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Magazine created by kids and teens
Kids’ stories on bullying in the lunchroom.......................26 Kids’s stories about bullying at recess...............................32 Kids helping kids who are teased for being different ......42 Kids’ strategies to include weak players in the game.......46 Everyone is invited to a party except for your friend.......50 School project: nobody counts your friend’s opinion ....54 Everyone is invited to his house except for your friend.......56 How to hide your friend’s low mark from others............58 saving your friend from embarrassment ........................60 The popular kids include the left out kids........................62 torah view on bullying/meaningful bar-bat mitzvah.......64 top essay contestants list (by shul).............................40 Winners: boys’ photos...........53 girls’ Photos ............45 good manners contest (1st-3rd grades).........................29 Parents vote on next topic/vote for best slogans.................64
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Oheka Castle...A Fairy Tale
By Maureen Seaberg
Kahn built the second-largest private residence in the United States on the North Shore of Long Island in New York, now renovated and home to the creme de la creme of weddings and other special events, when he and his family were not accepted in their previous hometown of Morristown, N.J. because they were Jewish. Kahn was even banned from the train in that town running to Manhattan, dubbed, "The Millionaires Express" due to its many wellheeled riders, because of his heritage. Mr. Kahn built the immense 1919 residence, just 31 miles West of Midtown Manhattan, as a summer home and weekend retreat for his wife, Addie and four children.
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heka Castle is not only a monument to the banking success of financier and arts patron Otto Hermann Kahn, it is a testament to his triumph over anti-Semitism.
the best for all occasions. Her business is Soiree Signature Designs, 450 7th Ave, Suite 2206, New York, N.Y 10038, (516) 343-0982. "The beauty of outdoor and indoor, the history and the class of the entire place, the privacy, the size and shape of the rooms, the furniture, only one event at a time, the service, the staff and the one of a kind hospitality all make me recommend it. "I have and still will recommend this venue to all my clients as well as friends and family, especially since I have proven over and over that Oheka is not only the best venue for weddings but it is a formidable André Maier photography place for other occasions, from luncheons to bar mitzvahs..."
After four years of construction, the Kahns would go on to entertain luminaries of the day including Charlie Chaplin, Enrico Caruso and heads of state within its walls. Well, Mr. Kahn would - his wife ended up finding the partying a bit wearying after too many pretty starlets caught her husband's eye. The man who could not fit in to his previous community was now a quintessential host and touted as the "King of New York" by Will Rogers. Dalia Baratian, an event planner and designer who has done several events at Oheka, helps guests feel like Kings and Queens of New York. Not only has she done many stunning events at the castle, she booked her own son's bar mitzvah at the historic estate. "I am an event planner and designer," she explained. "I do search around for venues, and found Oheka to be one of
"The beauty of outdoor and indoor, the vandalism, now 80 percentfires, and isafter years to Oheka is restored of including many now open history and the visitors for weddings, mansion tours, corporate retreats, and film productions. class of the bar andisbat mitzvahs, fund-raisers 32 guestrooms on the Oheka also a luxury hotel with of the estate. entire place,...” upper floorsand 50 baths. It is 115,000 square feet with 115 rooms
In the case of her son's bar mitzvah, she illuminated the gates and the rest of the building in red light, "which looked great and warm for the month of February. "The most unique thing about this event was that I was able to bring a modern masculine look in the most traditional castle and it not only did not clash, but looked exceptionally beautiful and different. And of course when Bryan the bar mitzvah boy stood on the stage and played the guitar and surprised the guests with the most popular songs of the 70's and some 80's. "This is one of the rare venues that a designer would not have a hard time bringing his/her ideas and designs to magnificence. "
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Castle with Jewish Heritage
Its survival owes to the steel and concrete Kahn insisted on using after a previous residence of his was lost in a fire. Some of the walls at Oheka are three-and-a-half feet thick. As Kahn wanted the site to have a commanding view and presence, earth was hauled by laborers to set it on the hill Oheka now enjoys. The cost of the structure was $11 million plus $1 million for the original 443 acres in Opera, the dancer Vaslav Nijinsky to America and investing $10,000 in "Lady Be Good!" after hearing George Gershwin play, "The Man I Love," as examples of his generosity. Developer Gary Melius of Long Island purchased Oheka (an acronym for Otto Hermann Kahn) and its remaining 23 acres for 1.5 million dollars in 1984 after the Cold Spring Hills Civic Association sought to save it. He has poured $30 million more into the estate in a restoration that employed many historians, restoration experts and Long Island Gold Coast architects. Slate from the original quarry in Vermont was brought in; workers were dispatched to the Library of Congress to unearth letters Kahn had written about the gardens to revive them. "There were many naysayers who advised him (Mr. Melius) against buying Oheka, but he forged ahead despite a host of problems ranging from the terrible Brett Matthews photography state of disrepair to issues with the town of Huntington zoning board," said Mary McCaffery, a frequent visitor from Bethpage, N.Y. "I feel very lucky to be a part of Oheka's life," Mr. Melius said. His daughters, Kelly Melius and Nancy Melius (a former Broadway stage dancer) have joined the family business, helping manage special events. "We are both enormously proud of our father and privileged to be a part of his vision for Oheka," said Ms. Melius. "He fell in love with Oheka and set out to bring back to life this historic and monumental treasure of American history in a way that respects and preserves the integrity of the estate while giving visitors the chance to experience Oheka as it was intended...as a home, a retreat and a fantastic place to hold a party."
"He fell in love with Oheka and set out to bring back to life this historic and monumental treasure”
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Cold Spring Harbor where it was erected. Cold Spring Country Club and its golf course now stand on some of the original acreage and is available for hotel guests of Oheka to enjoy. There are occasional events hosted at Oheka which are open to the public. See Upcoming Events on www.oheka.com for more information. Some of the highlights of the home include the grand entry staircase, modeled after the horseshoe staircase at Fontainebleau; faux boix plasterwork, a Medieval technique which looks like woodwork, is painted in a warm amber in the library; and a ballroom where Arturo Toscanini once performed and scenes for "DeLovely" were filmed, seats 350. After Mr. Kahn died in 1934, the family sold the estate to the Welfare Fund of the Sanitation Workers, which used it as a retirement home, renaming it "Sanita." During World War II it was used by the Deja Vu Studios Merchant Marines as a radio operators school, and in 1948 it became a military academy before falling into disuse. Kahn biographer Theresa M. Collins called the banker, "the most influential patron of the arts ever known to America." She cited his bringing a Golden Age to the Metropolitan
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Getting your kids to listen to you to understand you
enhance communication with your child
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The stories are a collection of kids’ writings that show a variety of motives for the same behavior. When you read the stories with your child, try to figure out what are the reasons and motives behind his behavior. Vote on the stories together with your child. It’ll give you a better understanding as to what his interests are.
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Try to identify your child’s bad habit and use these stories to inspire him to improve. But, don’t expect immediate results. Repetition of the positive message in a fun way will bring the change you expect.
a fter he misbe h av e s
Your older child is fighting with a younger sibling. Your immediate response: Lecturing why fighting is wrong. This is not the best way. Your child is not interested in hearing that it’s his fault and he will blame his younger sibling for starting up with him. The better way is: let it go for now. Another day, when he is calm, tell him an inspirational story with the moral of the story being the importance of getting along with a younger sibling.
K ids ’ positive
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The stories in the magazine focus on kids’ writing on practical topics. the kids give convincing reasons that show when a character in the story makes the right choice, he benefits from it. When he makes the wrong choice, he loses. to
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Focus Loyalty Patience Courage Fairness Honesty Tolerance Creativity Flexibility Reliability Forgiveness Cooperation Organization Self Discipline Positive Attitude
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they are true? Besides, you are so Yochanan sat down. He had a delicruel to him. Give him a chance!” cious lunch; a cream cheese sandVote: 1 2 3 4 5 wich with tomatoes and a juice box. “Ah,” he said, “This is really good!” “Hey, Yo c h a n a n ! ” Avi came calling from the door, “May I join you?” “Sure!” Yochanan said, “Why not?” ”Thanks a ton, Yo c h a n a n ! ” Avi beamed. Five minutes later, the least by: M.d.y. students popular kid in class came stompBy: Joy Laniado ing into the lunch room. His name Magen David Yeshivah was Shlomo. Most kids thought he I once saw the ‘popular kids’ pokwas weird; there were tons of ruing the ‘weird’ kid during lunch. mors about him. “Uh, Yochanan,” You saw the girl’s face as she wanthe said softly, “Can I eat with you?” “Uh,” stuttered Yochanan. “Sure, ed to cry like crazy, but wanted to why not?” Avi said, giving Yobe strong. I stood up and told the chanan a stern look. “Th-thanks,” ‘popular kids’, “What’s the point? Shlomo said politely. After lunch, Should I come and poke you while Yochanan asked Avi why he agreed. you are eating?” The girls said “For the last time, there is nothing sorry and actually sat with her durwrong about him,” Avi said angrily. ing lunch. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 “But, what about those rumors?”
By: Daniel Eis Yeshivah Chaim Berlin
Yochanan exclaimed. “Who said
By: Solly Mosseri Magen David Yeshivah
Once, at lunch, there was a kid and nobody would let him have some orange juice and they made fun of him. I asked my friend to pass me the orange juice and my friend gave the orange juice and I poured the shy kid up to the top. I asked him if he is OK and got him a seat next to me. We became friends and I protect him from the kids 2 that 3 were 4 5 mean to him in school. Vote: 1
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Chavie ran down to lunchroom and saved her best friend, Rina, a seat. A quiet girl named Simi, not knowing that the seat was saved for Rina, sat down. Immediately, Chavie said, “Can you please get up this seat has already been saved?” So Tzipporah, knowing that Simi was embarrassed, screamed over,” Hey Simi, I saved you a seat. Come sit next to me.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Danielle Franco Magen David Yeshivah
One day, a girl was excluded by everyone. Someone tripped her and all her lunch fell on her. Several girls teased bothered her, her,
By: Aida Franco Yeshivah of Flatbush
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There was a girl named Sally who was new in school. She was very shy and didn’t talk much. The popu-
and even made her cry. I told my friends that we should let her then sit with started us. My friends to laugh. So, I went and asked her if she wanted to sit with me at a different table. The girl’s turned a big When I frown into smile. sat
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lar girl made rumors about Sally and told everyone not to be her friend. One of her friends said that what she was doing wasn’t really nice. Another friend agreed with her and soon the popular girl began to feel like she made a mistake. The popular girl asked Sally if she wanted to have lunch with her. In lunch, they really bonded and now they are best friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
with her, she told me how she felt. I felt really bad for her. Then, when my friends saw me sitting with her and not them, they all got up and came to sit with us. A few days later, we all realized that this girl was just like us. So, we all became friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Someone walked up to my friend and I while we were eating lunch. She wanted to sit with us and my friend said, “No.” I got sad and felt bad for the girl. So, I called her name and told her to come sit. My friend was very angry and was telling me to make the girl leave. I said, “No. Why should I? That’s not nice. She is a very nice girl. Why can’t you just let her sit?” My friend finally agreed and the girl sat down. The next day, my friend said, “Tell her to sit with us today. I really liked her.” That day at lunch, she sat with us and my friend told her to come over later. Now, we are all best friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Miriam Milstein Masores Bais Yaakov
By lunch everyone was talking. One girl was left out. I saw her and changed our conversation to include her in it. She looked so happy. I was glad that I was able to help her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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L u n c h time. I hate lunch! T h a t ’s when all the groups of friends sit together and exBy: Esther Levy Yeshivah of Flatbush clude other girls. I always just sit in the corner of one table either studying for a subject or reading. That’s how I got so smart. While everyone is laughing, talking, and sharing stories, I am the girl that just reads during lunch. The girl that no one bothers-until yesterday. Tiffany, Ashley and some other girls kicked me off their table calling me a teacher’s pet, brat, smarty pants. That really hurt my feelings. And the worst thing is no one defended me. The next day, I was looking for someone to sit with when Amanda and Cindy came up to me and told me that what Ashley said was mean and asked me if I wanted to go with them to the mall after school. It was so much fun. Now, I have someone to tell my secrets to, and hang out with. Here is a big lie that everyone says, “Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.” Here is the truth. If you see someone being bullied, stand up for them. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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At lunch, there was a group of girls sitting together who are friends. They let a girl that’s also their friend join them. She brought a home lunch. It was a cream cheese sandwich. Everyone else said, “Eww, you brought cream cheese?!” That girl got so red in the face. I said, “So what, I also brought cream cheese. Maybe she didn’t have anything else to put in her sandwich.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
A new girl came to our school. She got bullied. I said, “It’s not nice. W o u l d you like By: Esther Beyda Magen David Yeshivah it if I did that to you?” The new girl Miriam said, “Thanks for that.” She was sitting all alone in lunch. I said, “Do you want to sit with us?” She said, “Yeah.” My friends said, “What are you doing?” I said, “There is this girl Miriam and she is very nice and I want us to be friends with her.” She sat at our table. All of us are friends now! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 One day, Gayle was sitting alone at the lunch table. The popular girls walked by her and were about to spread a rumor that she has no friends. Then my friends and I ran up to her and started giggling with her and talking with her. I was so happy that we proved the popular people wrong and we made a new friend. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Once, there was a girl named Abigail. She was new to our school and other girls in our grade thought of her as a new target. When I heard this, I was upset. Because she was new, she hardly knew her way around the school. It started out the as bumpand ing into her in halls ignoring her at recess to taunting her and writing mean things about her leaving and them I
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fair how they treat people around here,” she said. “I was once in the same position you were, it was horrible,” I noted. Eventually, the girls
I watched as Tzivi entered the room. She saw Chevy laughing with Yael and Tehila. I was forcing myself to laugh even though the joke wasn’t funny. Tzivi turned and walked out. It was sad to watch, but I knew Tzivi was not the fun type. She was quiet and plain. There is nothing special about her. But, a small part of me felt bad for her. Every time she tried to be part of the class, they turned her away. She had no friends. Chevy said, “Well, as I was saying, next
By: Hadassah Bennett Masores Bais Yaakov
Bullying isn’t cool, it’s cruel
M.d.y. students
stopped teasing Abigail once they saw she had someone at her side-she wasn’t alone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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‘accidentally’ on her desk.
time Tzivi walks in lets make her trip. I read this great book where a girl tripped face first into a chocolate pie. It was hilarious. Let’s do that to Tzivi!” she exclaimed. Yael and Tehila loved it, of course. They started giggling away. I, on the other hand, knew right form wrong. “Chevy,” I started, “This is wrong. It’s not nice to. Tzivi is a person.” “You know Tova, you’re right,” Chevy said. And they became friends with Tzivi. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
thought this was horrible, mean and disgusting. One day, I walked into the bathroom in between classes and heard low sobbing. I knocked on the stall door and said, “Abigail, that you?” She stopped crying, took a few steps to the door, and opened it slightly. Her face was red. Her eyes were puffy. She stared at me for a second then fell onto my shoulders crying. I felt puzzled; I didn’t know what to do. “It’s not
One time, Shmuli came into the classroom early during recess with David. They saw that someone’s knapsack was poured out on the floor. To save him embarrassment, they poured out their knapsacks. So, now he won’t feel bad. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Sarah Chami Magen David Yeshivah By: Sara Gindi Magen David Yeshivah B y : Vi rg i n i a D w e c k Magen David Yeshivah
There was a new girl in our school. She was not so smart. The teacher was asking questions about Navi. That girl tried answering one of the questions but she got the wrong answer. Everyone was laughing so hard. The girl got so embarrassed that her face got red. After class was finished, I went to those girls and said, “You know, you’re making it like you never got an answer wrong.” And they said, “Yes we did. But, not a hi-
I know a girl, her name is Francine and she is a quiet girl with no friends. She always tries to social-
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A girl in our class gets made fun of all the time, but she never realizes it. Even though she doesn’t realize or do anything about it, a few of my friends and I stand up for her and include her in what we do even if others don’t. In this situation, I would say, “Guys you are being mean. What did she do to you?” But, I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t listen. But, that’s okay because we try and she feels good that we stand up for her and include her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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larious answer like by: M.d.y. students ize. Every time she comes near that.” I said, “But at least she tried to answer.”
