brought me one hot little chick last night who
came over and let me fuck her in every way a man can fuck a woman. And this morning she let me do it all

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over again. She just left my place like an hour ago. And she’ll be back tonight for a repeat performance!
Glenn, just between you and me, did you know there are women out there who really do want to be used? Treated
like a whore? Told what to do and when to do it? Beautiful, amazing women who are right there just for the taking,
if you just give them the one thing they’ve been missing in their lives: having someone to take full control of
them? Not all women, of course. But there are far more of them than many guys would ever believe. It was great,
great fun, Glenn!
I hope you had a wonderful evening yourself, Glenn. Thanks for the great advice, and keep doing whatever works
for you!
Your pal,
S

It took him a week to fully absorb my email and come up with a reply of his own:
From: Glenn S <[email protected]>
Sent: Mon, August 2, 2010 5:23:01 PM
Subject: Re:
lol. you are full of shit.

Again, I should have just left it there. But I didn’t …
To: [email protected]
Sent: Mon, August 2, 2010 6:41:01 PM
Subject: Re:
Ah, I understand the problem, Glenn. I didn’t send you pictures to prove it. For all you know I’m just all talk, a
guy who’s never met a real woman on Craigslist, much less stripped her naked and forced my hard cock into every
one of her holes as she begged for more. Such a little skeptic, aren’t you, Glenn? It’s okay, Glenn. I completely
respect that! So here ya go. My little slut and I took these pictures the second night we were together. Turns out
she REALLY gets off on having me take pictures of her and thinking I’ll share them with my friends. I haven’t
really had a chance to share them yet, but you and I are close now, right, Glenn? So here you go, my friend. Knock
yourself out!

(I attached three x-rated photos.)
It didn’t take long for him to reply:
From: Glenn S <[email protected]>
Sent: Mon, August 2, 2010 7:10:04 PM
Subject: Re:

where are you, so i can meet you and punch you!!
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Now, I was sorely tempted to send him my address, with a note that mentioned it’s a bad idea to
show up to a gunfight with nothing but fists. But then I thought this confrontation out to its final
conclusion, and in the very best-case scenario, it would have involved a guy getting shot and me
having to answer lots of embarrassing questions from the police. After thinking through all of the
possibilities, I decided the best thing to do was to say nothing more.
This story has an important point: CL is a community made up of lots of people, a few of whom are
frustrated, angry and looking for reasons to start a little trouble. If you’ve read this far in this book,
you are unquestionably smarter than most of the guys who are on CL casual encounters. If one of
them chooses to create an issue, you are certainly smart enough to write rings around anything he
can write. You will have the power to add pressure to a situation or to back off. Remember: you’re
there to find women for sex, not to fight with losers. If you feel you’re losing respect by not having
the last word, remember: you’re the one getting laid, repeatedly with a variety of beautiful, sexy
women. He is the one reading other men’s posts and getting pissed off. Sucks for him, doesn’t it?

