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How to Care
Caring is an important aspect of life but there are two main extremes everyone meets through life and often experiences themselves. The first is caring too much and the second is caring too little. Most often, the second comes from the first that as we care too much, we get hit too hard and leap to the other side, either in anger, or as a way to avoid getting hurt again. Generally, we care about all kinds of things and even those who feel they don't care, or shouldn't care, still do care about something. The rule of balance is that the amount of good one thing can do is directly proportionate the amount of harm it can cause potentially. It is certainly the case that "care" and "caring" also fits in to this rule. But to care is an important aspect of what makes us human and humane. While there is a host of articles how to care for a person or something such as a plant, here is how to explore the various ways people care in order to get to a balanced state of happiness.
Steps
1
Consider why we care generally. Almost never do we care about anything that has nothing to do with us, or that will not affect us more broadly. It may sound callous or
sterile, but unknown lands and problems, unknown stories and conflicts will never make us feel anything until they are known and judged as to their effect on us. If we flip this over, we can see the same rules apply, we care about the things that
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affect us. Friends, family, coworkers, friendly acquaintances and so on can all make us feel an emotion, which can be empathy, which is feeling or having a sense of another's pain as we have experienced similar problems but there is also the feeling that arises with empathy, such as hope, fear, anger and so on that cause new problems. Therefore it's important to note there is the feelings about problems directly related to us, but also how and why we take on feelings about other peoples problems.
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Evaluate how empathy or caring can turn out of control. Quite often we may pour our hearts out at hearing a sad story, but also fall into frustration, despair and a
wide host of emotions. It is always directly related to the amount of concern or attachment we may have towards the subject. But likewise, it's important to see that caring can be used as a way to manipulate others, as it can have such an effect on others. When a person is attached to something they will defend it proportionate it to the amount of attachment they have. The amount of attachment they have is proportionate to how much it makes up their identity, or how much it will affect their identity and well-being. This is often where people care too much, as in the case of the image of this section, a family mourning their loss wants a way to mourn in their way and to remind others of the dangers of the area and of those lost. At the same time that land becomes a site of contention in public as the land does not belong to the family, yet the family will now defend it should the shrine become removed or vandalized. Both these are actually a normal processes of the mind. Making such a shrine on public space just like making one in mental space in the mind is confronting to the ego because someone else is effectively taking the land claiming it as sacred and while people generally respect such tragedies, they only do so for a short time. If it is not a commissioned memorial on private land, it is not always invited by the rest of the community and if it lasts too long, it is often ignored. This has two main disadvantages, it can actually make people drive more carelessly as a way to show that they are independent of other people pushing a point and it can make the broader people care less about the individuals and the family due to over exposure.
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Measure this against your own experiences. It does vary for each person therefore to gain an insight you have to find and examine the case that is relevant to
you. Have you or someone else who cared a lot about a subject felt driven to talk about it incessantly? Have you or someone else been so possessed that they act and/or disregard other people to be able to express themselves? Have you or someone else felt their mind is run by thoughts and feelings of a certain subject? This leads into the lack of caring becoming more and more common. In many variations its about desensitization due to over-exposure and/ or as a way to protect ourselves. We simply often stop caring due to over-exposure from other people pushing their views, who disregard the law and other people, when seeing people who continue to act in extremes such as violence, war and terrorism and this is not unreasonable. The problem is, people go further and further to shock the public that is increasingly tired of the petty needs of others. While it is not as common, there have been cases of people playing violent games and/or watching violent horror films when young later aren't able to connect with other people either in context of their feelings, but also the other persons. Both suicide and murder are the two ends of this problem. Both are caring too much, or not caring enough.
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Consider further ways you can explore the paradox of caring and how we no longer care about other people. Sometimes people open their hearts to much and
find that it gets swamped, abused or manipulated. It may be out of a desire to connect, to be humane or to be a good person for a host of different reasons that makes us open up too much. Sometimes we feel the pain too much and want to help others without taking into account our own wellbeing. There is nothing wrong with this in principle, but it is wise to bear in mind that to do so comes with this as a price if we are not aware or wise to what is happening. But very often people get in the way of what we want and very often we feel we need to use or hurt others to make our point. This is not a true need in the proper sense, but the person has become so controlled by their feelings they feel it as a need to act just like an addict feels they "need" another fix or high of their drug. The real problem to address is where we as individuals have become injured or hurt to source the cause of our lack of caring. This fortunately gives the solution as we need to understand and address this pain. Sometimes a person might say or feel that people are just too sensitive or immature as a way for them to reinforce their own feelings. For these cases people are hurt by their hopes and dreams, hurt by the invasion of other people and other events into our lives and hurt by our ignorance, that we don't know enough about the world and ourselves to make sense of it all. The simple cause of all this hurt is because we don't know how things work and we don't like what we see. This gives us the illusion of a stark choice, to stop caring, or to do something about the problem of being emotional or caring. In reality we have a third option, to understand the way things are and to let go when we decide it has gone too far. This third option is without doubt the hardest to do and to the ego, the least satisfying, so is often ignored and forgotten.