By: Stephanie Franco Yeshivah of Flatbush
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someone, they say, “She is fat,” and they embarrass her. When it’s lunch, they don’t let her sit near them. But, one girl came and said, “Enough is enough.” She said all the good things about Francine. Now, she is so popular but she knows not to embarrass anyone and she includes anyone she sees alone. It is not good to embarrass people because you are required to find the good in people. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
If you buy cookies for the class and there is one girl who is mean to you, you don’t want to give her a cookie. You see everyone is looking at her not having a cookie. So, you go over to her and say, “The cookie is good, no one wants to miss out.” And you give her a cookie as well. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
There is a girl that is always left out. Her name is Jane. One day, this popular girl named Raquel said to Jane, “Your outfit is so ugly!” Jane was crying. A different girl, Rochelle, went over to Raquel and said, “Your outfit is ugly.” She did it so Jane would feel better. Raquel felt bad for what she said and said, “Sorry” to Jane. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Francine Manopla Magen David Yeshivah By: Madeline Dana Magen David Yeshivah B y : Te h i l a D a y a n i Masores Bais Yaakov
One day in school, everyone in my Once there was a girl who everyclass had these cool pens. But, one one made fun of because she was so perfect. She loves school and of the girls in my class was very quishe doesn’t care about anything but et and humble and no one included getting a good grade. One day, a girl made a sleepover and everyone was talking about it and everyone said, “You’re not invited, you are a big looser. Why would you be invited?” I saw her feel very bad and she was always so embarrassed to tell her mom. by: M.d.y. students After school, she her. She didn’t have the cool pen. would cry every night. So, one night She was a little poor and she didn’t I called her and said, “Do you want to want anyone to know that she was have our own sleep over?” She said, poor. She didn’t have the money for “Yes.” So, we made sleep overs. the pen. So she wouldn’t get laughed Then everyone made fun of me beat by the popular girl, I gave her my cause I stayed with her, but I didn’t pen and I saw a smile on her face care. We were good friends and we brighten up. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 ignored everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One day at school, my friends and I were playing at recess and there was this new kid who was very shy and she didn’t really have any friends. I saw her sitting there lonely all by herself. So, I quit the game, went up to her and we started talking. But, she wasn’t that type of person who would like to play ball or tag… But, I didn’t mind. As long as she was happy, I was happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Renee Hadef Magen David Yeshivah
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Regine dresses very pretty. Unfortunately, Leah, a popular girl was jealous and said Regine wears the ugliest clothes. I saw Regine’s face, how so sad she was holding in her cry. I walked up to Leah and said, “Stop picking on her.” She said it was none of my business. Than she realized what she had done. She apologized and never did it again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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My friend, Allyson, was a really great friend. She never talked much. But she Nancy Toussie didn’t talk Yeshivah of Flatbush b e c a u s e everyone was jealous that she was voted smartest in the grade. She was short, and every day at recess, a few people bullied her. One day, I saw my best friend Allyson sitting on the side crying with people next to her making fun of her. That was the day we were assigned a poster to make an ‘anti-bullying’ poster. My poster said, “Words can hurt just as much as punches.” And, there were two boxing gloves hanging. I gave in my project and I got an A+. I was really happy. Next day at recess, I took my poster and marched around with it getting a lot of people to hold their signs and march as well. The bullies went away from Allyson because everyone scared them. Allyson was happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
It was time for recess for the 6th grade. The three prettiest ing girls jump were playBy: Jamie Sutton rope. Their Yeshivah of Flatbush
everyone was playing and Michelle c a m e and “Can said, I
play?” We By: Raquel Erdos Yeshivah of Flatbush all said, “Yes,” except one girl said, “No.” She made her go away and Michelle started crying. We all felt very bad. The girl that said, “No”, her name is Grace, the girl who said “No” said, “we are going to spill water on the floor and let her play, when she comes she will fall and everyone will start laughing.” Everyone who was playing the game went to Michelle and said to her, “Grace has a plan to let you play, but she is going to put water on the floor, so don’t go.” The next day Grace said, “Hey Michelle, you want to play with us?” Michelle forgot and said yes. We were playing and, all of the sudden, Michelle fell and everyone stated to laugh. We all felt bad so I went and ‘fell’ and everyone was ‘falling’ and she didn’t feel bad anymore. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
names were Emily, Jane, and Mol-
ly. They never let anyone play with them. One of Molly’s friends was Susan. Susan was a shy girl who didn’t have many friends. Susan really loved to play jump rope. So, she asked Emily, Jane, and Molly if she could play. They had a small conversation in private to discuss whether they are going to let Susan play. Molly said, “I think we should let her play.” Emily replied, “But if we let her play, we would have to let every girl who asks to play with us.” Jane said, “So it’s settled, we won’t let her play.” Molly said, “Or, we can just let everyone play!” In the end, they had a big great game of jump rope and everyone was happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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My friend and I were once playing at school when a girl invited us to play tag. We both said, “Sure.” The girl looked at my friend and said, “Not you.” I said, “If she doesn’t go, then I don’t.” My friend touched
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One day, my friends and I were playing a game when someone came over and asked if they could play. My friends started laugh-
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On Shushan Purim, Megan brought the entire class Mishloach Manot. They were healthy and had fruits and vegetables. Everyone was very disappointed. started Megan apologizing
and I could tell that she was very embarrassed. So, I took out the raisin box from the Mishloach Manot and said, ‘Oh my gosh! I love raisins, especially this kind.” Everyone started to eat the raisins and Megan was so happy her face lit up. To embarrass someone is equivalent to stabbing them to death. The reason for that is when someone is hurt emotionally, their heart breaks. That’s why I don’t embarrass my friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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my shoulder and said, “You can go I’ll be fine.” At first, I stood back and then I went. A lot of people don’t like my friend. I feel so bad when people don’t include her. After 10 minutes, I decided I felt so
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bad I couldn’t play. So, I stopped and I said, “Why don’t we invite her to join us?” I pointed at my friend. At first, the girl who invited me said, “No.” But, then everyone started saying, “Yes.” So, we invited her over and had a fun time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
There was a whole group of girls talking by recess. One girl was standing on the side all alone because she is very shy. I left the whole group of popular girls and went to talk to her. Her face lit up when I went over to her. I knew I had made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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whispered to me, “That girl is so weird, why is it that she never talks?” I whispered back, “I don’t know but I am going to talk to her.” I walked over to her and said, “Hi, what’s your name?” She didn’t answer. I asked her for the rest of the week, “Hi, what’s your name?” Still no answer. Finally, my friends also came and asked her to play with us. She asked, “Is this a joke?” We all replied back, “No. Why?” She said, “Because in my old school everyone would make fun of me because I was shy and I wore different clothes. So do you still want to play with us?” We all replied, “Yes.” We got to know her and now we are best friends. I still wonder why we ever thought she was different! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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This one girl said that she wants to make fun of her in recess. A different girl heard that and decided to defend the new girl. In recess, she saw the mean girl walk up to that girl with all of her friends so that girl ran up to the teacher and told her and the mean girl got detention. After that day, they were best friends for life and went everywhere together. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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got the whole class to hate her. She was trying to get me to join her and hate her, too! I tried to tell as many people as possible not to make fun of her because she is my best friend and she is a great person. Only three people wanted to be friends with her. The mean girl came to me and said, “Why are you hanging out with the loser?” I said, “Because she is nice, fun, smart, and trustworthy and the best friend anybody can ever have.” Ever since then, everybody was friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
There once was a girl named Julie. She was new to a school. All she wanted to do was to fit in and make friends. On her first day in school, she felt a little bit anxious but she felt very….nervous. She said “Hi” to people she saw in her class. All the girls reacted in such a mean way. They turned around and they giggled and made her cry. There was one girl who thought it was so mean and disgusting. So, she stopped them and they all became good friends and learned from their mistake. s ubmit Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 your story . t he next t orah v alues . com
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A group of girls are making fun of one girl about how she looked even though it was just her bad hair day. I looked back and saw this happening. I told people that I want to mess up our hair and make ourselves look like a mess. We went to the group that was making fun of that girl and asked if they liked how we looked. The girl being made fun of had a big smile because we all looked crazy and the mean group didn’t have enough insults to insult all of us and had to give up. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Once there was a girl. She came from a different school. She was smart and shy. The whole class made fun of her and she started to cry. So, I told everyone not to make fun of her. I went over to her and said, “Don’t worry.” She started to talk and it made her happy to know that someone was by her side. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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On Friday, everyone was making plans after school. Joy invited everyone except for one girl. This girl, Danielle, was watching her invite them and she wished she was invited. She pretended that she didn’t notice them and put her books in her locker. One of the girls who was invited saw the girl who was about to cry. She told Joy, who was inviting everyone, that she saw that Danielle felt bad and
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In my old class, I used to fit in with the girls. But, when I came to this new class, I only had one friend
There is a girl sitting on the side. She is left out, lonely. She looks sadly at the in crowd laughing, telling jokes, having fun. She wishes she could be part of that group. She looks down at the floor so they won’t see the tears slowly dropping down her face. And then she hears a voice saying, “Wanna play?” She looked up
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who was on my block. But she was with a clique already, which was the popular clique. So, of course, I was left out until a nice girl came over to me and said, “Do you want to play tag with me?” With excitement in me, I got up and went to play. Now, when I see someone alone and have no friends, I get up and ask them, “Do you want to play?” I could see how they feel just like used to feel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
with a hopeful look on her face. A girl was looking at HER, asking HER. She wipes her tears on her sleeve, gets up happily, and joins the game. That girl just made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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asked if she could invite her. She told her secretly so she wouldn’t embarrass her. Joy said, “No. I don’t like her, she is weird.” So, the girl who told Joy said, “Ok. So may be next week we’ll make plans.” She went over to Marilyn and invited her over. They ended up having a very fun time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
When school starts on Fridays, Shabbat music fills the halls. The girls in the grade always come together to sing one song. This Friday, when the song was almost over, Ava saw Chana shyly approaching. She didn’t know where to break into the circle so Ava moved over. Chana smiled and walked over. Chana seemed so happy singing with everyone. The worst thing in the world is being excluded. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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A horrible rumor was spreading from person to person about Leslie. She was crying so badly. Once I saw her tears fall down her red cheeks, I decided to fix this. I couldn’t stand seeing a person cry from a rumor about her that wasn’t even true. Once the rumor got to me, I changed it up a little to what really happened. Once everyone heard it, the they understood misunderstandB y : S h e i l a L a u re n F r a n c o Yeshivah of Flatbush By: Adele Zaga Magen David Yeshivah
There was once a time when I was in 6th grade and my friends started picking on 5th graders. I found out and told them to stop
Shani, Devori, Tamar and I were all standing around. Shani said, “Oh my gosh, Rina’s boots are so ugly.” Rina was standing 5 feet away. I quickly added, are “You jealous.
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Her boots are so cute.” Shani immediately saw what I was doing and said, “Of course. I was being sarcastic.” She walked over to Rina and asked her where she got her boots from. fuss them. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day, we were all in recess. A few of my friends and I were playing a game. One girl asked to play and they didn’t want her to play. They said there were too many people. So, I said, “I played yesterday already. She can play instead of me.” They said, “Fine, she can also play.” They enjoyed playing with her and they became close friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
If I would see someone crying or getting picked on or lonely, I would go to her and talk to her. Sarah is a new girl and no one likes her. I would tell her, “Don’t worry, don’t cry. It doesn’t matter what people think. It only matters what you think. So, don’t cry; ignore them. Be yourself.” She would feel better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was once a boy named Yehuda. Let’s just say he was not the most popular kid in the class. He was always being made fun of. Kids were calling him names like, milk”. “monYou key”, “munch might think it’s funny but it really hurt him. Then, one day, a kid named Shmuel called over Yitzi, the most popular kid who made fun of Yehuda the most. Shmuel said,
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He didn’t understand English. One time, the Rabbi called on him and he answered the questions with a dumb answer. My friend started laughing and that boy turned red. Later that day, I went over to the kid who laughed and asked him, “How would you have felt if you were that new kid?” He understood what I meant and went over to the new kid and apologized. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
looks different because she is from England. I was watching and she was about to cry. I couldn’t take it anymore so I said, “Guys, it’s really not nice.” They all laughed at me. The next day, I invited her over and then I told the other girls, “You know Linda is very nice and I don’t know how you are not her friend.” They believed me and we are all best friends now. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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“I think you are hurting Yehuda’s feelings.” “I know,” replied Yitzi. “Then why do you do it?” said Shmuel. “Because it’s fun,” said Yitzi. “Well, if you were in Yehuda’s place would you also find it funny? You would feel bad.” “I guess so. I will stop,” said Yitzi. “Thank you,” said Shmuel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Ninette Salama Magen David Yeshivah
There was once a boy named Jim. He was new to our class. Everyone made fun of him by the way he dressed. Jim wore collars other kids didn’t. They would always call him four eyes because he had glasses. Another kid, Larry, used to be bullied like that. Larry said to Jim, “I used to be bullied like that. But you shouldn’t let them do that. Stand up for yourself. Say, I am not scared. Maybe I am new and don’t wear your kind of clothes. That’s who
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By: Ruthie Mosseri Magen David Yeshivah
One day, someone was commenting how her shirt looked ugly and childish. She sat quietly like she simply didn’t care. I saw that she was upset. So, I got up and asked the “Bully” if I could talk to her quietly. She agreed and I told her she was hurting this girl’s feelings. She
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went over to the new girl and started talking to her. She had an English accent and people at the other table were laughing. Rachel went over to them because they happened to be her friends. She stood up for this girl and told them how they were obnoxious. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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honestly didn’t realize and felt so bad. She said she was only doing it as a joke; she ran to my friend, gave her a hug and apologized. That “Bully” never made fun of anyone ever again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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I am. Back off.” Jim said, “Thank you” and went to the bullies and said exactly what Larry told him to. The bullies backed off and didn’t bother him again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One day, a boy went to school and he got braces. He looked very ugly in braces. Everyone laughed at him. There was a boy who said, “Everyone, he is the first person to get braces. I think that is so cool!” Everyone agreed and no one made fun of him anymore. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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to embarrass Rebecca. So, Sara and her clique decided to go over to Rebecca and tell her tomorrow is Pajama Day. Rebecca came to school the next day wearing her teddy pajamas. Sara saw this and announced on the loud speaker that Rebecca was wearing pajamas. Rebecca ran to the bathroom. Nadine knew this was very wrong and ran after her to the bathroom. Nadine and Rebecca walked out of the bathroom together. Nadine told Rebecca to ignore everyone. This made Rebecca feel so good. Rebecca and Nadine became best friends.