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ur first meeting. It was maybe a mile from my place, at her uncle’s house. He was traveling
the world and Jenny and her friend were house sitting. Jenny hadn’t explained how she
would get rid of her friend, but I was certain she had something in mind. I was confident
Jenny would be alone by the time I showed up.
I pulled into the driveway, put the car in park and double-checked to make sure I turned off the
headlights as I stepped out of the car. There she stood in the open garage. She was even more
beautiful than the pictures she had sent me: long red hair, tall, athletic body, bright piercing eyes
welling with excitement and the most inviting smile I had ever seen in my life. And next to her …
some blonde girl … oh, her best friend … damn.
I walked slowly into the garage, wondering how long it would take Jenny to unburden us of her
friend. Not that her friend wasn’t cute – equally tall, long straight blonde hair, a few pounds
overweight, but very pretty. She just stood in the way of me having sex anytime in the next
minute. Bitch!
After a little small talk, we all turned to head inside. Her friend took the lead. Jenny followed with
me right behind her. As we walked through the laundry room and into the kitchen, she took my hand
and gave it a slight squeeze that said, “I know what you’re thinking. Relax, I’ve got it covered.” I
squeezed back, “I trust you” as she led me into the large, luxurious living room.
Her friend sat down at one end of the couch in front of the jumbo seven-foot plasma screen TV
and took control of the remote. Jenny sat in the middle of the couch and gestured for me to sit next
to her at the other end of the couch. I took a breath and got myself comfortable, as Jenny took
my hand in hers. I began to reconcile myself that hand holding was all I’d be getting out of this
evening. Fuck.
Her friend scanned all of the available channels. Crappy sitcom … crappy movie … crappy news
show … crappy crime drama … crappy soccer game … crap … more crap … yet more crap …
a woman masturbating in the shower … a guy spanking a woman tied to a table …. two women
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Um … what kind of cable are we watching, I turned to ask, but the only sound that came out was
“whuh?” Still holding my hand, Jenny was leaning into her friend, fondling one of her breasts with
her free hand and kissing her deeply. “Well … okay then. This is either very good or very bad for
me,” my brain reported to the rest of my body. With that thought, Jenny disengaged from her friend
as they both looked at me, grinning expectantly, like it was December 25th and this was my very first
Christmas.
At times like this, a guy assumes he’ll think of something to say that is charming, endearing
and sexy enough to turn a good moment into one he will savor for the rest of his life. And my
brain didn’t fail me. “Guh,” I said, just before Jenny leaned in to kiss me. I closed my eyes and
concentrated on the warmth of her skin, the smell of her hair and the softness of her lips and
tongue, trying desperately not to think any of the other things I was thinking. There was zero
chance the fantasies playing in my head were ever going to happen. I had to be imagining things.
Or something.
Jenny’s lips pulled back from mine, and I opened my eyes to see Jenny’s friend taking her left hand,
pulling her from the couch, toward a hallway. With a wink, Jenny’s right hand pulled on mine to
follow along.
Okay, I am so getting punked. Where are the cameras?
Pulled into a dark room with a queen-sized bed and two beautiful women, all I could focus on was
Jenny’s almost naked friend undressing her as they kissed. A moment later someone accused me of
being overdressed, and two sets of soft hands began unbuttoning my shirt, removing my shoes and
unfastening my belt.
“Okay,” I thought to myself, “I guess it’s alright if Jenny’s friend sticks around for a while …”

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Achieving Your More Complicated Fantasies
We all have our fantasies. Some are as easy as asking a lover to do something special for us. Others
require more planning, more people, perhaps some legal research and a lot more buy-in.
Among men, the threesome is probably the most popular of these fantasies. I frequently see men
on CL looking for two women at a time for a threesome. I don’t know if any of them has ever been
successful with such a simple strategy. I assume that if a man is very, very good looking he might
be able to find two women on CL for a threesome.
But what if he’s average at best?
Well, I had always wanted to be part of a threesome with two women. And thanks to the women of
CL, I have been able to engage in that several times. But it’s never been because I made the specific
request. That is why I’d like to propose this concept:
If you completely fulfill the fantasies of enough women, at least a few of them will beg you to
let them fulfill one of yours.
The Buddhists call it karma.
Let me tell you how it’s worked for me. Early on in my experimentation, I tried several ads looking
for a threesome with two women. Never got a single real response. However …
I have met quite a few women who were bisexual or bi-curious. I’ve even met women who were
half of a lesbian couple. When you find one of these women, if you’re interested in experiencing a
threesome with two women, this is your opportunity.
Now, you don’t want to screw this up by asking too early. No woman really wants to be thought of
as one of a set, as nothing but a portal to you being with multiple women. EVERY woman needs
the man she’s having sex with to see her as a sexy, special, completely satisfying sexual partner.
But once you’ve convinced her of that, once you’ve begun to fulfill fantasies for her, she will want