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Now consider ways that in a controlled way, you can find the merit or benefit in caring. It is important to ask yourself "Why should I care about it ?" Quite often
people ask the same question being "Why should I care about it?" which has a different meaning, but is very similar. People who ask the latter have often experienced the negative aspects of caring and feel more inclined towards being more hard or more cold. Caring serves a functional purpose to help us connect to other people, but caring also keeps us healthy and alive as individuals. Often people look at a problem and say yes, we should care, but again leap into the same way of mishandling it and continue to make more problems for themselves. When we stop caring, we stop taking as much care in how we look, what we eat, how we keep our homes and how well we look after ourselves and others. When we stop caring about others on a subtle level, we become almost robotic or dead in our nature and personality. It is quite easy to not care about being happy and healthy and just put up with things or ignore things, but its all about asking is either worth the price and can we as individuals make our own lives better. Generally, we care as a way to be able to interact and how to become close to people, therefore the wisdom lies in choosing the right people you choose to open your heart to. Looking for good friends or having good friends is often said in philosophies as the greatest gift on earth, as with good friends we can live happily and ethically.
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Look for a middle ground as a solution and ways you can start to care again. The most important rule is, don't let it go wild. The human mind is certainly an
extremophile and leaps from caring too little towards caring too much and becomes hurt again and again, so many people feel like they are going in circles. The solution does seem hard and boring, as there will always be that requirement to include common sense. So ways you can start to care again is to consider the way we and other people feel and then consider the cause of that feeling and if we can do anything to help. The extreme of this is to interfere, or feel the need to give advice when it is not appropriate, therefore the wisdom lies in finding out when it is appropriate, until you have enough experience to tell for yourself. Ultimately, beneficial caring is all about accepting the things we cannot change and letting go, in order to either support a person or help them in a difficult moment, or just to be there when it mattered to the other person. It ultimately can only be done by understanding the way things are and the limits of our powers. It is also but also about balancing our emotions, so while we might accept and seem not to care, we do still have a sense of empathy. The emotions of goodwill, compassion and appreciation are some of the greatest emotions to ever experience. The goal is to understand how to use them wisely.
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How to Care
Caring is an important aspect of life but there are two main extremes everyone meets through life and often experiences themselves. The first is caring too much and the second is caring too little. Most often, the second comes from the first that as we care too much, we get hit too hard and leap to the other side, either in anger, or as a way to avoid getting hurt again. Generally, we care about all kinds of things and even those who feel they don't care, or shouldn't care, still do care about something. The rule of balance is that the amount of good one thing can do is directly proportionate the amount of harm it can cause potentially. It is certainly the case that "care" and "caring" also fits in to this rule. But to care is an important aspect of what makes us human and humane. While there is a host of articles how to care for a person or something such as a plant, here is how to explore the various ways people care in order to get to a balanced state of happiness.
Steps
1
Consider why we care generally. Almost never do we care about anything that has nothing to do with us, or that will not affect us more broadly. It may sound callous or
sterile, but unknown lands and problems, unknown stories and conflicts will never make us feel anything until they are known and judged as to their effect on us. If we flip this over, we can see the same rules apply, we care about the things that
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affect us. Friends, family, coworkers, friendly acquaintances and so on can all make us feel an emotion, which can be empathy, which is feeling or having a sense of another's pain as we have experienced similar problems but there is also the feeling that arises with empathy, such as hope, fear, anger and so on that cause new problems. Therefore it's important to note there is the feelings about problems directly related to us, but also how and why we take on feelings about other peoples problems.
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2
Evaluate how empathy or caring can turn out of control. Quite often we may pour our hearts out at hearing a sad story, but also fall into frustration, despair and a
wide host of emotions. It is always directly related to the amount of concern or attachment we may have towards the subject. But likewise, it's important to see that caring can be used as a way to manipulate others, as it can have such an effect on others. When a person is attached to something they will defend it proportionate it to the amount of attachment they have. The amount of attachment they have is proportionate to how much it makes up their identity, or how much it will affect their identity and well-being. This is often where people care too much, as in the case of the image of this section, a family mourning their loss wants a way to mourn in their way and to remind others of the dangers of the area and of those lost. At the same time that land becomes a site of contention in public as the land does not belong to the family, yet the family will now defend it should the shrine become removed or vandalized. Both these are actually a normal processes of the mind. Making such a shrine on public space just like making one in mental space in the mind is confronting to the ego because someone else is effectively taking the land claiming it as sacred and while people generally respect such tragedies, they only do so for a short time. If it is not a commissioned memorial on private land, it is not always invited by the rest of the community and if it lasts too long, it is often ignored. This has two main disadvantages, it can actually make people drive more carelessly as a way to show that they are independent of other people pushing a point and it can make the broader people care less about the individuals and the family due to over exposure.