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lar clothes. On Sarah’s first day, I saw that she didn’t really wear the clothes that were in fashion in our school. People were pointing and laughing at her. I could tell that she was embarrassed. So, I went to her and told her about what we wear. She thanked me so much and the next day she was accepted by everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was a fat girl named Reneeand everyone made fun of her. So, Susan wanted to help By: Rachel Kastner her lose Yeshivah of Flatbush weight. Susan would go to the gym with Renee and, within 3 months, Renee lost a lot of weight. The two girls became best friends. No one made fun of Renee and understood that anyone can lose weight. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 During the Chanukkah Chagiga, while everyone was dancing, laughing or singing, Suri was sitting on the side doing nothing. Nobody wanted to have anything to do with her because she talked and looked weird. Then one girl came over to her and said, “Come on Suri, join us. Could you please tell us joke? I know you are really good at it. Last time you had me laughing for hours.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Let’s say someone makes fun of someone because the guy is weird. There is no point to make fun of him because no one is perfect. People could be weird but that doesn’t mean he wants to be perfect. A lot of people think they’re perfect but they are not. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was a kid with an accent and he didn’t know how to speak English good. When he was supposed to say ‘was’ he said ‘vas’. Everyone was laughing and him. I told everyone, “How you would feel if you would have got making fun of. Everyone stopped making fun of him. He was very happy because of what I did. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day, the whole basketball team decided that they were going to eat pizza at the pizza place after practice. But, there was one kid who was a new kid in school and didn’t know a lot of people. After practice, we all got dressed and we were walking out of the gym to go to the pizza store. But, this one kid was sitting there waiting for someone to pick him up
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If you are playing a football game and there is a person that is not so good, ask him if he wants to play. When he is playing, throw him the
I went to play baseball and everyone knew that Jack is the worst player. I felt bad because he always gets picked last. My friend Mike was the captain. I went up to him to tell him that he should pick Jack first. He didn’t understand but he listened to me. Once we started to play, Jack kept on striking out. Mike was very upset with me. Later in the game, I gave Jack some tips about swinging. After he listened to me, Jack got a single and brought in 2 runs! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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from school. He looked lonely. So I went over to him quietly and asked him if he wanted to come for piz- by: M.d.y. students za. He said yes, and he was ball. Let him try to play and catch very happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 the ball. Even if he is not so good
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Once, I was having a basketball game. The kids didn’t want one boy to play. So, I said, “If he is not playing, I’m not playing.” Then we found a ball and we started shooting for fun. We kept on shooting and practicing. Than he ended up making it on the basketball team. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day when I was at Sunday’s program, there was a person who isn’t so good at basketball. So, almost every time I got the ball, I passed the ball to him. Even though he missed I said, “Good shot.” And I kept on passing to him until he scored. When we finished the
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There was a shy kid named David. David was on our team in basketball. The score was 57-55, the other team was winning. There were 5
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I was playing basketball and there were a lot of people and one person was not allowed to play. I said, “If he doesn’t play, I won’t play either.” They really wanted me to play so they let both of us play. I knew from the beginning that he was good but they didn’t know it. In the middle of the game, nobody was pass-
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Let’s say there is a boy who isn’t so good in baseball and the team is in the bottom of the ninth inning and there are two outs and 2 strikes and right after the next pitch he striked out. The whole team was going to hurt him but one kid said, “Why are you doing that? Accidents happen all the time. Don’t act like you never made a mistake.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
very shy kid and when we played baseball he couldn’t play because it had to be 4 on 4. So, I quit playing and he played instead of me. Someone from the 8th grade started picking on him. I went over to him and said, “What’s your problem? Pick on someone your own age.” He left Dovid alone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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I once saw a person that has a hard When my friends and I were playing dodge ball, we had captains to time playing football. One day, I choose who would be on which taught him how to catch a ball. Evteam. Sophia was picked last and eryone thinks it takes so long but you could see on her face she was it really doesn’t. I also taught him a little sad, but not surprised. When how to throw a ball. Even though he she got the ball, she would always can’t throw a ball so far, I let him give it to someone else to throw. I felt bad for her and decided to do something about it. I threw the ball towards her making sure I threw it lightly. I wanted her to catch it and get me out. She caught it and everyone was cheering because I am a good player. After that, she felt great and had the confidence by: M.d.y. students to throw the ball and she turned out be the quarterback. He gave a few to be great! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 short passes and we ended up winB y : Vi c t o r i a G i n d i Magen David Yeshivah B y : A a ro n I s h a y Magen David Yeshivah By: Sepora Beyda Magen David Yeshivah
Me and my friend, on a beautiful day outside, were playing catch and my friend told me, “Oh, look at that girl over there. Ugh, look what she is wearing.” And I said, “I felt bad for her because she is really nice and sweet.” I knew she was embarrassed to ask us if she wanted to play because the girl I was playing with used to make fun of her a lot. So, I asked her if she wanted to play with us and I told my friend to play with her once and to try to be nice. So, we had a lot of fun the rest of the day and I inspired my other friend to play with that girl. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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I was playing football once and it was a tie game. It was 4th down and we were 50 yards from the touch down. Quagmire was open for the pass. I threw it to him, he missed. Although it was a good throw and he missed, I blamed myself. I said that it slipped from my hand and I made him feel good. I got blamed but at least he didn’t get embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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ning that game. That was impressive because it was only his second day on our team in the playoffs. We were in second place all because of the kid I taught how to throw and catch. At the end of the season, we got in the finals and won it. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
When my friend was playing football with me, people didn’t give him passes. I asked my friend if I could quarterback and he let me. So, I passed to him a lot. He got a lot of touchdowns from these passes and he felt good. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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When I am on one of the teams and my friend is picking teams, I always see some kids who are just sitting, waiting to get picked, and I feel very sorry for them. Like I have a friend, Steven, who isn’t so good at sports. I always try to help and teach him. I hear people making fun of him and I say, “Why do you have to call him names all the time because he misses the catch or the shot?” I told Steven to come to my house on Sunday. On Sunday, he
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When I was playing football, there were good players and bad players. I picked the bad players because they always get left out when we play. We ended up winning but winning doesn’t matter. Everyone
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You can make an excuse that you need more people to play a game. For example, if you and your friends are bored and are trying to come up with ideas and your friends have ideas, you can say that we should ask the shy kid’s idea and include him in fun even if you have great ideas. And, if the shy kid makes a mistake or something silly you can say, “That’s what I thought.” You could start being friends with that kid and your friend will follow in your lead. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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laughed when I picked them. After the game, I laughed at them because they had the best players and we had the worst players and we won. Hashem rewarded me by picking the bad players. He made my heart feel good. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
If you are playing any sport and there is a kid that is not so good, it doesn’t mean you don’t pass to him. If you pass to him and he misses, it’s ok. Just continue. Don’t embarrass him in front of everyone. It’s not nice. Let’s say he scores the shot and he wins the game. You see, anything could happen. Just trust them and pass. You never know what could happen. It’s all about trying. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
came over and asked me, “Why did you tell me to come over?” I said, “I hate the way people are making fun of you because you miss the shots.” So, that Sunday Steven and I were practicing. On Monday, he was playing football with us. My friends and I saw how much better he was and no longer did anyone call him names. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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Everyone is invited to a party except for your friend
A girl named Renee was throwing a party in her house for her Bat Mitzvah. She invited the whole grade. Renee is very popular and felt like the only reason she is popular is because At Reshe makes fun of people. nee’s house, a girl named Joy was drinking apple juice and she was wearing a white dress. Renee sent someone to move Joy’s hand so the drink would spill.
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Joy up to her room and gave her a nice dress to wear. If you don’t want to feel that way, don’t do it to someone else! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
There was a girl and she invited the whole class over except for one girl, Renee. Renee lived across the street from her. When I got there everyone was already there. They were all playing a game of “free for all together.” Then I started playing with them, but, while I was playing, I realized that Renee was watching us through the window and she looked sad. I told my friend to call Renee and say that she thought she sent her the invite. My friend did and Renee came and we all played the
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When that person did that, the juice spilled all over her. Renee took the microphone and was about to say, “Look at Joy. She had an accident.” But, right before she could do it, Renee’s best friend yelled out, “There is a FIRE!” Everyone ran out of the place. But, there was no fire. Renee’s friend said that so she can grab Renee and Joy before they can run out and talk to Renee. She told her that what she did was not nice to do. Renee said she was sorry and took
game together. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day in school, a girl named Jamie announced that whoever she texted is invited to her birthday party but she didn’t invite Raquel. A girl named Jane was going around and asking if they were invited. When she got to Raquel, she said she didn’t get invited. So Jane said, “Everybody, Raquel isn’t invited, ha-ha! Suzie said, “Everybody it’s not nice.” She asked Jamie to invite Raquel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
My friend Devory is making a party and she didn’t invite a girl who was a nerd, Toby. When everyone was with Devory she said to Toby, in her face, “You are not invited because you are such a nerd.” Toby cried and went home. On the day of the party, I missed the party and went to Toby’s house to play and ask her how she was feeling. I made her day. She is my true friend. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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I once went to a birthday party and I saw one kid that is shy and people were making fun of him a lot. He didn’t get any candy and other kids were showing off their candy to him. So, I went up to him and shared with him and everyone saw me do that so they shared too. After that, everyone had an equal amount of candy and they stopped makby:
I was in the park and saw Mark sitting on a bench alone. He looked lonely. Jack said, “Come on,” and I realized I was just spacing out.
By: Judah Kishk Magen David Yeshiva
In 3rd grade, Yehudis was not invited to the party of the year. Yael came from a wealthy family and made the best parties ever. Yehudis was angry. She was left sitting alone while everyone talked about the party. The next year, Yehudis was making a party too and decided not to invite Yael. Her best friend, Tzipporah, told her, “You didn’t like when she did it to you. So, don’t do it to her. Okay?” Yehudis finally said, “I am still angry with her, but I will invite her anyway.” At Yehudis’ party, Yael went over to her and said, “Your party is so cool. I am sorry I didn’t invite you. I am really sorry.” So, instead of a fight the two of them became friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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ing fun of him. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Jack said, “I am having a party on Saturday. I am inviting everyone except for Mark.” I instantly felt bad for him. I told Jack how I felt but he said, “Mark is a loser.” I got the whole grade to feel bad about Mark. This forced Jack to invite him. When Jack asked him to come, his face lit up and he was gleaming with joy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
After school, Danny made an announcement: “Everybody is invited to my party.” Marc got excited and everybody made a line to get an invitation. When it was Marc’s turn to get an invitation, Danny said, “You are not invited, weirdo!” Everybody laughed at him. But, a popular kid said, “If he is not going then I am not going.” And Danny invited Marc to his party. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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Once, I was having a super bowl party at my house. I was inviting all the cool kids. Then, I saw a kid, not that cool, and I invited him because I felt bad and he shouldn’t be treated differently. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Sophia is having a party. Rochelle’s new in the school. Sophia wants to invite her class except for Rochelle.
Olivia and Rebecca were best friends. One day, Lilly, a girl in their class, was handing out party invi-
One day in school, I was giving out invitations. My friend was sitting next to me but I didn’t want to invite her. The next day my other friend said to me, “Go give her an invitation because she knows about your birthday party.” When I got home I made her an invitation and the next day I gave it her. She was happy that I invited her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Esther Kishk Magen David Yeshiva
“It’s not fair,” said Rochelle crying to me. “You know what,” I said, thinking to myself. “I want to go to the party Wait! But, that’s not nice that Sophia is going to feel bad. That’s it, I know! I am going to Sophia.” “Sophia, how would you feel if I didn’t invite you to my party and invit- by: M.d.y. students ed everybody tations. Everybody in the class got else in our class?” “Well you are one except for Olivia. Everybody right. Give this invitation to Rochelle
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on the first day of school, everybody was talking about a girl’s Bat Mitzvah. Everybody was so excited. There was going to be a chocolate fountain. Everybody was going except for one girl. I asked my friend, “Why wasn’t she invited.” My friend answered, “Because she is poor.” I told my friend, “Why should you leave her out? She should still have fun with us.” My friend invited her. The new girl turned out to be so smart and very nice. She always helped out. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
right now.”
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knew Olivia and Rebecca were best friends and they couldn’t be apart. When the bell rang at the end of the school, Rebecca asked if she got an invitation. When Olivia told her she didn’t, Rebecca decided not to go to the party. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Molly is having a party. She invited the whole class but Gina. I told her, “Did you like it when Susan invited every girl in the class except for you?” Molly said, “No.” I said, “Do you want to make someone feel like that?” She said, “ No.” I told her, “Then invite Gina. It will make her happy.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Jimmy Khaski Magen David Yeshivah
Once, there was a popular kid and his class was doing a class project. Everyone was picking ideas on what they were going to do and there was a very shy kid who said a very good idea. After everyone heard him say something, they all yelled at him to be quiet and said, “You’re stupid and your idea is stupid, no one likes you.” The popular kid said the same idea as the shy kid and everyone said, “That’s a great
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There was a girl named Leah. She never had any friends. She was a very quiet girl. There was a group of popular girls and they always made
While we were decorating for the Siyum, Chaim sat on the side with watery eyes. He looked like his heart was broken. One kid pretended like he needed one more kid. So, he went over to Chaim and said, “Could you please He help us?” said, “Sure.”
