Fetlife M/s

If you want to become a slave, here are a few preparations to consider: Be careful what you wish for. BDSM and M/s are distinct in their attitudes towar d scenes, negotiation, and consent. BDSM folk largely negotiate and consent to temporary scenes in a cyclical manner . M/s is a single negotiation, and a single act of consent, and then raw reality. When you find an owner, you will be forced to adapt yourself to his tastes and d esires, to his lifestyle and his expectations, and you should be ready to do thi s cheerfully and permanently. Therefore, change yourself. Learn to adapt your preferences to find joy in thing s that you would not have chosen on your own. Learn a hobby that you dislike and dedicate time to it, listen to a genre of mus ic that you prefer to avoid, spend time in a place that you do not wish to go, a nd learn to appreciate the experience. (A study of Buddhism is useful.) Most masters are selective and demanding men by nature, and most have earned the right to be. Therefore, be worth owning. Hit the gym and watch your diet. Read interesting books and learn the art of con versation. Develop a warm and accepting personality. Develop a wide range of useful skills in the domestic sphere & learn a paying pr ofession. M/s is about people, not fetishes, and M/s relationships are not confined to sce nes or dungeons. You will be a slave when you pick up his kids from school and when you wash the dishes. Therefore, don t lead with your dick. Don t assume that any porn that you have seen or read has anything to do with real life. Don t contact masters with lists of your kinks and fantasies; if you and he choose each other, his will replace yours. Instead, when you contact a prospective master, try to interest him in friendshi p and conversation; learn the character and desires of the man and gauge your co mpatibility and his willingness to accept your service. A man who dedicates himself to self-mastery, to his own improvement and career, will spend his twenties in college or in his trade, and will likely begin seekin g his mate when he is in his third or fourth decade. Being a master, he will seek out youthful malleability, beauty, and innocence, n ot experience. Therefore, do not wait. Being studying prospective masters now, corresponding wi th them and befriending them. However, remember that M/s relationships are extreme by their very nature, and i nvolve tremendous risk on both parts.

The goal is a relationship which consumes two full lifetimes, and into which is invested two lives' work. Therefore, do not rush; Do not attempt to earn a collar only a few months into knowing someone, and do n ot trust men who would collar you immediately, without first earning your trust and requiring you to earn theirs. (I know that some M/s couples, of many decades' continuance, have begun in a whirlwind romance of mere days, but even t hese couple discourage the behavior in others.)