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to fulfill fantasies for you.
So how do you know when it’s time? Eventually, she will ask you about your fantasies. That’s
when it’s time to tell her, and not a moment before. Just tell her. Don’t press it. Don’t bring it up
again. If she is open to your fantasies, you won’t have to wait too long.
Having said that, let me give you one scenario in which you don’t have to wait at all. As we’ve
already covered in this book at great length, every woman who meets a stranger on CL has to worry
about her safety. Most women either demand a public meeting, or just decide to hope for the best
and meet you privately. But every once in a while, you’ll meet a woman who will bring a girlfriend
along, and not just for the initial meeting. I have been happily surprised by this fortuitous turn of
events more than once, and the memories of those moments will always stay with me.
Again, you don’t have that much power to make a threesome happen with two girls you’ve never
met before. In fact, any exotic fantasy will require time and patience to make happen. But put
yourself in position to make the most of those opportunities when they present themselves. You can
start by making sure the women you take to bed always leave feeling completely sexually satisfied.
From there anything is possible.

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eah, this was going to be really interesting. It started out as a simple Daddy/daughter
fantasy online that would hopefully turn into a series of live meetings. But the conversation
between Jessica and me soon grew to include Karen, Jessica’s roommate and occasional
significant other. They both wanted a Daddy, so now the Daddy/daughter fantasy became a Daddy/
daughter/daughter fantasy. I’d never tried it before, but at this point I figured, why should I let that
stop me?
Our first meeting would happen at a new Italian restaurant we had all been wanting to try. I walked
in a few minutes early, but they were at least a few minutes earlier. They were both sitting at the
bar, both mid 20s, both extremely cute, both carrying a few extra pounds and both wearing dresses
that looked like they could be removed rather quickly.
“Hello, little ones,” I said as I walked up behind them. “Daddy!” they exclaimed in unison as they
turned and jumped to their feet to hug me. Yeah, this was going to be really interesting.
I motioned to the hostess that we were ready for our table. Once we were seated, in a high-backed
booth with both of them across from me, I leaned across the table to say, “You are both looking
amazingly lovely tonight, princesses.”
“Thank you, Daddy!” they both said as two pairs of feet found their way into my lap.
I smiled my way through the meal as we each took turns teasing each other and pretending that
we weren’t rushing through dinner to get back to my place. Finally, thankfully, all of the dishes
were removed from the table and the check was presented. Minutes later we were in the car. My
princesses sat in the back making out passionately as Daddy tried to safely maneuver the car home
using nothing but the rear view mirror.
Soon enough we were at my place. Hmm … I had become pretty skilled at getting one woman out of
her clothes, but I wasn’t sure how I was going to manage this.
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Ah! That’s how!
“It’s getting late. Almost time for bed, princesses. Daddy wants you both naked right now.”
“Yes, Daddy,” and just like that two sets of dresses were on the floor. “How else can we please you,
Daddy?”
“Daddy wants you both to come kiss him goodnight, princesses.”
They both walked toward me. I closed my eyes as I felt two naked bodies pressing against me, four
lips sliding across my lips and two tongues exploring mine.
“And now, princesses, I want you to both kiss Daddy … down there.”
“Yes, Daddy,” they both said as they dropped to their knees.
Yeah, this was going to be really interesting …

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15

The Checklist of Failure
Do you feel like a failure at attracting women on CL? Then you may be using the same strategies
most guys on CL do. Use this page as a quick reference any time you’re feeling less than
completely successful with the women of CL. If you’re making any of these mistakes, STOP
NOW!
Ten easy steps to becoming a complete CL failure:
Don’t stand out.
Make sure your ads and your replies to women’s ads are generic and as similar to everything
written by the other guys in your town as possible. They all must know something, right? No need
to mess with perfection!
Make your posts all about you and your needs.
Are you horny? Tell her! Do you need to cum right now? Great! Women always love hearing that!
It makes them hot knowing a man needs any random woman to fulfill his sexual needs!
Lead with your cock shots.
Nothing makes a woman hotter than seeing a nice penis shot. Every penis is different and
fascinating. Every woman will tell you that!
Don’t offer clear face pictures.
No woman cares what your face looks like. All that matters is how your penis looks. I mean,
you’re not going to fuck her with your face are you? Duh! Of course, if you have a nice shirtless
picture, chicks totally dig those too!
Be unable to host.
Why wouldn’t a woman want a strange man she just met on CL knowing where she lives?
What could possibly go wrong? You’re doing her a favor by demanding that she has home-field
advantage. And anyway, if you’re unable to host, it’s not like you might be hiding something …
like a wife. Nah, no woman would ever consider that as a possibility!