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fun of her. Then the teacher assigned a project on history. Leah was put with the popular girls. They all got together and left out Leah. So, Leah walked up and stood there. No one of the girls noticed to her. Leah spoke and gave an idea but they didn’t even listen. So, Leah said it again and one of the girls said, “What Leah said is a very good idea.” And they all agreed and let Leah join in. This made Leah feel good about herself. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
We ended up really needing him. Now, he looked happier then ever. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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idea.” He wrote it down on the paper and he put the shy kid’s name on the project. The class ended up getting an “A+” and the whole class said “sorry” to the boy. “You are smarter than anyone here.” The shy kid felt so good. Everyone liked him; he then became very popular and was very nice to others. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Raizy sat on the side watching the girls plan the Chanukah party. We were all shouting our ideas and laughing. I saw her out of the corner of my eye. I know I had to do something about it. Then, someone came up with an idea for a banner. “But who should do it?” I said, “Raizy is a very good artist, I am sure she’ll be able to do it.” “Well... I guess we could try,” everyone agreed. I looked at Raizy and she looked so happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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games. She said everyone should get into groups with your friends and play. When it was time for the party everyone got into groups. There was one girl that was new to the school and didn’t have many friends so she wasn’t in a group. A lot of people were giggling but she seemed like a nice girl. So I said, “Come we need one more person to play.” She hesitated but in the end she had fun and made friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Tamar’s house, Tamar said, “Rivka you do the background and I will do the lettering.” Sara was left with nothing to do. Rivka turned to Tamar, “Can we talk? Once, Sara came to my house for a class project and she drew it beautifully. Maybe, you will let her do the drawing.” “Are you sure?” said Tamar. “I don’t want to upset you?” “I am positive.” “Wow, your decorations are so beautiful,” said Mrs. Gross. “I love the drawing.” When Sara heard that, her heart shone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Let’s say you are in math class and the teacher says to get into pairs and everyone is pushing around to get their best friend. What if you would go to the quiet girl in the corner? It would make her day even though it’s not so important to you. Tell your group that she is a very smart girl and got an “A” on the last project you two worked on. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day, everybody needed to be in groups for a project. There was a girl that didn’t have a group. The whole class was making fun of her and pointing and laughing. So, my group decided not to make fun of her and we let her into out group. Then, everyone stopped making fun of her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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and try to make it up to her. When the other girls saw popular Rachel talking to friendless Simi, they immediately went to see if she was worth being friends with. At the party, their thoughts were confirmed. From now on, Simi is the nicest popular girl you could meet. She tries to include other girls as well since she herself knows what it’s like to be left out. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One time, my friend, Gloria, asked if people could come over to her house. A lot of people lied and said, “I can’t. will My not mom
Rachel is making a slumber party. Since she is popular, everyone was invited. That day, they learned about
let.” She asked me and I said, “I will ask my mom and tell you tomorrow.” The next day, I said, “I can come.” I went to her house. We had a lot of fun. Friday came, and I asked if she wanted to come over. She said, “Ok.” But, I didn’t tell anyone that
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not embarrassing your friend. When she was giving out the invitations, she realized that one invitation was missing. It was supposed to go to a shy girl, Simi. Rachel was about to ignore it but she remembered learning how hurtful it is embarrassing others. She personally went over to Simi to tell her that she must have misplaced it and she would give her an invitation tomorrow
My friends and I were practicing for the Siyum. We were in dance. We were done practicing and everyone was going home. But, I stayed at my friend’s house later than all of my other friends. Another friend of ours called my friend that I stayed by and asked if she could come over. My friend said, “I am busy.” But I said, “It’s fine, let her come over. I don’t mind. It’s better not to make her feel bad.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
she was coming over because then they would not come over. That day, everybody came over and saw that Gloria was there. They asked me why she was over. I told them, “Trust me, you will have fun.” At the end, they all had the best time. They said that I was right. Gloria is a lot of fun. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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“My mother just bought me the coolest present,” Aliza said to most of the classm a t e s . Devori Kramer Masores Bais Yaakov There was one girl standing at the side not noticed by anyone. “You are all invited to my house on Sunday to play with it,” she said to her crowd of friends around her. The girl standing at the side was thinking to herself, “Why do I have to always be left out of all the fun things? Why is it like I am invisible? Nobody notices me?” The next day, Aliza gave out invitations to her whole class except the one girl standing at the side, Leah. Finally, Aliza looked up and saw Leah, alone, pretending to be reading a story but listening to her conversation with a pity look on her face. “Do you want to come to my house on Sunday too?” “Oh, I would love to,” she said with sparkle in her eyes. From then on, Aliza always tried to include everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ita Chana Meisner Masores Bais Yaakov
I went to my f r i e n d ’s house. My other friends were there, too. This girl named By: Sarah Torgueman Yeshivah of Flatbush R i v k a came, too. She has brown wavy hair and she has blue eyes. My friend only invited her because they wanted to make fun of her. I thought it was disgusting. In my school, my friends made up a game although Rivka didn’t know how to play because she doesn’t go to my school. Nobody wanted to teach her. I would’ve but I went to the bathroom. I came back. I saw that Rivka was all alone because they didn’t let her play. I got mad. I left their game and played a game that she knew how to play. The other girls felt bad because of what they did. They ended up playing with me and Rivka. They learned to never be mean. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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coming. I invited then anyway because I know what it feels like to be left out. They had a really good time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One Shabbos afternoon, a group of friends and I were going to my friend’s house. So, we were playing and talking and somehow it came up in conversation about earrings. One of the girls was wearing stickers earrings. That girl got so embarrassed and got so red. Everyone was laughing. Right away, I switched the subject. When the girl went home with me in a car pool she said, “Thank you.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One Friday, I was sitting at the lunch table. I asked a girl if she wanted to come over to my house on Shabbos. The girl said yes. I noticed a girl who overheard our conversation. I knew that she felt hurt because she wasn’t invited. I quickly invited her also. She was thrilled. This small invitation made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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One time, my teacher was handing back tests and almost half of the class got over the 90’s. When my friend Renee got hers back, she looked at it, folded it and put it in her backpack. I could tell she got a bad grade. I felt really bad for her especially when Julie was begging her to see it. Julie said, “I know you couldn’t get less than 85.” Renee cried all over again. I walked up to Julie and said, “Leave her alone. It doesn’t matter what she got. It’s not a competition; the grade she got is her s to
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We were getting back our tests. Marilyn got the best mark she had ever gotten. Sara went over to Marilyn and made fun of the mark she got in front of the whole class. Marilyn
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Mrs. Stein was handing back the class’ papers. Yaffa walked up with a smile on her face. Leah walked up to the teacher and back to her seat and shoved the test in her knapsack. After class, Yaffa went over to Leah and said, “I got 100. What did you get?” “Well um, well, I don’t want to talk about it.” “Come on Leah, tell me.” Sari stood on the side. Sari was watching as Yaffa was begging Leah to see her mark. Sari walked over to Leah and Yaffa. “Hey, Yaffa, would
By: Matti Miller Masores Bais Yaakov
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was very embarrassed. But, she went over to Sara and told her, “I tried my best and I thought I did very well.” This teaches us that embarrassing is bad. But, you can learn to stick up for yourself. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
tell if she wants to. You don’t have to see it.” Julie got really mad at me but she left Renee alone. Renee was very grateful. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There once were two friends in school. O Jack n e and n a m e d one DanBy: Joe Hedaya Yeshivah of Flatbush iel. Daniel was smart and Jack wasn’t as smart. They were supposed to have a math test and Jack didn’t understand the material. Daniel understood so he decided that he wanted to help Jack. He didn’t want Jack to feel uncomfortable having his best friend tutor him. Daniel decided to ask Jack if he wanted to study together. Jack said, “Yes” and wasn’t at all embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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easy B y : A s h e r L i f s h u t z so Yeshivah of Flatbush and no one studied. My best friend told me that he studied really well for this test so he was sure to get that 100. We got our tests back. Some kids got 85’s, 90’s, and even 100’s. But, my friend got a 62. He was so upset and disappointed. Everyone was asking him what he got and I knew he would be embarrassed. Right then, I jumped in and started saying how it was such a hard test and that I failed badly. Everyone was now focusing on my mark and forgot about my friend’s. He thanked me so much. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It all happened when we were having a spelling bee and the teacher gave a girl the word “Tunnie”. Everyone was laughing because it was an easy word. It was Adina’s turn to spell. Everyone knew that Adina was the smartest and knew she was going to get it right. When she spelled the words out, it was wrong. Adina turned red. I knew how it felt and next was my turn. So, I made sure I got it wrong. Afterwards, I went over to her and said, “The word was really hard.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It was a Tuesday, and we all got our Chumash test back. Jenny got her test back and all of a sudden her face turned tomato red. She went to sit in the back of the room and you could hear her weeping. Adele got 100 on the test and figured she should gloat. Jenny started crying even more after being made fun of. The next day, we got a math test back and Adele didn’t do well. I went over and said, “I guess it doesn’t feel good when people gloat when you get a bad mark.” Adele apologized to Jenny and, from that day on, they helped each other study. Hashem created all of us equal. So, it is wrong to make some-
Almost everybody in the class got in the high 90’s on a test. Five girls got 100 and went around asking everybody, “What did you get?” and everybody said, “96” or “97”. Finally, one girl didn’t want to say what she got. Then all the mean girls were nipping the test out of her hand and screaming what she got. The most popular girl in the class said, “I got the same mark,” even though she didn’t. Then no one was embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Once, in class, we got a test back and a kid in my class failed and hid his test. Then another kid snuck and screamed out, “This kid got 27%.” Everybody started laughing and then I came and cheered him up and made him happy. I made him laugh with me about someVote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It was picture day and everyone looked great. Girls were giving each other compliments. But, then, I saw a girl all alone and it seemed she didn’t look as good as she wanted. She was trying to make herself pretty. So, I went up to her and asked her is she wanted to borrow my clip and her face lit up. She looked gorgeous. I told everyone, “Look how pretty she looks!” Everyone gave her compliments said she and looked
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There is a girl on my bus. She is in 6th grade. She never lets anyone sit next to her. So, I told her, “You know it’s not fair. You should let everyone
There was once a boy named Yehuda. Let’s just say he was not the most popular kid in the class. He was always being made fun of. Kids were calling him names like, “monkey” and “munch milk”. You might think it’s funny but it really hurt him. Then, one day, a kid named Shmuel called over
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Yitzi, the most popular kid who made fun of Yehuda the most. Shmuel said, “I think you are hurting Yehuda’s feelings.” “I know,” replied Yitzi. “Then why do you do it?” Said Shmuel. “Because it’s fun,” said Yitzi. “Well if you were in Yehuda’s place would you also find it funny? You would feel bad.” “I guess so. I will stop,” said Yitzi. “Thank you,” said Shmuel.
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awesome. That day, she was included in every activity the girls did. I felt good helping a girl out. The best part was no one knew it was my clip. She thanked me later but I was happy for her. A small little deed can make a big difference. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 One time, my friend and I were wild. By mistake, she pulled on my gold necklace and it broke. My mother came in and I told her that I did it to save my friend from embarrassment. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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O n c e , there was a nee. girl Renamed Renee was a mean perBy: Sydney Benami always Yeshivah of Flatbush
Dina got a new CD for Hanukkah. was The day She very next Dina
There was a girl that wasn’t so skinny. She had a best friend who she told her one of her secrets. By: Jenny Alfaks Magen David Yeshivah One of the secrets was how much she weighed. Her best friend thought it was a joke and she announced it to the whole class. Everyone started laughing so hard. But I didn’t laugh at all because I didn’t think it was that funny. So, I told the girl, who told everyone, that it was so mean of her to do that to your best friend. I told the whole class that its a joke between us. And that girl who wasn’t so skinny felt so good inside ! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Estelle Saad b r o u g h t Yeshivah of Flatbush her CD
to school to show it to her friends. Her friends were very excited, too. But Sarah was especially impressed. Sarah was having a big family party that night and she wanted to impress her cousin Eliza with some hip music. Finally, Dina agreed to let Sarah borrow the CD, but Sarah had to be very careful. The next day, Sarah walked into the classroom with tears in her eyes. As careful as Sarah was, she still lost the CD. As disgusted as Dina was, she didn’t want to embarrass Sarah, and, therefore, she just forgave Sarah and told her that it was OK. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
You are sitting on a bus and a boy is getting made fun of. You could go there and say, “Why are you bothering him? What did he do to you? Leave him alone!” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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If someone was left out, I would ask her if she wanted to make plans. I would tell her, “Don’t worry what they say. You are so nice. Please don’t lose confidence. Just ignore what derful they say. You are a wonperson.” I would sit next to her. Because it doesn’t matter how tall you are, how are; short you fat, skinny,
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One day, I was with all my friends walking down the block. We passed one kid’s house. He was just sitting outside alone. People made fun of him and accused him that
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One day, I came to school and I brought a bag of candy. Everyone wanted and they were crowding around me. There was a kid in the corner and he was by himself and he wasn’t asking for candy. So, I moved everybody out of the way and I went over to him. I gave only him candy to make him feel better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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he does weird stuff. He saw us pass and he turned around. I told my friend I was going to invite him. I had to convince them. They still said, “no,” so, I left them to play with him. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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A girl I know wanted to have a friend very badly. But, no one wanted to be her friend. Her mother was spending money on the girls so they would be her friends and those girls took advantage and made fun of her. My mother found out about it but she said it’s up to me if I want to be her friend. I made the right choice. This Sunday she is coming with me to the high school play. Not only that; now a lot more people are accepting her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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When school starts on Fridays, Shabbat music fills the halls. The girls in the grade always come together to sing one song. This Friday, when the song was almost over, Ava saw Chana shyly approaching. She didn’t know where to break into the circle so Ava moved over. Chana smiled and walked over. Chana seemed so happy singing with everyone. The worst thing in the world is being
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There was a new, shyer girl in my class. She was funny and a pleasure to be around. But, because we were all friends with someone else, she must have felt left out. After Shabbat, I asked her if she wanted to go to pizza with me. She came. After, she called me and told me how she had such a good time. She thanked me and I hung up the phone. I then I thought made to myself, “Wow! someOne Sunday, I was with my friends and we were talking. On the other side, I saw my other friend alone. We were talking about something that I was interested in and I told them that
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One day, my friend named Rachel had fever. She even missed school. I suggested calling her with my friends to wish her a Refuah Shelemah. My friends said, “No way! She is not even your friend, she is such a loser!” I decided to call her right there in front of my friends. Rachel said, “I didn’t expect a phone call. This is my first
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ever from someone when I was sick. Thank you, really!” And then my friends felt guilty and, after that, decided to call her separately. was so happy. Rachel Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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We were outside for recess and everyone was playing a game. One girl came and said, “Can I play?” They all said, “No.” I said, “Why should you be allowed to play and not her?” No one answered. Since then, she never felt left out again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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A Man of Honesty and Integrity who always put the welfare of his Family and Community above all.
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Jack Ashkenazie A”H
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Oheka Castle...A Fairy Tale
By Maureen Seaberg
Kahn built the second-largest private residence in the United States on the North Shore of Long Island in New York, now renovated and home to the creme de la creme of weddings and other special events, when he and his family were not accepted in their previous hometown of Morristown, N.J. because they were Jewish. Kahn was even banned from the train in that town running to Manhattan, dubbed, "The Millionaires Express" due to its many wellheeled riders, because of his heritage. Mr. Kahn built the immense 1919 residence, just 31 miles West of Midtown Manhattan, as a summer home and weekend retreat for his wife, Addie and four children.
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heka Castle is not only a monument to the banking success of financier and arts patron Otto Hermann Kahn, it is a testament to his triumph over anti-Semitism.
the best for all occasions. Her business is Soiree Signature Designs, 450 7th Ave, Suite 2206, New York, N.Y 10038, (516) 343-0982. "The beauty of outdoor and indoor, the history and the class of the entire place, the privacy, the size and shape of the rooms, the furniture, only one event at a time, the service, the staff and the one of a kind hospitality all make me recommend it. "I have and still will recommend this venue to all my clients as well as friends and family, especially since I have proven over and over that Oheka is not only the best venue for weddings but it is a formidable André Maier photography place for other occasions, from luncheons to bar mitzvahs..."