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Measure this against your own experiences. It does vary for each person therefore to gain an insight you have to find and examine the case that is relevant to
you. Have you or someone else who cared a lot about a subject felt driven to talk about it incessantly? Have you or someone else been so possessed that they act and/or disregard other people to be able to express themselves? Have you or someone else felt their mind is run by thoughts and feelings of a certain subject? This leads into the lack of caring becoming more and more common. In many variations its about desensitization due to over-exposure and/ or as a way to protect ourselves. We simply often stop caring due to over-exposure from other people pushing their views, who disregard the law and other people, when seeing people who continue to act in extremes such as violence, war and terrorism and this is not unreasonable. The problem is, people go further and further to shock the public that is increasingly tired of the petty needs of others. While it is not as common, there have been cases of people playing violent games and/or watching violent horror films when young later aren't able to connect with other people either in context of their feelings, but also the other persons. Both suicide and murder are the two ends of this problem. Both are caring too much, or not caring enough.
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Consider further ways you can explore the paradox of caring and how we no longer care about other people. Sometimes people open their hearts to much and
find that it gets swamped, abused or manipulated. It may be out of a desire to connect, to be humane or to be a good person for a host of different reasons that makes us open up too much. Sometimes we feel the pain too much and want to help others without taking into account our own wellbeing. There is nothing wrong with this in principle, but it is wise to bear in mind that to do so comes with this as a price if we are not aware or wise to what is happening. But very often people get in the way of what we want and very often we feel we need to use or hurt others to make our point. This is not a true need in the proper sense, but the person has become so controlled by their feelings they feel it as a need to act just like an addict feels they "need" another fix or high of their drug. The real problem to address is where we as individuals have become injured or hurt to source the cause of our lack of caring. This fortunately gives the solution as we need to understand and address this pain. Sometimes a person might say or feel that people are just too sensitive or immature as a way for them to reinforce their own feelings. For these cases people are hurt by their hopes and dreams, hurt by the invasion of other people and other events into our lives and hurt by our ignorance, that we don't know enough about the world and ourselves to make sense of it all. The simple cause of all this hurt is because we don't know how things work and we don't like what we see. This gives us the illusion of a stark choice, to stop caring, or to do something about the problem of being emotional or caring. In reality we have a third option, to understand the way things are and to let go when we decide it has gone too far. This third option is without doubt the hardest to do and to the ego, the least satisfying, so is often ignored and forgotten.
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Now consider ways that in a controlled way, you can find the merit or benefit in caring. It is important to ask yourself "Why should I care about it ?" Quite often
people ask the same question being "Why should I care about it?" which has a different meaning, but is very similar. People who ask the latter have often experienced the negative aspects of caring and feel more inclined towards being more hard or more cold. Caring serves a functional purpose to help us connect to other people, but caring also keeps us healthy and alive as individuals. Often people look at a problem and say yes, we should care, but again leap into the same way of mishandling it and continue to make more problems for themselves. When we stop caring, we stop taking as much care in how we look, what we eat, how we keep our homes and how well we look after ourselves and others. When we stop caring about others on a subtle level, we become almost robotic or dead in our nature and personality. It is quite easy to not care about being happy and healthy and just put up with things or ignore things, but its all about asking is either worth the price and can we as individuals make our own lives better. Generally, we care as a way to be able to interact and how to become close to people, therefore the wisdom lies in choosing the right people you choose to open your heart to. Looking for good friends or having good friends is often said in philosophies as the greatest gift on earth, as with good friends we can live happily and ethically.
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Look for a middle ground as a solution and ways you can start to care again. The most important rule is, don't let it go wild. The human mind is certainly an
extremophile and leaps from caring too little towards caring too much and becomes hurt again and again, so many people feel like they are going in circles. The solution does seem hard and boring, as there will always be that requirement to include common sense. So ways you can start to care again is to consider the way we and other people feel and then consider the cause of that feeling and if we can do anything to help. The extreme of this is to interfere, or feel the need to give advice when it is not appropriate, therefore the wisdom lies in finding out when it is appropriate, until you have enough experience to tell for yourself. Ultimately, beneficial caring is all about accepting the things we cannot change and letting go, in order to either support a person or help them in a difficult moment, or just to be there when it mattered to the other person. It ultimately can only be done by understanding the way things are and the limits of our powers. It is also but also about balancing our emotions, so while we might accept and seem not to care, we do still have a sense of empathy. The emotions of goodwill, compassion and appreciation are some of the greatest emotions to ever experience. The goal is to understand how to use them wisely.
Knowing your Personality
www.personalitybook.com Most detailed Personality Assessment on the Internet
Your Zodiac Horoscope 5 Signs of Alzheimer's
Article Info
Categories: Philosophy and Religion Recent edits by: BR, Eevee12, Kalyx
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