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Be dishonest.
Send pictures of people who aren’t you, or pictures of how you looked twenty years ago. Women
think it’s hilarious when you show up looking nothing like your pictures. And say anything you
must to get to the meeting. Women aren’t bright enough to ever see through your brilliantly
constructed veil of lies!
Allow yourself to be a victim of premature invitation.
Push, push, push for that meeting from the moment she contacts you. She wouldn’t have contacted
you in the first place if she didn’t want to fuck you right this moment. She’s just playing hard to get
so she doesn’t feel like such a slut in the morning. So why waste your time or hers? Get ‘er done!
Be inflexible.
This is all about you, after all. So demand that everything happen how you want it, where you want
it, when you want it, regardless of what she wants.
Make her feel unsafe.
Don’t worry. Lots of women go for the axe-murderer look. If you come off as some kind of a
stalker, that will only make her think she’ll be that much more wanted. And if your home seems a
little scary, that makes her experience that much more exciting!
Take EVERYTHING personally.
If you’re contacted by someone you’re not interested in, be sure to let her or him know in the
rudest way possible. How else will they learn not to contact people who may not be interested in
the future? And if a woman stops emailing with you, you have the responsibility to email her every
ten minutes over the next several weeks. You never know, she may have had a stroke or something.
Sending hundreds of emails will let her know you care. And that is sexy!

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er office was in my neighborhood, so we decided our first meeting would happen right after
work at a restaurant/bar near my place. Not one of my favorite places to eat, but I expected
we wouldn’t be there very long. She texted me that she would be a few minutes late, so I
should go ahead and get us a table. I sat down and placed an order with the waiter, but she showed
up before my beer did. She walked in talking on her cell phone, stuffing it in her purse as she
approached the table. I could tell from the way she walked that she was successful, professional
and self confident – the type of woman who knew what she wanted and how to get it. Of course,
I had figured most of that out already from our email conversation. But the way she entered the
restaurant only turned my assumptions into certainties. Seeing her in person, I realized her pictures
didn’t do her justice. She may never have won a beauty pageant, but she was cute. Very, very cute.
Short, blonde curly hair, a few extra pounds but on her they exemplified the line “more cushion for
the pushin’.” She oozed sexiness.
“So, how are you?” she said as she threw herself into the booth, not letting the conversation lag for
even a moment. “I have had the weirdest day …” and off she went, weaving a story that was better
than any movie I had seen in the past year. Her story led to one of my own, which led to another
one of hers. Soon we found that we shared similar careers, had many of the same friends, and had
even grown up in many of the same neighborhoods thousands of miles from where we were now
sitting. We both looked up from the conversation and realized that the sun had somehow gone down
and we were well into the night.
“You know,” I said, feeling comfortable enough to say just about anything, “it’s getting late. But I’m
having such a good time with you, I don’t know if I want to talk to you all night or fuck you all night.
“Well … ” she said, thinking out loud, “we could take a break from the talking and go fuck for a
while. Then we could continue the conversation after we’re done.”
“Waitress! Check please!” I yelled as I fished in my back pocket for my wallet …