After four years of construction, the Kahns would go on to entertain luminaries of the day including Charlie Chaplin, Enrico Caruso and heads of state within its walls. Well, Mr. Kahn would - his wife ended up finding the partying a bit wearying after too many pretty starlets caught her husband's eye. The man who could not fit in to his previous community was now a quintessential host and touted as the "King of New York" by Will Rogers. Dalia Baratian, an event planner and designer who has done several events at Oheka, helps guests feel like Kings and Queens of New York. Not only has she done many stunning events at the castle, she booked her own son's bar mitzvah at the historic estate. "I am an event planner and designer," she explained. "I do search around for venues, and found Oheka to be one of
"The beauty of outdoor and indoor, the vandalism, now 80 percentfires, and isafter years to Oheka is restored of including many now open history and the visitors for weddings, mansion tours, corporate retreats, and film productions. class of the bar andisbat mitzvahs, fund-raisers 32 guestrooms on the Oheka also a luxury hotel with of the estate. entire place,...” upper floorsand 50 baths. It is 115,000 square feet with 115 rooms
In the case of her son's bar mitzvah, she illuminated the gates and the rest of the building in red light, "which looked great and warm for the month of February. "The most unique thing about this event was that I was able to bring a modern masculine look in the most traditional castle and it not only did not clash, but looked exceptionally beautiful and different. And of course when Bryan the bar mitzvah boy stood on the stage and played the guitar and surprised the guests with the most popular songs of the 70's and some 80's. "This is one of the rare venues that a designer would not have a hard time bringing his/her ideas and designs to magnificence. "
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Its survival owes to the steel and concrete Kahn insisted on using after a previous residence of his was lost in a fire. Some of the walls at Oheka are three-and-a-half feet thick. As Kahn wanted the site to have a commanding view and presence, earth was hauled by laborers to set it on the hill Oheka now enjoys. The cost of the structure was $11 million plus $1 million for the original 443 acres in Opera, the dancer Vaslav Nijinsky to America and investing $10,000 in "Lady Be Good!" after hearing George Gershwin play, "The Man I Love," as examples of his generosity. Developer Gary Melius of Long Island purchased Oheka (an acronym for Otto Hermann Kahn) and its remaining 23 acres for 1.5 million dollars in 1984 after the Cold Spring Hills Civic Association sought to save it. He has poured $30 million more into the estate in a restoration that employed many historians, restoration experts and Long Island Gold Coast architects. Slate from the original quarry in Vermont was brought in; workers were dispatched to the Library of Congress to unearth letters Kahn had written about the gardens to revive them. "There were many naysayers who advised him (Mr. Melius) against buying Oheka, but he forged ahead despite a host of problems ranging from the terrible Brett Matthews photography state of disrepair to issues with the town of Huntington zoning board," said Mary McCaffery, a frequent visitor from Bethpage, N.Y. "I feel very lucky to be a part of Oheka's life," Mr. Melius said. His daughters, Kelly Melius and Nancy Melius (a former Broadway stage dancer) have joined the family business, helping manage special events. "We are both enormously proud of our father and privileged to be a part of his vision for Oheka," said Ms. Melius. "He fell in love with Oheka and set out to bring back to life this historic and monumental treasure of American history in a way that respects and preserves the integrity of the estate while giving visitors the chance to experience Oheka as it was intended...as a home, a retreat and a fantastic place to hold a party."
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Cold Spring Harbor where it was erected. Cold Spring Country Club and its golf course now stand on some of the original acreage and is available for hotel guests of Oheka to enjoy. There are occasional events hosted at Oheka which are open to the public. See Upcoming Events on www.oheka.com for more information. Some of the highlights of the home include the grand entry staircase, modeled after the horseshoe staircase at Fontainebleau; faux boix plasterwork, a Medieval technique which looks like woodwork, is painted in a warm amber in the library; and a ballroom where Arturo Toscanini once performed and scenes for "DeLovely" were filmed, seats 350. After Mr. Kahn died in 1934, the family sold the estate to the Welfare Fund of the Sanitation Workers, which used it as a retirement home, renaming it "Sanita." During World War II it was used by the Deja Vu Studios Merchant Marines as a radio operators school, and in 1948 it became a military academy before falling into disuse. Kahn biographer Theresa M. Collins called the banker, "the most influential patron of the arts ever known to America." She cited his bringing a Golden Age to the Metropolitan
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a fter he misbe h av e s
Your older child is fighting with a younger sibling. Your immediate response: Lecturing why fighting is wrong. This is not the best way. Your child is not interested in hearing that it’s his fault and he will blame his younger sibling for starting up with him. The better way is: let it go for now. Another day, when he is calm, tell him an inspirational story with the moral of the story being the importance of getting along with a younger sibling.
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they are true? Besides, you are so Yochanan sat down. He had a delicruel to him. Give him a chance!” cious lunch; a cream cheese sandVote: 1 2 3 4 5 wich with tomatoes and a juice box. “Ah,” he said, “This is really good!” “Hey, Yo c h a n a n ! ” Avi came calling from the door, “May I join you?” “Sure!” Yochanan said, “Why not?” ”Thanks a ton, Yo c h a n a n ! ” Avi beamed. Five minutes later, the least by: M.d.y. students popular kid in class came stompBy: Joy Laniado ing into the lunch room. His name Magen David Yeshivah was Shlomo. Most kids thought he I once saw the ‘popular kids’ pokwas weird; there were tons of ruing the ‘weird’ kid during lunch. mors about him. “Uh, Yochanan,” You saw the girl’s face as she wanthe said softly, “Can I eat with you?” “Uh,” stuttered Yochanan. “Sure, ed to cry like crazy, but wanted to why not?” Avi said, giving Yobe strong. I stood up and told the chanan a stern look. “Th-thanks,” ‘popular kids’, “What’s the point? Shlomo said politely. After lunch, Should I come and poke you while Yochanan asked Avi why he agreed. you are eating?” The girls said “For the last time, there is nothing sorry and actually sat with her durwrong about him,” Avi said angrily. ing lunch. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 “But, what about those rumors?”
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Yochanan exclaimed. “Who said
By: Solly Mosseri Magen David Yeshivah
Once, at lunch, there was a kid and nobody would let him have some orange juice and they made fun of him. I asked my friend to pass me the orange juice and my friend gave the orange juice and I poured the shy kid up to the top. I asked him if he is OK and got him a seat next to me. We became friends and I protect him from the kids 2 that 3 were 4 5 mean to him in school. Vote: 1
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Chavie ran down to lunchroom and saved her best friend, Rina, a seat. A quiet girl named Simi, not knowing that the seat was saved for Rina, sat down. Immediately, Chavie said, “Can you please get up this seat has already been saved?” So Tzipporah, knowing that Simi was embarrassed, screamed over,” Hey Simi, I saved you a seat. Come sit next to me.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Danielle Franco Magen David Yeshivah
One day, a girl was excluded by everyone. Someone tripped her and all her lunch fell on her. Several girls teased bothered her, her,
By: Aida Franco Yeshivah of Flatbush
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There was a girl named Sally who was new in school. She was very shy and didn’t talk much. The popu-
and even made her cry. I told my friends that we should let her then sit with started us. My friends to laugh. So, I went and asked her if she wanted to sit with me at a different table. The girl’s turned a big When I frown into smile. sat
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lar girl made rumors about Sally and told everyone not to be her friend. One of her friends said that what she was doing wasn’t really nice. Another friend agreed with her and soon the popular girl began to feel like she made a mistake. The popular girl asked Sally if she wanted to have lunch with her. In lunch, they really bonded and now they are best friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
with her, she told me how she felt. I felt really bad for her. Then, when my friends saw me sitting with her and not them, they all got up and came to sit with us. A few days later, we all realized that this girl was just like us. So, we all became friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Someone walked up to my friend and I while we were eating lunch. She wanted to sit with us and my friend said, “No.” I got sad and felt bad for the girl. So, I called her name and told her to come sit. My friend was very angry and was telling me to make the girl leave. I said, “No. Why should I? That’s not nice. She is a very nice girl. Why can’t you just let her sit?” My friend finally agreed and the girl sat down. The next day, my friend said, “Tell her to sit with us today. I really liked her.” That day at lunch, she sat with us and my friend told her to come over later. Now, we are all best friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By lunch everyone was talking. One girl was left out. I saw her and changed our conversation to include her in it. She looked so happy. I was glad that I was able to help her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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L u n c h time. I hate lunch! T h a t ’s when all the groups of friends sit together and exBy: Esther Levy Yeshivah of Flatbush clude other girls. I always just sit in the corner of one table either studying for a subject or reading. That’s how I got so smart. While everyone is laughing, talking, and sharing stories, I am the girl that just reads during lunch. The girl that no one bothers-until yesterday. Tiffany, Ashley and some other girls kicked me off their table calling me a teacher’s pet, brat, smarty pants. That really hurt my feelings. And the worst thing is no one defended me. The next day, I was looking for someone to sit with when Amanda and Cindy came up to me and told me that what Ashley said was mean and asked me if I wanted to go with them to the mall after school. It was so much fun. Now, I have someone to tell my secrets to, and hang out with. Here is a big lie that everyone says, “Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.” Here is the truth. If you see someone being bullied, stand up for them. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Once, there was a girl that had a very time in
Danielle Amar Yeshivah of Flatbush she
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At lunch, there was a group of girls sitting together who are friends. They let a girl that’s also their friend join them. She brought a home lunch. It was a cream cheese sandwich. Everyone else said, “Eww, you brought cream cheese?!” That girl got so red in the face. I said, “So what, I also brought cream cheese. Maybe she didn’t have anything else to put in her sandwich.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
A new girl came to our school. She got bullied. I said, “It’s not nice. W o u l d you like By: Esther Beyda Magen David Yeshivah it if I did that to you?” The new girl Miriam said, “Thanks for that.” She was sitting all alone in lunch. I said, “Do you want to sit with us?” She said, “Yeah.” My friends said, “What are you doing?” I said, “There is this girl Miriam and she is very nice and I want us to be friends with her.” She sat at our table. All of us are friends now! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 One day, Gayle was sitting alone at the lunch table. The popular girls walked by her and were about to spread a rumor that she has no friends. Then my friends and I ran up to her and started giggling with her and talking with her. I was so happy that we proved the popular people wrong and we made a new friend. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Once, there was a girl named Abigail. She was new to our school and other girls in our grade thought of her as a new target. When I heard this, I was upset. Because she was new, she hardly knew her way around the school. It started out the as bumpand ing into her in halls ignoring her at recess to taunting her and writing mean things about her leaving and them I
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fair how they treat people around here,” she said. “I was once in the same position you were, it was horrible,” I noted. Eventually, the girls
I watched as Tzivi entered the room. She saw Chevy laughing with Yael and Tehila. I was forcing myself to laugh even though the joke wasn’t funny. Tzivi turned and walked out. It was sad to watch, but I knew Tzivi was not the fun type. She was quiet and plain. There is nothing special about her. But, a small part of me felt bad for her. Every time she tried to be part of the class, they turned her away. She had no friends. Chevy said, “Well, as I was saying, next
By: Hadassah Bennett Masores Bais Yaakov
Bullying isn’t cool, it’s cruel
M.d.y. students
stopped teasing Abigail once they saw she had someone at her side-she wasn’t alone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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‘accidentally’ on her desk.
time Tzivi walks in lets make her trip. I read this great book where a girl tripped face first into a chocolate pie. It was hilarious. Let’s do that to Tzivi!” she exclaimed. Yael and Tehila loved it, of course. They started giggling away. I, on the other hand, knew right form wrong. “Chevy,” I started, “This is wrong. It’s not nice to. Tzivi is a person.” “You know Tova, you’re right,” Chevy said. And they became friends with Tzivi. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
thought this was horrible, mean and disgusting. One day, I walked into the bathroom in between classes and heard low sobbing. I knocked on the stall door and said, “Abigail, that you?” She stopped crying, took a few steps to the door, and opened it slightly. Her face was red. Her eyes were puffy. She stared at me for a second then fell onto my shoulders crying. I felt puzzled; I didn’t know what to do. “It’s not
One time, Shmuli came into the classroom early during recess with David. They saw that someone’s knapsack was poured out on the floor. To save him embarrassment, they poured out their knapsacks. So, now he won’t feel bad. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was a new girl in our school. She was not so smart. The teacher was asking questions about Navi. That girl tried answering one of the questions but she got the wrong answer. Everyone was laughing so hard. The girl got so embarrassed that her face got red. After class was finished, I went to those girls and said, “You know, you’re making it like you never got an answer wrong.” And they said, “Yes we did. But, not a hi-
I know a girl, her name is Francine and she is a quiet girl with no friends. She always tries to social-
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A girl in our class gets made fun of all the time, but she never realizes it. Even though she doesn’t realize or do anything about it, a few of my friends and I stand up for her and include her in what we do even if others don’t. In this situation, I would say, “Guys you are being mean. What did she do to you?” But, I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t listen. But, that’s okay because we try and she feels good that we stand up for her and include her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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larious answer like by: M.d.y. students ize. Every time she comes near that.” I said, “But at least she tried to answer.”
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someone, they say, “She is fat,” and they embarrass her. When it’s lunch, they don’t let her sit near them. But, one girl came and said, “Enough is enough.” She said all the good things about Francine. Now, she is so popular but she knows not to embarrass anyone and she includes anyone she sees alone. It is not good to embarrass people because you are required to find the good in people. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
If you buy cookies for the class and there is one girl who is mean to you, you don’t want to give her a cookie. You see everyone is looking at her not having a cookie. So, you go over to her and say, “The cookie is good, no one wants to miss out.” And you give her a cookie as well. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
There is a girl that is always left out. Her name is Jane. One day, this popular girl named Raquel said to Jane, “Your outfit is so ugly!” Jane was crying. A different girl, Rochelle, went over to Raquel and said, “Your outfit is ugly.” She did it so Jane would feel better. Raquel felt bad for what she said and said, “Sorry” to Jane. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day in school, everyone in my Once there was a girl who everyclass had these cool pens. But, one one made fun of because she was so perfect. She loves school and of the girls in my class was very quishe doesn’t care about anything but et and humble and no one included getting a good grade. One day, a girl made a sleepover and everyone was talking about it and everyone said, “You’re not invited, you are a big looser. Why would you be invited?” I saw her feel very bad and she was always so embarrassed to tell her mom. by: M.d.y. students After school, she her. She didn’t have the cool pen. would cry every night. So, one night She was a little poor and she didn’t I called her and said, “Do you want to want anyone to know that she was have our own sleep over?” She said, poor. She didn’t have the money for “Yes.” So, we made sleep overs. the pen. So she wouldn’t get laughed Then everyone made fun of me beat by the popular girl, I gave her my cause I stayed with her, but I didn’t pen and I saw a smile on her face care. We were good friends and we brighten up. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 ignored everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One day at school, my friends and I were playing at recess and there was this new kid who was very shy and she didn’t really have any friends. I saw her sitting there lonely all by herself. So, I quit the game, went up to her and we started talking. But, she wasn’t that type of person who would like to play ball or tag… But, I didn’t mind. As long as she was happy, I was happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Regine dresses very pretty. Unfortunately, Leah, a popular girl was jealous and said Regine wears the ugliest clothes. I saw Regine’s face, how so sad she was holding in her cry. I walked up to Leah and said, “Stop picking on her.” She said it was none of my business. Than she realized what she had done. She apologized and never did it again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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My friend, Allyson, was a really great friend. She never talked much. But she Nancy Toussie didn’t talk Yeshivah of Flatbush b e c a u s e everyone was jealous that she was voted smartest in the grade. She was short, and every day at recess, a few people bullied her. One day, I saw my best friend Allyson sitting on the side crying with people next to her making fun of her. That was the day we were assigned a poster to make an ‘anti-bullying’ poster. My poster said, “Words can hurt just as much as punches.” And, there were two boxing gloves hanging. I gave in my project and I got an A+. I was really happy. Next day at recess, I took my poster and marched around with it getting a lot of people to hold their signs and march as well. The bullies went away from Allyson because everyone scared them. Allyson was happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
It was time for recess for the 6th grade. The three prettiest ing girls jump were playBy: Jamie Sutton rope. Their Yeshivah of Flatbush
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play?” We By: Raquel Erdos Yeshivah of Flatbush all said, “Yes,” except one girl said, “No.” She made her go away and Michelle started crying. We all felt very bad. The girl that said, “No”, her name is Grace, the girl who said “No” said, “we are going to spill water on the floor and let her play, when she comes she will fall and everyone will start laughing.” Everyone who was playing the game went to Michelle and said to her, “Grace has a plan to let you play, but she is going to put water on the floor, so don’t go.” The next day Grace said, “Hey Michelle, you want to play with us?” Michelle forgot and said yes. We were playing and, all of the sudden, Michelle fell and everyone stated to laugh. We all felt bad so I went and ‘fell’ and everyone was ‘falling’ and she didn’t feel bad anymore. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
names were Emily, Jane, and Mol-
ly. They never let anyone play with them. One of Molly’s friends was Susan. Susan was a shy girl who didn’t have many friends. Susan really loved to play jump rope. So, she asked Emily, Jane, and Molly if she could play. They had a small conversation in private to discuss whether they are going to let Susan play. Molly said, “I think we should let her play.” Emily replied, “But if we let her play, we would have to let every girl who asks to play with us.” Jane said, “So it’s settled, we won’t let her play.” Molly said, “Or, we can just let everyone play!” In the end, they had a big great game of jump rope and everyone was happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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My friend and I were once playing at school when a girl invited us to play tag. We both said, “Sure.” The girl looked at my friend and said, “Not you.” I said, “If she doesn’t go, then I don’t.” My friend touched
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On Shushan Purim, Megan brought the entire class Mishloach Manot. They were healthy and had fruits and vegetables. Everyone was very disappointed. started Megan apologizing
and I could tell that she was very embarrassed. So, I took out the raisin box from the Mishloach Manot and said, ‘Oh my gosh! I love raisins, especially this kind.” Everyone started to eat the raisins and Megan was so happy her face lit up. To embarrass someone is equivalent to stabbing them to death. The reason for that is when someone is hurt emotionally, their heart breaks. That’s why I don’t embarrass my friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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my shoulder and said, “You can go I’ll be fine.” At first, I stood back and then I went. A lot of people don’t like my friend. I feel so bad when people don’t include her. After 10 minutes, I decided I felt so
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bad I couldn’t play. So, I stopped and I said, “Why don’t we invite her to join us?” I pointed at my friend. At first, the girl who invited me said, “No.” But, then everyone started saying, “Yes.” So, we invited her over and had a fun time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
There was a whole group of girls talking by recess. One girl was standing on the side all alone because she is very shy. I left the whole group of popular girls and went to talk to her. Her face lit up when I went over to her. I knew I had made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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whispered to me, “That girl is so weird, why is it that she never talks?” I whispered back, “I don’t know but I am going to talk to her.” I walked over to her and said, “Hi, what’s your name?” She didn’t answer. I asked her for the rest of the week, “Hi, what’s your name?” Still no answer. Finally, my friends also came and asked her to play with us. She asked, “Is this a joke?” We all replied back, “No. Why?” She said, “Because in my old school everyone would make fun of me because I was shy and I wore different clothes. So do you still want to play with us?” We all replied, “Yes.” We got to know her and now we are best friends. I still wonder why we ever thought she was different! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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This one girl said that she wants to make fun of her in recess. A different girl heard that and decided to defend the new girl. In recess, she saw the mean girl walk up to that girl with all of her friends so that girl ran up to the teacher and told her and the mean girl got detention. After that day, they were best friends for life and went everywhere together. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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got the whole class to hate her. She was trying to get me to join her and hate her, too! I tried to tell as many people as possible not to make fun of her because she is my best friend and she is a great person. Only three people wanted to be friends with her. The mean girl came to me and said, “Why are you hanging out with the loser?” I said, “Because she is nice, fun, smart, and trustworthy and the best friend anybody can ever have.” Ever since then, everybody was friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
There once was a girl named Julie. She was new to a school. All she wanted to do was to fit in and make friends. On her first day in school, she felt a little bit anxious but she felt very….nervous. She said “Hi” to people she saw in her class. All the girls reacted in such a mean way. They turned around and they giggled and made her cry. There was one girl who thought it was so mean and disgusting. So, she stopped them and they all became good friends and learned from their mistake. s ubmit Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 your story . t he next t orah v alues . com
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A group of girls are making fun of one girl about how she looked even though it was just her bad hair day. I looked back and saw this happening. I told people that I want to mess up our hair and make ourselves look like a mess. We went to the group that was making fun of that girl and asked if they liked how we looked. The girl being made fun of had a big smile because we all looked crazy and the mean group didn’t have enough insults to insult all of us and had to give up. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Once there was a girl. She came from a different school. She was smart and shy. The whole class made fun of her and she started to cry. So, I told everyone not to make fun of her. I went over to her and said, “Don’t worry.” She started to talk and it made her happy to know that someone was by her side. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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There is a girl sitting on the side. She is left out, lonely. She looks sadly at the in crowd laughing, telling jokes, having fun. She wishes she could be part of that group. She looks down at the floor so they won’t see the tears slowly dropping down her face. And then she hears a voice saying, “Wanna play?” She looked up
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who was on my block. But she was with a clique already, which was the popular clique. So, of course, I was left out until a nice girl came over to me and said, “Do you want to play tag with me?” With excitement in me, I got up and went to play. Now, when I see someone alone and have no friends, I get up and ask them, “Do you want to play?” I could see how they feel just like used to feel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
with a hopeful look on her face. A girl was looking at HER, asking HER. She wipes her tears on her sleeve, gets up happily, and joins the game. That girl just made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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asked if she could invite her. She told her secretly so she wouldn’t embarrass her. Joy said, “No. I don’t like her, she is weird.” So, the girl who told Joy said, “Ok. So may be next week we’ll make plans.” She went over to Marilyn and invited her over. They ended up having a very fun time. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
When school starts on Fridays, Shabbat music fills the halls. The girls in the grade always come together to sing one song. This Friday, when the song was almost over, Ava saw Chana shyly approaching. She didn’t know where to break into the circle so Ava moved over. Chana smiled and walked over. Chana seemed so happy singing with everyone. The worst thing in the world is being excluded. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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A horrible rumor was spreading from person to person about Leslie. She was crying so badly. Once I saw her tears fall down her red cheeks, I decided to fix this. I couldn’t stand seeing a person cry from a rumor about her that wasn’t even true. Once the rumor got to me, I changed it up a little to what really happened. Once everyone heard it, the they understood misunderstandB y : S h e i l a L a u re n F r a n c o Yeshivah of Flatbush By: Adele Zaga Magen David Yeshivah
There was once a time when I was in 6th grade and my friends started picking on 5th graders. I found out and told them to stop
Shani, Devori, Tamar and I were all standing around. Shani said, “Oh my gosh, Rina’s boots are so ugly.” Rina was standing 5 feet away. I quickly added, are “You jealous.
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Her boots are so cute.” Shani immediately saw what I was doing and said, “Of course. I was being sarcastic.” She walked over to Rina and asked her where she got her boots from. fuss them. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day, we were all in recess. A few of my friends and I were playing a game. One girl asked to play and they didn’t want her to play. They said there were too many people. So, I said, “I played yesterday already. She can play instead of me.” They said, “Fine, she can also play.” They enjoyed playing with her and they became close friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
If I would see someone crying or getting picked on or lonely, I would go to her and talk to her. Sarah is a new girl and no one likes her. I would tell her, “Don’t worry, don’t cry. It doesn’t matter what people think. It only matters what you think. So, don’t cry; ignore them. Be yourself.” She would feel better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was once a boy named Yehuda. Let’s just say he was not the most popular kid in the class. He was always being made fun of. Kids were calling him names like, milk”. “monYou key”, “munch might think it’s funny but it really hurt him. Then, one day, a kid named Shmuel called over Yitzi, the most popular kid who made fun of Yehuda the most. Shmuel said,
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He didn’t understand English. One time, the Rabbi called on him and he answered the questions with a dumb answer. My friend started laughing and that boy turned red. Later that day, I went over to the kid who laughed and asked him, “How would you have felt if you were that new kid?” He understood what I meant and went over to the new kid and apologized. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
looks different because she is from England. I was watching and she was about to cry. I couldn’t take it anymore so I said, “Guys, it’s really not nice.” They all laughed at me. The next day, I invited her over and then I told the other girls, “You know Linda is very nice and I don’t know how you are not her friend.” They believed me and we are all best friends now. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was once a boy named Jim. He was new to our class. Everyone made fun of him by the way he dressed. Jim wore collars other kids didn’t. They would always call him four eyes because he had glasses. Another kid, Larry, used to be bullied like that. Larry said to Jim, “I used to be bullied like that. But you shouldn’t let them do that. Stand up for yourself. Say, I am not scared. Maybe I am new and don’t wear your kind of clothes. That’s who
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One day, someone was commenting how her shirt looked ugly and childish. She sat quietly like she simply didn’t care. I saw that she was upset. So, I got up and asked the “Bully” if I could talk to her quietly. She agreed and I told her she was hurting this girl’s feelings. She
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went over to the new girl and started talking to her. She had an English accent and people at the other table were laughing. Rachel went over to them because they happened to be her friends. She stood up for this girl and told them how they were obnoxious. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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honestly didn’t realize and felt so bad. She said she was only doing it as a joke; she ran to my friend, gave her a hug and apologized. That “Bully” never made fun of anyone ever again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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I am. Back off.” Jim said, “Thank you” and went to the bullies and said exactly what Larry told him to. The bullies backed off and didn’t bother him again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One day, a boy went to school and he got braces. He looked very ugly in braces. Everyone laughed at him. There was a boy who said, “Everyone, he is the first person to get braces. I think that is so cool!” Everyone agreed and no one made fun of him anymore. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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to embarrass Rebecca. So, Sara and her clique decided to go over to Rebecca and tell her tomorrow is Pajama Day. Rebecca came to school the next day wearing her teddy pajamas. Sara saw this and announced on the loud speaker that Rebecca was wearing pajamas. Rebecca ran to the bathroom. Nadine knew this was very wrong and ran after her to the bathroom. Nadine and Rebecca walked out of the bathroom together. Nadine told Rebecca to ignore everyone. This made Rebecca feel so good. Rebecca and Nadine became best friends.