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Important Parting Thoughts
I hope you’re still with me at this point, because I’ve saved some important information for this
final chapter – lots of important tips you will use regularly as you go forth and conquer.
Facebook, Myspace and Google are your friends.
Sometimes you’ll get an email from someone and get a feeling they may not be what they claim to
be. Maybe you feel like you’d like to know a little more before responding. Just take their email
address and search for it on Facebook. You’d be shocked how many people on CL are using an
email account attached to their Facebook page. If the email address does lead you to a Facebook
page, you will usually be able to see a picture, find out if the person is a female or a male, see if
they’re married, and learn various other useful bits of information.
If nothing comes up on Facebook, try searching their email on Myspace. If there is a Myspace
account connected to the email address, at the least you should see a picture or two. Information
gleaned from either social networking site could give you valuable insight into who they are and
how they think before your conversation even begins.
If neither of those paths lead anywhere, Google the email address and see if anything comes up.
Some websites keep lists of email addresses of people who have been less than honest online. If
you happen to be searching one of the addresses on that list, you could save yourself a lot of time
by deciding not to respond.
Keep every CL ad you write as a Word document.
Don’t do this if you’re using a computer from the office, or a computer that you share with family
members! But if it is YOUR computer, and you are the ONLY one who uses it, consider creating a
folder of CL ads you’ve written. The CL site currently saves your old ads, but eventually they will
disappear from the site. And even when they’re saved, the site does not allow you to keep notes
about each ad. For example: if you have written ten different ads, and you’ve run each of them ten
times, which ad received the most initial responses from real women? Which ad led to the most
meetings? Which ads offered the fewest real responses? This is important knowledge, which can
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Check your spam filter regularly.
Spam filters are funny things. Sometimes they collect emails from real women who are replying to
your ads. So keep an eye on your spam folder. Check it regularly for an hour or two after you’ve
placed an ad. Some of my most successful conquests started with an email I had to fish out of the
spam folder.
If she doesn’t ask you for your picture, you’re not really going to meet.
You’ve been emailing with a woman for a couple of hours or more. She sounds like she’s ready
for the meeting. There was no time during your conversation that she asked you for your photo, so
you just never sent one. You thought you were doing well without sending it, so you decided not to
tempt fate. She says she’s ready to meet, so you give her directions to your home. She says she’ll
be there in 30 minutes. So you straighten up and prepare for her arrival … which never occurs. You
send her emails asking her where she is, and she never responds to you.
What happened? She was just playing a game with you. She sounded just like any girl who was
interested in meeting. There was no way of knowing the difference. Well … there was ONE way.
Every real woman you’ll meet with will want to see a picture before meeting, for her own safety if
for no other reason. That’s why I only volunteer my picture when she asks. It’s how I know she is
serious about meeting. If she says she’s ready to meet but she hasn’t asked for a picture yet, you’re
most likely about to be very disappointed.
Never pass a drug store without stopping.
If you follow all of the steps outlined in this book, you’re going to be buying condoms frequently.
The big boxes of 24. You always want to have plenty of condoms nearby. And mints too. You don’t
want to have to go somewhere at 1 a.m. when a woman is on her way over to your place.
Props and costumes will make the fantasy more real.
Any time you find an interesting prop that could come in handy in deepening a woman’s fantasy,
buy it. And I don’t just mean sex toys. Maybe it’s a weird cane, an interesting paddle and a length
of rope. Maybe it’s a doctor’s bag and stethoscope. Maybe it’s a pair of handcuffs, a nightstick and
a security badge. It could be anything. Let the toys, props and other interesting objects you come
across create ideas for new fantasies, and use those fantasies to create new CL ads!
Have your sex bag packed.
You never know when you’re going to get an email from a woman who wants you now. Be
prepared! Have a bag of your essentials somewhere nearby at all times. Your bag should always
have: lots of condoms, a full bottle of lube, maybe some massage oils, a vibrator or two and any
other sex toys or props you enjoy using frequently. Just be careful that your condoms are never kept
in a place of extreme heat and that toys get cleaned and disinfected after each use. That way you’re
not just always ready to play – you’re always ready to play safe.
So you’ve had an amazing sexual experience, and now you’re getting dressed …
You know that you had a mind-blowing time, but you’re wondering about her. You know you gave
her multiple orgasms and that at times you reduced her to jelly. You’ve just been as close physically as
two people can be, but now she’s acting a little weird. Will she be interested in a repeat performance?
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As the two of you part, there will be some kind of goodbye. If you get a passionate kiss, you’ll
probably be seeing her again. If you get a hug and a little kiss on the cheek, you probably won’t.
But it may have nothing to do with your performance in bed. She may just be freaked out that she
had sex with a stranger.
If that’s the case, don’t press her. Let her go. If she wants more, she’ll come back on her own. If
she doesn’t, there’s nothing you can say now to change her mind. And if you never hear from her
again, at least you had a wonderful night, and now you’re ready to find the next one. As long as
CL is around, you never really have to worry about whether the one you just met will stick around.
Another woman will be in your bed soon enough.
Just because it’s a hookup, it doesn’t mean it’s not more ...
You never know when, where and how you’re going to meet the person you want to spend the rest
of the month with, the rest of the year with, or maybe even the rest of your life with. Don’t let the
nature of CL casual encounters discourage you from turning a hookup into a long-term relationship.
I have met quite a few women who turned one night of passion into weeks or months of dating.
Some have even become friends I expect will always be a part of my life. These are women who
have been more than mere sexual conquests. These are women I now consider confidants, advisors,
even family.
If you’re a woman reading this, and you recognize yourself in these pages as someone I’ve met and
slept with, I hope that you can feel the fondness and the respect that I have for you. And I hope you
appreciate my deep gratitude for the time you allowed me to spend with you. None of the women
who I have met on CL – even the ones I only slept with once then never had a chance to see again –
were throwaway women. Each of them was a wonderful experience that had a genuine effect on me
and left me a better person.
So always keep an open mind. It’s an adventure. You never know what exactly you’re going to find,
about sex, about life, about women and about yourself.
Have fun, and let me know about your successes and failures. Feel free to email me:
[email protected]. I may not be able to answer every note, but I will read them all.
Okay, enough reading. Now go get laid.