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lar clothes. On Sarah’s first day, I saw that she didn’t really wear the clothes that were in fashion in our school. People were pointing and laughing at her. I could tell that she was embarrassed. So, I went to her and told her about what we wear. She thanked me so much and the next day she was accepted by everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was a fat girl named Reneeand everyone made fun of her. So, Susan wanted to help By: Rachel Kastner her lose Yeshivah of Flatbush weight. Susan would go to the gym with Renee and, within 3 months, Renee lost a lot of weight. The two girls became best friends. No one made fun of Renee and understood that anyone can lose weight. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 During the Chanukkah Chagiga, while everyone was dancing, laughing or singing, Suri was sitting on the side doing nothing. Nobody wanted to have anything to do with her because she talked and looked weird. Then one girl came over to her and said, “Come on Suri, join us. Could you please tell us joke? I know you are really good at it. Last time you had me laughing for hours.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Let’s say someone makes fun of someone because the guy is weird. There is no point to make fun of him because no one is perfect. People could be weird but that doesn’t mean he wants to be perfect. A lot of people think they’re perfect but they are not. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There was a kid with an accent and he didn’t know how to speak English good. When he was supposed to say ‘was’ he said ‘vas’. Everyone was laughing and him. I told everyone, “How you would feel if you would have got making fun of. Everyone stopped making fun of him. He was very happy because of what I did. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day, the whole basketball team decided that they were going to eat pizza at the pizza place after practice. But, there was one kid who was a new kid in school and didn’t know a lot of people. After practice, we all got dressed and we were walking out of the gym to go to the pizza store. But, this one kid was sitting there waiting for someone to pick him up
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If you are playing a football game and there is a person that is not so good, ask him if he wants to play. When he is playing, throw him the
I went to play baseball and everyone knew that Jack is the worst player. I felt bad because he always gets picked last. My friend Mike was the captain. I went up to him to tell him that he should pick Jack first. He didn’t understand but he listened to me. Once we started to play, Jack kept on striking out. Mike was very upset with me. Later in the game, I gave Jack some tips about swinging. After he listened to me, Jack got a single and brought in 2 runs! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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from school. He looked lonely. So I went over to him quietly and asked him if he wanted to come for piz- by: M.d.y. students za. He said yes, and he was ball. Let him try to play and catch very happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 the ball. Even if he is not so good
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and misses the ball, say: “It’s ok. It was my fault, it was a bad throw. Even I couldn’t catch it.” Make him feel good and let him play with you. This will make him feel very happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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You are playing football and there are nine kids. They were going to have a four and four. Your friend was left out and you felt bad for him. You make believe you are hurt and say you can’t play. Then, you offer to put your friend that was left out in the game. So, now you made your friend feel happy and you feel even better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Once, I was having a basketball game. The kids didn’t want one boy to play. So, I said, “If he is not playing, I’m not playing.” Then we found a ball and we started shooting for fun. We kept on shooting and practicing. Than he ended up making it on the basketball team. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day when I was at Sunday’s program, there was a person who isn’t so good at basketball. So, almost every time I got the ball, I passed the ball to him. Even though he missed I said, “Good shot.” And I kept on passing to him until he scored. When we finished the
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There was a shy kid named David. David was on our team in basketball. The score was 57-55, the other team was winning. There were 5
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I was playing basketball and there were a lot of people and one person was not allowed to play. I said, “If he doesn’t play, I won’t play either.” They really wanted me to play so they let both of us play. I knew from the beginning that he was good but they didn’t know it. In the middle of the game, nobody was pass-
game, I helped him practice his shot. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Let’s say there is a boy who isn’t so good in baseball and the team is in the bottom of the ninth inning and there are two outs and 2 strikes and right after the next pitch he striked out. The whole team was going to hurt him but one kid said, “Why are you doing that? Accidents happen all the time. Don’t act like you never made a mistake.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
very shy kid and when we played baseball he couldn’t play because it had to be 4 on 4. So, I quit playing and he played instead of me. Someone from the 8th grade started picking on him. I went over to him and said, “What’s your problem? Pick on someone your own age.” He left Dovid alone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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I once saw a person that has a hard When my friends and I were playing dodge ball, we had captains to time playing football. One day, I choose who would be on which taught him how to catch a ball. Evteam. Sophia was picked last and eryone thinks it takes so long but you could see on her face she was it really doesn’t. I also taught him a little sad, but not surprised. When how to throw a ball. Even though he she got the ball, she would always can’t throw a ball so far, I let him give it to someone else to throw. I felt bad for her and decided to do something about it. I threw the ball towards her making sure I threw it lightly. I wanted her to catch it and get me out. She caught it and everyone was cheering because I am a good player. After that, she felt great and had the confidence by: M.d.y. students to throw the ball and she turned out be the quarterback. He gave a few to be great! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 short passes and we ended up winB y : Vi c t o r i a G i n d i Magen David Yeshivah B y : A a ro n I s h a y Magen David Yeshivah By: Sepora Beyda Magen David Yeshivah
Me and my friend, on a beautiful day outside, were playing catch and my friend told me, “Oh, look at that girl over there. Ugh, look what she is wearing.” And I said, “I felt bad for her because she is really nice and sweet.” I knew she was embarrassed to ask us if she wanted to play because the girl I was playing with used to make fun of her a lot. So, I asked her if she wanted to play with us and I told my friend to play with her once and to try to be nice. So, we had a lot of fun the rest of the day and I inspired my other friend to play with that girl. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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I was playing football once and it was a tie game. It was 4th down and we were 50 yards from the touch down. Quagmire was open for the pass. I threw it to him, he missed. Although it was a good throw and he missed, I blamed myself. I said that it slipped from my hand and I made him feel good. I got blamed but at least he didn’t get embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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ning that game. That was impressive because it was only his second day on our team in the playoffs. We were in second place all because of the kid I taught how to throw and catch. At the end of the season, we got in the finals and won it. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
When my friend was playing football with me, people didn’t give him passes. I asked my friend if I could quarterback and he let me. So, I passed to him a lot. He got a lot of touchdowns from these passes and he felt good. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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When I am on one of the teams and my friend is picking teams, I always see some kids who are just sitting, waiting to get picked, and I feel very sorry for them. Like I have a friend, Steven, who isn’t so good at sports. I always try to help and teach him. I hear people making fun of him and I say, “Why do you have to call him names all the time because he misses the catch or the shot?” I told Steven to come to my house on Sunday. On Sunday, he
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When I was playing football, there were good players and bad players. I picked the bad players because they always get left out when we play. We ended up winning but winning doesn’t matter. Everyone
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You can make an excuse that you need more people to play a game. For example, if you and your friends are bored and are trying to come up with ideas and your friends have ideas, you can say that we should ask the shy kid’s idea and include him in fun even if you have great ideas. And, if the shy kid makes a mistake or something silly you can say, “That’s what I thought.” You could start being friends with that kid and your friend will follow in your lead. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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laughed when I picked them. After the game, I laughed at them because they had the best players and we had the worst players and we won. Hashem rewarded me by picking the bad players. He made my heart feel good. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
If you are playing any sport and there is a kid that is not so good, it doesn’t mean you don’t pass to him. If you pass to him and he misses, it’s ok. Just continue. Don’t embarrass him in front of everyone. It’s not nice. Let’s say he scores the shot and he wins the game. You see, anything could happen. Just trust them and pass. You never know what could happen. It’s all about trying. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
came over and asked me, “Why did you tell me to come over?” I said, “I hate the way people are making fun of you because you miss the shots.” So, that Sunday Steven and I were practicing. On Monday, he was playing football with us. My friends and I saw how much better he was and no longer did anyone call him names. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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Everyone is invited to a party except for your friend
A girl named Renee was throwing a party in her house for her Bat Mitzvah. She invited the whole grade. Renee is very popular and felt like the only reason she is popular is because At Reshe makes fun of people. nee’s house, a girl named Joy was drinking apple juice and she was wearing a white dress. Renee sent someone to move Joy’s hand so the drink would spill.
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Joy up to her room and gave her a nice dress to wear. If you don’t want to feel that way, don’t do it to someone else! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
There was a girl and she invited the whole class over except for one girl, Renee. Renee lived across the street from her. When I got there everyone was already there. They were all playing a game of “free for all together.” Then I started playing with them, but, while I was playing, I realized that Renee was watching us through the window and she looked sad. I told my friend to call Renee and say that she thought she sent her the invite. My friend did and Renee came and we all played the
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When that person did that, the juice spilled all over her. Renee took the microphone and was about to say, “Look at Joy. She had an accident.” But, right before she could do it, Renee’s best friend yelled out, “There is a FIRE!” Everyone ran out of the place. But, there was no fire. Renee’s friend said that so she can grab Renee and Joy before they can run out and talk to Renee. She told her that what she did was not nice to do. Renee said she was sorry and took
game together. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One day in school, a girl named Jamie announced that whoever she texted is invited to her birthday party but she didn’t invite Raquel. A girl named Jane was going around and asking if they were invited. When she got to Raquel, she said she didn’t get invited. So Jane said, “Everybody, Raquel isn’t invited, ha-ha! Suzie said, “Everybody it’s not nice.” She asked Jamie to invite Raquel. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
My friend Devory is making a party and she didn’t invite a girl who was a nerd, Toby. When everyone was with Devory she said to Toby, in her face, “You are not invited because you are such a nerd.” Toby cried and went home. On the day of the party, I missed the party and went to Toby’s house to play and ask her how she was feeling. I made her day. She is my true friend. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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I once went to a birthday party and I saw one kid that is shy and people were making fun of him a lot. He didn’t get any candy and other kids were showing off their candy to him. So, I went up to him and shared with him and everyone saw me do that so they shared too. After that, everyone had an equal amount of candy and they stopped makby:
I was in the park and saw Mark sitting on a bench alone. He looked lonely. Jack said, “Come on,” and I realized I was just spacing out.
By: Judah Kishk Magen David Yeshiva
In 3rd grade, Yehudis was not invited to the party of the year. Yael came from a wealthy family and made the best parties ever. Yehudis was angry. She was left sitting alone while everyone talked about the party. The next year, Yehudis was making a party too and decided not to invite Yael. Her best friend, Tzipporah, told her, “You didn’t like when she did it to you. So, don’t do it to her. Okay?” Yehudis finally said, “I am still angry with her, but I will invite her anyway.” At Yehudis’ party, Yael went over to her and said, “Your party is so cool. I am sorry I didn’t invite you. I am really sorry.” So, instead of a fight the two of them became friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Jack said, “I am having a party on Saturday. I am inviting everyone except for Mark.” I instantly felt bad for him. I told Jack how I felt but he said, “Mark is a loser.” I got the whole grade to feel bad about Mark. This forced Jack to invite him. When Jack asked him to come, his face lit up and he was gleaming with joy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
After school, Danny made an announcement: “Everybody is invited to my party.” Marc got excited and everybody made a line to get an invitation. When it was Marc’s turn to get an invitation, Danny said, “You are not invited, weirdo!” Everybody laughed at him. But, a popular kid said, “If he is not going then I am not going.” And Danny invited Marc to his party. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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Once, I was having a super bowl party at my house. I was inviting all the cool kids. Then, I saw a kid, not that cool, and I invited him because I felt bad and he shouldn’t be treated differently. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Sophia is having a party. Rochelle’s new in the school. Sophia wants to invite her class except for Rochelle.
Olivia and Rebecca were best friends. One day, Lilly, a girl in their class, was handing out party invi-
One day in school, I was giving out invitations. My friend was sitting next to me but I didn’t want to invite her. The next day my other friend said to me, “Go give her an invitation because she knows about your birthday party.” When I got home I made her an invitation and the next day I gave it her. She was happy that I invited her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Esther Kishk Magen David Yeshiva
“It’s not fair,” said Rochelle crying to me. “You know what,” I said, thinking to myself. “I want to go to the party Wait! But, that’s not nice that Sophia is going to feel bad. That’s it, I know! I am going to Sophia.” “Sophia, how would you feel if I didn’t invite you to my party and invit- by: M.d.y. students ed everybody tations. Everybody in the class got else in our class?” “Well you are one except for Olivia. Everybody right. Give this invitation to Rochelle
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on the first day of school, everybody was talking about a girl’s Bat Mitzvah. Everybody was so excited. There was going to be a chocolate fountain. Everybody was going except for one girl. I asked my friend, “Why wasn’t she invited.” My friend answered, “Because she is poor.” I told my friend, “Why should you leave her out? She should still have fun with us.” My friend invited her. The new girl turned out to be so smart and very nice. She always helped out. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
right now.”
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knew Olivia and Rebecca were best friends and they couldn’t be apart. When the bell rang at the end of the school, Rebecca asked if she got an invitation. When Olivia told her she didn’t, Rebecca decided not to go to the party. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Molly is having a party. She invited the whole class but Gina. I told her, “Did you like it when Susan invited every girl in the class except for you?” Molly said, “No.” I said, “Do you want to make someone feel like that?” She said, “ No.” I told her, “Then invite Gina. It will make her happy.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Jimmy Khaski Magen David Yeshivah
Once, there was a popular kid and his class was doing a class project. Everyone was picking ideas on what they were going to do and there was a very shy kid who said a very good idea. After everyone heard him say something, they all yelled at him to be quiet and said, “You’re stupid and your idea is stupid, no one likes you.” The popular kid said the same idea as the shy kid and everyone said, “That’s a great
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There was a girl named Leah. She never had any friends. She was a very quiet girl. There was a group of popular girls and they always made
While we were decorating for the Siyum, Chaim sat on the side with watery eyes. He looked like his heart was broken. One kid pretended like he needed one more kid. So, he went over to Chaim and said, “Could you please He help us?” said, “Sure.”
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fun of her. Then the teacher assigned a project on history. Leah was put with the popular girls. They all got together and left out Leah. So, Leah walked up and stood there. No one of the girls noticed to her. Leah spoke and gave an idea but they didn’t even listen. So, Leah said it again and one of the girls said, “What Leah said is a very good idea.” And they all agreed and let Leah join in. This made Leah feel good about herself. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
We ended up really needing him. Now, he looked happier then ever. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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idea.” He wrote it down on the paper and he put the shy kid’s name on the project. The class ended up getting an “A+” and the whole class said “sorry” to the boy. “You are smarter than anyone here.” The shy kid felt so good. Everyone liked him; he then became very popular and was very nice to others. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Raizy sat on the side watching the girls plan the Chanukah party. We were all shouting our ideas and laughing. I saw her out of the corner of my eye. I know I had to do something about it. Then, someone came up with an idea for a banner. “But who should do it?” I said, “Raizy is a very good artist, I am sure she’ll be able to do it.” “Well... I guess we could try,” everyone agreed. I looked at Raizy and she looked so happy. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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games. She said everyone should get into groups with your friends and play. When it was time for the party everyone got into groups. There was one girl that was new to the school and didn’t have many friends so she wasn’t in a group. A lot of people were giggling but she seemed like a nice girl. So I said, “Come we need one more person to play.” She hesitated but in the end she had fun and made friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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Tamar’s house, Tamar said, “Rivka you do the background and I will do the lettering.” Sara was left with nothing to do. Rivka turned to Tamar, “Can we talk? Once, Sara came to my house for a class project and she drew it beautifully. Maybe, you will let her do the drawing.” “Are you sure?” said Tamar. “I don’t want to upset you?” “I am positive.” “Wow, your decorations are so beautiful,” said Mrs. Gross. “I love the drawing.” When Sara heard that, her heart shone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Let’s say you are in math class and the teacher says to get into pairs and everyone is pushing around to get their best friend. What if you would go to the quiet girl in the corner? It would make her day even though it’s not so important to you. Tell your group that she is a very smart girl and got an “A” on the last project you two worked on. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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and try to make it up to her. When the other girls saw popular Rachel talking to friendless Simi, they immediately went to see if she was worth being friends with. At the party, their thoughts were confirmed. From now on, Simi is the nicest popular girl you could meet. She tries to include other girls as well since she herself knows what it’s like to be left out. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One time, my friend, Gloria, asked if people could come over to her house. A lot of people lied and said, “I can’t. will My not mom
Rachel is making a slumber party. Since she is popular, everyone was invited. That day, they learned about
let.” She asked me and I said, “I will ask my mom and tell you tomorrow.” The next day, I said, “I can come.” I went to her house. We had a lot of fun. Friday came, and I asked if she wanted to come over. She said, “Ok.” But, I didn’t tell anyone that
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not embarrassing your friend. When she was giving out the invitations, she realized that one invitation was missing. It was supposed to go to a shy girl, Simi. Rachel was about to ignore it but she remembered learning how hurtful it is embarrassing others. She personally went over to Simi to tell her that she must have misplaced it and she would give her an invitation tomorrow
My friends and I were practicing for the Siyum. We were in dance. We were done practicing and everyone was going home. But, I stayed at my friend’s house later than all of my other friends. Another friend of ours called my friend that I stayed by and asked if she could come over. My friend said, “I am busy.” But I said, “It’s fine, let her come over. I don’t mind. It’s better not to make her feel bad.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
she was coming over because then they would not come over. That day, everybody came over and saw that Gloria was there. They asked me why she was over. I told them, “Trust me, you will have fun.” At the end, they all had the best time. They said that I was right. Gloria is a lot of fun. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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“My mother just bought me the coolest present,” Aliza said to most of the classm a t e s . Devori Kramer Masores Bais Yaakov There was one girl standing at the side not noticed by anyone. “You are all invited to my house on Sunday to play with it,” she said to her crowd of friends around her. The girl standing at the side was thinking to herself, “Why do I have to always be left out of all the fun things? Why is it like I am invisible? Nobody notices me?” The next day, Aliza gave out invitations to her whole class except the one girl standing at the side, Leah. Finally, Aliza looked up and saw Leah, alone, pretending to be reading a story but listening to her conversation with a pity look on her face. “Do you want to come to my house on Sunday too?” “Oh, I would love to,” she said with sparkle in her eyes. From then on, Aliza always tried to include everyone. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
By: Ita Chana Meisner Masores Bais Yaakov
I went to my f r i e n d ’s house. My other friends were there, too. This girl named By: Sarah Torgueman Yeshivah of Flatbush R i v k a came, too. She has brown wavy hair and she has blue eyes. My friend only invited her because they wanted to make fun of her. I thought it was disgusting. In my school, my friends made up a game although Rivka didn’t know how to play because she doesn’t go to my school. Nobody wanted to teach her. I would’ve but I went to the bathroom. I came back. I saw that Rivka was all alone because they didn’t let her play. I got mad. I left their game and played a game that she knew how to play. The other girls felt bad because of what they did. They ended up playing with me and Rivka. They learned to never be mean. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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One Shabbos afternoon, a group of friends and I were going to my friend’s house. So, we were playing and talking and somehow it came up in conversation about earrings. One of the girls was wearing stickers earrings. That girl got so embarrassed and got so red. Everyone was laughing. Right away, I switched the subject. When the girl went home with me in a car pool she said, “Thank you.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
One Friday, I was sitting at the lunch table. I asked a girl if she wanted to come over to my house on Shabbos. The girl said yes. I noticed a girl who overheard our conversation. I knew that she felt hurt because she wasn’t invited. I quickly invited her also. She was thrilled. This small invitation made her day. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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One time, my teacher was handing back tests and almost half of the class got over the 90’s. When my friend Renee got hers back, she looked at it, folded it and put it in her backpack. I could tell she got a bad grade. I felt really bad for her especially when Julie was begging her to see it. Julie said, “I know you couldn’t get less than 85.” Renee cried all over again. I walked up to Julie and said, “Leave her alone. It doesn’t matter what she got. It’s not a competition; the grade she got is her s to
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We were getting back our tests. Marilyn got the best mark she had ever gotten. Sara went over to Marilyn and made fun of the mark she got in front of the whole class. Marilyn
By: Ariel Cohen Yeshivah of Flatbush
Mrs. Stein was handing back the class’ papers. Yaffa walked up with a smile on her face. Leah walked up to the teacher and back to her seat and shoved the test in her knapsack. After class, Yaffa went over to Leah and said, “I got 100. What did you get?” “Well um, well, I don’t want to talk about it.” “Come on Leah, tell me.” Sari stood on the side. Sari was watching as Yaffa was begging Leah to see her mark. Sari walked over to Leah and Yaffa. “Hey, Yaffa, would
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was very embarrassed. But, she went over to Sara and told her, “I tried my best and I thought I did very well.” This teaches us that embarrassing is bad. But, you can learn to stick up for yourself. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
tell if she wants to. You don’t have to see it.” Julie got really mad at me but she left Renee alone. Renee was very grateful. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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you mind? I am sure that Leah is fine. You know I went to the store to get those shoes you were telling me about …..” Sari saved Leah from being embarrassed by trying to change the subject. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
If you have a friend who gets a bad grade on a test and he doesn’t want to show the grade to his friend, you can say, “You don’t have to show him if you don’t want to. Nobody needs to know.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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There once were two friends in school. O Jack n e and n a m e d one DanBy: Joe Hedaya Yeshivah of Flatbush iel. Daniel was smart and Jack wasn’t as smart. They were supposed to have a math test and Jack didn’t understand the material. Daniel understood so he decided that he wanted to help Jack. He didn’t want Jack to feel uncomfortable having his best friend tutor him. Daniel decided to ask Jack if he wanted to study together. Jack said, “Yes” and wasn’t at all embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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saw one of my friends a s k i n g another one of my friends what he By: Kalman Halberstam got on the Yeshivah Chaim Berlin test, but he was embarrassed to show him. So, I went over to him and I told him, “Nobody is perfect, so, don’t be embarrassed. I also get low marks. Everybody gets low marks.” So, then he showed my other friend what he got on his test. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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tests in our math class. Everyone knew would it be
easy B y : A s h e r L i f s h u t z so Yeshivah of Flatbush and no one studied. My best friend told me that he studied really well for this test so he was sure to get that 100. We got our tests back. Some kids got 85’s, 90’s, and even 100’s. But, my friend got a 62. He was so upset and disappointed. Everyone was asking him what he got and I knew he would be embarrassed. Right then, I jumped in and started saying how it was such a hard test and that I failed badly. Everyone was now focusing on my mark and forgot about my friend’s. He thanked me so much. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It all happened when we were having a spelling bee and the teacher gave a girl the word “Tunnie”. Everyone was laughing because it was an easy word. It was Adina’s turn to spell. Everyone knew that Adina was the smartest and knew she was going to get it right. When she spelled the words out, it was wrong. Adina turned red. I knew how it felt and next was my turn. So, I made sure I got it wrong. Afterwards, I went over to her and said, “The word was really hard.” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It was a Tuesday, and we all got our Chumash test back. Jenny got her test back and all of a sudden her face turned tomato red. She went to sit in the back of the room and you could hear her weeping. Adele got 100 on the test and figured she should gloat. Jenny started crying even more after being made fun of. The next day, we got a math test back and Adele didn’t do well. I went over and said, “I guess it doesn’t feel good when people gloat when you get a bad mark.” Adele apologized to Jenny and, from that day on, they helped each other study. Hashem created all of us equal. So, it is wrong to make some-
Almost everybody in the class got in the high 90’s on a test. Five girls got 100 and went around asking everybody, “What did you get?” and everybody said, “96” or “97”. Finally, one girl didn’t want to say what she got. Then all the mean girls were nipping the test out of her hand and screaming what she got. The most popular girl in the class said, “I got the same mark,” even though she didn’t. Then no one was embarrassed. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
Once, in class, we got a test back and a kid in my class failed and hid his test. Then another kid snuck and screamed out, “This kid got 27%.” Everybody started laughing and then I came and cheered him up and made him happy. I made him laugh with me about someVote: 1 2 3 4 5
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It was picture day and everyone looked great. Girls were giving each other compliments. But, then, I saw a girl all alone and it seemed she didn’t look as good as she wanted. She was trying to make herself pretty. So, I went up to her and asked her is she wanted to borrow my clip and her face lit up. She looked gorgeous. I told everyone, “Look how pretty she looks!” Everyone gave her compliments said she and looked
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There is a girl on my bus. She is in 6th grade. She never lets anyone sit next to her. So, I told her, “You know it’s not fair. You should let everyone
There was once a boy named Yehuda. Let’s just say he was not the most popular kid in the class. He was always being made fun of. Kids were calling him names like, “monkey” and “munch milk”. You might think it’s funny but it really hurt him. Then, one day, a kid named Shmuel called over
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Yitzi, the most popular kid who made fun of Yehuda the most. Shmuel said, “I think you are hurting Yehuda’s feelings.” “I know,” replied Yitzi. “Then why do you do it?” Said Shmuel. “Because it’s fun,” said Yitzi. “Well if you were in Yehuda’s place would you also find it funny? You would feel bad.” “I guess so. I will stop,” said Yitzi. “Thank you,” said Shmuel.
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awesome. That day, she was included in every activity the girls did. I felt good helping a girl out. The best part was no one knew it was my clip. She thanked me later but I was happy for her. A small little deed can make a big difference. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 One time, my friend and I were wild. By mistake, she pulled on my gold necklace and it broke. My mother came in and I told her that I did it to save my friend from embarrassment. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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O n c e , there was a nee. girl Renamed Renee was a mean perBy: Sydney Benami always Yeshivah of Flatbush
Dina got a new CD for Hanukkah. was The day She very next Dina
There was a girl that wasn’t so skinny. She had a best friend who she told her one of her secrets. By: Jenny Alfaks Magen David Yeshivah One of the secrets was how much she weighed. Her best friend thought it was a joke and she announced it to the whole class. Everyone started laughing so hard. But I didn’t laugh at all because I didn’t think it was that funny. So, I told the girl, who told everyone, that it was so mean of her to do that to your best friend. I told the whole class that its a joke between us. And that girl who wasn’t so skinny felt so good inside ! Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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By: Estelle Saad b r o u g h t Yeshivah of Flatbush her CD
to school to show it to her friends. Her friends were very excited, too. But Sarah was especially impressed. Sarah was having a big family party that night and she wanted to impress her cousin Eliza with some hip music. Finally, Dina agreed to let Sarah borrow the CD, but Sarah had to be very careful. The next day, Sarah walked into the classroom with tears in her eyes. As careful as Sarah was, she still lost the CD. As disgusted as Dina was, she didn’t want to embarrass Sarah, and, therefore, she just forgave Sarah and told her that it was OK. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
You are sitting on a bus and a boy is getting made fun of. You could go there and say, “Why are you bothering him? What did he do to you? Leave him alone!” Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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“You are so weird,” Miri said to Rivky. “Don’t say that,” Kayla said. “She is not weird.” The next day, Miri said to Rivky, “You know, I was just having a bad day. I am sorry. I took it out on you. Can you forgive me?” “Sure,” she replied. They ended up being the best of friends. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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If someone was left out, I would ask her if she wanted to make plans. I would tell her, “Don’t worry what they say. You are so nice. Please don’t lose confidence. Just ignore what derful they say. You are a wonperson.” I would sit next to her. Because it doesn’t matter how tall you are, how are; short you fat, skinny,
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One day, I was with all my friends walking down the block. We passed one kid’s house. He was just sitting outside alone. People made fun of him and accused him that
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One day, I came to school and I brought a bag of candy. Everyone wanted and they were crowding around me. There was a kid in the corner and he was by himself and he wasn’t asking for candy. So, I moved everybody out of the way and I went over to him. I gave only him candy to make him feel better. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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he does weird stuff. He saw us pass and he turned around. I told my friend I was going to invite him. I had to convince them. They still said, “no,” so, I left them to play with him. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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A girl I know wanted to have a friend very badly. But, no one wanted to be her friend. Her mother was spending money on the girls so they would be her friends and those girls took advantage and made fun of her. My mother found out about it but she said it’s up to me if I want to be her friend. I made the right choice. This Sunday she is coming with me to the high school play. Not only that; now a lot more people are accepting her. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5
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When school starts on Fridays, Shabbat music fills the halls. The girls in the grade always come together to sing one song. This Friday, when the song was almost over, Ava saw Chana shyly approaching. She didn’t know where to break into the circle so Ava moved over. Chana smiled and walked over. Chana seemed so happy singing with everyone. The worst thing in the world is being
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There was a new, shyer girl in my class. She was funny and a pleasure to be around. But, because we were all friends with someone else, she must have felt left out. After Shabbat, I asked her if she wanted to go to pizza with me. She came. After, she called me and told me how she had such a good time. She thanked me and I hung up the phone. I then I thought made to myself, “Wow! someOne Sunday, I was with my friends and we were talking. On the other side, I saw my other friend alone. We were talking about something that I was interested in and I told them that
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One day, my friend named Rachel had fever. She even missed school. I suggested calling her with my friends to wish her a Refuah Shelemah. My friends said, “No way! She is not even your friend, she is such a loser!” I decided to call her right there in front of my friends. Rachel said, “I didn’t expect a phone call. This is my first
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We were outside for recess and everyone was playing a game. One girl came and said, “Can I play?” They all said, “No.” I said, “Why should you be allowed to play and not her?” No one answered. Since then, she never felt left out again. Vote: 1 2 3 4 5 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Magazine 718-909-6060
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She had a strong quietness in her speech and eternal devotion to her husband Morris of sixty six years, her children, her family and Hashem.
Millie will always be remembered for her wonderful sense of humor quick wit, kindness and compassion. Her devotion to helping the needy was remarkable in all those she touched. May we all learn from her and continue to do Chesed and Mitzvot!
We Will alWays miss you With each and ever y day.
Love, her children Albert and Mary, Ralph and Ethel, Robert and DeeGee, Susan and Meir, and Andrea and her grandchildren and great grandchildren
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Congratulations to the
Bar Mitzvah Boys!
L. Lati
M. Sardar
T. Sardar
J. D. Beyda
J. Khaski
N. Benzaken
J. Hedaya
J. Salama
M. Elkharrat
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In honor of hIs wIfe
shaRyn
honor of my wIfe
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honor of my wIfe
Rochelle
by eli M. Dweck
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by VictoR setton
In
honor of my wIfe
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honor of my wIfe
leah
by Joey hAbeRt
MaRGRette
by JAck shAMMAh
In
honor of my darlIng wIfe
In
honor of my wIfe
Ricci
by JAMes hADDAD
MaRcy
by chARles sueD
In
honor of my wIfe
In
honor of my wIfe
stephanie
by JAck MosseRi
aManda
a wonderful mother
& an even better wIfe
by DAViD s. tAwil In
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honor of my beautIful wIfe
honor of my wIfe
saRah
by JuDAh M. scheMo
sally
by DAViD wAhbA
Jack Benjamin A”H
A mAn of honesty And integrity.
He
w i l l a l ways b e r e m e m b e r e d f o r H i s c o m m i t m e n t t o H i s w i f e, c H i l d r e n a n d g r a n d c H i l d r e n .
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His cHildren and grandcHildren.
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In honor of hIs wIfe
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honor of my lovIng wIfe
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honor of my wIfe
Raquel
by JAcob Aini
GloRia
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In
honor of my wIfe
a true eshet chayIl
In
honor of my wIfe
Fannie
sophia
by MoRRis Dweck
by eli bouGAniM In
honor of my beautIful wIfe
nancy
In
honor of my wIfe
by your lovIng husband
Monica
by DAViD hADef
sAM chiRA AnD fAMily
In
honor of my wIfe
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honor of my wIfe
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by RAyMonD cohen
celia
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In
honor of my beautIful wIfe
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loRi
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saRi
by JAck sAsson
In Loving Memory of
Albert “Shanty” Mishaan A”H
A Man of Honesty and Integrity who always put the welfare of his Family and Community above all.
Shanty Mishaan A”H taught us the Jewish values of truth, unity, dignity, humility and kindness. He will always be remembered for his outstanding commitment to follow the Laws of Torah and Mitsvot and for his unwavering faith in Hashem, his belief and the people he loved. We hope to follow in his footsteps and continue the family values He bestowed upon all of us.
May his memory be a constant source of inspiration to all who knew him.
We miss you and love you everyday that passes.
From His Wife Rose, His Children, Grandchildren, Great grandchildren and Loved ones.
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In
memory of
yoMtoB hacohen Ben zekieh a”h
I n memory of
nelly ades a”h
In
memory of
noRMan esses a”h
I n lovIng memory of
odette ades a”h
by her chIldren and grandchIldren
In
zechut
&
leluI nIshmat of
our wonderful mother
loRRaine GaMMal a”h
In
memory of our father
leon Betesh a”h
he embraced everyone wIth a warm smIle and sense of humor.
In
memory of
Joseph (yoseF) haMaoui a”h
by ike & Rose betesh AnD fAMily
In
lovIng memory of
In
memory of
GaBRiel Ben lea BildiRici a”h
Joseph s. JeMal a”h
In
memory of
In
memory of
MoRRis & MaRGaRet didia a”h
by theIr chIldren and grandchIldren
eddie J. Mishan a”h
by hIs son
JiMMy
In Loving Memory of
Jack H. Ashkenazie A”H
A Pillar of Our Community
Jack Ashkenazie A”H
His great love for Torah, Mitzvot, Gemelot Hasadim his outstanding commitment to help another Jew in need. May his memory be a constant source of inspiration to all who knew him.
May we follow in his ways.
By his wife Linda, children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.
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