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aturday morning. I woke up to the scent of tropical fruit. I opened my eyes to long red hair –
obviously well shampooed – flowing from her pillow directly into my nose and mouth, flawless
white skin, beautiful face, perfect breasts, belly and narrow hips, her whole body available to
me once again. She looked even better with the sunlight peeking in from around the window shades
than she had in the dark. Way better.
I moved quietly to mount her again, to wake her in the most intimate way possible, but I wasn’t
quiet enough. Her eyes opened, and my lips went to hers. What began as another round of sex
turned into minutes of kissing. I tried to parlay that into more sex, but she put a hand against my
chest asking, “Let me take a shower, baby, then we can do whatever you want.”
“Anything?”
She giggled, “Is there anything we left out last night?”
“Well, that depends … do you have anything you absolutely must do today?”
She thought for a moment. “No, not really.”
I smiled. “Good. Would you like to hang with me for the day?”
Smiling back, “Really?”
“Yeah. I like you.”
Getting suddenly serious, “I think I like you too,” which led to more kissing, more attempted
mounting, and a hand against my chest again.
“Let’s take a shower, baby” she said, with a grin. With that, she slid herself off the bed, took my
hand and led me to the bathroom …

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
The Craigslist Conqueror chooses to keep his identity private, as well as the identities of each
woman he has met through Craigslist. Names, dates and small facts that could identify anyone
involved in his experiences have been changed just enough to keep the innocent (and the guilty,
too) completely anonymous.
The Craigslist Conqueror is in his mid-30s and is pretty much average in every way. He spends
most of his time exploring North America. He rarely announces where he’s going to be next, but if
you’re very lucky, you may just run into him someday on Craigslist. You can reach him with your
success stories and your questions at:
[email protected].

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